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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #25 on: January 01, 2012, 04:17:36 AM »
You should see the EMOTIONAL AFFIARS that go on at my job..Between married men and married women..All I work with are Divorcees, Single Mothers and Divorced/Single Mothers..LOL! All of them Dying for attention.It's almost like a soap opera in real life. Who is close to who, then who fell out with who..Boils down to what you ARE NOT getting at home..Or you may be bored with it and look sor some excitement outside of the marriage/relationship. Now if that's the case and you have tried to be fed at home.. and aren't..and you know that divorcing will be a finacial nightmare. Would you be willing to get a little on the side if both parties are in agreement?
BD, the baby boomer gen never taught the younger gens about fidelity, common sense...most never gave their children attention. We've learned to chase instant gratification and to jump from relationship to relationship when the slightest notion to go South. Women expect men to be mind readers, and men expect women to accept our slacking off, and our lack of self control. Thus, problems arise...

The answers lie in how we are taught, and what we are shown...being trustworthy in our society is not valued as much as being wealthy or attractive, so you have a lot of very untrustworthy people in relationships.

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #26 on: January 01, 2012, 05:31:11 AM »
Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them. Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they d interact with others for the rest of their life.
They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exageratly for attention, and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.


Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world. They re insecure because they re girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom. They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesnt cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They re no as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they dont know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc). They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attemptint to cure their insecurity , but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #27 on: January 01, 2012, 05:36:52 AM »
what you said is correct,,,fella people dont want to face 'REALITY' like pro bodybuidlers use hormones some dont want to face that fact their role model takes them they want to think they can get as big as them,,one day

same with marriage,,,,folks dont want to think about their spouse even thinking of cheating on them,,,they get scared,,,,so thats why they hate you in this thread,,,they dont want a hint of even possibility of spouse cheating,,

yes your right also,,,if person is not emotioanl involved in another person its not cheating,,,,its just SEX,,nothing more,,,its when man get emotional involved with another woman the wife gets mad,,

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Right! This does make me seem like an asshole, doesn't it. Perhaps this is because I neglected to mention that I believe whatever is good for the gander is good for the goose too. Furthermore, I am not suggesting everyone go out and screw as many people as possible on the side.

In Mating in Captivity, author and family therapist Esther Perel argues that the grip of fidelity may be doing more harm than good. She asks if a decades-old marriage should be scrapped because of a one-night moment of weakness. Noting record divorce rates, she writes "despite the fact that monogamy is a ship sinking faster than anyone can bail it out, we continue to cling to the wreckage with absolute faith in its structural soundness."

Very few affairs end in marriage. According to one large study of business men who had affairs, only 3 percent of the men married their lovers
The statistics may shock you.

No one begins a marriage expecting to cheat on their spouse. Vows are exchanged, promises are made and the marriage begins with love and high hopes.

And yet, according to the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, approximately 50 percent married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some time in their marriage. And since it is unlikely that the people having affairs are married to each other in every case, the current statistics on the percentage of married couples who cheat on each other means that someone is having an affair in nearly 80 percent of marriages.

I may be an asshole, but I am just stating the obvious, it seems.  Many people in committed relationships have affairs. In my opinion, the complications from doing this is greatly increased when it is more than just sex; when it is a love affair.  



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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #28 on: January 01, 2012, 05:39:50 AM »
the reason fellas think about cheating is that they get used to their girl...as simple as that,,

rule of thumb

no mater how hot your girl is you will get used to her,, from the fella who use to respect and worship the ground she walk in first 2 weeks ....you become fella that used to her tits and ass and face and take control like ANY bodybuild out there we take control always

now!,, most sane fellas can keep their cock in pants and not cheat...this is where fella integrity is mesured,,but! rest assure the thought is there for your girl wil alwys get fatter on you than when you met her ALWAYS,, she will alwys get comfy ,, she wil always get more boring for you already saw her pussy 300 times and held her and felt all the bad points since you saw her naked you know exactly she is not perfect...sooooo the girl you see in walmart americana 120 lb with sexy clothes on ....you keep on wondering what she will feel like when you penetrate her and she is all into sex with you unlike the girl you have that already used to you....

be assured though,, its all the same,, after you cheat you discover that its all the same ,, only after you do it....you are a filt and basicaly dont respect yourself,, and when someone dont respect himself it can only go down from there

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Most coherent post you have ever made...

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #29 on: January 01, 2012, 05:40:01 AM »
Relationships and marriage are created by women for women. If the lion which is the King of the Beasts could speak? If you asked him, "Mr. Lion why don't you just settle for one lioness instead of having fifteen?" What do you think his response would be? Best advice anyone ever gave to me was to chase $ and let the women chase you.


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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #30 on: January 01, 2012, 05:40:43 AM »
Most coherent post you have ever made...

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #31 on: January 01, 2012, 05:45:55 AM »
Relationships and marriage are created by women for women. If the lion which is the King of the Beasts could speak? If you asked him, "Mr. Lion why don't you just settle for one lioness instead of having fifteen?" What do you think his response would be? Best advice anyone ever gave to me was to chase $ and let the women chase you.


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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #32 on: January 01, 2012, 05:57:04 AM »
watching other women ass on getbig is cheating too  ;D

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #33 on: January 01, 2012, 06:03:56 AM »
no mater how hot your girl is you will get used to her,,

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FACT

And this will usually happen within 3 months or so, and it's especially true for fellas like me who view females as "objects"

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #34 on: January 01, 2012, 06:22:41 AM »
Most coherent post you have ever made...

thats because i try to put in the head of their that even the hotest girl in world will bore you moment she take down her walls,,moment you have her she become just another girl ....to everyone else she will stil be the hottie but to you ...you will knwo exactly how she lok liek with no make up and you will know that one nipple or her biger than other ,, and you will know all kind of things abotu her that will just make her normal to you and thats when the 18 year old from walmart come into play lol  but same with that whore too...you get used to the 18 year old and go to the next one...thats wht i say make sure the HEART IS THERE

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #35 on: January 01, 2012, 07:10:36 AM »
thats because i try to put in the head of their that even the hotest girl in world will bore you moment she take down her walls,,moment you have her she become just another girl ....to everyone else she will stil be the hottie but to you ...you will knwo exactly how she lok liek with no make up and you will know that one nipple or her biger than other ,, and you will know all kind of things abotu her that will just make her normal to you and thats when the 18 year old from walmart come into play lol  but same with that whore too...you get used to the 18 year old and go to the next one...thats wht i say make sure the HEART IS THERE

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Shallow , needy , lonesome , egotistical people cheat

People who are adults and choose a partner to spend their life with should know it's never going to wonderful candlelight and roses for more than a minute

Communication is key in anything worthwhile

Expectations are more to blame than anything .. if you go into something expecting more then it's simple to get disappointed and go looking for more

Given the sexually charged atmosphere that is permeating the sensory paths humans face each day with music , adverts , and other media it's no wonder temptations are so plentiful

Anyone with a sense of self worth and pride would fix what they find wrong instead of being weak and running to the alternative that is front of them at the minute


as you say .. that thrill of fresh meat doesn't last and mostly begins a cycle of seeking more and more

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #36 on: January 01, 2012, 07:17:21 AM »
Relationships and marriage are created by women for women. If the lion which is the King of the Beasts could speak? If you asked him, "Mr. Lion why don't you just settle for one lioness instead of having fifteen?" What do you think his response would be? Best advice anyone ever gave to me was to chase $ and let the women chase you.


You sound settled and happy.

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #37 on: January 01, 2012, 07:18:45 AM »
Shallow , needy , lonesome , egotistical people cheat

People who are adults and choose a partner to spend their life with should know it's never going to wonderful candlelight and roses for more than a minute

Communication is key in anything worthwhile

Expectations are more to blame than anything .. if you go into something expecting more then it's simple to get disappointed and go looking for more

Given the sexually charged atmosphere that is permeating the sensory paths humans face each day with music , adverts , and other media it's no wonder temptations are so plentiful

Anyone with a sense of self worth and pride would fix what they find wrong instead of being weak and running to the alternative that is front of them at the minute


as you say .. that thrill of fresh meat doesn't last and mostly begins a cycle of seeking more and more
Brought tears to my eyes could have wrote this myself, but i still dont have the skills unfortunately to formulate it that way.

I d add "Shallow , needy , lonesome , egotistical people " are shallow, needy, lonesome, egotistical because themselves were abandonned and badly raised, loved, educated by their own parents or caregivers. Spiritual, faithful families produce faithful individuals you can count on, atheist families produce lost individuals with no morals, values, who will fall for all the extremes and addictions and you cant trust. We only imitate, reproduce subonsciously, blindly what we ve been exposed to and cannot reproduce what we werent exposed to.

People from shity dysfunctional families watch tv all childhood long and think real life has to work the same way as in soaps and sitcoms, while kids coming from faithful families know what life is really about. As simple as that.
Atheists dont learn to be content with what they have, being content with what you have comes from a good religious education, from parents, grandparents, who stayed together. A deeper stronger understanding of the meaning of life and what truly matters.

Genuine long lasting hapiness is exactly where most atheists dont look anymore. They are lost, just like their own fathers, who were lost, too. They dont understand the meaning of life. When they do, it's too late. To give a meaning to their life they choose material goods, sex, power, money, drugs as gods to "believe in" and put above everything and everyone else. But there's only one true God and we are all his sons and daughters.
Atheists only care about themselves, they think they are God himself. They cannot raise kids and cannot perpetuate life as they ve been trained to feel no empathy for anyone else but themselves.


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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #38 on: January 01, 2012, 07:23:19 AM »
News flash. God is made up. But proper relationships are still awesome. And nightclub sex with skank hoes is still whack.

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #39 on: January 01, 2012, 07:29:44 AM »
Why is Jock The Glide posting as GH15???   ??? ??? ???

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #40 on: January 01, 2012, 08:32:33 AM »
Shallow , needy , lonesome , egotistical people cheat

People who are adults and choose a partner to spend their life with should know it's never going to wonderful candlelight and roses for more than a minute

Expectations are more to blame than anything .. if you go into something expecting more then it's simple to get disappointed and go looking for more

Given the sexually charged atmosphere that is permeating the sensory paths humans face each day with music , adverts , and other media it's no wonder temptations are so plentiful

Anyone with a sense of self worth and pride would fix what they find wrong instead of being weak and running to the alternative that is front of them at the minute

as you say .. that thrill of fresh meat doesn't last and mostly begins a cycle of seeking more and more

Sounds great in theory, but you are ignoring basic biological directives here.  Men are suppose to have sex with as many different women as they can.  A womans biological directive is to have children.  It's very simple. 

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #41 on: January 01, 2012, 08:45:09 AM »
Sounds great in theory, but you are ignoring basic biological directives here.  Men are suppose to have sex with as many different women as they can.  A womans biological directive is to have children.  It's very simple. 

Yes, but in this day and age what man would want to pay or support 5+ children to different mothers?

Answer? Only the local ghetto cavemen

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #42 on: January 01, 2012, 09:20:07 AM »
thats because i try to put in the head of their that even the hotest girl in world will bore you moment she take down her walls,,moment you have her she become just another girl ....to everyone else she will stil be the hottie but to you ...you will knwo exactly how she lok liek with no make up and you will know that one nipple or her biger than other ,, and you will know all kind of things abotu her that will just make her normal to you and thats when the 18 year old from walmart come into play lol  but same with that whore too...you get used to the 18 year old and go to the next one...thats wht i say make sure the HEART IS THERE

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So true. I was seeing "a perfect 10" for almost 2 years. I kinda tapered off after about 8 months or so. After doing everything you could possibly imagine to her crevasses the illusion was gone. Then I would find myself jerking off more to internet porn and less hot girls (even when we were having sex I was thinking of others). Eventually we were done and went separate ways. Now looking back I took her and her looks for granted and it sucks.

Thank god I took a ton of sexual photos of her because now I find myself jerking off to them today.

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #43 on: January 01, 2012, 09:22:44 AM »
Relationships and marriage are created by women for women. If the lion which is the King of the Beasts could speak? If you asked him, "Mr. Lion why don't you just settle for one lioness instead of having fifteen?" What do you think his response would be? Best advice anyone ever gave to me was to chase $ and let the women chase you.


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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #44 on: January 01, 2012, 09:24:03 AM »
 to the OP

Because of your mom   :D
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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #45 on: January 01, 2012, 09:25:14 AM »
Sounds great in theory, but you are ignoring basic biological directives here.  Men are suppose to have sex with as many different women as they can.  A womans biological directive is to have children.  It's very simple.  
yeah it's very simple when you re a mental midget. I guess you feel like you just cited "scientific sources" to justify not controlling your animalistic urges thus making somewhat of a point in this thread. Looks like someone still hasnt figure the difference between animals without consciousness and what is called humans. Intellectual reasoning of a 12 y/o kid...with a shitty or no father figure.

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #46 on: January 01, 2012, 09:30:56 AM »
You once said you we're teacher for like 30 years. How can you be a teacher and not know the basics of right and wrong........oh wait. Let me guess, the PS systems?

Joe, you have never ever cheated before ?

never ?

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even when you were young ? I know that's a long time ago but try to remember  ;D

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #47 on: January 01, 2012, 09:35:15 AM »
When I date a girl usually, I am SUPER attracted to her for like.. a month. Then I get bored pretty fast and after a few months I cheat

now, a getbigger once wrote here: I prefer learning to love a girl than learning to hate her.

it's kinda this way with my current girlfriend, because at the begginning I was like.. "blah..."
then after each passing week I am getting more attracted to her. I have been with her for a year now and we never have any fights and we laugh a lot.


I think I found love  8)


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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #48 on: January 01, 2012, 09:51:00 AM »
I'm in love with my girlfriend.  The more I'm with her the more I'm attracted her.  We've been together for so long...all other women can't even compare to her.  I love her so much.  Everyday I hold and I say to her,"I love you so much, I'm so lucky you're in my life."  I'd like to spend the rest of my life with her.  I couldn't even imagine being with other than her.
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Just playing... I don't have a girlfriend. ;D

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Re: Why Do Men Cheat?
« Reply #49 on: January 01, 2012, 10:02:56 AM »
The adult, evolved mature version of teenage love is directly linked to the level of spirituality of an individual, to his/her faith. As is being able to build, maintain and perpetuate a family. Families were stronger and more stable in the past because they were religious. They also spawned happier, more mature and contributing individuals. Atheist families spawn lost, depressed, addicted and unable to contribute individuals who are a burden for the whole rest of society / the specie.