how to get over ex gf being with ofher guys

[flinstones1]

Why does this shit  bother us even if we  wouldn't take the  girl  back for all the money in the world?  every time I think of her with some other dude I get a sharp knife pain  to my stomach. .              But I don't want her  

[BigRo]

doesnt bother me, stop being so egocentric that might help.

[visualizeperfection]

You need to go through a period of quiet reflection.

[flinstones1]

You need to go through a period of quiet reflection.

.       How are you supposed to do that when you know she sure as shit isn't?   

[flinstones1]

doesnt bother me, stop being so egocentric that might help.

.    Egos at an all time low if anything. Not like I dumped her for some better chick and she was in tears...dumped her because I knew I had lost her and she was acting shady.

[visualizeperfection]

.    Egos at an all time low if anything. Not like I dumped her for some better chick and she was in tears...dumped her because I knew I had lost her and she was acting shady.

This is not the correct getbig mentality...

[BigRo]

.    Egos at an all time low if anything. Not like I dumped her for some better chick and she was in tears...dumped her because I knew I had lost her and she was acting shady.

we usually use the word ego to describe cocky overly confident behaviour but I meant it in a broader sense, the pain and sadness you feel when you think of another man ravaging her its coming from a limited sense of self-hood.  Like VP said quite reflection will allow you to let go and become more centred in a wider more unshakable sense of self. Her enjoying herself without a care in the world shouldn't stop you.

[Rascal full]

Why does this shit  bother us even if we  wouldn't take the  girl  back for all the money in the world?  every time I think of her with some other dude I get a sharp knife pain  to my stomach. .              But I don't want her  

I know the feeling and it isn't easy. I found best way to deal with those kind of emotions is through a positive physical outlet which I do boxing and weightlifting. When you are doing that last few sets on the bench picture your worst thoughts and use them for fuel to grind out more and more reps. Burn that negative energy away in a positive way and it will fade. Good luck Flint, I know you will feel better in time.

[Henda]

You say that you wouldn't take her back but the fact it hurts shows you are not over her. She is gone and the 100% best way is to get out and meet other women, at first you will feel bad and be comparing them to your ex, after the first few times you will not give a fuck and you could walk by and see your ex cross the street and be flattened by an articulated lorry and you will simply smile and carry on with your day

[jr]

Because your genes lost a chance to reproduce themselves.

This is how your genetic programming punishes you, by making you feel bad.

The other guy who is having sex with her has potentially more successful genes.

[muscleman-2013]

Why does this shit  bother us even if we  wouldn't take the  girl  back for all the money in the world?  every time I think of her with some other dude I get a sharp knife pain  to my stomach. .              But I don't want her  

You are a victim of your selfish promiscuous actions.

[mesmorph78]

Find yourself another woman

[IronMeister]

[jr]

Get over it by breaking some PB's in the gym.

[booty]

Omg look at Enzo  

[The Onion]

Why does this shit  bother us even if we  wouldn't take the  girl  back for all the money in the world?  every time I think of her with some other dude I get a sharp knife pain  to my stomach. .              But I don't want her  

We "dislike" losing more than winning - in a breakup situation you feel more pain of losing "what was and could have been" than the pleasure you get from your newfound freedom and opportunities.

Also the more you "invest" in a failing relationship the less likely you are to give up on the relationship in question - for the reasons outlined in the paragraph above.

The mind and its beliefs are like a self perpetuating system that can either find a solution (you work things through) or you drive it too hard until it explodes (nasty breakup).

[Simple Simon]

Why does this shit  bother us even if we  wouldn't take the  girl  back for all the money in the world?  every time I think of her with some other dude I get a sharp knife pain  to my stomach. .              But I don't want her  

Its because you have the outlook of a 15 year old.

[FitnessFrenzy]

we usually use the word ego to describe cocky overly confident behaviour but I meant it in a broader sense, the pain and sadness you feel when you think of another man ravaging her its coming from a limited sense of self-hood.  Like VP said quite reflection will allow you to let go and become more centred in a wider more unshakable sense of self. Her enjoying herself without a care in the world shouldn't stop you.

[Kim Jong Bob]

Its get easier bycthe years..my ex started to see a guy at my work just a couple of weeks after we broke up some months ago. I didnt care for 5 cent. 10 years ago i would have beatrn yhe shit out of that guy. But i never had any feelings for my ex and  i started to see a 10 year younger blond little thing almost right after we broke up
 who didnt have given birth to two kids like my ex so that probably helped a bit to =D

[Conker]

Why does this shit  bother us even if we  wouldn't take the  girl  back for all the money in the world?  every time I think of her with some other dude I get a sharp knife pain  to my stomach. .              But I don't want her  

FFS i thought you were supposed to be a top pimp, who was so good at dealing with women you was hiring out your expertise in getting women for others...and now you are here crying over your ex!

man the fuck up ! why are you thinking about her?, cut all contact, delete her from phone/social media etc, pretend she's dead.
problem solved, it's just a matter of metal strength (or weakness)

[Rascal full]

Its because you have the outlook of a 15 year old.

Maybe you are just in a more secure relationship/minset and thus problems like this don't exist to you?

[Simple Simon]

Maybe you are just in a more secure relationship/minset and thus problems like this don't exist to you? an adult.

fixed.

[Rascal full]

fixed.

Adults don't feel emotions? News to me.

[pedro01]

Fucking someone else usually takes the sting out.

[Thin Lizzy]

Find yourself another woman

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You'll be surprised how fast you get over a woman when you realize they're not in short supply.