Girlfriends - Do you have one? Rough times?

[wes]

Make sure there's nothing in your life that you can't walk away from in 30 seconds flat.

[Domthemilky]

Make sure there's nothing in your life that you can't walk away from in 30 seconds flat.

could you walk away from your wife in 30 seconds flat, wes?

[dustin]

Some good ass advices in this thread!

We men have to unite... women are fucking CRAZY!!!

[dfresh]

yeah i used to drink so often and always love talking to other girls till I met my girlfriend. even when we got together I'd still flirt like crazy and love attention but about a year in things felt alot more serious and I started to actually respect her and stop doing it just because I felt it was wrong. I still get tempted of course when I see a girl that looks amazing but I would never cheat cause I know its never worth it and I didn't want to ruin this. I never drink anymore it would feel so strange to go out 'clubbing'. I also didn't go to Uni because I wanted to stay with this girl and ended up working some crappy job I don't really enjoy but its just a source of income. I probably would of been far better off ending it there but now im in too deep. I'll just have to see whether we will stay together in a few days.

One thing I definetly don't want to do is: be friends or having an on off relationship. I cannot be fucked with all that shit, ive been through it before, the jealousy, the arguments and it never works out. Even though my girlfriend was probably my best friend I would want no contact at all. would be too difficult.

agreed, i could not do the whole friends thing...just too hard. if you havent already sit down and try talking out any differences and really lay everything out

[Domthemilky]

agreed, i could not do the whole friends thing...just too hard. if you havent already sit down and try talking out any differences and really lay everything out

this is what i wanted to do, but at the moment my temper seems to suddenly erupt out of nowhere and I say stupid things to try feel better. I just can't stand her saying "i don't know" cause it is probably the worst thing she could say, i fucking hate uncerntainty.

[wes]

could you walk away from your wife in 30 seconds flat, wes?

I was kidding bro,that`s a line from the movie Heat stated by Robert DeNiro.

I feel where you`re coming from trust me dude,been in lots of relationships that took a huge toll on me mentally as well as a few that broke my fucking heart.

These days though,I`m a lot harder to hurt and though I would feel terrible,if leaving was the thing I thought I should do,though it would be hard to do, and if I couldn`t rectify the situation,I would leave.


I used to beat myself up by drinking for months if a relationship went South.........no longer would I hurt myself more than the breakup hurt initially.

Good luck dude.........I just poured out my true feelings and I know I`m gonna` get flamed but fuck it.......won`t be the first time.

Also,I`m a lot older than you and this is partially why I wrote the above post.

All the best bud!  

[dfresh]

this is what i wanted to do, but at the moment my temper seems to suddenly erupt out of nowhere and I say stupid things to try feel better. I just can't stand her saying "i don't know" cause it is probably the worst thing she could say, i fucking hate uncerntainty.

yea relationships are hard work thats for sure. it does suck to hear her say that, but again the best thing i think is to just let things play out...as hard as it is and as much as you want things to just go right back to being perfect, it is really all you can do. one way or another you/her will get through it, all the best brotha..keep us posted

[Thespritz0]

I was kidding bro,that`s a line from the movie Heat stated by Robert DeNiro.

I feel where you`re coming from trust me dude,been in lots of relationships that took a huge toll on me mentally as well as a few that broke my fucking heart.

These days though,I`m a lot harder to hurt and though I would feel terrible,if leaving was the thing I thought I should do,though it would be hard to do, and if I couldn`t rectify the situation,I would leave.


I used to beat myself up by drinking for months if a relationship went South.........no longer would I hurt myself more than the breakup hurt initially.

Good luck dude.........I just poured out my true feelings and I know I`m gonna` get flamed but fuck it.......won`t be the first time.

Also,I`m a lot older than you and this is partially why I wrote the above post.

All the best bud!  

^^
x 1,000,000 Excellent words there WES!!!

[Fortress]

i feel your right about that. Feels like it's going to take me ages to recover and she's probably going to be talking to her friends now and thinking about moving on already. The amount of times I told her last night to fuck off and not speak to me again and she just stood there crying. felt so bad but at the same time I know i shouldn't be sympathetic and that I don't mean it, its just anger taking over my emotions.

My ex has likely banged multiple cocks, and most of them porbably within a few shorts months of our cancellation as a couple. Girls move on very rapidly. They love you until they decide not to love you anymore. At that point, a dude is history, whether he wants to accept this or not.

As the famous Marlboro Man character (Don Johnson) says in Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man, "Never chase women or buses. You'll always be left behind." 

[wes]

^^
x 1,000,000 Excellent words there WES!!!

Thanks bro. 

[jon cole]

What would you guys do or have you guys done when things in your relationship are not going well. I'm having alot of arguments with my girlfriend and i found out some stuff recently that really hurts inside even if it snot a big deal. Now we are thinking things over and deciding whether to continue our relationship or end it here. Sucks because we had lots of plans for holidays and to me it seems out the blue. Spent the entire day feeling like someone had stabbed me in the gut and got that achey feeling inside. Going to go gym in an hour or so and eat really well to hopefully make myself feel better.

I'm sure i'll get some typical getbigger responses but I am curious as to what some of you did to get over break ups or rough times in your relationship. I kind of feel like a failure aswell and that I should of tried harder and almost like I should have listened to her more. But then I suppose this is a typical reaction when things get bad, you question yourself and your lifestyle. Relationships are hard fucking work!

can you describe???

stuff like the guy you saw at the mall was more than just an "old friend and nothing happened with him" or more serious b.s ?

my advice, with girl don't be too psycholog or too emotionnal, don't try to understand "why she did that" "why she lie to me about this about that" or your life will turn to hell.

be a man, be pragmatiq, be down to earth, women lie about the lie they told.

[wes]

My ex has likely banged multiple cocks, and most of them porbably within a few shorts months of our cancellation as a couple. Girls move on very rapidly. They love you until they decide not to love you anymore. At that point, a dude is history, whether he wants to accept this or not.

As the famous Marlboro Man character (Don Johnson) says in Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man, "Never chase women or buses. You'll always be left behind."  

Shit,on the first few days of a breakup I was crying in my beer and a buddy comes up to me and says he`s just seen my ex living it up and dancing with other guys in another bar having a ball.

Some women are cold fucking blooded!!

And this was a great relationship for about 2 years and one day she just up and tells me she`s moving out  

[jon cole]

You just break up and start the process all over again, letting a little piece of yourself die each time, until you eventually become cold and dead inside.
At that point you've become a man.

if it's the definition of a a man, then i'm a man now.

[wes]

 

[wes]

[jon cole]

My ex has likely banged multiple cocks, and most of them porbably within a few shorts months of our cancellation as a couple. Girls move on very rapidly. They love you until they decide not to love you anymore. At that point, a dude is history, whether he wants to accept this or not.

As the famous Marlboro Man character (Don Johnson) says in Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man, "Never chase women or buses. You'll always be left behind." 

women can't love.

[Palpatine Q]

I am with the dude who says to never get too emotionally invested in a romantic relationship. They very rarely become anything more than anger, resentment and frustration.

NEVER marry. And if possible, never live with a woman.

With all this said, don't stress about keeping the relationship going. When it stalls, for whatever reason, just ditch it and find another broad. They're a dime a dozen, just like guys are for them.

I learned all this the hard way.

You sound like a miserable, lonely fuck quite honestly

[Domthemilky]

she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth guy was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember.  the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.

But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....

[wes]

Right now I`m very thankful that my marriage is going strong and we are still very much in love after being together for 11 years or so.

Too many fucked up past relationships make me happy for what I`ve got today.

[Domthemilky]

You sound like a miserable, lonely fuck quite honestly

it does sound like a pretty crappy existence, all alone for the rest of ur life, afraid to show ur emotions and open up to a girl. but i suppose you don't get hurt when you do that, but how can you explain to a girl about why you won't commit. unless you're a master of bullshitting, im not.

[Fortress]

You sound like a miserable, lonely fuck quite honestly

Well, sure. It isn't some big secret few know. What's your point?

Life sucks. At least I accept this and can therefore get down to jamming some rockin' tunes and lifting heavy shit for fun.

[Palpatine Q]

it does sound like a pretty crappy existence, all alone for the rest of ur life, afraid to show ur emotions and open up to a girl. but i suppose you don't get hurt when you do that, but how can you explain to a girl about why you won't commit. unless you're a master of bullshitting, im not.

I'm talking about what Fortress said..between that and his other post...he's obviously had a woman do a fucking number on him, and he's bitter.

feel bad for the guy, but don't go telling everyone that all women suck, never commit... because you got fucked over....you ever stop and think it was YOU ?

[devilsmile]

she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember.  the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.

But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....

yes well, this is why it's hard for me to trust women now days, I'd never throw my self at every girl that's "more than good looking" .
 Mind you that my relationship ended because I was too thick headed, but overally women now days are human garbage under my eyes. "uuuuh, it wasn't letting him touch me to places and snuggling and getting my pussy wet, it was just an innocent flirt. Yeah he wants to fuck me but I only have his phone number, address and facebook, no big deal", tsssh, lol.

[wes]

Good point Groink........I`ve fucked up many a time in relationships,but not in all of the ones that ended badly.

For the most part,I try to part on friendly terms.......hard to hate someone you fell in love with unless you really got fucked over in a big way.

It`s all just a part of life,a hard part of life,but we all have to go through it at one time or another.

[Domthemilky]

yes well, this is why it's hard for me to trust women now days, I'd never throw my self at every girl that's "more than good looking" .
 Mind you that my relationship ended because I was too thick headed, but overally women now days are human garbage under my eyes. "uuuuh, it wasn't letting him touch me to places and snuggling and getting my pussy wet, it was just an innocent flirt. Yeah he wants to fuck me but I only have his phone number, address and facebook, no big deal", tsssh, lol.

am i doomed to become a bitter #### who never wants a proper relationship again?  

she also says that she hasnt been single in about 6 years as she jumped straight from a previous relationship to this one, but thats not really a valid excuse forbreaking up with someone. she says she doesn't know what single feels like so how can she know wehter she likes it. ahhh fuck my life. lol.