people who have children should know the commitment to be a parent isn't just "allowing" them to live with you .. it's supporting them and guiding them into becoming valuable and decent people .. easy money may be a thrill .. but at what cost to self respect will someone stoop for a dollar or an offer from someone to screw them and perceive it as a compliment ?
You sort of answered your own question there.
I think that exotic dancing- or strip teasing could be just that, I mean I've been to strip clubs couple of times and had a lap dance but I also gave kudos for the girls flexibility and endurance etc. and asked what does she do besides this etc. But when you have kids, I dunno... even spreading your legs to filthy men and have them put money in your gstrings feels just morally akward to me, not to mention letting them fuck you for money.
If I was a parent I would do everything but sell my body like that. Why do women not care that they are fealt as cum dumpsters, no more valuable than, lets say a coffee cup?
^THIS^
You`re pretty smart for a young guy.
For example. This girl I like, I would be dissapointed if she didn't want to see me anymore because she's one of the few girls I truly respect and really like. And ofcourse she's a little more mellow than my stressfull over thinking self, so I understand if she gets suspicious why I want to avoid a relationship but as for now she agrees with me and feels me.
But, even if the day comes that she doesn't want to see me anymore because she is more willing to throw herself in and "there's no problems so why not do it", I would only get better from it. It would hurt, but I would embrace that feeling and become even stronger.
I'm not even trying to make it work, at this point I think it should work even if we didn't see eachother for months, and if we still have the fire then it's something, but even then doesn't mean we should turn our lifes around... it should be even greater.
Some say that life is too short to think these things, true, but for me on the other hand life is too big to make relationships and living for other people the life meter.
And as for the after life goes, I'm not the kind of person that all of a sudden wants to live for the after life itself, I've been doing alot of shit in my head allready, so if there's an afterlife my soul will burn like a guy. But even so if I had kids, then I'm a holy man infront of them.