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Author Topic: Do You Have "Nice Guy" Syndrome?  (Read 5426 times)
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« on: January 02, 2013, 03:05:26 AM »

(Forthcoming in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, May 2013)

Diagnostic Criteria for "Nice Guy" Syndrome

(I) qualitative impairment of ability to interact with women, as manifested by at least three of the following:

     (A) marked impairments in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as eye-to-eye gaze, facial expression, body posture, and gestures to regulate social interaction when surrounded by women

     (B) little to no sexual relations with women in the context of a non-ascetic lifestyle

     (C) extreme and excessive submissiveness to women, including repetitive apologizing for behavior, opening doors for women, and throwing of one's coat over puddles such that women may walk over it in order to avoid getting wet

     (D) having the username 'dj181' on one or more bodybuilding fora

(II) possession of a deep-seated, bubbling-to-the-surface hatred of women

(III) possession of at least two of the following beliefs:

     (A) the belief that one is a genuinely nice guy

     (B) the belief that nice guys lie oneself are inherently less attractive to women

     (C) the belief that women naturally pursue "assholes," "douchebags," etc. to one's detriment
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« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2013, 03:07:52 AM »

 Grin Grin Grin

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« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2013, 03:08:17 AM »

Case studies (via "okcupid")
http://niceguysofokc.tumblr.com/











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« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2013, 03:09:51 AM »

Grin

syntax gunning for kahn's heavyweight title

we may see a dos santos v. cain II scenario playing out soon, methinks
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« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2013, 03:12:23 AM »

but a serious question...

is it possible for narcissists to be "nice guys"?
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« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2013, 03:16:42 AM »

but a serious question...

is it possible for narcissists to be "nice guys"?

"Nice guys" in the technical sense just delimited, or actual nice guys?
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« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2013, 03:18:38 AM »

"Nice guys" in the technical sense just delimited, or actual nice guys?

actual nice guys
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« Reply #8 on: January 02, 2013, 03:23:42 AM »

actual nice guys

Maybe, if they can satisfy their narcissistic needs while still being a nice guy (e.g., by being nice they garner all the attention they need). I'd imagine that once being nice is no longer coextensive with narcissistic fulfillment, the wheels would start coming off and they'd turn into assholes straight quick.
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« Reply #9 on: January 02, 2013, 03:26:08 AM »

Maybe, if they can satisfy their narcissistic needs while still being a nice guy (e.g., by being nice they garner all the attention they need). I'd imagine that once being nice is no longer coextensive with narcissistic fulfillment, the wheels would start coming off and they'd turn into assholes straight quick.
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« Reply #10 on: January 02, 2013, 03:31:16 AM »



A book some of our case studies could utilize, perhaps?











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« Reply #11 on: January 02, 2013, 03:47:49 AM »

"Crouching Nice Guy, Hidden Perv"?
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« Reply #13 on: January 02, 2013, 04:32:22 AM »

syntaxmachine, so far you are living up to my expectations of you in 2013!
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« Reply #14 on: January 02, 2013, 04:35:59 AM »

WOOO is not a nice guy...

softy with my pets and family...

professional at work

asshole otherwise
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« Reply #15 on: January 02, 2013, 04:41:47 AM »

 Grin
Look who the author is....
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« Reply #16 on: January 02, 2013, 08:31:33 AM »

 There's a difference between being a nice guy and being a feeble-minded skirt-chasing ladies' man. You can and should be courteous and respectful to courteous and respectful people, but you don't have to be a milquetoast.
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« Reply #17 on: January 02, 2013, 08:37:08 AM »

Guess i'll have to admit that i'm guilty of (D)
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« Reply #18 on: January 02, 2013, 08:37:30 AM »

I feel sorry for these poor fellas. I really do. You shouldn't have to be an asshole but you'll get trampled if you don't.
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« Reply #19 on: January 02, 2013, 08:44:44 AM »

These poor saps. The unfortunate truth is you can't treat women nice if you want to bang them. The more you treat them like crap the more they want you. Makes no sense but what woman does make sense. Now when they start aging that's when they'll settle for the nice guys. It took me sometime to learn this lesson
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« Reply #20 on: January 02, 2013, 08:58:48 AM »

These poor saps. The unfortunate truth is you can't treat women nice if you want to bang them. The more you treat them like crap the more they want you. Makes no sense but what woman does make sense. Now when they start aging that's when they'll settle for the nice guys. It took me sometime to learn this lesson

Words of wisdom right there.

I've also learned that if you're 'nice' they will destroy you.

But some women are 'players' too, their aim is just mindfuck guys and lead them on for their sadistic narcissistic purposes which do not include sex....They like to be surrounded by a bunch of male sycophants to help them feel like an Alpha-Female and deal with their Neurotic needs for constantly being the centre of attention and getting their own way.
They crave a constant power-trip over men.
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« Reply #21 on: January 02, 2013, 09:01:26 AM »

These poor saps. The unfortunate truth is you can't treat women nice if you want to bang them. The more you treat them like crap the more they want you. Makes no sense but what woman does make sense. Now when they start aging that's when they'll settle for the nice guys. It took me sometime to learn this lesson
there is a midground. Always treat people the way you want to be treated. Women say they like confidence and firmness, and men like that in a woman as well. If said person gets buck, then they set the tone, you let them know what the deal is. You can take it or leave it. And you can be kind, but firm.

The fact is, these dudes think that bending over for a chick is gonna get them anywhere. And it's not, so they gotta change their game plan. Don't hate on the man who gets the job done. Nor hate the chick either. Adjust.
And there are many women who date nice guys and or "safe guys", just for the fact that these men won't leave them
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« Reply #22 on: January 02, 2013, 09:05:13 AM »

Words of wisdom right there.

I've also learned that if you're 'nice' they will destroy you.

But some women are 'players' too, their aim is just mindfuck guys and lead them on for their sadistic narcissistic purposes which do not include sex....They like to be surrounded by a bunch of male sycophants to help them feel like an Alpha-Female and deal with their Neurotic needs for constantly being the centre of attention and getting their own way.
They crave a constant power-trip over men.

Boom! These pathetic fucks always play into that worshipping a bitch drama.  I would never, ever do that. I go the other way. My hyper-ego and pride won't allow me to do this. All men need to reevaluate their behaviors towards broads.
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« Reply #23 on: January 02, 2013, 12:45:39 PM »

Boom! These pathetic fucks always play into that worshipping a bitch drama.  I would never, ever do that. I go the other way. My hyper-ego and pride won't allow me to do this. All men need to reevaluate their behaviors towards broads.

This is my attitude.  Always know in the back of your mind you can live without them.  This will give you power and trust me, women will sense it and try harder.  Most importsntly, keep your dignity at all cost.  Dont grovel or beg for any reason.  In all likelihood your dignity and pride will be all you'll be left with when everything is said and done, so never lose it.
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« Reply #24 on: January 02, 2013, 12:51:38 PM »

if said woman is one you could "fall in love" with, then just be yourself

and if she don't like "the real you" then move on and find someone who does


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