people aren't ment to screw same person forever

[uberman09]

Any of you interested enough should read about Cognitive psychology and cognitive neuroscience and Evolutionary biology.

emotional intelligence 1 and 2 by daniel goleman are a must read for beginners. Very accessible yet very deep.

[Army of One]

Any of you interested enough should read about Cognitive psychology and cognitive neuroscience and Evolutionary biology.

emotional intelligence 1 and 2 by daniel goleman are a must read for beginners. Very accessible yet very deep.

Ive listened to the emotional intelligence audiobook, def more useful that plain booksmarts in real life.

[wild willie]

There is more than one breeding/sexual strategy for humans.

That 'spreading seed/survival of the fittest' theory does have some basis in reality, but it was first postulated nearly thirty/forty years ago and evolutionary biology, genetics and behavioural studies have moved on since then.

This is even reflected in the oxytocin gene, different polymorphisms have some people bond more  than others.

If it isn't your thing to have a lifelong partner, then don't.

Simple.

tatyana,

 shut your arrogant ass.....PLEASE.......you are very insecure to come spew your BS on a bb webste.....and no one cares that you pass yourself off as some knowledgeable twat.......keep your pathetic opinions on your side of the pond......

[Tatyana]

Any of you interested enough should read about Cognitive psychology and cognitive neuroscience and Evolutionary biology.

emotional intelligence 1 and 2 by daniel goleman are a must read for beginners. Very accessible yet very deep.

Have you read his book on negative emotions? There were several neuroscientists  in a few interesting conversations and experiments with Buddhists monks.

[hazbin]

even in the dictionary monogamy leads to monotamy!

[Tatyana]

tatyana,

 shut your arrogant ass.....PLEASE.......you are very insecure to come spew your BS on a bb webste.....and no one cares that you pass yourself off as some knowledgeable twat.......keep your pathetic opinions on your side of the pond......

It isn't an opinion. It is scientific research.

[big L dawg]

It isn't an opinion. It is scientific research.

It's OK Tatyana.I would like to mate with you regardless of any scientific studies.

[Bones]

this constant attraction to different things /people is only promoted by the modern world we live in. If you look at the sources that motivate people to look elsewhere, wether we're talking about buying new stuff or develop a strong desire for someone else,  it's always TV, movies etc.

Porn is absolutely not the answer, as it is part of the problem. Long term and constant porn viewing deeply alters your mind in the long run. Being quite a recent phenomena , it is abolutely certain that in some decades (psychological) studies on generations of "users" will point how bad its influence is and how bad it affects relationships between men and women.

When people had no accesses to all these medias constantly promoting adultery, drama and deviant behaviors, they were a lot less prone to reproduce these behaviors or cognitive schemes. The current modern society is the reason number one why people keep feeding themselves unconsciously with very bad influences on a daily basis.

Most people nowadays think life is all about instant satisfaction, and that a relationship is all about sex and money.  That's because it is exactly the message sent 24/7 by TV and medias. This is also what sells best. That everything is either black, or white, and that if it doesnt work, why fix it? just go to the "supermarket" and pick a different person/experience. You can't build anything doing this over and over, but it's exactly the kind of behavior that the occidental society promotes. Our moden occidental societies are factories that produce schyzoid people. We re building our own despair.

Often you hear people saying that what they re doing is ok , cause "everyone else does it" and because it's what they see on TV.

Take a look at how loyal people are in third world countries, where being stable and trustworthy toward your couple, familly and community is still deeply important.

That's because everythign is way too easy, that's because people are spoiled in occident, that they forgot about all these values and keep destroying em on a daily basis. It's no wonder the shock between people from other parts of the world where values are still important and spoiled occidentals is and will become increasingly violent.

....well said!!

[Stavios]

Face it, no matter how hot your girl, you always want to nail at least a dozen other pussies you see that day.  Welcome to being a man.  It's rough, but we somehow manage.  Remember, porn doesn't count as cheating.  Nail 10s all day long.

yop, you will want to fuck other women anyway, even if they look worst than your girl

[Sam]

when are people gonna realize this.human beings have a genetic predisposition to spread there seed.I'm sick of hearing all this shit in the news about this person having an affair,or that couple is getting a divorce.Like this latest shit with Gov.Sanford.or the whole john & Kate shit.everyone just shut the fuck up...people don't want to fuck the same person there entire lives.get over it.and you suckers for love that think you and your wife,girlfriend are different...no your not.It's in a bitches DNA to always move up the Alpha male latter.More $,more muscle,more security,more everything.And guys...please don't even start.they can't get enough pussy it's in our genetic makeup.......meltdown bitches.

Dont worry big guy.. you will get over her.

[just_a_pilgrim]

A lot of people involved into bodybuilding/fitness also often think that they re body is everything and that because they have a nice looking body it means they don't have to muscle their brains.

True. However a lot of people think that they can't change themselves, that they will always be a certain way (poor, unintelligent and of course fatasses) and bodybuilding is all about changing yourself. Unfortunately a lot of bodybuilders leave it at the body.

[Parker]

I've lived with my girlfriend for quite a few years my friend.And I know family and friends that have coexisted with there spouse for decades.....not sure what that has to do with having sex with the same person for your entire life though.

Wrong move, either get married or stop playing house. Period. The real reason you feel this way is because the Baby Boomer generation has done a poor job of giving us postive examples of marriage. Also, have you ever notice how pics from the 60's and 70's the women tend to be happy and fine? Or that the music (R and B) was was better back in those times. That's because people's experiences were different than now. Men and women were different back then, the love was different. Now, you just hop into bed, and all of sudden you have a instant relationship, like you do. And "INSTANT" ain't as good as "SLOW ROAST"

[big L dawg]

Wrong move, either get married or stop playing house. Period. The real reason you feel this way is because the Baby Boomer generation has done a poor job of giving us postive examples of marriage. Also, have you ever notice how pics from the 60's and 70's the women tend to be happy and fine? Or that the music (R and B) was was better back in those times. That's because people's experiences were different than now. Men and women were different back then, the love was different. Now, you just hop into bed, and all of sudden you have a instant relationship, like you do. And "INSTANT" ain't as good as "SLOW ROAST"

Been fine so far bro.2 kids with her.she has a good job and pays half my mortgage.and we get along great.If you call that playin house then I'm not sure what not playin house would entail...or are you just referring to the fact that we live together but aren't married?........regardless I'm not sure what it has to do with the fact people don't wanna screw the same person there whole life.

[Bones]

"INSTANT" ain't as good as "SLOW ROAST"

  LOL

[Earl1972]

all the "books" in the world will not stop people from craving new pussy or cock

E

[nycbull]

bunch of morons on this thread especially big dawg....nice to encourge people to follow their base desires..give me a break .....human beings have evolved and in doing so we no longer believe following every base desire means happiness.. we have discovered that elevating yourself and aspiring to be higher than your common animalistic needs has value and amazing rewards that greatest of humans have experienced...be more than a commoner, which is what big dawg and his live in "wife" are being. They coudlnt rise up above the base need for instant gratification, they couldnt see that having a shared history with someone is more valuable than a lifetime of one night stands. They coudnt see that giving their child a home where mom and dad were in a monogomous relationship, a relationship that would imprint on the child for life and help her rise up to be more than just another person seeking instant gratification of base desires. Do you think your kid is not going to sense that mommy and daddy have loyalties and interests outside the immediate family, I bet he she already senses that betrayal and has internalized it...kids are good at not expressing what they dont understand.

I think its irresponsibile to glamourize or promote a life of instant gratification  selfishness and narcissim...you should be encouraging people to rise up and reach for higher goals, goals that bring rewards the common class never know exist..if you dont know what I am talking about then you are blinded by your selfish pursuit of animalistic needs....time to evolve big dawg

Sickening that I cant even get married and you guys are here devaluing it.

[Stavios]

bunch of morons on this thread especially big dawg....nice to encourge people to follow their base desires..give me a break .....human beings have evolved and in doing so we no longer believe following every base desire means happiness.. we have discovered that elevating yourself and aspiring to be higher than your common animalistic needs has value and amazing rewards that greatest of humans have experienced...be more than a commoner, which is what big dawg and his live in "wife" are being. They coudlnt rise up above the base need for instant gratification, they couldnt see that having a shared history with someone is more valuable than a lifetime of one night stands. They coudnt see that giving their child a home where mom and dad were in a monogomous relationship, a relationship that would imprint on the child for life and help her rise up to be more than just another person seeking instant gratification of base desires. Do you think your kid is not going to sense that mommy and daddy have loyalties and interests outside the immediate family, I bet he she already senses that betrayal and has internalized it...kids are good at not expressing what they dont understand.

I think its irresponsibile to glamourize or promote a life of instant gratification  selfishness and narcissim...you should be encouraging people to rise up and reach for higher goals, goals that bring rewards the common class never know exist..if you dont know what I am talking about then you are blinded by your selfish pursuit of animalistic needs....time to evolve big dawg

Sickening that I cant even get married and you guys are here devaluing it.

great post bro

[chaos]

Sickening that I cant even get married and you guys are here devaluing it.

haha

[240 is Back]

Sickening that I cant even get married and you guys are here devaluing it.

I think you should be able to.  You might as well be as miserable as the rest of us

[Vince B]

emotional intelligence 1 and 2 by daniel goleman are a must read for beginners. Very accessible yet very deep.

That book is nonsense and a waste of time to read. There is no such thing as emotional intelligence. Another crap book is the Men from Mars nonsense.

Most of you guys have a lot of disappointment and misery ahead of you. Giving advices won't help because everyone is expert in bodybuilding and relationships. In life you get what you deserve and you deserve what you get.

There is no direction in evolution. So there is no higher state. Those who are fulfilled through animal passions are blessed.

[nycbull]

I think you should be able to.  You might as well be as miserable as the rest of us

haha, I actually dont really want to, cause it was never in my head when I first came out, but I do believe in what it values and strives for and I think I have that...or at least working towards and that is part of why it is good.

[nycbull]

Those who are fulfilled through animal passions are blessed.

have you ever met one?

[gordiano]

Face it, no matter how hot your girl, you always want to nail at least a dozen other pussies you see that day.  Welcome to being a man.  It's rough, but we somehow manage.  Remember, porn doesn't count as cheating.  Nail 10s all day long.

Solid post....

[Palpatine Q]

this constant attraction to different things /people is only promoted by the modern world we live in. If you look at the sources that motivate people to look elsewhere, wether we're talking about buying new stuff or develop a strong desire for someone else,  it's always TV, movies etc.

Porn is absolutely not the answer, as it is part of the problem. Long term and constant porn viewing deeply alters your mind in the long run. Being quite a recent phenomena , it is abolutely certain that in some decades (psychological) studies on generations of "users" will point how bad its influence is and how bad it affects relationships between men and women.

When people had no accesses to all these medias constantly promoting adultery, drama and deviant behaviors, they were a lot less prone to reproduce these behaviors or cognitive schemes. The current modern society is the reason number one why people keep feeding themselves unconsciously with very bad influences on a daily basis.

Most people nowadays think life is all about instant satisfaction, and that a relationship is all about sex and money.  That's because it is exactly the message sent 24/7 by TV and medias. This is also what sells best. That everything is either black, or white, and that if it doesnt work, why fix it? just go to the "supermarket" and pick a different person/experience. You can't build anything doing this over and over, but it's exactly the kind of behavior that the occidental society promotes. Our moden occidental societies are factories that produce schyzoid people. We re building our own despair.

Often you hear people saying that what they re doing is ok , cause "everyone else does it" and because it's what they see on TV.

Take a look at how loyal people are in third world countries, where being stable and trustworthy toward your couple, familly and community is still deeply important.

That's because everythign is way too easy, that's because people are spoiled in occident, that they forgot about all these values and keep destroying em on a daily basis. It's no wonder the shock between people from other parts of the world where values are still important and spoiled occidentals is and will become increasingly violent.

Outstanding post.

I am a firm believer in monogamy. If you are with the right person, you don't want anyone else.

  being compatible mentally trumps everything else

[Palpatine Q]

bunch of morons on this thread especially big dawg....nice to encourge people to follow their base desires..give me a break .....human beings have evolved and in doing so we no longer believe following every base desire means happiness.. we have discovered that elevating yourself and aspiring to be higher than your common animalistic needs has value and amazing rewards that greatest of humans have experienced...be more than a commoner, which is what big dawg and his live in "wife" are being. They coudlnt rise up above the base need for instant gratification, they couldnt see that having a shared history with someone is more valuable than a lifetime of one night stands. They coudnt see that giving their child a home where mom and dad were in a monogomous relationship, a relationship that would imprint on the child for life and help her rise up to be more than just another person seeking instant gratification of base desires. Do you think your kid is not going to sense that mommy and daddy have loyalties and interests outside the immediate family, I bet he she already senses that betrayal and has internalized it...kids are good at not expressing what they dont understand.

I think its irresponsibile to glamourize or promote a life of instant gratification  selfishness and narcissim...you should be encouraging people to rise up and reach for higher goals, goals that bring rewards the common class never know exist..if you dont know what I am talking about then you are blinded by your selfish pursuit of animalistic needs....time to evolve big dawg

Sickening that I cant even get married and you guys are here devaluing it.

Great, great post NYC....Words to live by