Not until I'm about 40.
My father had me at 43 while my mom was 40. My old man had a very dangerous job as a coast guard rescue swimmer and didnt want my mom to raise children wihout a father. So once he retired they had their 3 children,being married 10 years at that point. My parents say they were so glad they waited. By that time my father was collecting a retirement as well as working another job. My mom had spent 15 years as a teacher, and quit so she could be a stay home mom. So by the time your at that age your well off on money and your career is established.
Plus they say by that time they already wanted to sit at home. They got all of their adventures and traveling done with.
I would never want to be one of my friends who has kids. I call up some of my fiends and say hey were going on a fishing trip this weekend you in? ''no, sorry taking my son to practice''..etc. I'd rather wait till I'm old enough so that is what I want to do.
I work with some younger people who say things like 'were so glad their kids are leaving for college'' ''Have kids young so you can enjoy your adult life. ''Fuck that I want to enjoy my young life and have the kids In my adult life. Whats the rush?
Dude, man. If you have kids at that age you'll be in diapers at the same time the kids just finish using them. That's old, man. Having kids at an older age is harder and leads to weaker offspring last time I checked into it.
Don't think that kids ruin lives. People who think like that are losers to begin with. My bro had his daughter at age 20 and he's doing awesome. My niece is the SHIT and my bro's got an awesome life. Sure, his priorities shifted but I mean now he focuses on his very own flesh and blood instead of menial things that were probably no good to begin with. I don't see any problems there. Everything worked out for the better.
When I see miserable fucks with shitty ass kids I have no sympathy. I had an amazingly tough upbringing and my parents had shit all, but I turned out okay. Although my parents fought in front of us and made a lot of other mistakes, they were always good to us and did what they could to protect us. They never bitched. They never acted like we were some big burden and made us feel bad about it. Something about whiny parents really pisses me off. Children are challenging and exhausting to raise, no doubt. But what else is there that's more important than raising kids? Going fishing? World of Warcraft tournament? Waiting to bid-snipe a pack of ravenous schmoes over a pair of
soiled manties sports memorabilia?
I'm a cynical, angry fucker but I never bitch about raising kids. I of course have never raised kids of my own, but I've helped raise my younger brothers when the parents were going through tough times and take care of my nieces and nephews regularly.