Is it worth your soul?

[Theoak*]

Post pics, if shes ugly get rid of her we will determine. Drinking is not the issue here.

[pluck]

My wife slapped a joint out of my lips once.  Fast forward a few years later and she was watering my plants for me.  You have to train them like a dog.  Some you can't train so you give them to someone else.  Do what makes you happy dude.  Don't let anyone try to run your life.  I decompressed by smoking some weed and I work in IT as well.  Can be very demanding on the brain and you are right...we need to hit the reset button every once in a while.  Good Luck.

This.

You will be happier in the long run if you do not give in.
Compromise on the little things, not on the things that make you happy, relax...etc. Sounds like your drinking is in check so that's not the issue.

If she is already showing her true colors and trying to dig her claws into you at this point, can you imagine what things will be like when she has a ring on her finer...or if you have kids with her? You will have your balls cut off.

I'm in a relationship right now for 3 years, I have not changed and have made it clear that I won't. We love each other and all that crap,  but I do not put up with b.s.

[Hulkotron]

So basically you are a drunk, who possibly will have domestic violence issues and DUIs down the pike...many people drink due to stress, many people do drugs due to stress, escapism...

You want to relieve stress, start running, or really start lifting, or boxing, MMA...or smoke some damn weed...if you don't you are gonna be in the clink for a domestic assault...and many of thos happen due to one or both parties drinking.

Sound advice from GangstaLean.

[Natural Man]

the problem aint the girl, it's your job, the stress, and the need for alcohol as a result.

[chaos]

the problem aint the girl, it's your job, the stress, and the need for alcohol as a result.

Maybe the little bitchboy should hit the gym instead of the bottle

[Mr Nobody]

Post pics, if shes ugly get rid of her we will determine. Drinking is not the issue here.

X2. PTPS.

[Firemuscle]

Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.

Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.

We are thinking about breaking up.

My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.

Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.

What is the GetBigger play here?

 Never let a bitch tell you what to do.

 But anyway, drinking does suck. You're better off smoking weed to decompress for your own health.

 Just switch to weed and say "Look bitch. I stopped drinking! Now bend over."

[freespirit]

no homo.

Maybe my thinking is a little too ideal, but i think that if you need ANY kind of drug to do your job, it will end bad. Even coffee. If you NEED coffee to do your job, it will not end good.


But i see your point and in reality, we all need something that keeps us going and keeps our minds of the stress parts of life. Maybe there are better choices than alcohol for it, but that's what most people go by.

Most people are degenerated weaklings.

[tbombz]

Dude, you're an alcoholic.

Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?

This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...

Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.

 

[no one]

Geez what a whiny bitch, and I ain't talkin about her.

lol

[Dr Dutch]

Trade her for a younger model.

[DroppingPlates]

I love threads like these 

[obtuse_waiter]

break up immedaitly and hir her backl as a bang maid

bang other chix on side

[Parker]

 

T, I see tons of cases like these---the woman always says, "he's only like this when he drinks", like this means dotting her eyes, and her looking like she went half a round with Tyson.....many times it could be the woman and the job driving one to drink---the woman taking the man's balls, and the job taking his soul...the stress of such leads one to try and escape---alcohol and drugs are the leading tools for "escaping" stress. But, what happens they becomes more than crutch, they become the "best friend" you can drown your sorrows in...the best drug to do that with is weed, the other hard shit will make you a damn addict and start stealing or poking yourself with needles and what not.

Up above is if you are going the drug route, the best advice is to remove himself from her, the alcohol and possibly even the job---take a vacation or get a new one. Re-evaluate all the negative shit in one's life, and prune it out. If he doesn't do this, if he hasn't been in a domestic assault case or DUI, it will happen sooner or later. domestic assaults are far, far more common than people think. And many times, alcohol was a huge factor---with one or both parties drinking, then arguing, then the hitting...  

[outby43]

T, I see tons of cases like these---the woman always says, "he's only like this when he drinks", like his means dotting her eyes, and her looking like she went half a round with Tyson.....many times it could be the woman and the job driving one to drink---the woman taking the man's balls, and the job taking his soul...the stress of such leads one to try and escape---alcohol and drugs are the leading tools for "escaping" stress. But, what happens they becomes more than crutch, they become the "best friend" you can drown your sorrows in...the best drug to do that with is weed, the other hard shit will make you a damn addict and start stealing or poking yourself with needles and what not.

Up above is if you are going the drug route, the best advice is to remove himself from her, the alcohol and possibly even the job---take a vacation or get a new one. Re-evaluate all the negative shit in one's life, and prune it out. If he doesn't do this, if he hasn't been in a domestic assault case or DUI, it will happen sooner or later. domestic assaults are far, far more common than people think. And many times, alcohol was a huge factor---with one or both parties drinking, then arguing, then the hitting...  

I think you may be correct statistic wise.  This guy may not turn into a statistic but who knows.  I also agree that weed would be the better route.  For one it is not physically addictive like alcohol will become if abused.  He could go out for an hour to the park, look at some booty, smoke a bowl, freshen up the breath a little and come back home and be chilled out.  By the sound of it though if she has an issue with him drinking 2 times a week then she probably isn't down with him smoking weed.  I say he throw the bitch away and half his stress would be gone after the initial sadness of being alone.

[Mr Nobody]

 

[wes]

So basically you are a drunk, who possibly will have domestic violence issues and DUIs down the pike...many people drink due to stress, many people do drugs due to stress, escapism...

You want to relieve stress, start running, or really start lifting, or boxing, MMA...or smoke some damn weed...if you don't you are gonna be in the clink for a domestic assault...and many of thos happen due to one or both parties drinking.

Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.

Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!

[DroppingPlates]

Maybe it's your girl causing the stress

[wes]

Maybe it's your girl causing the stress

Of course it is,she`s stressing him out over his drinking!! 

[DroppingPlates]

Of course it is,she`s stressing him out over his drinking!! 

Exactly, he use his 'important' job as a lame excuse.
He's a good guy, so he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.

[wes]

Exactly!!  'D

[DroppingPlates]

Utilizing the collective intelligence of GB you can solve any issue 

[local hero]

fuck me he's having a few drinks every other weekend or so.... some fucking freaks in here, i dont see the big deal, i hardly ever drink my self, but if i never trained id be propping up the bar every weekend

in my mind shes making a problem out of nothing

every girl ive went out with ive told them i'll never stop training, and i will use steroids from time to time, they either deal with that or they dont

[outby43]

Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.

Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!

You sound like one of those ex-addicts that tells everyone else that uses alcohol/drugs that they are addicts and then proceed with the whole psychological breakdown.  I am court ordered to go to NA meetings every week so I know the routine.  I got busted with weed.  I am not a drug addict but do enjoy getting high every once in a while.  From what you had wrote in another thread you used to have many addictions.  That doesn't mean this dude does.  But your right...he probably is a fucking drunk ...lol.

[pellius]

Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.

Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!

If you can use stress and your job as an excuse to get fucked up what excuse can you use?

Just asking?