Guys - I know it's hard having a wife/baby mama at home nagging you about everything, while so many little baggage-less hotties who haven't let themselves go are making themselves available to you.
But before you even go down that road, you need to evaluate the costs, because believe me, it's going to cost you something and I'm not talking about what you'll be spending on the girlfriend. That's negligible compared to what you might lose in terms of your family relationships...and half yo' shit.
No one - male or female - expects to die for getting a little piece on the side, and yet, it happens. Is that the right price? No, but it seems someone saw it differently...regardless of who pulled the trigger in the Steve McNair case.
I'm not in any position to make value judgments on this man's life, as I know nothing of his relationship with his wife, who also happens to be the mother of his 4 kids. But I do know that he had no business dating a 20-year-old woman. If you're a guy over 30 and you're dating a girl under 22-23, there's a problem. And yes, there's a HUGE difference between a 20-year-old woman and a 23-year-old woman.
I don't understand the ways of the modern sugar daddy. When I was younger, most guys didn't want their wives finding out anything. Men have been buying women cars for years, but if it's a secret affair, they're always put in the woman's name, period. None of this her name *and* my name nonsense. What were you doing, Steve?? Now, if you're not married and you're just the sugar daddy, then of course, the vehicle goes in the guy's name only, so that he can take it back if the sugar baby ever fucks up.
But, sugar babies typically get smarter as they get older. A 24- or 25-year-old woman isn't going to be running the streets telling everyone she's dating you. A 20-year-old? You'd better damn believe she was. If you've got a clandestine 'thang' going on, even if your wife is totally cool with it (and she's NOT! lol), you don't want people knowing your business. People are always gonna suspect things about others, but don't let it be out there. If neighbors know you're showing up at the girl's place at 2am - that you rented for her - then the assumption is that there's a relationship.
I'm hurting for the McNair family right now, but I hope that other guys in similar situations will take heed and stop their involvements with women that are just too young to understand how this is supposed to work.