What's your opinion on single moms?

[greeneyes]

For god, for country, for family, most horrible crimes happens with smiles on victims faces.
Still, I would love to give back the affection, good moments, money to my parents.

[CDel19]

Perhaps you are right. I just want to give folks here a little bit of perspective from the child's viewpoint.

I get that hooking up with a woman who has children by another man can be problematical. Thank goodness some men are willing to take on this responsibility though.

In the beginning, I was a total asshole to my stepfather. I was an 8 year old spoiled brat who treated him like shit. He deserves much recognition for the fact that he didn't take a hike because of me.

It is just amazing to me that some guys still think getting pregnant is the fault of the woman. With a few exceptions, such as artificial insemination, a guy was involved in creating the child of a single mom.

Men who abandon that responsibility are the scum of the earth, not the mothers who raise their offspring.

Perhaps someone should start a thread asking what folks opinions are of men who abandon their children, leaving the woman to raise them as a single mom.

I am with a single mom for two years and it seems her 8 yr old is causing her and I some issues-I have two daughters of my own-maybe you can help me understand what to do -can I PM you thx

[muscularny]

I am with a single mom for two years and it seems her 8 yr old is causing her and I some issues-I have two daughters of my own-maybe you can help me understand what to do -can I PM you thx

Get out of the relationship now, cease all communications and move on.

[Quickerblade]

I am with a single mom for two years and it seems her 8 yr old is causing her and I some issues-I have two daughters of my own-maybe you can help me understand what to do -can I PM you thx

PM me.

[CDel19]

Get out of the relationship now, cease all communications and move on.

easier said then done and Im not with them full time

[Overload]

it s actually very interesting, there are parents who condition their daughter or son to become rich then take care of...them when they re old. Maybe they even tell their kids to not have kids and to only focus on having money/fun and pay them shit...We are the product our parents wanted us to be. Their creature.  Still better than having parents who abandon/ignore you or regret giving you birth or destroy you willingly so they can see you die before they do. We dont choose to exist, we exist because other people wanted us to exist and because it somehow gave a meaning to their own lives. Well until they get bored of it.

This is very common in Vietnamese culture.  I dated a girl from Vietnam who came to the US when she was 16.  Her entire family eventually made it over.  The whole family circle revolved around taking care of the parents.  The kids stayed at home with their parents until they got married.  The parents had small jobs and didn't make much money, but they conditioned the kids to take their education to the highest level.  If you weren't a Doctor or Lawyer, you weren't anything.  They looked down on normal degrees and even engineering.

By the time the kids were in their 30's, only 1 out of 5 had kids and was married.  The others were all very successful and lived at home with the parents or at least in the same subdivision.  It was interesting how everything revolved around the parents and not the kids.  The mother didn't drive anywhere or pat for anything, all of her earnings she kept in a savings account.

Two of the brothers had their own dentist offices and made big money.  The other brother is a financial planner for a big time investment company in New York and he fly's down to Houston almost every weekend.

On one side i think they are brain washed and on the other it actually makes sense.  They take care of their parents and it's a disgrace not to.

No single mothers in the entire family unit either.  They would probably remove them from the family.

[kevthekid]

Single moms are easy to fuck but not relationship material. End of story

[Hulkotron]

Single moms are easy to fuck but not relationship material. End of story

Really says it all, spot on KTK.

[Pet shop boys]

Single moms are easy to fuck but not relationship material. End of story

X2.


I know Ill be trashed for saying this but if you want wife material ...
start going to church on sunday mornings and get invioved in their outdoor activities to collect money for charitires etc.



Wooosssshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[kevthekid]

Thank you! They're amazing in bed but honestly who the fuck wants to deal with a kid that's not theirs? Also if she's dumb enough to get knocked up and end up getting divorced or break up wih her boyfriend is that really the type of woman you want to get into a relationship with??

[el numero uno]

Single moms are easy to fuck but not relationship material. End of story

Yep. It pretty much sums it up.

X2.


I know Ill be trashed for saying this but if you want wife material ...
start going to church on sanday mornings and get invioved in their outdoor activities to collect money for charitires etc.



Wooosssshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Honestly, sounds like a good idea to me.

[Primemuscle]

I am with a single mom for two years and it seems her 8 yr old is causing her and I some issues-I have two daughters of my own-maybe you can help me understand what to do -can I PM you thx

You may PM me if you like.

Having raised a son and a daughter, I can safely say boys are a lot different then girls to bring up. Both my kids are wonderful adults. When our daughter was a teenager, she was a handful, our son, not so much.

[Parker]

X2.


I know Ill be trashed for saying this but if you want wife material ...
start going to church on sunday mornings and get invioved in their outdoor activities to collect money for charitires etc.



Wooosssshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

There was a guy here from NC who was smashing a married woman who sang in her Church Choir.
He had posted pics as well.

[Hulkotron]

In this thread can we also discuss the psychology of single women who are really into their pet dog?

Would be particularly interested in the assessments of Quickerblade and NaturalMan.

[240 is Back]

see... an 8 year old SHOULD be taught to treat ALL adults with respect.
When an 8 year old is told "this person is very special to me and thus deserves a higher level of respect, he/she DOES it.

All this shit about "I can't stop my 8 year old from saying mean things to this person" is silliness.  You put their legoes in the blender if they try that shit.  Then you put their Playmobile in the blender when they say it again.  If you have to, you smash the iPad too.  Soon, the kid will be playing with dirty laundry and empty water bottles, and will have learned to STFU and show respect to his elders.

I treat my 8 year old with complete respect, and I expect/get the same.  If i was shagging a lady and he came up with "this bitch ain't my real mom, screw her", I'd be handing out his toys to his classmates, lol, the liittle shit  seriously, he wuld want to be nice to her because she was important to me.   Parents that can't control their kids dropped the ball along the way - you don't suddenly have an 8 year old that is out of control.  He was out of control at 7, he got away with everything at 6, he was spoiled at 5, he was allowed to scream and hit at 4, etc etc.  

IF a single mom has an out of control 8 year old, you know 2 things are true...
1) She is the problem, she let that happen
2) Kid will be out of CONTROL by age 12, he will be runnnig streets and doing crime and maybe even using steroids and meth, the 2 most dangerous compounds known to man.

[Natural Man]

Single mothers are often depressed and destroy their kids very early;

Harv Rev Psychiatry. 2009;17(2):147-56. doi: 10.1080/10673220902899714.
Infants of depressed mothers.
Tronick E1, Reck C.
Author information
Abstract

Depression is the most frequent psychiatric disorder and has long-term, compromising effects on the mother-infant relationship and the child's development. The infant continuously faces a climate of negative affect that disrupts the interactive experience of the infant and the mother. This article presents findings on the impact of maternal depression on the infant affective state and the specific interactive patterns associated with infant affect regulation. Mother-infant interactions were studied using microanalytic, second-by-second methods in the laboratory and also by using naturalistic home observations. The empirical findings highlight the impact of maternal depression on the infant affective state and on the capacity for repairing states of miscoordination. The impact is seen not only in severely and acutely depressed mothers, but in mothers who have only high levels of depressive symptoms. These infants develop negative affective states that bias their interactions with others and exacerbate their affective problems. Further findings with regard to gender-specific effects show that male infants are more vulnerable than female infants to maternal depression. The findings point out the need for therapeutic interventions that focus on the mother-infant dyad and infant affective state in the treatment of maternal depression.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19373622


Z Psychosom Med Psychother. 2004;50(2):153-70.
[Infants' moods and the chronicity of depressive symptoms: the unique creative process of being together for good or ill. Part 2: The formation of negative moods in infants and children of depressed mothers].
[Article in German]
Tronick EZ1.
Author information
Abstract

In this second paper I present data on the effects of maternal depression on infant mood. Maternal depression is relatively stable and the infant continuously faces an affective climate characterized by negative affects. These negative affects disrupt the interactive experience of the infant and the mother. Positive affective matching is limited and reparation of mismatching states is infrequent. As a consequence infants develop a negative mood that biases their interactions with others and further exacerbates their affective problems.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15146392

[King Shizzo]

see... an 8 year old SHOULD be taught to treat ALL adults with respect.
When an 8 year old is told "this person is very special to me and thus deserves a higher level of respect, he/she DOES it.

All this shit about "I can't stop my 8 year old from saying mean things to this person" is silliness.  You put their legoes in the blender if they try that shit.  Then you put their Playmobile in the blender when they say it again.  If you have to, you smash the iPad too.  Soon, the kid will be playing with dirty laundry and empty water bottles, and will have learned to STFU and show respect to his elders.

I treat my 8 year old with complete respect, and I expect/get the same.  If i was shagging a lady and he came up with "this bitch ain't my real mom, screw her", I'd be handing out his toys to his classmates, lol, the liittle shit  seriously, he wuld want to be nice to her because she was important to me.   Parents that can't control their kids dropped the ball along the way - you don't suddenly have an 8 year old that is out of control.  He was out of control at 7, he got away with everything at 6, he was spoiled at 5, he was allowed to scream and hit at 4, etc etc.  

IF a single mom has an out of control 8 year old, you know 2 things are true...
1) She is the problem, she let that happen
2) Kid will be out of CONTROL by age 12, he will be runnnig streets and doing crime and maybe even using steroids and meth, the 2 most dangerous compounds known to man.

Meltdown.

[Natural Man]

In this thread can we also discuss the psychology of single women who are really into their pet dog?

Would be particularly interested in the assessments of Quickerblade and NaturalMan.

just like men who are really into their pet dogs, they simply consider them as perfect non threatening "pure" "friends" "parents". Failing to understand these animals just stick around because they are...feeding them. Just like with humans, pets stick around because of interests...major one being..being fed.
They also "love" them because...they can completely control them, and dont expect them to "backstab them", what a more complex animal like another man or woman could do. Pets cant fight back and do everything you want them to do, which is reassuring. And when they die you simply buy another one.

[Thin Lizzy]

In this thread can we also discuss the psychology of single women who are really into their pet dog?

Would be particularly interested in the assessments of Quickerblade and NaturalMan.

I've women who have more than one pet to be pain in the asses, more than normal.

[Primemuscle]

just like men who are really into their pet dogs, they simply consider them as perfect non threatening "pure" "friends" "parents". Failing to understand these animals just stick around because they are...feeding them. Just like with humans, pets stick around because of interests...major one being..being fed.
They also "love" them because...they can completely control them, and dont expect them to "backstab them", what a more complex animal like another man or woman could do. Pets cant fight back and do everything you want them to do, which is reassuring. And when they die you simply buy another one.

Why are humans and dogs so good at living together?

Domestic dogs are descended from wolves so recently that they remain wolves in all biological essentials, including their social behavior. Wolf packs have some intriguing parallels with human families:

They are territorial.
They hunt cooperatively.
Pack members are emotionally bonded and greet each other enthusiastically after they have been separated.
In a wolf pack, only the alpha male and female are sexually active even though other pack members are sexually mature.

The social adaptations of dogs and humans are similar enough that dogs can live perfectly happy lives surrounded by humans and vice versa. Dogs are pampered with the best of food and medical care, frequently sleeping in their owners' comfortable beds.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-human-beast/200904/why-are-humans-and-dogs-so-good-living-together

[Howard]

just like men who are really into their pet dogs, they simply consider them as perfect non threatening "pure" "friends" "parents". Failing to understand these animals just stick around because they are...feeding them. Just like with humans, pets stick around because of interests...major one being..being fed.
They also "love" them because...they can completely control them, and dont expect them to "backstab them", what a more complex animal like another man or woman could do. Pets cant fight back and do everything you want them to do, which is reassuring. And when they die you simply buy another one.

I fart in my dogs face and they still love me. One did give me a nasty "silent but deadly" the other night with a rather smug attitude.
Oh well, she gave as good as she got.

[Howard]

Da vinci brought up an interesting point, single moms are great at tolerating your bullshit. I  liked knowing that the chick was at home friday and saturday nights watching her kid, least I could keep a leash on her and knew she wasn't grinding up on random guys dicks at the club. She was also easy as fuck to entertain, a night out at the club and a romantic dinner  was huge to her. I was her entire life, that bitch  called me every fucking day  during the 5 months we dated, i liked it.

The  girl Im seeing now is the complete opposite, no kids, makes 100k a year and actually has a life. But she's way too  focused on herself, all she cares about is making money and taking care of her parents. I already told her Im not gonna tolerate it.

Hmmm, maybe she's afraid that you'll beg her to buy you a new truck.   Just sayin' 

[devilsmile]

Had to forward this from the "15 reasons to date a single mom" thread, this post has shock value. I literally got butterflies from it  

I dated a single mom, trust me I was  more bitter about it  than  you are. I would refuse to let  her take pictures of me with the kid in it, used to bite my tongue if she even asked me to buy the kid a bag of chips at subway.  But all it took was a few weeks of dating a woman  without kids to get  quickly reminded of the bullshit that comes with dating a chick in her twenties with lots of freedom. With that single mom she was at home reading thomas the train books  texting me while I was out at the club with my boys. Shed have dinner waiting for me, this was on a friday and saturday night.  A normal girl is gonna be out at the bar or club  with her five  girlfriends  grinding on some random guys dick. She can go out get trashed and  wasted cause she can sleep till noon the next day, that single mom had to be up bright and early at 8 am for  cartoons!

[Earl1972]

just like men who are really into their pet dogs, they simply consider them as perfect non threatening "pure" "friends" "parents". Failing to understand these animals just stick around because they are...feeding them. Just like with humans, pets stick around because of interests...major one being..being fed.
They also "love" them because...they can completely control them, and dont expect them to "backstab them", what a more complex animal like another man or woman could do. Pets cant fight back and do everything you want them to do, which is reassuring. And when they die you simply buy another one.

how do you explain dogs being friendly and loving to people that don't feed them?

people control dogs?  most don't take it any farther than making them crap and piss outside instead of in the house

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[Primemuscle]

just like men who are really into their pet dogs, they simply consider them as perfect non threatening "pure" "friends" "parents". Failing to understand these animals just stick around because they are...feeding them. Just like with humans, pets stick around because of interests...major one being..being fed.
They also "love" them because...they can completely control them, and dont expect them to "backstab them", what a more complex animal like another man or woman could do. Pets cant fight back and do everything you want them to do, which is reassuring. And when they die you simply buy another one.

You either don't or probably should not own a dog.

There have been cases where dogs have traveled great distances on their own to find their owners.