Of course. If I knew then what I know now I absolutely would have have, if my choices would still guarantee the existence of my child.
Ingraining the whole "you must suffer" through a relationship mentality is the biggest crock of shit ever. It's thrust on you by the same idiots that believe in circumcisions and political freedom. Life should not be about suffering, yet that is what we are told our whole lives we must do. ....what? Dealing with rocky relationships is supposed to be one of them.
"You have to work on it, even if it's your whole life. Just because you aren't happy doesn't mean you should leave."
Uhh, yes it does you bleeding idiot. Take your archaic mantra to the grave with you please.
Well, for many life is suffering. Suffering thru the bullshit. For bodybuilders suffering thru the disciplined diet and regimented workout. For those who do athletics or martial arts, there is a form of suffering. But, I wasn't talking about that.
If you have to constantly "work on your marriage" then there might be some issues there. Just as if you ignored certain things about your marriage---domestic violence, manipulation, bad attitudes, weight gain, money issues, etc. One could be married for 50 yrs and it can be a miserable marriage, and one could be married for that long and ignore things that one should not ignore.
You are responsible for your own happiness. If you count on someone to MAKE you happy, count on them to make you unhappy.
Do, you how many people all of sudden are "unhappy"? And when I mean, unhappy, I pretty much mean the selfish kind, where it really is when a person just wants out so that they can do whatever they please, regardless of who they hurt---basically neglecting their obligations.
Think of it like this, Flex Wheeler would cheat on his diet, and grab a meal that would make him "happy", this happiness was short lived, and the fact that he deviated from his set course meant he often lost out. One time he blamed Ninjas, another time he lost the Mr. O.
But, as I had stated the people have changed. People today are more selfish, which they learned from the baby boomer generation. Marriage in itself has stayed the same. It's people approach to it and the consequences that have changed up.