Author Topic: Marrying a single mom - Is it a trend? (Read 6767 times)

El Diablo Blanco · « **on:** August 05, 2015, 02:19:37 PM »

I know three guys who've gotten married to single moms in the last year and another guy is marrying one next month. I'm not sure what's more disturbing, that there's so many single moms or guys marrying a chick to take after a kid that's not theirs.

TuHolmes · « **Reply #1 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:27:18 PM »

Quote from: El Diablo Blanco on August 05, 2015, 02:19:37 PM

I know three guys who've gotten married to single moms in the last year and another guy is marrying one next month. I'm not sure what's more disturbing, that there's so many single moms or guys marrying a chick to take after a kid that's not theirs.

Lots of people seem to do it.

My girl has no kids and we aren't having any, and of course my kids live with my ex wife.

I've dated women with kids... Some dads stay around, and some disappear. My kids step-dad knows what's up and knows I'm always around.

Depends on the dad as to whether it's an issue.

Here's a hint, if the woman says my "baby daddy", run away as fast as possible.

If they say ex husband, then you're probably ok.

SF1900 · « **Reply #2 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:27:41 PM »

Quote from: El Diablo Blanco on August 05, 2015, 02:19:37 PM

I know three guys who've gotten married to single moms in the last year and another guy is marrying one next month. I'm not sure what's more disturbing, that there's so many single moms or guys marrying a chick to take after a kid that's not theirs.

Do not automatically assume that the new father will be their to take care of the kid. I know a guy who got married to a single mom, but the biological father is extremely active in the child's life. The guy I know, of course, plays a role in the kids life, since he lives with them. But he in no way "takes after" the kid. All decisions come from the biological mother and biological father. The step-father just kind of chills back. He offers support when needed, but hes not playing daddy either.

TuHolmes · « **Reply #3 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:29:05 PM »

Quote from: SF1900 on August 05, 2015, 02:27:41 PM

Do not automatically assume that the new father will be their to take care of the kid. I know a guy who got married to a single mom, but the biological father is extremely active in the child's life. The guy I know, of course, plays a role in the kids life, since he lives with them. But he in no way "takes after" the kid. All decisions come from the biological mother and biological father. The step-father just kind of chills back. He offers support when needed, but hes not playing daddy either.

That's how it is with my ex-wife and I.

My decisions are still the way it's going to be.

I'll generally be cool about most things, but if I'm fundamentally opposed to something, then that shit isn't happening.

polychronopolous · « **Reply #4 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:36:17 PM »

Always funny to hear her demand more child support money over the phone to her ex while sitting at dinner and she's paying for it.

Poor bastard is getting fleeced meanwhile you are running up the tab on his dime and he is none the wiser.

TuHolmes · « **Reply #5 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:38:29 PM »

Quote from: polychronopolous on August 05, 2015, 02:36:17 PM

Always funny to hear her demand more child support money over the phone to her ex while sitting at dinner and she's paying for it.

Poor bastard is getting fleeced meanwhile you are running up the tab on his dime and he is none the wiser.

I never understood why guys have to provide money and women never have to provide receipts for it.

Marty Champions · « **Reply #6 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:47:52 PM »

Quote from: SF1900 on August 05, 2015, 02:27:41 PM

Do not automatically assume that the new father will be their to take care of the kid. I know a guy who got married to a single mom, but the biological father is extremely active in the child's life. The guy I know, of course, plays a role in the kids life, since he lives with them. But he in no way "takes after" the kid. All decisions come from the biological mother and biological father. The step-father just kind of chills back. He offers support when needed, but hes not playing daddy either.

the english lads call this clucking

wes · « **Reply #7 on:** August 05, 2015, 02:50:53 PM »

Used to fuck a lot of single moms back when I had hair and teeth,but never entertained the idea of marrying one.

Fuck that noise!!

Dokey111 · « **Reply #8 on:** August 05, 2015, 03:00:12 PM »

Quote from: wes on August 05, 2015, 02:50:53 PM

Used to fuck a lot of single moms back when I had hair and teeth,but never entertained the idea of marrying one.

Fuck that noise!!

a very sound policy

wes · « **Reply #9 on:** August 05, 2015, 03:48:02 PM »

Quote from: Dokey111 on August 05, 2015, 03:00:12 PM

a very sound policy

No shit,who wants a ready made family

Dokey111 · « **Reply #10 on:** August 05, 2015, 03:49:05 PM »

Quote from: wes on August 05, 2015, 03:48:02 PM

No shit,who wants a ready made family

.. and you will be the low man on the totem pole

ritch · « **Reply #11 on:** August 05, 2015, 03:52:23 PM »

Quote from: wes on August 05, 2015, 02:50:53 PM

Used to fuck a lot of single moms back when I had hair and teeth,but never entertained the idea of marrying one.

Fuck that noise!!

A lot of wisdom in this thread.
But man is it hard to find a woman in my age group without kids already...

Marty Champions · « **Reply #12 on:** August 05, 2015, 03:53:36 PM »

Quote from: ritch on August 05, 2015, 03:52:23 PM

A lot of wisdom in this thread.
But man is it hard to find a woman in my age group without kids already...

whores

TuHolmes · « **Reply #13 on:** August 05, 2015, 03:59:43 PM »

Quote from: ritch on August 05, 2015, 03:52:23 PM

A lot of wisdom in this thread.
But man is it hard to find a woman in my age group without kids already...

It is... I got lucky.

Date chicks in the mid 20s. Your odds will be better.

wes · « **Reply #14 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:01:05 PM »

Quote from: TuHolmes on August 05, 2015, 03:59:43 PM

It is... I got lucky.

Date chicks in the mid 20s. Your odds will be better.

^^^THIS

bigkid · « **Reply #15 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:04:42 PM »

My friend married a girl 8 years older than him with 3 ugly ass kids. Just when he was talking about moving on, bam, she gets knocked up. Total moron.

ritch · « **Reply #16 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:07:51 PM »

Quote from: TuHolmes on August 05, 2015, 03:59:43 PM

It is... I got lucky.

Date chicks in the mid 20s. Your odds will be better.

I see your post have been approved by the ever so mighty Wes, but mid 20's can be deceiving. Most of them are just waiting to fall apart and it happens fast after mid 20's. Too much of a gamble for me.

I'd wait until 32 or so.

I once read a woman's beauty peaks when she's 10 000 days old (28) I agree with that.

TuHolmes · « **Reply #17 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:13:27 PM »

Quote from: ritch on August 05, 2015, 04:07:51 PM

I see your post have been approved by the ever so mighty Wes, but mid 20's can be deceiving. Most of them are just waiting to fall apart and it happens fast after mid 20's. Too much of a gamble for me.

I'd wait until 32 or so.

I once read a woman's beauty peaks when she's 10 000 days old (28) I agree with that.

Every year after 24, the odds of a child rise.

It's just a way of the world now.

Like I said, I got fucking lucky. You can tell what she will end up like usually though... Just look at her mom. They ALWAYS look like their mom when they get older.

If mom looks pretty fit, she'll be good to go.

WalterWhite · « **Reply #18 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:27:11 PM »

I've had one wife, one child and one dog. After my marriage ended there was no way I would take on another woman's child.

Now I hang with a women eleven years younger who has never had kids and has a great job.

Mr Anabolic · « **Reply #19 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:29:57 PM »

Unfortunately, men's libidos tend to dictate their behavior.

NEVER marry anyone, especially a single mom looking for a meal ticket from a sugar daddy.

Voice of Doom · « **Reply #20 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:33:21 PM »

Quote from: El Diablo Blanco on August 05, 2015, 02:19:37 PM

I know three guys who've gotten married to single moms in the last year and another guy is marrying one next month. I'm not sure what's more disturbing, that there's so many single moms or guys marrying a chick to take after a kid that's not theirs.

Probably an age thing.

WalterWhite · « **Reply #21 on:** August 05, 2015, 04:58:13 PM »

Quote from: Mr Anabolic on August 05, 2015, 04:29:57 PM

Unfortunately, men's libidos tend to dictate their behavior.

NEVER marry anyone, especially a single mom looking for a meal ticket from a sugar daddy.

I agree and learned the hard way. Although nothing wrong with marrying a wealthy woman or a woman with a great career. I know a guy that just married a top Boston merger and acquisition attorney and he's living like a king. My gf is a top executive for a privately owned IT company. When it sells she's all set finically. This is her second start up with the same CEO.

Croatch · « **Reply #22 on:** August 05, 2015, 05:07:47 PM »

Whenever I see a woman with kid/s...my only thought...stay away and...cool, she goes raw.

El Diablo Blanco · « **Reply #23 on:** August 05, 2015, 06:19:28 PM »

It seems the housing boom caused a lot of couples to procreate and buy a house they can't afford. Market crashed. Forclose on home which leads to hate and divorce and some chick with a kid or two with shattered dreams. Almost any hot chick I see in her 30s has a kid or two.

visualizeperfection · « **Reply #24 on:** August 05, 2015, 06:39:23 PM »

Marrying a chick with a kid is cool if the biological father is around and not a complete loser. Raising someone else's kids is another thing all together.