Trouble with the wife

[MindSpin]

ABSOLUTELY!!! My wife knows whats up!!! No bullshit drama with us... She knows I'd leave her faster than Keith posts in a Vince Goodrum thread! lol I laid things straight early and she saw what happened with my ex (I dumped her ass for bein a drama queen...)

Life is way too fuckin' short to fight and argue over BULLSHIT... this is the realist advices you will ever get on here dog!

-A DUB

Problem with that is that they take half of everything...

[Alexander D]

Not with a solid pre nup!!! We both leave with what we came with!!!

[Kwon]

Not with a solid pre nup!!! We both leave with what we came with!!!

Godd job A DUB

[MindSpin]

Not with a solid pre nup!!! We both leave with what we came with!!!

I live in CA.  A pre nup doesn't mean shit.  Even if it holds up, you still end up giving half your money away to lawyers.

[jtsunami]

Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot.  Recently we got into it over something very small.  I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further.  I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit.  She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention.  After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight.  In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards.  The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.

Advice broskis?

[kimura]

Ron putting the "snooki" on john belushi.

[benchmstr]

bench

[HTexan]

Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot.  Recently we got into it over something very small.  I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further.  I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit.  She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention.  After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight.  In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards.  The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.

Advice broskis?

She testing you.

[chaos]

Advice broskis?

Wait until she's sleeping and spooge across her face, that's what I'm going to do right now.

[saucetradomous]

If that doesn't work smack her in the head with the book, in theory, knocking some sense into her.

haha, Wiggs you're on fire in this thread

[chaos]

haha, Wiggs you're on fire in this thread

If you're looking for advice on how to beat women, who better to look to then a black man?

[Tapeworm]

How the hell should I know!  I'm divorced!

But if reactions and anger are out of proportion to the subject you're arguing about, both of you figure out what the hell it is you're really arguing about and address it.  The onus is on both of you to be honest about what's going on and not to let rage sidetrack you.  Do it before you hate eachother so much that you can't be bothered trying to fix what's fucking you up.

ABSOLUTELY!!! My wife knows whats up!!! No bullshit drama with us... She knows I'd leave her faster than Keith posts in a Vince Goodrum thread! lol I laid things straight early and she saw what happened with my ex (I dumped her ass for bein a drama queen...)

Life is way too fuckin' short to fight and argue over BULLSHIT... this is the realist advices you will ever get on here dog!

-A DUB

Wow, I wish I was married to someone I cared so little about that I was prepared to walk out just like that.  You're a lucky guy.

[James Blunt]

Obviously she just wants to argue because she needs drama in her life. Fuck it, give her a half hearted argument and let her be right. It's all she wants. You married her to give her that right?

[Tapeworm]

Google up rentals near work.  Register the dog in your name.  Fantasize about a call from the police who are very sorry but there's been a terrible accident.

[vinnydountsnyc]

MY GUESS IS SHE NEEDS SOME MAN MEAT AND YOUR NOT DOING THE JOB FUCKFACE

[newmom]

Epic tough guys in this thread

[Butterbean]

I have heard good things about this. I think I also took a free online test that the author was presenting.

It is really good

i still dont see myself reading that book...

bench

Like I said, tear off the cover..or you could wrap it in a brown paper bag

yeah this is the problem with arguing.  i am good at it so she will usually concede my point in the end, but the fight takes so much energy.  The worst part is she will subsequently act as if it never happened and keeps doing the same shit without really acknowledging that it is a problem.

She is a pretty anxious person so a lot of the time she will come to me very worked up over nothing and kind of in a state, then when I react to her and get agitated myself she gets pissed off that I mistreated her. Recently that has caused a few fights.

With this limited info it sounds like maybe she wants you to just "be there" for her and listen to her rag a little and give her a hug and tell her it will be alright.  Next time, even if you are agitated inside..you could try to be calm and calm her...then see what happens.

 

How the hell should I know!  I'm divorced!

But if reactions and anger are out of proportion to the subject you're arguing about, both of you figure out what the hell it is you're really arguing about and address it.  The onus is on both of you to be honest about what's going on and not to let rage sidetrack you.  Do it before you hate eachother so much that you can't be bothered trying to fix what's fucking you up.


Wow, I wish I was married to someone I cared so little about that I was prepared to walk out just like that.  You're a lucky guy.

Tapeworm w/teh good advice..as usual.

Google up rentals near work.  Register the dog in your name.  Fantasize about a call from the police who are very sorry but there's been a terrible accident.

Except for this post

[WillGrant]

Kick her in the cu nt

[Parker]

Sounds like you just need to play this song in her vicinity.

L.T.D. "Where did we go wrong?"

[Howard]

Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot.  Recently we got into it over something very small.  I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further.  I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit.  She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention.  After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight.  In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards.  The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.

Advice broskis?

I am 51, married and divorced 3 x and now back with my 3rd wife (didn't remarry)
I can tell you from experience the best thing to do is to stick with your principles and allow her to tell her side nd vent a bit.
Forget the name calling and/or slient treatment and leave your ego out of this.

[Tapeworm]

Tapeworm w/teh good advice..as usual.


Except for this post

I joke, of course.  Didn't register the dog in my name until 6 months after I'd moved out. 

Nah, still on good terms.  And still the guy who gets the occasional call when she's, erm, 'lacking balance.'

[YngiweRhoads]

[drkaje]

Treat women like flowers and your attention as if it were sunshine/water.

Only pay attention to behavior you want to see again.

As far as the argument goes... I'd boot her. People don't stop being what they are no matter how much you may love them.

[Option D]

Use the sandwich technique.

1) start conversation off good, mention how you appreciate her, all she does, you really want the relationship to last....but

2) then lay into her a$$ something terrible...let her know that funky a$$ little attitude while you are trying to work sh*t out needs to stop. She needs to grow up and listen for once in her damn life. Let it all out dude.......

3) end it with still love her and appreciate her, she's a good wife but this is how you feel and it's not right at all.

she will either FINALLY get it....or she'll already cut you off midway through #2 running her trap trying to win.

if it's the latter...you need to make a decision because she is a stubborn a$$ female that one day will do what she wants to do (and it could be bad) because she has 0% compromise in her veins.....only thinking of herself.

Time to put the hammer down.  

HAHAHA I DO THAT IN FOOTBALL
When i coach ...and a kid fucks up i use the PNP positive negative positive

Perez, i like the intinsity, you started off good...but you should have went to hook to curl instead of the flats...but thats good effort out there...

[shiftedShapes]

Just err on the side of Fact, Evidence, Science and Logic. 


Shifted, can you detail the argument so that we can assess who was correct and who was not.

This should be easy.

The substance of the confrontation would bore you all to tears.

The good news is though I waited for her to come around and approach me looking to reconcile.  At that point we did and had a very constructive conversation.  Hopefully fights will be less frequent and less intense going forward.

I'm happy that I don't have to deal with this shit anymore it is a real weight off my chest.  Also glad I waited it out and didn't cave, that would definitely send the wrong message.