Another reason not to get married

[Viking11]

I did once and wasted 11 years  .....bOnly got two kids who are so brain washed they dont talk to me, but they are grown, so whatever.  I was broke when we divorced so I didn't lose a house etc.. she treid to get my car but I bought her out... she bought a crap car with the money...   I stayred single for 10 years, but I'm glad I found someone who is failry frigid..lol......... well not a generation nothing slut. I would fuck those girls but never marry one... Oh got w housemm but it was though inheritnce, so I keep it no matter what...  good things come to he who waits..

[anabolichalo]

one of the super main reason baby mama bailed is because i told her explicitally

I WILL NOT MARRY WITHOUT SEPARATION OF PROPERTY, MONEY AND ACCUMULATIONS THEREOF

gave me the typical "you dont trust me" balonie to which i said indeed i do not


i think all in all the current situation is much better than what could have would have happen eventually if there was a dumb fuck marriage

[Viking11]

one of the super main reason baby mama bailed is because i told her explicitally

I WILL NOT MARRY WITHOUT SEPARATION OF PROPERTY, MONEY AND ACCUMULATIONS THEREOF

gave me the typical "you dont trust me" balonie to which i said indeed i do not


i think all in all the current situation is much better than what could have would have happen eventually if there was a dumb fuck marriage

Smartest thing you have ever posted..  Nicely done!

[The_Iron_Disciple]

After these threads on marriage ... well, I don't ever think I'm gettin married. Haha. Seriously !!

[da_vinci]

So....some of you imply (esp. these who married at a young age) that you made a conscious choice, at your OWN will, to......fuck the same one female for the rest of your life, right? 

[da_vinci]

After these threads on marriage ... well, I don't ever think I'm gettin married. Haha. Seriously !!

Marriage is going thorugh a very tough times... something different should be "invented" as time and time again life shows that it usualy does not work. (but probably always has been the best of the worst).

[Natural Man]

After these threads on marriage ... well, I don't ever think I'm gettin married. Haha. Seriously !!

Doesnt mean you cant spend most of your life with one significant woman and have kids with her.

 I spent 8 years with my gf before we decided to have our kid, 4 years ago when we were both 29. We had a civil marriage mostly for her to be able to handle all the administrative stuff easier.

What matters is the authenticity of the relationship, and as i mentioned earlier, that you have strong ties from the getgo being of a similar background.  Too many differences equal too many odds one of them or all of them are going to ruin it all when times get tough.

[no one]

Found out recently through my wife's really chatty best friend a thing or two about my wife's past. Initially when we were dating she told me certain things were things she had never done before and didn't want to try.

Turns out she did them with her exboyfriend. I talked to her about it, she told me she did them back then and enjoyed it. But doesn't want to do them with me. (anal/bdsm/threesome)

And when I asked she didn't really give me any reasoning. She just said she didn't want to.

I can't help but be hurt over this it has damaged my ego and self confidence. She knows I am hurt over this, but hasn't really given me an answer. So I am looking to you guys.

Don't tell me divorce we have been together for 20 years, and she is the mother of my two children. I am not going to leave her over this.

I am not saying that I feel entitled to those acts, but I do feel entitled to an explanation of why.

ok. look at it like this.

maybe she loves/ loved you dude. loved you and honestly didnt want her past to damage any future you guys might have.

i have no doubt thats a part of her life she know longer wanted to re visit, and wanted her relationship with you to be based on 'her' and not what shed do for / with you.

instead of looking at it like her being shady about her past, look at it like her wanting her past to be just that, so she could have a good future with you.

this kind of shit will undermine a relationship. will cause tension and doubt where none needs to exist. id suggest you put yourself in her shoes. you have nothing to be hurt or shamed about. in fact, id look at it in the exact opposite light.

the second piece of advise i will give you is to not take relationship advise from anyone on this board

[Natural Man]

Marriage is going thorugh a very tough times... something different should be "invented" as time and time again life shows that it usualy does not work. (but probably always has been the best of the worst).

We re not designed by nature to have several mates in one life... we re designed to adapt and create a new family once or twice in a lifetime... IF NECESSARY if something bad happen, doesnt mean a long lasting stable strong relationship with one person isnt the best thing to look after. This will always be the deeply embeded ideal we all have, simply because it IS the ideal realtionship evolutionary speaking, that guarantee a couple of humans will raise the strongest offspring.
 It has always and will always be the best compromise, cause actually it 's what 's best to raise a strong confident dominating stable offspring.  Kids coming from dysfunctional families where everyone fight each others and are unable to unite are unbalanced, anxious, hateful and unproductive.
At some point a grown up human adult has to care more about the offspring than his or her self.

[anabolichalo]

i think the best in life is to win the lottory

move to thailand

sleep late every day

bodybuild

sit on the beach sipping on cocktails with some hookers


post on getbig some pictors of you living this dream


forget about relationships

[da_vinci]

We re not designed by nature to have several mates in one life... we re designed to adapt and create a new family once or twice in a lifetime... IF NECESSARY if something bad happen, doesnt mean a long lasting stable strong relationship with one person isnt the best thing to look after. This will always be the deeply embeded ideal we all have, simply because it IS the ideal realtionship evolutionary speaking, that guarantee a couple of humans will raise the strongest offspring.
 It has always and will always be the best compromise, cause actually it 's what 's best to raise a strong confident dominating stable offspring.  Kids coming from dysfunctional families where everyone fight each others and are unable to unite are unbalanced, anxious, hateful and unproductive.
At some point a grown up human adult has to care more about the offspring than his or her self.

If we are animals, we are designed to have as MANY mates as possible (or so it is in absolute majority of animal species). Unless you speak of utopia, when all people find the "right" person from a get go (esp. in a world and daily life that has became as complicated as it is). But just how often does it happen? Or maybe people should stay with an uncompatible partenrs for the sake of it? Or maybe everyone are able to understand well of what they want when they are 20? That does not happen, sorry.
Just because it has always been the "best" option, doesn't mean it will not change. Don't be so sure about "absolute truths" in a constanlty changing universe.

Not to mention that is doesn't make any sense anyway, it just does not matter. Bunch of ants...

[da_vinci]

i think the best in life is to win the lottory

move to thailand

sleep late every day

bodybuild

sit on the beach sipping on cocktails with some hookers


post on getbig some pictors of you living this dream


forget about relationships

[Natural Man]

If we are animals, we are designed to have as MANY mates as possible (or so it is in absolute majority of animal species). Unless you speak of utopia, when all people find the "right" person from a get go (esp. in a world and daily life that has became as complicated as it is). But just how often does it happen? Or maybe people should stay with an uncompatible partenrs for the sake of it? Or maybe everyone are able to understand well of what they want when they are 20? That does not happen, sorry.
Just because it has always been the "best" option, doesn't mean it will not change. Don't be so sure about "absolute truths" in a constanlty changing universe.

Not to mention that is doesn't make any sense anyway, it just does not matter. Bunch of ants...

well if people get together in the firstplace, it's because they are compatible... but for various reasons, it evolves to the point they get uncompatible with each others.

We are animals, and in our specie, you need 20 years of decent upbringing to raise a dominant and confident offspring. And you need to stay united and strong to keep contributing to your offspring 's family and strenghten the legacy so they can stay at the top or keep climbing.
Animals or not, there are rules to follow if you want power, power meaning better odds of survival.

[da_vinci]

well if people get together in the firstplace, it's because they are compatible... but for various reasons, it evolves to the point they get uncompatible with each others.

We are animals, and in our specie, you need 20 years of decent upbringing to raise a dominant and confident offspring. And you need to stay united and strong to keep contributing to your offspring 's family and strenghten the legacy so they can stay at the top or keep climbing.
Animals or not, there are rules to follow if you want power, power meaning better odds of survival.

Yeah.. just like these times I got together with hot girls, who turned out to be way too stupid in their ways of doing things in life for me to continue. We WERE compatible...sexually, but life is a lot more complicated these days. People get in groups (just like animals) because it's easier to survive that way. In countries (like Japan) where many a rich enough to sustain themselves well are making a conscious choice to live alone.

 

[Natural Man]

Yeah.. just like these times I got together with hot girls, who turned out to be way too stupid in their ways of doing things in life for me to continue. We WERE compatible...sexually, but life is a lot more complicated these days. People get in groups (just like animals) because it's easier to survive that way. In countries (like Japan) where many a rich enough to sustain themselves well are making a conscious choice to live alone.

 

there is definitely a generation of anti natalist /childfree people who want to see the human specie disapear and who just cruise thru life while nurturing this nihilistic goal, mostly in western, advanced societies. Life sucks too much to have kids, but still not enough for them to consider suicide tho.

[da_vinci]

there is definitely a generation of anti natalist /childfree people who want to see the human specie disapear and who just cruise thru life while nurturing this nihilistic goal, mostly in western, advanced societies. Life sucks too much to have kids, but still not enough for them to consider suicide.

Suicide is in case life gets SO bad and uncomfortable that it's just pointless to continue. And these "antinatalists" you speak of will enable people to live a lot longer one day so the desperate act of "having kids" (to save half of the "code") will be of benefit just when society will need to replace these who died of illness or got killed somehow. And even these kids will be preengineered genetically (this is comming soon btw anyway). Yeah, that's very "unusual", but this is happening for a reason, these western atheists just start to want to continue living themselves as that's the main goal of evolution, an INDIVIDUAL who manages to survive so effectively that it "cheats" death too (and there ARE examples of this in animal species already. It took billions of years for some species, of effective survival, it will take shorter for humans as they are starting to direct their evolution consciously).

And OSHO's way of a "family" and raising kids, relathionships, etc.. is way more in tune with our ANIMAL brain. It sounds way too harsh in a current reality, but current reality is not working as promised either. A bummer.

[Fortress]

I truly believe a majority of men would be happier, overall, not getting married OR living with a girl. I understand few women will tolerate "only" dating a guy, but this is how I see it, regardless.

Men might be assholes, but women are insane (some only slightly, and some in an alarming way). No matter how much she pleads her great love for you, somewhere down the line your relationship with her will be your potential undoing.

I hate feeling this way. Truth is, I am a romantic. LOVE the idea of "being in love". However, experience and wisdom points to a different reality than what is presented by tradition/societal expectation.

Without question, DO NOT even contemplate marriage before hitting, say, 35, minimum. MINIMUM.

In my line of work, I see that there are a couple of things that are almost always responsible, directly or indirectly, with destroying a man's life, legally-speaking: a) drugs/booze; b) WOMEN.

Never completely trust any woman unless she's your mother (and a decent one, obviously) or your sister.

When you let down your guard with a woman in a romantic relationship, you're already heading towards disaster. (And allowing a woman to live with you is a surefire way to slowly extinguish romance and open yourself up to heartache and trouble the likes of which you've never thought possible.)

 

[NarcissisticDeity]

I truly believe a majority of men would be happier, overall, not getting married OR living with a girl. I understand few women will tolerate "only" dating a guy, but this is how I see it, regardless.

Men might be assholes, but women are insane (some only slightly, and some in an alarming way). No matter how much she pleads her great love for you, somewhere down the line your relationship with her will be your potential undoing.

I hate feeling this way. Truth is, I am a romantic. LOVE the idea of "being in love". However, experience and wisdom points to a different reality than what is presented by tradition/societal expectation.

Without question, DO NOT even contemplate marriage before hitting, say, 35, minimum. MINIMUM.

In my line of work, I see that there are a couple of things that are almost always responsible, directly or indirectly, with destroying a man's life, legally-speaking: a) drugs/booze; b) WOMEN.

Never completely trust any woman unless she's your mother (and a decent one, obviously) or your sister.

When you let down your guard with a woman in a romantic relationship, you're already heading towards disaster. (And allowing a woman to live with you is a surefire way to slowly extinguish romance and open yourself up to heartache and trouble the likes of which you've never thought possible.)

 

Listen up all you young guys , this is experience talking. especially this part

[da_vinci]

Without question, DO NOT even contemplate marriage before hitting, say, 35, minimum. MINIMUM.

This too. The life is changing faster then ever so all the processess are being postponed to later time compared to how it was "back then". Life will have to become longer too, and it will, no doubt. Some people just are stagnated and does not want to accept changes. But this is expected.

[gracie bjj]

This too. The life is changing faster then ever so all the processess are being postponed to later time compared to how it was "back then". Life will have to become longer too, and it will, no doubt. Some people just are stagnated and does not want to accept changes. But this is expected.

i got married at 38 yrs old,atleast i had alot of fun before i got married

[da_vinci]

i got married at 38 yrs old,atleast i had alot of fun before i got married

Yes. Otherwise you could repeat the "Grass is not greener on the other side" just to calm yourself down... (as sometimes it is, and by a big margin lol).

[Primemuscle]

so your wife doesnt give you blowjobs, and you cheat on her with mistresses/whores on the side? Is that your definition of being "old fashioned" ? As i stated numerous times on here, why not have both, a private whore that will also take care of home and kids -and work part time- ?

I'm confused. Are you calling your wife a whore? Or are you advocating that guys hire a whore to service them sexually and take care of their kids while the wife is at work? Is that like a nanny with benefits? This certainly isn't Nanny McPhee.

There is nothing wrong with both parents working and sharing the responsibilities at home, including caring for the kids. It is when both parents work and have no time for their children that problems arise.

[Primemuscle]

i got married at 38 yrs old,atleast i had alot of fun before i got married

It seems like a lot of people are waiting to get married these days. My stepfather was 35 when he and my mom got together. He was pretty set in his ways.

There is something to be said about folks being mature enough to approach marriage knowing pretty much what they are getting into. Of course, these people miss the fun in marrying younger and maturing together.

My wife and I married young. We have no regrets. Our kids married young too, their marriages have been pretty solid and by today's standards, long term. One thing to think about when waiting to marry until you are well into your thirties is if you have children when you are in your late thirties or early forties, you'll be grandfather age by the time they are grown.

[Thong Maniac]

I posted this earlier on another subreddit but it ended up getting removed because of fighting in the comments. I’ll sum up what happened thus far.

I met my wife 7 years ago, she was extremely picky when it came to sex. She told me she only has been with 1 other guy before. She would never give a blow job, only would do certain positions and found almost every sex act degrading. I was frustrated by this, but I really liked her and hoped over the years she would open up sexually.

Over the years, it never got any better but I learned to get over it. Well I ended up finding an old video from her college days of her engaging in group sex with 6 other people 5 guys 1 girl. In the video she has anal sex, oral sex, gets double teamed, and yells multiple times in the video she is a “I am a filthy whore.”

All of it she was enthusiastic about it. I ended up feeling really sad. I can understand certain stuff people don’t want to do, but it wasn’t the fact she didn’t want to do them. She didn’t want to do them with me but every other guy she was their whore. I was angry hurt and I ended up saying some stupid shit to my wife.

I asked her if she could drop our daughter off at her sister’s house because I wanted to talk to her. She asked why, I told her we’d discuss after she came back.

I ended up leaving my wife kept trying to stop me. She kept on begging saying I could do anything I wanted with her, it was truly pathetic and I lost all respect for my wife the way she was trying to manipulate me with sex.

I am staying at a motel right now; I have been getting constant calls from my wife. She has been asking me where I am, if I tell her than she is going to confront me and I don’t feel like I am ready for that. I feel so fucking drained. I feel bad saying those things to my wife but I don’t know what else to do I am so fucking hurt over this.

As I said before I wouldn’t care if she had a promiscuous past, seriously, wouldn’t care but the fact she did all those things for other guys but doesn’t do them for me hurts me the deepest.

Dude, wtf. Is this real? How and WHY was a video laying Around of this?

[f450]

Dude, wtf. Is this real? How and WHY was a video laying Around of this?

Bump for answer. How very weird.