"It is not ours to question..."
"Who are we to question..."
It is not wrong to question God about things that happen if you are sincere and actually wanting an answer. In Psalms God was questioned about why the writer was afflicted with certain situations.
"Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones."- Marcus Aurelius
The above sounds good but each person has their view of what a "just God" would be. Also, does one live by the same virtues all of their life? If not, do the "unwholesome ones" not count and/or are ones that are considered wholesome by the "gods?"
Sorry about your father Krankenstein.