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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #50 on: August 28, 2014, 03:32:29 PM »
Maybe someone could get Titus a smartphone and have him make a thread on how to treat women too.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #51 on: August 28, 2014, 03:38:46 PM »
Background - I'm a 55 yr old former bodybuilding douchebag and been married 4x ( 3 divorces).
I'm currently happily married to wife #4 and learned some things the hard way LOL.
I teach physics   and live in North Georgia.

Marriage

1.Partnership - Marriage is all about building a life with a loving PARTNER at your side. Both people need to work and have a stable career.
 A man doesn't need to dominate and control his wife. He herds her along with gentle persuasion and by his own example.
BOTH people need to work and bring something to the table. It's the only way to be true partners and maintain mutual respect and dignity.

2. Age - Don't even think about getting married in your 20's.
a) age 35 is the minimum age anyone who doesn't really want kids to get married. 40 is even better, especially for men.
b) age 30 for a woman who wants to have kids with a mature man ( at least 30) who really wants to be a dad.
That's young enough to have a healthy , safe birth , BUT be mature enough to deal with the demands of parenthood.


3. Personal choice - Do NOT let religious doctrine or tradition rule your decisions when it comes to marriage.
a) I have a basic spiritual belief in GOD, but, I wouldn't let some Priest, Rabi or Pastor tell you, how you should live when married.
What's good for organized religion may NOT be in a married couple's personal interest.
For example, the catholic church is still against most forms of birth control , even for married couples. WTF!

b) Breaking marital  traditions just to be different or obnoxious is dumb. For example, I thought that goofy choreographed dance , down the aisle video, was stupid and self serving to get attention.  Blindly following tradition when it doesn't feel right is even worse then some goofy dance. For example, don't live beside parents or in-laws because "that's just what you do", could be marital disaster.

4. Having children - I never had kids and considered them to be a major source of work, money and stress . But that's me and many others feel blessed and rewarded by having children.

a. Too many people have kids by "accident". The man shoots his load into his girl , oops , and 9 months later a baby. That's careless and unfair to everyone involved. I used "withdrawal" to prevent unwanted pregnancy. I know what the naysayers think about withdrawal, but it's near impossible to get a girl pregnant IF you pull out 8-10 sec BEFORE ejaculation. Of course this assume the man can control his dick from shooting at will LOL. Being able to exhibit some basic dick control will make any man a much better lover.

b. Many couples  get even closer when they PLAN the pregnancy and birth, etc. If a woman is with a man that isn't into being a dad, find another one to impregnate her or she should raise it on her own. If a woman tries to pressure or manipulate a man into getting her pregnant...RUN!

c. From what I've observed kids can be real marriage killers . The couple needs to work as a loving team to raise the kids. I've also heard it can be the both the most demanding and rewarding task anyone could take on. Having kids isn't a lukewarm deal, you will either love it or hate it for many years. Listen to your heart and if you have any doubts about having children...DON'T.

d. The terms "baby mama and baby daddy" make me cringe. This " whatever" attitude about pregnancy and parenting is dumb.
If you want kids, great, work together to raise the kids. If you don't want to be a parent, avoid getting a woman pregnant.
Humans are NOT animals,so use some self control and birth control.

5. Fidelity - If you want to screw around, don

't get married. Just stay single or get divorced.
Don't give that , "it was an accident or mistake" crap when it comes to screwing around on your spouse.
An accident is slipping and falling. Unless you slipped and fell into her vavjaja, it was no mistake.

6. LIFE - My most cherished moments with my wife is when we just relax in bed watching some goofy show or movie , together.
Real life has many tedious times, for EVERYONE. Life and marriage isn't meant to be a amusement park. The key is to enjoy the basic stuff as much as the sex and fun times.
next up - SEX

Your advice is biased based on your personal experience. My children, their spouses, my wife and I all married very young. 50, 26 & 20 years later respectively, we are all still happily married. This is my experience.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #52 on: August 28, 2014, 03:40:10 PM »
Your advice is biased based on your personal experience. My children, their spouses, my wife and I all married very young. 50, 26 & 20 years later respectively, we are all still happily married. This is my experience.
Wait for it.......

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #53 on: August 28, 2014, 03:45:03 PM »
Your advice is biased based on your personal experience. My children, their spouses, my wife and I all married very young. 50, 26 & 20 years later respectively, we are all still happily married. This is my experience.
pretty amazing

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #54 on: August 28, 2014, 03:46:49 PM »
Your advice is biased based on your personal experience. My children, their spouses, my wife and I all married very young. 50, 26 & 20 years later respectively, we are all still happily married. This is my experience.



You are an old fart who's fucked one woman all life. It's understandable your "experience" must be positive (even if negative) as you'd go insane otherwise, after realising you've missed so much wet pussies.

Giving advice on relathionships after being 100 years with one person is like giving advices on cars after driving one Toyota camry for 40 years  ::)

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« Reply #55 on: August 28, 2014, 03:49:43 PM »


You are an old fart who's fucked one woman all life. It's understandable your "experience" must be positive (even if negative) as you'd go insane otherwise, after realising you've missed so much wet pussies.

Giving advice on relathionships after being 100 years with one person is like giving advices on cars after driving one Toyota camry for 40 years  ::)
I just wanted to see the gif pal.

No need for the juvenile insults.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #56 on: August 28, 2014, 03:51:51 PM »
I just wanted to see the gif pal.

No need for the juvenile insults.

Lol..

These who say that Howard is a wrong person to take advice on a marriage - that's completely wrong. Dude obviously is IN LOVE with marriage itself - he's marrying, and marrying, and marrying, like a mad man and there's no force to stop him from another marriage if this one would fail once again. Do you know many people who have such a strong belief in marriage??

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« Reply #57 on: August 28, 2014, 04:08:36 PM »
Lol..

These who say that Howard is a wrong person to take advice on a marriage - that's completely wrong. Dude obviously is IN LOVE with marriage itself - he's marrying, and marrying, and marrying, like a mad man and there's no force to stop him from another marriage if this one would fail once again. Do you know many people who have such a strong belief in marriage??

He is failing like a madman. Marriage is for life. Till death do us part. If your marriage fails you have no business finding another partner.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #58 on: August 28, 2014, 04:11:20 PM »


You are an old fart who's fucked one woman all life. It's understandable your "experience" must be positive (even if negative) as you'd go insane otherwise, after realising you've missed so much wet pussies.

Giving advice on relathionships after being 100 years with one person is like giving advices on cars after driving one Toyota camry for 40 years  ::)

For fuck's sake. Relationships can hardly be equated to cars. The beauty of a marriage relationship is in its perdurability.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #59 on: August 28, 2014, 04:19:39 PM »
any tips for a 55 year old highly educated self employed divorced man with basically no social life on where to meet decent women?

dating sites seem to attract scambag gold diggers with nothing to offer

too old for clubbing

this is really a big issue

i cant find an answer to it


any idea howard?

Try sugar daddy website senor Leopold  :)
Chesterfield decorated & cohiba puffers clubs for older gents actually have the best looking ladies ........
Club de Madrid is 1 for the best social connections ( ;)), U should join this $$$ club  ;D

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #60 on: August 28, 2014, 04:23:05 PM »
My lust for women has died off almost completely..  :-\

Am I in male menopause now at thirty?

No worries - now is the time to shine.
Leather slippers, reading newspapers, feeding birds - the whole nine yards.
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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #61 on: August 28, 2014, 04:23:14 PM »
He is failing like a madman. Marriage is for life. Till death do us part. If your marriage fails you have no business finding another partner.

Quitters never win.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #62 on: August 28, 2014, 04:28:29 PM »
Quitters never win.

Exactly. That is why divorce is anathema to the noble gentleman.

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« Reply #63 on: August 28, 2014, 04:43:53 PM »
Exactly. That is why divorce is anathema to the noble gentleman.
As you can witness - dude is in a happy marriage. These who said it must be "for life", well.. let's say that humans are known for wishful thinking.  ::)

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #64 on: August 28, 2014, 10:52:08 PM »


You are an old fart who's fucked one woman all life. It's understandable your "experience" must be positive (even if negative) as you'd go insane otherwise, after realising you've missed so much wet pussies.

Giving advice on relathionships after being 100 years with one person is like giving advices on cars after driving one Toyota camry for 40 years  ::)

Were in my post did I offer advice?

Relationships are more involved than just sex.

If  my choices drove me insane, I am not aware of it. All is good.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #65 on: August 28, 2014, 11:23:01 PM »
My advice to others is to do what feels right to you in your heart and mind. What I have witnessed over my lifetime is that sometimes relationships are successful in the long term and other times they are not.

Most of my friends and some of my extended family have been or are currently divorced. My mom and dad separated when I was 4 years old. My mom and stepdad stayed together for over 30 years until my step dad died. Their relationship was tumultuous and seemingly extremely disfunctional.

What i have learned about relationships from my and other's experiences is that it is not easy to figure out what makes a relationship work or not. Therefore any advice offered should be taken lightly.

Howard is looking at a narrow window of relationship experience. Without doubt, he honestly believes in the advice he offered which was to wait until you are more mature before marrying. I wish him success in his present relationship.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #66 on: August 29, 2014, 01:23:14 AM »
My advice to others is to do what feels right to you in your heart and mind. What I have witnessed over my lifetime is that sometimes relationships are successful in the long term and other times they are not.

Most of my friends and some of my extended family have been or are currently divorced. My mom and dad separated when I was 4 years old. My mom and stepdad stayed together for over 30 years until my step dad died. Their relationship was tumultuous and seemingly extremely disfunctional.

What i have learned about relationships from my and other's experiences is that it is not easy to figure out what makes a relationship work or not. Therefore any advice offered should be taken lightly.

Howard is looking at a narrow window of relationship experience. Without doubt, he honestly believes in the advice he offered which was to wait until you are more mature before marrying. I wish him success in his present relationship.
I agree with you Prime. Everyone is different and one must do what's right for them.

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« Reply #67 on: August 29, 2014, 01:33:52 AM »
I agree with you Prime. Everyone is different and one must do what's right for them oneself.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #69 on: August 29, 2014, 05:30:04 AM »
You're giving marriage and relationship advice? It's like taking mental health advice from a schizophrenic homeless man living in a cardboard box. Yes, you're preaching is advice by standing on a soap box espousing your rhetoric on how one should be in a relationship with a woman. We heard the same kind of nonsense with your other wife.

I do wish you well. I hope this is the last time and wish you nothing but the best. I hope she knows what she got herself into.


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« Reply #70 on: August 29, 2014, 05:38:49 AM »
Your advice is biased based on your personal experience. My children, their spouses, my wife and I all married very young. 50, 26 & 20 years later respectively, we are all still happily married. This is my experience.

C'mon now, this is a forum and my advice is going to be based on my life experience.
I have no doubt you and many others have had different experiences and will have a different opinion.

FYI, my own maternal grandparents were married for 74 yrs. They seemed happy.

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« Reply #71 on: August 29, 2014, 05:42:44 AM »
Lol..

These who say that Howard is a wrong person to take advice on a marriage - that's completely wrong. Dude obviously is IN LOVE with marriage itself - he's marrying, and marrying, and marrying, like a mad man and there's no force to stop him from another marriage if this one would fail once again. Do you know many people who have such a strong belief in marriage??

Thanks, but I don't dismiss other's opinions and experiences that differ from mine on this issue.
My main issue is to do things on your own terms.
Too many people end up getting married, and having kids, because " it's just what you do."

I suspect ,too many people end of living lives of quiet desperation.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #72 on: August 29, 2014, 05:59:24 AM »
The whole general-belief-in-god thing is so ridiculous.

It seems only those who have lost all this brainwashing horseshit can truly see the utter nonsense in such a thing.

As the years pass further from the point when I began to emerge from my own brainwashed younger years, I see the concept of "god", etc. as being just beyond idiotic and juvenile.

And it's not that I DON'T think there is possibility to the idea that we were created by something. However, even if this is true, why do we have to label this other entity a god? We create things and we don't refer to ourselves as gods. Just because what we've created isn't as sophisticated as, well, us, doesn't mean anything. We're simply not yet at that level of intelligent evolution.

It pains me that this species is so damn pathetic and juvenile.

P.S. I don't want to get married and certainly don't want children. To bring someone whom I love into this violent and goofy world to suffer all its indignities and stresses and pain is PURE CRUELTY.

When I'm gone, good riddance. This place sucks ass.

Of course, I do LOVE my music.

Heavy metal!

Fuck the world ~ Hail and Kill!


Your kids may just contribute to making this world better. Imagine if your parents thought the same. All the contribution that you have made to the bodybuilding world, Musclemag, strength world, would have never existed.
This world is violent, yes. As it has ALWAYS been. People today think that they and times that they live in are so special, when in the grand scheme of things, the opposite is true.
We've become a bitter, cynical people. And in general, bitter cynical people don't want to propagate, nor cannot stand one another.

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Re: My views on marriage and relationships
« Reply #73 on: August 29, 2014, 06:02:40 AM »
I am going to have to redline all of Section IV, all subparts. Your views on parenting are not relevant after disclosure of your no-kids status.

People that  don't kids have crack me up when they tell you what it's like having kids

It's like me speaking on what's it's like to be a black man in America  ::)

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« Reply #74 on: August 29, 2014, 06:05:03 AM »
People that  don't kids have crack me up when they tell you what it's like having kids

It's like me speaking on what's it's like to be a black man in America  ::)

Yeah, my sister used to be all full of parental advice for me before she had kids of her own. She and her husband have two now with another on the way and she has completely STFU with parental advice now.  :D