Anxiety Question...

[Thong Maniac]

Did you just recently go bugshit crazy like this?  How long is the "while" you say it's been happening?

Always been like this since 17-18 from what i remember. Lately i feel like its starting to effect career and life though. Always managed with it and didnt thhink it was too debilitating but now its really pissing me off. I kind of feel like its making me depressed slighlty, like i want to feel normal and this is preventing me from it

[Las Vegas]

Thanks

I also realize that i try hard to avoid confrontations because i wont know what or how to react. Its like i always freeze...even with positive comments. Im constantly planning in my head..."what if that guy comes over abd talks to me today, oh shit what will i say so i dont sound dumb!?". Always running situations thru my head before they actually happen because i am not quick on my feet

Who would "that guy" be, exactly?

[Thong Maniac]

Who would "that guy" be, exactly?

Guys from my gym i see daily. Some live near me. No-homo.

Dude, u should see me if a girl comes around...its 5 times worse

[Las Vegas]

Always been like this since 17-18 from what i remember. Lately i feel like its starting to effect career and life though. Always managed with it and didnt thhink it was too debilitating but now its really pissing me off. I kind of feel like its making me depressed slighlty, like i want to feel normal and this is preventing me from it

How?

[Thong Maniac]

How?

Just sucked it up and tried to not to worry or think about it. I feel like im too old to still feel like this.

[Las Vegas]

Just sucked it up and tried to not to worry or think about it. I feel like im too old to still feel like this.

That's good, because it means you recognize it.  You'll age out of it.

Meanwhile, I recommend that you find something more important to think about.  It's a big world with big problems.  Focusing too much on yourself leads to corruption and insanity.

[Thong Maniac]

That's good, because it means you recognize it.  You'll age out of it.

Meanwhile, I recommend that you find something more important to think about.  It's a big world with big problems.  Focusing too much on yourself leads to corruption and insanity.

Good points man. I do think about myself wayyy too much

[Las Vegas]

Good points man. I do think about myself wayyy too much

And you can't deny having insane thoughts, based on your posts in this thread.  That's for sure.

[Tapeworm]

Damn that first sentence is pretty wise man, eventhough u are trying to make a joke, i think that is something i will try to remember

Only 1/2 joking.  They really do stop plotting after that.  

Another calming thing I try to do is resolve my internal dialogue into a monologue of one mind when appropriate.  Letting a few voices have their say is good for hashing out problems when I'm working on something but isn't helpful when I need to interact with someone else or when I need to get rid of paralysis by analysis and get moving on something without The Voice of Doom nagging me about every unlikely possibility.  

[Las Vegas]

What are you guys trying to convey to these mystery people, that causes you to get so tripped up?

[Primemuscle]

Just sucked it up and tried to not to worry or think about it. I feel like im too old to still feel like this.

Anxiety has no age limit. Trust me, I know. I suffer anxiety and depression. Sometimes lately it is hard to get out of bed in the morning, so I don't get up until 10:00 a.m. or 11:00 a.m. It probably doesn't help that I am retired.  I am not required to be anywhere at a certain time. Although, finances are not a problem, I worry about them a lot. I strive to think positive thoughts, but the negative ones creep in when I least expect it.

I've tried "sucking it up" and it doesn't work. Ignoring something does not make it go away, it just stuffs it in the closet. Anyone opens the door and bam, out it comes.

For awhile, I took the meds my doctor prescribed for anxiety. I didn't like the side effects so I weaned myself off them. Presently, I am back taking Welbutrin which has helped in the past with minimal sides. Welbutrin is prescribed for depression.

[BigRo]

What type of anxiety or issue is this? Been plaguing me for a while now but never sought help, but as I get older its becoming more of a burden.

These are some examples of thought processes during the day and sometimes they get compounded and really start bothering me and i get all worried/anxious:

-i dont want to spit while that car is there and that guy is looking at me..he will think im spitting to piss him off or be confrontational
-i hope that guy sees me taking weights off the bar when im done so he thinks im a good guy
-i made eye contact with that hot chick at the gym earlier, but now i want to use the machine right next to her. She is going to think i want to fuck her and now its akward, so i wont go over by her. I dont want her to think she is hot shit
-Did that guy acknowledge i held the door for him? He didnt even thank me. What a dick

These are just some examples from today that clogged up my mind.
Its like this social anxiety thing. Its like im overly conscientious, or afraid of confrontations so im always trying to be super respectful of everyone around me. I wish i could just be in my own world and not worty about outside shit like this.

The examples your provide sound normal to me, spitting can be interpreted by others as you spitting on them so to speak or not respecting their presence.

We get a kick when we are seen to be doing the right thing by others, its out social conditioning.

Women these days think guys are perverts therefore you may want to prevent being seen in this dim light.

It is common courtesy to thank someone if they hold the door for you.

But beyond a wholesome respect for others you shouldn't be overly concerned and develop courage to do your own thing and be yourself.

[Method101]

I hate trying piss at a urinal with two dudes either side of me having a conversation with each other lol.

[Simple Simon]

What type of anxiety or issue is this? Been plaguing me for a while now but never sought help, but as I get older its becoming more of a burden.

These are some examples of thought processes during the day and sometimes they get compounded and really start bothering me and i get all worried/anxious:

-i dont want to spit while that car is there and that guy is looking at me..he will think im spitting to piss him off or be confrontational
-i hope that guy sees me taking weights off the bar when im done so he thinks im a good guy
-i made eye contact with that hot chick at the gym earlier, but now i want to use the machine right next to her. She is going to think i want to fuck her and now its akward, so i wont go over by her. I dont want her to think she is hot shit
-Did that guy acknowledge i held the door for him? He didnt even thank me. What a dick

These are just some examples from today that clogged up my mind.
Its like this social anxiety thing. Its like im overly conscientious, or afraid of confrontations so im always trying to be super respectful of everyone around me. I wish i could just be in my own world and not worty about outside shit like this.

stop spitting, its disgusting.

[Julio Ceasar]

stop spitting, its disgusting.

Hahahah, yes! HAHAHAHAHA LOL

I do it all the time hahaha. Only in bad neigberhood. U can be more relaxed there

[whitewidow]

Dead serious. I realized i had social anxiety but wonder if if was a certain kind or just text book social anxiety disorder

Pop a xanax and life will be great just don't get addicted,none of that shit will bother you in fact you will lose ambitions and go talk to the hot chick,tell the guy you held the dorr for "your welcome fucker" trust me that's how xanax works with me. actually really bad advice unless you really have a anxiety issues very addictive stuff.It will work though.

[_bruce_]

Do something against it now - or you will be destroyed or an addict.

-realize that you're living in a system to kill you and that it's your healthy reaction to generate fear(the rabbit hole goes insanely deep)
-face all your worries and fears especially fears that make you fear that you will react with even more fear
-start doing breathing exercises
-start sorting out the dictionary in you head... see which words you're using and programming yourself with - language/thought often equates emotions and action
-learn that you, and only you, are your destiny's commander
-use math exercises to get back your skill to concentrate on things... start with easy things and up the ante
-be aware that as soon as you start working on your issue it will get worse in the short term... may be hours, may be days
-your brain is a computer and you can, and have to, rewire it through exercise
-your subconscious is the key to all things and bringing some things out from the dark may ease your burden

My tip: read material from C.G. Jung,  Christopher S. Hyatt, Robert Anton Wilson, Timothy Leary and slowly let it sink in.

Breathing exercises(Hyatt)

[mame09]

i was like that once and the best advice is get over it. no one is looking at you and if they are big deal not like your doing anything stupid.

ive had that girl in the gym problem many times once again if your not going to talk to her get over it and continue your work out if she happens to
be next to the bench and you need to use it do so and just ignore her. your there to workout and get back to normal life.

[spiro]

Yo have to face your fears. Try interacting with people more since it's something you have trouble with. The more you do something the less threatening it will be. Tren made me feel this way. Equipose was even worse. I've also struggled with anxiety. You never completely over come it but you learn every day how to deal with it. Try not to take yourself so serious.

[Thong Maniac]

Yo have to face your fears. Try interacting with people more since it's something you have trouble with. The more you do something the less threatening it will be. Tren made me feel this way. Equipose was even worse. I've also struggled with anxiety. You never completely over come it but you learn every day how to deal with it. Try not to take yourself so serious.

Will do man thanks, its good to know others are also going or gone thru this.i definitely take myself wayyy to serious which is part of the problem. I am trying to be more interactive with people and i dont get so frozen , but in uncomfortable situations my brain literally shuts down, making it even more akward and uncomfortable

[Las Vegas]

Pop a xanax and life will be great just don't get addicted,none of that shit will bother you in fact you will lose ambitions and go talk to the hot chick,tell the guy you held the dorr for "your welcome fucker" trust me that's how xanax works with me. actually really bad advice unless you really have a anxiety issues very addictive stuff.It will work though.

It is.

[Pumpzilla]

Yo have to face your fears. Try interacting with people more since it's something you have trouble with. The more you do something the less threatening it will be. Tren made me feel this way. Equipose was even worse. I've also struggled with anxiety. You never completely over come it but you learn every day how to deal with it. Try not to take yourself so serious.

You make a good point. It can be considered like training. But for the mind. Though one shouldn't beat themselves up over not getting it right the first time. Take baby steps. But be sure to give yourself a pat on the back for even attempting it, thong maniac. Your mind will start to adapt to the situation with practise.

[ritch]

To those who do not suffer from this, guys... Don't give out advice, you do not understand how it is.

It's not like going in cold water if you don't like cold water, it's not about confronting fears. It's about getting rid of this annoying as fuck feeling in your stomach that just comes and goes. Not gonna go away by some "pep talk" or pat on the back saying "you're ok bro, everything's gonna be ok..."

Been struggling with this for the longest part of my life and am finally seeking professional help. Got bloodwork done and saw a cardiologue yesterday as my lifestyle has been a rough on over health wise since '98.

So just get over it you say? Pffff, it's like saying "you wanna get bigger, just lift more weight"

Dosen't really work that way...

[Primemuscle]

To those who do not suffer from this, guys... Don't give out advice, you do not understand how it is.

It's not like going in cold water if you don't like cold water, it's not about confronting fears. It's about getting rid of this annoying as fuck feeling in your stomach that just comes and goes. Not gonna go away by some "pep talk" or pat on the back saying "you're ok bro, everything's gonna be ok..."

Been struggling with this for the longest part of my life and am finally seeking professional help. Got bloodwork done and saw a cardiologue yesterday as my lifestyle has been a rough on over health wise since '98.

So just get over it you say? Pffff, it's like saying "you wanna get bigger, just lift more weight"

Dosen't really work that way...

I have anxiety issues. Having said this, one can know what it is like if they listen and sympathize with people who suffer from anxiety, even when they don't. Years ago, I had a good friend and co-worker who suffered from agoraphobia. It was so bad, she eventually couldn't leave her house to come to work which was only blocks away from where she lived.

[ritch]

I have anxiety issues. Having said this, one can know what it is like if they listen and sympathize with people who suffer from anxiety, even when they don't. Years ago, I had a good friend and co-worker who suffered from agoraphobia. It was so bad, she eventually couldn't leave her house to come to work which was only blocks away from where she lived.

you've laid out some good posts here man, thanks for speaking up, made it easier for me. (that's right, was too much of a pussy too, but I am seeking help and am puting this down here to hopefully be able to report good news when this gets started. Would be nice to encourage others to seek help if they're ready....)