Dealing with depression

[Quickerblade]

Maybe you should have prayed for her to become motivated and efficient, would have saved you sacking her.  Or does prayer only work on certain things.

I should of, but i had the wrong mindset then.
Prayer works for everything with me.

[Dago_Joe]

how long ago did this happen Dago?

i'm going through the same thing right now, and the worst part is the only one u can blame is yourself which is utter torture.

It all ended at the end of June.  I was so fucking out of my mind with the drugs and everything going on.  I ended up not just losing her, but nearly my life in the process.  It is the worst feeling to blame yourself for it all.  It is so hard to point to someone you truly love and say that they wronged you and that they were also to blame for what went wrong.  It is easier in a sick way to just torture yourself.  I struggle so much with it to this day, but I am getting better and my faith has been a huge part of that improvement.  I feel for you man because I know firsthand the pain that goes with it.  I am trying to focus on a more positive future rather than blame for the past.

[Natural Man]

It all ended at the end of June.  I was so fucking out of my mind with the drugs and everything going on.  I ended up not just losing her, but nearly my life in the process.  It is the worst feeling to blame yourself for it all.  It is so hard to point to someone you truly love and say that they wronged you and that they were also to blame for what went wrong.  It is easier in a sick way to just torture yourself.  I struggle so much with it to this day, but I am getting better and my faith has been a huge part of that improvement.  I feel for you man because I know firsthand the pain that goes with it.  I am trying to focus on a more positive future rather than blame for the past.

we all make mistakes, but some more than others, bigger ones than others; we cant always correct them, so we have to move on even with huge regrets that slowly kill us for the rest of our lives. So the best is to avoid big regrets and big mistakes; it requires great support and great choices.

[SF1900]

I was in the lowest point in my life and was contemplating suicide daily.  I was already slowly dying and didn't know it (results of injury and surgery....longer story  .  I was fully depressed, angry, bitter and fearful.  I was irrational and unloving and ready to be done with it all.  The bleakest moments would come and go, but the darkness enveloped me when alone at night.....it was a tangible presence of oppression outside of myself I didn't choose but had a stronghold on me. 

Finally in desperation I surrendered to the Lord and his glory and presence enveloped me and filled me and chased away the oppression and illogical dread.  I didn't will away the oppression.....I was delivered from it!!  All I did was call upon on the Lord in humility, in faith and in surrender and his powerful presence caused the darkness to flee!! 

From that point forward I was changed and I now live for the Lord and encourage others to do the same.

Gee, can't you discuss anything else BUT religion? Is your brain and mind that small that you cannot think or talk about anything else?

I feel really sorry for you. 

[Natural Man]

Gee, can't you discuss anything else BUT religion? Is your brain and mind that small that you cannot think or talk about anything else?

I feel really sorry for you. 

Religion, or let's say, SPIRITUALITY is a major matter... as we said it in another thread, we re all animals struggling to insure our survival, but the way we survive , the way we dominate, submit, cooperate or flee is underlined by our deep beliefs and values = one's spiritual beliefs. For some reasons tho going into this get some people very angry. Funny, i wonder why 

[Radical Plato]

Religion, or let's say, SPIRITUALITY is a major matter... as we said it in another thread, we re all animals struggling to insure our survival, but the way we survive , the way we dominate, submit, cooperate or flee is underlined by our deep beliefs and values = one's spiritual beliefs. For some reasons tho going into this get some people very angry. Funny, i wonder why 

What a load of shit!  Spirituality is IRRELEVANT, it is superfluous to the human condition and if anything is nothing more than an impediment.  Just look at the animal kingdom, it gets along just fine without any supernatural beliefs.  A human being could live there whole life and never hear of scripture or god or jesus and wouldn''t be affected, they would be none the wiser. Religion is simply a crutch for the weak.  PERIOD !

[Natural Man]

What a load of shit!  Spirituality is IRRELEVANT, it is superfluous to the human condition and if anything is nothing more than an impediment.  Just look at the animal kingdom, it gets along just fine without any supernatural beliefs.  A human being could live there whole life and never hear of scripture or god or jesus and wouldn''t be affected, they would be none the wiser. Religion is simply a crutch for the weak.  PERIOD !

So you re strong cause you re a die hard atheist, and all weak believers are your enemies right? 

[The True Adonis]

Religion and Spirituality is made for morons by morons. 

[galeniko]

Religion and Spirituality is made for morons by morons. 

i thinks its made by smart ppl for dumb ppl

[Alex23]

This thread is going nowhere.

Depression is just a consequence of societal stacking and "organization". Nothing to do with "biological" or "genetic" failure. Wolfox, get help chief, you don't need to suffer. Our Western society was smart enough to figure out how to re-balance you chemically and there' nothing wrong with it.

GodSpeed chief. Hope you fell better. Lay off the "juice".

[BigRo]

What a load of shit!  Spirituality is IRRELEVANT, it is superfluous to the human condition and if anything is nothing more than an impediment.  Just look at the animal kingdom, it gets along just fine without any supernatural beliefs.  A human being could live there whole life and never hear of scripture or god or jesus and wouldn''t be affected, they would be none the wiser. Religion is simply a crutch for the weak.  PERIOD !

Period, your having your period if you think spirituality only means scriptures, god, jesus and belief in the supernatural. There is nothing more humanizing and beneficial to the world than authentic spirituality that yokes ones errant and divided body/mind in to unity and harmony with cosmos, nature and fellow man.

[Radical Plato]

So you re strong cause you re a die hard atheist, and all weak believers are your enemies right?  

Being an atheist has nothing to do with it, I don't even identify with atheism.  I lean more towards agnosticism.  But yes, I am stronger than those who don't have the constitution to deal with life and it's harsh realities without believing in fantasy and the power of wishful thinking.  God botherers are like mommys boys, incapable of letting go of their mothers apron strings.  

I do not consider believers my enemies, but I certainly wouldn't spend a great deal of time with them.  Mainly because they are closed minded and incapable of thinking independently and critically about reality, conversations with them are comparable to having healthy teeth pulled out of your mouth with pliers.  

I also consider the way they indoctrinate their children as akin to child abuse and it is not pretty to watch.  One of my brothers married a Religious zealot who has indoctrinated their children.  It was too painful to watch, I no longer associate with him or his crazy religious nut of a wife.  Having some religious Nutter constantly trying to convert other people to stupidity is too much to tolerate.

[Dago_Joe]

It's not torture, just man up and deal with it.  And dago is full of shit .  He is simply pissed off because he acted like a cun+ and lost someone he cared about, he is upset that he feels punished for this.  He doesn't seek forgiveness, he simply wants to not hurt anymore because of him acting like a twat, but if he pushed others way with his anger and hostility, he deserves what he gets.  Dago, now that he has found the light sounds more tormented than ever.

Forgiveness, simply described it's letting go of wanting revenge on the other (it has nothing to do with God).  So if you are seeking forgiveness from someone else you have to redeem yourself, if they still don't let go of their resentment towards you there isn't much you can do.  Life isn't perfect, and it is more about learning to live with complex emotions than it is being restored to a balanced equilibrium.

Oh wow dude, where does all this hatred and bitterness come from?  So according to you if I apologize for what i did and try to fix things, I am only doing it to make myself feel better?  Hey buddy, do me a favor:  speak for yourself all you want, but don't ever put words in my mouth.  How the fuck do you know if I am repentant or not?  I seek forgiveness for the reason that any good person would:  because i truly am sorry i hurt her in any way and will do anything to make things better or right again.  How in the fuck do you think that is selfish?  I am believing you are trolling now.   I said I was tortured by the guilt over my part in the breakup and was trying to get over it.  Does that make me a scumbag twat like you said too?  What exactly is a "good and normal" person to you?  It seems like all you see in the world is darkness.  You said you embrace darkness or something to that effect. I have never in my life met someone who is so hateful.  Do you love anyone at all or are all humans just empty hollow automatons to you?  I am trying hard to see your point other than attacking anything spiritual or positive.  I will do what you ask EKul:  I won't pray for you.  Im not a missionary or preacher, I'm trying to get my life on track again and don't have the energy now for you. Maybe someday soon I will be ready like man of steel is to take the message of hope to others. but today is not that day.  All the things you said about me being full of shit and a c*nt, whatever dude have a great life.  I am really glad I posted what I did because man of steel pm'd me and he helped me a lot, he's a really inspirational and  good dude.   Do you think you inspire anything at all positive in people you interact with E-kul?  I dont hate you, i dont pity you, i wont pray for you, and basically is just wont do anything for you because you said you dont need or want any help.  Good luck with your life, man.

[Radical Plato]

Oh wow dude, where does all this hatred and bitterness come from?  So according to you if I apologize for what i did and try to fix things, I am only doing it to make myself feel better?  Hey buddy, do me a favor:  speak for yourself all you want, but don't ever put words in my mouth.  How the fuck do you know if I am repentant or not?  I seek forgiveness for the reason that any good person would:  because i truly am sorry i hurt her in any way and will do anything to make things better or right again.  How in the fuck do you think that is selfish?  I am believing you are trolling now.   I said I was tortured by the guilt over my part in the breakup and was trying to get over it.  Does that make me a scumbag twat like you said too?  What exactly is a "good and normal" person to you?  It seems like all you see in the world is darkness.  You said you embrace darkness or something to that effect. I have never in my life met someone who is so hateful.  Do you love anyone at all or are all humans just empty hollow automatons to you?  I am trying hard to see your point other than attacking anything spiritual or positive.  I will do what you ask EKul:  I won't pray for you.  Im not a missionary or preacher, I'm trying to get my life on track again and don't have the energy now for you. Maybe someday soon I will be ready like man of steel is to take the message of hope to others. but today is not that day.  All the things you said about me being full of shit and a c*nt, whatever dude have a great life.  I am really glad I posted what I did because man of steel pm'd me and he helped me a lot, he's a really inspirational and  good dude.   Do you think you inspire anything at all positive in people you interact with E-kul?  I dont hate you, i dont pity you, i wont pray for you, and basically is just wont do anything for you because you said you dont need or want any help.  Good luck with your life, man.

Touch a nerve did I.  For a getbigger you are quite sensitive. 

[James28]

i thinks its made by smart ppl for dumb ppl

This.

I wish I can convince myself to believe in shite like that but unfortunately I ask 'Why' while other people just accept the line without question.

Man of Steel think 'God' came over him. In reality the hormonal balance in his body corrected itself and he felt at peace. Apparently 'God' did it.

[Radical Plato]

This.

I wish I can convince myself to believe in shite like that but unfortunately I ask 'Why' while other people just accept the line without question.

Man of Steel think 'God' came over him. In reality the hormonal balance in his body corrected itself and he felt at peace. Apparently 'God' did it.

Maybe GOD did cum over him !    But seriously, I think god botherers just have trouble living with uncertainty and not knowing, it causes them to much anxiety and misery, so they opt for a nice fairy tale. You ever notice how all their religious beliefs, like heaven and vicarious redemption happen to coincide with what they wish to be true what seems like the best option.  I mean wouldn't it be lovely if prayers really were answered and that all we needed to enter an eternal paradise was to suspend rational and critical thinking and put our faith in a wrathful deity.  

Anyway, it is time for my daily prayer, today I am praying that religious zealots realise that prayer doesn't work and has no more power than wishful thinking.

[Dago_Joe]

Maybe GOD did cum over him !    But seriously, I think god botherers just have trouble living with uncertainty and not knowing, it causes them to much anxiety and misery, so they opt for a nice fairy tale. You ever notice how all their religious beliefs, like heaven and vicarious redemption happen to coincide with what they wish to be true what seems like the best option.  I mean wouldn't it be lovely if prayers really were answered and that all we needed to enter an eternal paradise was to suspend rational and critical thinking and put our faith in a wrathful deity.  

Anyway, it is time for my daily prayer, today I am praying that religious zealots realise that prayer doesn't work and has no more power than wishful thinking.

See now I know you are just trolling.  For someone who has such a huge problem with zealots, you are pretty zealous with your trolling.  I just find it odd the amount of effort you put into your trolling.  Were you a Roman Catholic as a child?  Did something bad happen to you?  That would make sense for you to hate religion so much, but if you legit just hate people who are trying to live good honest lives with God in it, well I don't know what to say to you other than goodbye and good luck with all that.  You win troll of the year award.

[funk51]

 

[funk51]

but seriously maybe you should get a pet like a dog or cat. caring and thinking about something or someone else besides yourself could be beneficial. whenever i'm feeling depressed i go see my dog who usually changes my mood almost instantly. sometimes it's fear.....

[The Onion]

Not trying to be funny but try giving up porn. Porn, as other addictions, can mess up your dopamine system and give you feelings of depression, social anxiety, "mind fog" and other bad side effects...

"I'm one of those guys. The amazing part is that a year before I tried giving up porn, I even went to see psychiatrists and psychologists who diagnosed me with severe social anxiety disorder and depression, and wanted to put me on antidepressants, which I never agreed to.

When I went on my first no-porn/masturbation streak (~80 days) I started noticing the benefits reported by others. Today, on my 109th day of a streak, I feel happy, confident, social, smart, capable of meeting any challenge, etc., etc."

"I have experienced some awesome benefits. First off, I finally have energy again! I haven't felt this good since high school. It's not like I'm Hulk or anything, but I finally have extra energy to DO stuff. I spent most of my early 20's in a state of low energy and mild depression. Now that I've stopped [masturbating to porn] twice a day, I've been exercising, being more social, and generally enjoying life."

[Mr Nobody]

How about if we don't give a damn.

[Dr Dutch]

From the "Ask Dr Dutch" section: for a major depression rely on Electro Convulsion Therapy, followed by a TCA of venlafaxine (plus a bupropion addition).

Says Dr Dutch

[BigRo]

Not trying to be funny but try giving up porn. Porn, as other addictions, can mess up your dopamine system and give you feelings of depression, social anxiety, "mind fog" and other bad side effects...

"I'm one of those guys. The amazing part is that a year before I tried giving up porn, I even went to see psychiatrists and psychologists who diagnosed me with severe social anxiety disorder and depression, and wanted to put me on antidepressants, which I never agreed to.

When I went on my first no-porn/masturbation streak (~80 days) I started noticing the benefits reported by others. Today, on my 109th day of a streak, I feel happy, confident, social, smart, capable of meeting any challenge, etc., etc."

"I have experienced some awesome benefits. First off, I finally have energy again! I haven't felt this good since high school. It's not like I'm Hulk or anything, but I finally have extra energy to DO stuff. I spent most of my early 20's in a state of low energy and mild depression. Now that I've stopped [masturbating to porn] twice a day, I've been exercising, being more social, and generally enjoying life."

You have been continent for 109 days or do you have a woman/sexual outlet?

[The Onion]

You have been continent for 109 days or do you have a woman/sexual outlet?

There are two quotes, none from me.

I am practicing sexual abstinence though, or at least trying to, and I've given up on porn several months ago. I can attest to a lot of positive changes since I started this endeavour. Concentration and patience is way better today. One big reason as to why I'm doing this is that I feel more laidback at work, before I was pissed off all the time.

Withdrawals (yes, they're real...) were awful though. Felt like crap and wanted to sleep all day.

This may seem very silly when reading about it but a lot of people are experience the same things as I've mentioned previously - and more and more scientific studies are being performed on the subject. We haven't had high speed internet porn and tabbed browsing for too many years so we're not that aware of the risks...

[anabolichalo]

injecting steroids and building muscles brings joy to anotherwise miserable existance