A guy at AA today said that he once went 3 years without a drink.
He said he thought he was out of the woods. One beer from a friend and he said "10 minutes cost me 3 years."
No, I'm not suggesting the 'one or two' dance AT ALL. Only saying that once you're comfy and confident with your sobriety, you may be able to
present at such places. Worked that way for me, anyway. My brother is the opposite, though, so maybe just disregard the bar thing.
But, yeah, "social drinking" is a losing battle for problem types, I totally understand that.