Big L, are you saying you think that happily married men have wives that tell them what to do and how to live?
To me that would be an unhappily married man 
when I meet a happily married man I'll ask him & get back with ya

....all joking aside the majority of people I know the wives tend to be quite contolling....and please don't give yourself as an example of a wife that isn't....as I didn't say all..... but with my friends,co workers,acquaintances,& family members that are married the wife is not only contolling but basically wears the pants....this exacerbates the problem as although she is essentially getting her way the wife sees the man (at least subconsciously) as weak by him letting her do this....there are numerous books and videos on this very phenomenon....it is not my opinion but a quite real fact of relationships today....