dont give up that easily. You just need moderation. having sex at your house is totally a bad idea. But a quick maintenance hummer on the way to your "real" date, 2-3 times a week isn't a bad idea at all. Find you a fatty on the way downtown. Set up a few nights a week where you arrive, do a shot with her, have 8.5 minutes of fun, and hit the road on the way to your actual destination for the evening. She'll get off on the "super bot bodybuilder guy quickie" and you'll have the steam out of your sails so you're not wound up.