-aj- is in good shape, so he's not a good example, but I totally get the point.
Unless they're dieting for a contest or something, the whole bring your own food thing is silly. One meal at a party isn't going to do shit.
I could be in better shape, that's for sure.
But in my defense, I NEVER refuse a good meal. For me, when I bring up shit like the melange above, its when I am home, alone on a weekend and need something solid on my stomach. I would never bring that trash to a Thanksgiving dinner. Life is too short for that noise.
My wife makes good, high-protein, low(er) carb food. She made a ripping chicken parmesan with a coating of almond flour/coconut flour and as God is my witness, you could not tell the difference between that and a regular chicken parm. Ate it just like that, with lots of cheese.
I am never going to be <10% at my age. I will probably never get my lower abs into the shape that I want them to be,
and I am OK with that. Better that then to be a social pariah.