A relationship with someone you feel no physical attraction for

[wes]

in my first post,I felt just like booty did,but when Borracho said she was cool and would do anything for him,I changed my tune.

I`ve been with a lot of pretty fine ,but superficial broads but it never worked out......can`t deal with high maintenance bullshit.

A slightly lesser looker who would kill for you can be great to have as a keeper as long as she doesn`t look like a fucking bog beast.

[booty]

in my first post,I felt just like booty did,but when Borracho said she was cool and would do anything for him,I changed my tune.

I`ve been with a lot of pretty fine ,but superficial broads but it never worked out......can`t deal with high maintenance bullshit.

A slightly lesser looker who would kill for you can be great to have as a keeper as long as she doesn`t look like a fucking bog beast.

That's all good wes but he said he isn't attracted to her so how is he supose to remain faithful?  When you are in a relationship, most people want the whole package someone who they have a friendship with, who is staunch and loyal, kind, grounded, morals, similar interests and being sexually intimate is important too.  It's something that you don't share with anyone else, so if you don't want to have sex with them how can you remain faithful? 

[G_Thang]

Quote from: Borracho on Today at 06:03:46 PM
Would it be possible to maintain a relationship with someone you don't wanna have sex with??

Any tips?

Yes , $

Possible.  Look below.

That's nice ,just fuck her once a month .

Nope, I got an ugly rich girl, and I can just barely look at her, let alone do anything with her.

I'm so hard wired for looks. It isn't funny.  

[Bad News Brown]

I was in that type of relationship when it first started, ended up falling in love and being attracted to her....

[wes]

That's all good wes but he said he isn't attracted to her so how is he supose to remain faithful?  When you are in a relationship, most people want the whole package someone who they have a friendship with, who is staunch and loyal, kind, grounded, morals, similar interests and being sexually intimate is important too.  It's something that you don't share with anyone else, so if you don't want to have sex with them how can you remain faithful? 

That`s why I suggested side stuff! 

I wouldn`t really do that seriously,you have made a good point.

[booty]

That`s why I suggested side stuff! 

I wouldn`t really do that seriously,you have made a good point.

That's good because side stuff is really low.  It's wasting a persons time if you are with them to get something out of them and then have to fuck someone on the side.  That's morally wrong and will back fire big time. 

[Borracho]

That's fine you don't have to.  You asked for advice and members gave it and since I am female I thought it might be worth something.  From a womans perspective or even a mans, it would be hurtful to know that the person you are with is only with you because they think they can get something out of you and is not physically attracted to you or wants to have sex with you.  Sooner or later it will blow up in your face and when she finds out that you don't want to have sex with her and never really wanted to, you will lose her as a friend.  

I don't wanna turn this into a men vs women argument but you guys have always looked to get something from a man. Money, power, and fame appeal to women because they mean security so that you are able to ensure that your offspring will live on. God I sound like uberman ...lol

This girl really likes me btw and she knows there isn't mutual chemistry otherwise I already would've had sex with her. She's an amazing person and I wanna be with her but physically its not there... yet

[Borracho]

I was in that type of relationship when it first started, ended up falling in love and being attracted to her....

This is what I wanted to hear.

[booty]

I don't wanna turn this into a men vs women argument but you guys have always looked to get something from a man. Money, power, fame appeal to women because they mean security so that you are able to ensure that your offspring will live on. God I sound like uberman ...lol

This girl really like me btw and she knows there isn't mutual chemistry otherwise I already would've had sex with her. She's an amazing person and I wanna be with her but physically its not there... yet

Not all women.  And the ones who do use someone to get something from them, leave when they are no longer getting what they want or have got what they want.  That isn't a relationship in my eyes.  Using people is wrong.  If you think you can build something with this woman then go for it.  But keep things honest and hopefully the phsyical attraction comes.  I just don't think that it's something you can force.  However if you develope feelings for her then the phsyical attraction may come but it might not be the strong kind where you look into each others eyes and want to tear each others clothes off.  It might be the kind where she stands there trying to get you to bed and you are too busy looking at the tv.  

[che]

That's good because side stuff is really low.  It's wasting a persons time if you are with them to get something out of them and then have to fuck someone on the side.  That's morally wrong and will back fire big time. 

That's  what  I  told Will Grant  but he doesn't give a fuck.

[Borracho]

Not all women.  And the ones who do use someone to get something from them, leave when they are no longer getting what they want or have got what they want.  That isn't a relationship in my eyes.  Using people is wrong.  If you think you can build something with this woman then go for it.  But keep things honest and hopefully the phsyical attraction comes.  I just don't think that it's something you can force.  However if you develope feelings for her then the phsyical attraction may come but it might not be the strong kind where you look into each others eyes and want to tear each others clothes off.  It might be the kind where she stands there trying to get you to bed and you are too busy looking at the tv.  

You sound like a hopeless romantic...as I am. lol

But we keep going after good looking people we are physically attracted to and then when it fades whats left?

[wes]

That's good because side stuff is really low.  It's wasting a persons time if you are with them to get something out of them and then have to fuck someone on the side.  That's morally wrong and will back fire big time. 

I hear ya`...I was goofing around,and goofing around on my wife is something I would never do.

[Borracho]

Bullshit.  If you have respect for her you won't get caught.  But almost every guy does it, homey.  Hate to break it to booty.  And broads do it too.  You only get one life my man.  Gotta be a successful person. Not somebody always chasing a better nut to bust.  Side shit, smartly.  Will keep you interested in her.  Go to a washy massage or find girl you can bang with no drama.  Gotta be right girl though if gonna side piece.  Don't set yourself up for failure.  Hit the wash massage until you are sure you gotta a side broad that knows the deal and don't even contact you by phone.  A girl you run into most days.  And when you do.  And she see you. You both know what time it is.  No phone trail.  Washy massage bitches will never tell nobody! Ha

I love this guy hahaha

[G_Thang]

That's good because side stuff is really low.  It's wasting a persons time if you are with them to get something out of them and then have to fuck someone on the side.  That's morally wrong and will back fire big time.  

i already told wilma and you if something goes wrong don't come on this board with bullshit.  i'll be the first to ron to delete accounts.  you believe this than you're setup already.

[booty]

There is more to life than sex.  And how the he'll is she gonna find out you don like having sex with her.  You know that you cant tell her that.  This broad is just talking out her twat.  And you are giving her something as well as getting something. Sounds like it has the makings of a nice thing.  You aren't taking advantage.  And you won't lose her as friend.   You are giving muscular cock and she is helping stabilize your life.  If you are anything like me or most bber/litters.  You probably need a broad like your girl.

I am not talking out of my twat.  I am being totally honest and it sounds like to me that you are on a big of a ego trip regarding the whole giving the girl the muscle thing.  And yes the fastest way to lose a woman or a man for that matter is to not be honest with them and then they find out later down the track that you were never attracted to them from the beginning after you have met someone whom you are and start having sex on the side (cheating).  I have never had this experience but it could pan out this way if a person continued to stay with somebody that didn't fulful their sexual desires and needs.

[booty]

You sound like a hopeless romantic...as I am. lol

But we keep going after good looking people we are physically attracted to and then when it fades whats left?

Well the key is to find someone who fits the whole package not just looks.  Obviously, a person doesn't embark on a relationship with someone based solely on phsyical attraction.  Just find a good balance.  Find a woman who is a good person, kind, has morals etc and who wants to be with you and is grounded and stable and whom you find yourself phsyically attracted to.  Phsyical attraction doesn't have to come first, but it definitley has to be there if you are going to have a long term honest faithful relationship with them.  You've got to meet each others needs including sexual ones.  

[booty]

i already told wilma and you if something goes wrong don't come on this board with bullshit.  i'll be the first to ron to delete accounts.  you believe this than you're setup already.

You're talking out of your ass because Will and I have got nothing to do with this thread. 

[Army of One]

Bullshit.  If you have respect for her you won't get caught.  But almost every guy does it, homey.  Hate to break it to booty.  And broads do it too.  You only get one life my man.  Gotta be a successful person. Not somebody always chasing a better nut to bust.  Side shit, smartly.  Will keep you interested in her.  Go to a washy massage or find girl you can bang with no drama.  Gotta be right girl though if gonna side piece.  Don't set yourself up for failure.  Hit the wash massage until you are sure you gotta a side broad that knows the deal and don't even contact you by phone.  A girl you run into most days.  And when you do.  And she see you. You both know what time it is.  No phone trail.  Washy massage bitches will never tell nobody! Ha

Are you a chocolate face by any chance?

[jwb]

This is what I wanted to hear.

Have you seen any pics of her when she was younger? If the potential is there you can always get her in shape.

[Army of One]

No.  Irish, Cuban descent.  100% American.

Cubans have some chocolate in them

[Borracho]

Have you seen any pics of her when she was younger? If the potential is there you can always get her in shape.

I haven't seen her in over a year and I know she began working out and going to the gym. Don't remember seeing her younger pics...my guess she looked the same (fatty) otherwise she wouldn't have such a nice personality.  

[pedro01]

Would it be possible to maintain a relationship with someone you don't wanna have sex with??

Any tips?

Sounds like a description of most marriages

[chess315]

its hard I have been trying to get ride of this girl the last month. She just keeps crying my god I think I finally got rid of her tonight though I hope. I feel bad for her I cant stand her she sleeps all the time and gained a bunch a weight and is just not there up stairs. She  has money and new suv but god I just cant take it she bothers me I can get anything done that's the main problem I can really give a fuck if she here as long as she doesn't bother me. I threw her out to weeks ago she went to work and threw up then my mom let her back here and she missed a week of work and was with me even more .

[chess315]

Just keep some side stuff on the sly!

fuck if thats what gets everyone through the day so be it like you said it might not be right but if it keeps everyone happy fine by me.

[Vikingman]

thankfully some good sex still exists in my marriage but foreplay and kissing long gone