Some guys on here like sharma must be pretty boring individuals and have boring sex with their puppet of a woman. Fearing to loosen their grip just because they re insecure, this kind of relationship usually leads to a state of psychic death for both partners. There's a midle ground between being an intelectualy and emotionally limited "macho man" repressing insecurities and a submisive girly man manipulated by his dependency to his partner.
I bet he stick to only one or two sex positions he enjoys and that his "wife" must have been faking orgasms -if she's allowed to show off her emotions, which might no be the case with a control freak like him- since the begining, not even knowing what they are suposed to feel like. What a life. But this kind of relationship is terribly widespread and common. Until the woman finds out what she's been missing for years with a guy that only cared about himself.
I guess sharma only do the same stuff over and over with his poor "wife" and that she doesnt even has the right to suggest/change anything or it would destroy the poor man's fragile ego and certitudes about his own performance in all aspects of his life. Basically, he's unable to evolve and prevent people from his close entourage to evolve just because he's scared of changes. It's also a paranoid trait, to be certain that any kind of change= the end of his supremacy, and that any kind of change in his everyday life means that he's in danger of losing everything, especially his virility. These kind of behaviors typically reinforce themselves over time and become almost impossible to counter.
Couples are about complentarity and reciprocity, without denying the very particular roles and fonctions of each other depending of his gender. But total domination of only one of the partner doesnt go anywhere. As usual, it's all about transparency about each other skills and how he/she contributes to the survival of the couple or family, it's about balance and about communication.
But unhappy, submissive people will always find a way to bite their self proclamed "master" back one day and always find out why it was that important for him - or her- to keep his-or her- iron grip. Cause yeah, there are also cases of women being as coercive as men. Especially in our modern societies where women are given more rights and the man is more and more neutered. Does it mean he has to stay in a full macho man mode? no. He has to adapt, cause society is changing. Lot of men do change, some others cant, most of the time because of their education. They ll eventually disapear, will be replaced.
There's a massive re-definition of the place and role of Men - and fathers- in our modern occidental societies which is the result of the redefining of the role and place of women in the past decades. This redefining of men's role and place isnt completely negative for men, as there is no point making em become just another "woman", there's no point having two women as mothers and eradicating the man, father place and role.
Most psychologists, psychanalysts and sociologists think most men will adapt and become better men and father without endangering their virility which in itself is only a social construct, which varies from an era to another.
Some people like sharma obviously confine themselves into a reassuring but obsolete role of the old "macho man" figure, too bad it's just archaic, but maybe that's all they know and can refer to, facing changes that they cant understand due to their limited intelectual and emotional intelligence.
Changes if dealt with intelligence can be very positive for anyone, but people who tend to pathologically fear changes are just insecure people who see every opportunity to open themselves as a threat to their existence. Most of the time people are insecure about their OWN shortcomings they use a lot of energy and ressources to keep hidden, and make their loved ones lifes existences miserable.
