Do nice guys finish last?

[Stavios]

I have always been too nice all my life.

these days I don't give a shit about anything and don't let anybody take advantages of my generosity

unfortunately, the past sticks so some people still try to take advantage, so if I have to move for another job and start all over again somewhere where I don't know anybody, i'll definitly present myself as a guy you don't want to fuck with right from the start.


better for business and life in general

[Mr. Magoo]

I'm seeing it more and more. In the workplace and in relationships. Nice guys get totally trampled.

People take advantage of the nice guy, he's always willing to to help, or willing to listen.

The arrogant, ruthless alpha usually bullies his way to the top of the ladder in the boardroom and the bedroom

Thoughts.....

I don't really care about this thread, but I did like that movie

[BIG ACH]

I'm gonna go against the grain for a second here....



Initially I think nice guys finish last, but in the long run, they get the better end of the deal, and it will pay off!

I've always been considered "too nice" in the past, and at time it was a major downer and played against me, but now, I'm completely content with how I was and where I ended up!

[Stavios]

I'm gonna go against the grain for a second here....



Initially I think nice guys finish last, but in the long run, they get the better end of the deal, and it will pay off!

I've always been considered "too nice" in the past, and at time it was a major downer and played against me, but now, I'm completely content with how I was and where I ended up!

Seem you live a good life  so can't say you are not right

[Reeves]

This is from a good friend of mine.  The race of life is not about who finishes "first", but instead who and what in life "lasts".  Think about it. 

Good guys, good girls, good people, good friends, good memories, they all "last".  Nuff said.

[chaos]

This is from a good friend of mine.  The race of life is not about who finishes "first", but instead who and what in life "lasts".  Think about it. 

Good guys, good girls, good people, good friends, good memories, they all "last".  Nuff said.

When God said "Let there be light"


Did you flip the switch?

[Reeves]

When God said "Let there be light"


Did you flip the switch?

Nope.  I suppose that is a compliment and I'll pass it along to my friend.  Those were his words, not mine.  I just thought they were relevant to this topic.

[chaos]

Nope.  I suppose that is a compliment and I'll pass it along to my friend.  Those were his words, not mine.  I just thought they were relevant to this topic.

Oh.

I was steering completely off topic.

[BIG ACH]

Seem you live a good life  so can't say you are not right

Thanks man, I'm blessed dude... very fortunate!

As cliche as this sounds, one just has to be himself, if he's too nice, then so be it!


Back when I was doing my masters, one of my professors was the Chief Financial Officer OF THE UNIVERSITY,  That guy had an MBA, PHD, and CPA, and made tons of money, he kept repeating through out the semester over and over again "If I am to recommend one thing for you to excel at your jobs, its to just BE NICE - people appreciate that, and it pays off in the end!"

[Parker]

I was a nice guy, and yeah...I can say that nice guys do finish last...but, as I have grown, I have balanced it out, and developed great inner strength...being a good listener is not a fault, it is a asset. Being helpful, is not a fault, but a asset---being too helpful and over extending yourself, is a fault...I had to learn the hard way.

Being a rock that someone can depend on is good, being a doormat that everybody comes to trample on is not...being firm and knowing when to say "no" is the best, instead of always yes, or being a asshole and always saying "no" is the the incorrect way of going about it...

Standing your ground, no mater what---if you believe in what you stand for, in your mind and heart---is The Way...

[Reeves]

I was a nice guy, and yeah...I can say that nice guys do finish last...but, as I have grown, I have balanced it out, and developed great inner strength...being a good listener is not a fault, it is a asset. Being helpful, is not a fault, but a asset---being too helpful and over extending yourself, is a fault...I had to learn the hard way.

Being a rock that someone can depend on is good, being a doormat that everybody comes to trample on is not...being firm and knowing when to say "no" is the best, instead of always yes, or being a asshole and always saying "no" is the the incorrect way of going about it...

Standing your ground, no mater what---if you believe in what you stand for, in your mind and heart---is The Way...

What some of baser minds would all "faults" others would consider "facets".  It sounds as if you are on the right path.  Well done.

[Parker]

What some of baser minds would all "faults" others would consider "facets".  It sounds as if you are on the right path.  Well done.

Hey, it's about learning, and making one's weaknesses their strengths
In America its either of two extremes, and never the median...just like being a complete "nice guy" will comeback on you, being a complete asshole will too. Nobody likes to help a complete asshole, and nobody gives a shit if somehing happenes to him, in fact, people root for something to happen to him...
It's also funny that guys who are "nice guys" become "assholes"---if "nice guy" was on the left side, and "asshole" was on the right---you keep going left, you end up going right.
   

[Swedish Viking]

Wimps finish last.  Being nice, respectful of others and respectful of yourself gets you ahead-demand payment for everything you've done, refuse disrespect, be ready to turn your back if you need to, be ready to forgive when its necessary...this gets you ahead.

[The Grim Lifter]

I have always been too nice all my life.

these days I don't give a shit about anything and don't let anybody take advantages of my generosity

unfortunately, the past sticks so some people still try to take advantage, so if I have to move for another job and start all over again somewhere where I don't know anybody, i'll definitly present myself as a guy you don't want to fuck with right from the start.


better for business and life in general

Sounds just like me.

Ur a big guy so it wouldn't surprise me you are nice for one reason because otherwise it could be too intimidating not because you lack confidence (and just generally that's how you are).

The problem is you act nice and some people think you lack confidence and can be easily manipulated or controlled. Yet it's the opposite. So when they try it on or push it too far you tell them to fuck off. But you let a lot go so they don't get the message.

Anyway i've found that. I have to be a harder upfront. So many people i've told to fuck off in the last few years, a few i was ready to fight but it's amazing how they back peddle to someone much bigger than them when it comes out.

[wes]

You better get tough kid !!

[buselmo]

huge difference between being nice and being an idiot/pushover gullible fuck.

[_bruce_]

NICE guys finish last..............awesom e guys finish on her face.

 

[Cleanest Natural]

I am a nice guy. Maybe ths is why I am not a millionaire yet 

[Firemuscle]

I am a nice guy. Maybe ths is why I am not a millionaire yet 

 You're a stupid gypsy.

 Got gyped? Just look for Sevastase's flabby dumb ass.

[Tito24]

well you still can be a good and respectful guy but you should know how women think so you can adapt to it the right way otherwise they take (and really they will) take advantage of you., they love a man who has decisiveness and self confidence, things they lack in general so they are very attracted to someone who does have these traits.
its just works that you say to a girl she has a nice ass and giving her a wink instead of saying too kind stuff to her and being too respectful and "oprah feminist political correct".

[_bruce_]

well you still can be a good and respectful guy but you should know how women think so you can adapt to it the right way otherwise they take (and really they will) take advantage of you., they love a man who has decisiveness and self confidence, things they lack in general so they are very attracted to someone who does have these traits.
its just works that you say to a girl she has a nice ass and giving her a wink instead of saying too kind stuff to her and being too respectful and "oprah feminist political correct".

The master has spoken.
Be gentle but if shit hits the fan take action.

[wavelength]

nice does not mean weak

[funk51]

I'm seeing it more and more. In the workplace and in relationships. Nice guys get totally trampled.

People take advantage of the nice guy, he's always willing to to help, or willing to listen.

The arrogant, ruthless alpha usually bullies his way to the top of the ladder in the boardroom and the bedroom

Thoughts.....

the phrase was coined by leo durocher not a nice guy describing mel ott.

[Immortal_Technique]

I'm seeing it more and more. In the workplace and in relationships. Nice guys get totally trampled.

People take advantage of the nice guy, he's always willing to to help, or willing to listen.

The arrogant, ruthless alpha usually bullies his way to the top of the ladder in the boardroom and the bedroom

Thoughts.....

Yes and no, the bully guy might get the promotion or whatever, but he has to also accept that most sensible people can see he is an asshole.