Being fat has nothing to do with poor metabolism. In fact the fatter you are the faster your metabolism.
Put an obese person on a strict calorie controlled diet and they lose weight at a crazy speed.
Seemed to, yes. When I was 320lbs I dieted on 3k a day in the beginning (10cal per lb/bw, strict old school chicken/oatmeal/egg whites style BB diet) and I lost weoght pretty fast, to the tune of 15-20lhs a month until I got to around 275. Then it slowed down a bit. But it seemed I could eat ridiculous amounts of food at that BW and not gain. I was 320 for probably 2-3 years at 6'3" and I consumed huge amounts of shit food, pizza, burgers, tons of sugared pepsi and coke .
It was all I knew, thats how id eaten my whole life. My parents were in ok shape, but by the time they realized whay had happened and tried to steer me back on course it was already a lifestyle. I couldnt change until I was an adult and until I had just gotten sick of being fat.
In my head, I wasnt fat. I was an in shape person stuck in a fat persons body, and it was horrible. So I constantly strove to reach the image in my head of an average, healthy adult.
One guy I used to work with is just as big if not bigger than I ever was, and hes doesnt give a shit. Hes on disability now, he feels thay the world owes him shit, hes resentful he cant get laid or find a decent chick, but hes not willing to do what it takes to lost weight. He doesn't give a shit enough to inconvenience himself, yet he blames everyone else for being shallow and jugemental because he cant perform the basic functions needed to maintain a job.
Its like the fat acceptance movement, theu want everyone to how theu think because they want to be viewed as beautiful. .. but instead of actually putting in the time and accepting that THEY need to make a change, they want the world to make a change around them. Everything is about ways for them to do less or get more. Massive entitlement complex. "I should be able to eat whatever I want and look however I want but you should still find me attractive dammit!"
Its a pretty common attitude amongst the obese and it has a lot to do wth the type of mentality that allows a person to become morbidly obese in the 1st place.
Its like drug addiction in a lot of ways, I truly believe the 2 are tied together on some level(having experienced them both).
Also, like addicts... many obese people simply do not want help. They may like the idea of losing weight, they may tell you they just need help to get started... but the reality is many are hopeless. They're so addicted to their lifestyle that deep down, they don't want your help and they don't want to make a change, and no amount of caring or compassion is going to change shit. Theyll just lie and make excuses.