My friend seems to be happiest in his "forever alone/single" life

[da_vinci]

i agree with da_vinci, at least the guy is standing on solid ground and sees things as they are not as he wants them to be.

People in general can't accept some harsh reality because it would crush their dreams based on fairy tales they were fed in the cradle.

Born, go to school, get education, a job, find a woman and get married, have kids and live happily ever after = brainwashed

No wonder. It takes a strong mind to cope with a factual reality and stay sane/sober...

[f450]

your friend is very typical of the new generation.

He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc,  basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.

At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.

I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.

having children gives your life meaning? You mean putting even more stress on the over burdened on the earths ecosystem is your definition of meaning? you don't see how meaningless that is?
Maybe if you were contributing something significant to mankind.. a new energy source, a more efficient waste management system etc... you know something of value.... But spitting out kids, something that rats, dogs, dolphins do as well thats what gives life meaning? Surely you see how absurd that is.

[che]

- We evaluate by comparing. Be a poor fuck amongst the rich and you will feel like a third world scumbag. You may be happy with an ugly wife, but I bet your friend is happier if his wife is beautiful. That's the point - who's happy more OFTEN (because perpetually happy are only legal retards or people who are addicted to narcotics/alcohol).

Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life  , because there will always  be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.

Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your  life .

[Parker]

Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life  , because there will always  be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.

Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your  life .

"Comparison is the Thief of Joy"
             ----Theodore Roosevelt

[che]

"Comparison is the Thief of Joy"
             ----Theodore Roosevelt

QFT

[freespirit]

your friend is very typical of the new generation.

He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc,  basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.

At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.

I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.

[Parker]

Sooo, someone's parents made a mistake and had you?

[James28]

your friend is very typical of the new generation.

He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc,  basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.

At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.

I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.

Gimme a break. 90% of people are stupid self serving dumb fucks. You'll do the world a favour not leaving that behind.

[JediTerminator]

having children gives your life meaning? You mean putting even more stress on the over burdened on the earths ecosystem is your definition of meaning? you don't see how meaningless that is?
Maybe if you were contributing something significant to mankind.. a new energy source, a more efficient waste management system etc... you know something of value.... But spitting out kids, something that rats, dogs, dolphins do as well thats what gives life meaning? Surely you see how absurd that is.

Having your own child can give your life a higher sense of meaning. The added responsibility of a "mini me" can keep people away from bad vices so they can be a good role model. Bad kids aren't born, they are raised this way through neglect. That kid who's a criminal at 15, was probably acting out at 10, was probably swearing at 8 (and the parent(s) laughed it off.. awww how cute), was probably a burden to their parent(s) even earlier. Usually the lower income the home the worse this situation will be as non-planned pregnancies will always certainly be a "you cost me everything child!".

Sad existence for some. Add in any mental illness (like 90% of the population) and this child is going to have a rough time of it at home, then in their social life as they have no clue how to act outside of a destructive home.

People today play too much of a blame game. You did this! You did that!

[FitnessFrenzy]

Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life  , because there will always  be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.

Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your  life .

Good post. I think that is one reason why many Americans are depressed: Always wanting a bigger house, car ..etc.. just look at Jay Cutler's videos through the years

[JediTerminator]

Good post. I think that is one reason why many Americans are depressed: Always wanting a bigger house, car ..etc.. just look at Jay Cutler's videos through the years

I've wondered if he ever throws on his old dvds and watches himself doting around with his wife. Must sting she left him. Doesn't seem like his life turned out exactly as he forsaw.

I think his best bet is to go the DJ route and start training guys. Grab a frontrunner NPC Super Heavy and ride him for ever dollar he can get out of him.

[da_vinci]

Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life  , because there will always  be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.

Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your  life .

It's like saying "Do not live.". In theory it sounds good, but we all know how it is in a real life. And I've managed to become quite happy, quite often, even by being aware of what I've wrote, and that's just a begining, I will make sure that I become as "happy" as an animal can become in this joke, called "life", I'm working on it, hard, and even the process is pure fun most of the time.

Going back more to an original topic - one thing I know for sure - I got back from a gym yesterday, it was almost a midnight, weather was superb, so I took my bicycle, put on some music and went out for a ride in the empty streets. Came back after an hour refreshed as hell and it was lights out baby, a great sleep, with no worries that I "stole" time from my family or that two kids are waiting in the morning to get them to a fukkin school, haha.. I may do that one day, but not anytime soon.

[da_vinci]

Good post. I think that is one reason why many Americans are depressed: Always wanting a bigger house, car ..etc.. just look at Jay Cutler's videos through the years

That is true. Yet I have to find anyone (sane) who doesn't want a nice living place, nice car, good looking female/male, etc... Unless a depression (that arises from being a failure in life) overtakes and a person ceases to want anything, just slowly waits for a death. Another case - some people convince themselves that they doesn't want anything better just because deep down they are aware that it won't happen. That's a good strategy too, to stay sane.

[JediTerminator]

That is true. Yet I have to find anyone (sane) who doesn't want a nice living place, nice car, good looking female/male, etc... Unless a depression (that arises from being a failure in life) overtakes and a person ceases to want anything, just slowly waits for a death. Another case - some people convince themselves that they doesn't want anything better just because deep down they are aware that it won't happen. That's a good strategy too, to stay sane.

Or they are just afraid of that big 4 letter word that it takes to get all these things.... WORK.

They spend more time with excuses to why they are losing in life rather than using that time to strategize a way to get ahead.

No high school diploma? "Oh i'm 29 now, its not gonna do me any good." Meanwhile they are on Netflix all day. If it can't do any good, it certainly can't hurt either. Sad thing is the government will pay these people to go to school. Pay for their education. They just refuse to work for it. Cuz its.... TOO HARD (hahahahahahha here's a gun blow your head off. thanks)

[da_vinci]

Or they are just afraid of that big 4 letter word that it takes to get all these things.... WORK.

They spend more time with excuses to why they are losing in life rather than using that time to strategize a way to get ahead.

No high school diploma? "Oh i'm 29 now, its not gonna do me any good." Meanwhile they are on Netflix all day. If it can't do any good, it certainly can't hurt either. Sad thing is the government will pay these people to go to school. Pay for their education. They just refuse to work for it. Cuz its.... TOO HARD (hahahahahahha here's a gun blow your head off. thanks)

Exactly!!^^ 

[che]

I've managed to become quite happy, quite often,

You are contradicting yourself  , unless you are a billionaire  that only fuck Victoria Secret models.

BTW do you know some billionaires would  get depressed and  shoot themselves in the head , if they were as  poor as you are , but you are  quite happy .

[da_vinci]

You are contradicting yourself  , unless you are a billionaire  that only fuck Victoria Secret models.

BTW do you know some billionaires would  get depressed and  shoot themselves in the head , if they were as  poor as you are , but you are  quite happy .

I'm doing very well, better than most I guess (that of course adds to my sense of happiness. It's a comparison, once again. Without it we wouln't even know what is good, and what is bad), but other bigger goals are waiting.

[che]

I'm doing very well, better than most I guess (that of course adds to my sense of happiness. It's a comparison, once again. Without it we wouln't even know what is good, and what is bad), but other bigger goals are waiting.

Are you a billionaire , DaVinci ?

[da_vinci]

Are you a billionaire , DaVinci ?

No, but I'm above average, certainly will become a millionaire in 5 years from now, maybe sooner.

[che]

No, but I'm above average, certainly will become a millionaire in 5 years from now, maybe sooner.

Haha , so you are not even a millionaire ?  how can you possibly be happy ? Oh brother 

[da_vinci]

Haha , so you are not even a millionaire ?  how can you possibly be happy ? Oh brother  

I said multiple times that I become happier (more relaxed and sure about tomorrow) each time when I get more money. You want to argue about a factual reality, which is not good, it means you are out of tune with it. Money is just a byproduct of a succesfull survival strategies, the more succesfull these strategies are, the more feel good chemicals are being secreted by brain (people who can't manage to be succesfull start drinking/using narcotics to induce that state artificially or they are "diagnosed" with a "depression" and subscribed Prozack, which in essence works the same). It's very simple, no need to complicate it with philosophical bullshit. More money is better than less money. Better looking wife is more satisfying than ugly wife, etc, etc... Everything is about survival in the end, no more, no less.

[James28]

Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this

- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS

Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.

His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.

What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?

Reading this again. Sounds dreamy apart from living with your parents. No fucking bitch to nag his ass off every day.

[che]

(people who can't manage to be succesfull start drinking/using narcotics to induce that state artificially or they are "diagnosed" with a "depression" and subscribed Prozack, which in essence works the same).

You are right , successful people don't drink or use drugs.

[da_vinci]

You are right , successful people don't drink or use drugs.

They are less likely to abuse that stuff/become addicted (just like addicts are less likely to become succesfull, because they were weak to begin with). Success is a very nice drug by itself.

[Grape Ape]

Going back more to an original topic - one thing I know for sure - I got back from a gym yesterday, it was almost a midnight, weather was superb, so I took my bicycle, put on some music and went out for a ride in the empty streets. Came back after an hour refreshed as hell and it was lights out baby, a great sleep, with no worries that I "stole" time from my family or that two kids are waiting in the morning to get them to a fukkin school, haha.. I may do that one day, but not anytime soon.

Never change, da_vinci.

Being completely clueless about family life and raising children at least makes for some humorous reads....