Lied to a girl online about my age. Am actually into her now. What to do?

[devilsmile]

these things you won't regret...


you will regret things that involve pursuing your dream though......THAT you'll regret however

women come and go....your dream though is another story all together

shit, my dream...

[Danimal77]

with all due respect to the OP but do people really use online dating to actually meet people?

I mean--I know the websites exist and people do set up accounts but I thought, well, you know?.......I thought people just used those sites as a goof or something like that


human attraction is so "primal" (for lack of better word) that you need to make eye contact and smell the other person and all that shit for it to actually work

It CAN work. 2 previous ex's (both 3-4 year relationships) were off of a dating site. It used to be easier to meet girls in my clubbing/school days. Now it's just convenient looking through an online menu.

[Danimal77]

Just tell her the truth and she should feel flattered, not deceived, cause it's not about money or status. Seriously, it's that simple. If she leaves you, whatever, then it's meant to be, you couldn't have prevented it anyway.

How would you bring it up? What would be your wording? Just curious.

[Danimal77]

Age is just a social construct much like gender.  Don't tell her...if she finds out just tell her you identify as a 32 year old.  Then say something about Kaitlyn Jenner.  You'll be fine.

Seriously though if she finds out later on, just play it off like it's no big deal and everyone lies on their online profiles.  One you get your claws into her and she starts to really like you it won't matter.

Just keep your mouth shut for now.

Solid advice.

[SF1900]

Solid advice.

Or, you can be with her for 1 year, and if she finds out, its a deal breaker and she dumps you. There goes a whole year and, at your age, time is precious.

Do it asap. Like a bandaid--do it and get it over with.

[HavoX]

This goddamn thread better have some resolution

[Danimal77]

This goddamn thread better have some resolution

I'll let you know when and if it does.

[da_vinci]

i'm REALLY jealouse of jnn and da_vinci

it seems u are sick and tirred of having mind blowing sex with sexy strangers all of the time. u rather be without sex for a decade than to continue that endless pussy stream of random 9's and 10's. all u want now is a "deceant, nice girl"...

trust me, i know something about having a deceant, nice girl. it ends up with not wanting sex with her but all of her friends and even ur far uglier neighbor. it's not that great.

what do u guys even mean by wanting a "deceant, nice girl"? female gymnast? no wait, i bet for enlightenned alpha male specimen such as ur selves they are all boring and manly.... nba's cheerleaders? naaaah they r the ugliest females on this planet. hottest pro female tennis players? they are talent free and fugly next to u, i bet

can we switch places? because i can find the wife, but i'm too much of a child to appreciate it. i want to feel how it's like to have thousands of 9's and 10's want me. what is ur secret?

I can only speak for myself, but being tall, having an athletic build and somewhat decent face (thanks my father for a good jawline and generally "lean" facial features) pretty much opens the door in most cases, next is personality. I used to just create accounts on various dating websites, map out girls who are close to my location or in a radius of a few hours drive and get it going. Not every time it turned out to sex, sometimes I was not liked, sometimes I did not like, but yeah.. many times it was a great fun, tbh I barely can keep myself still now that I'm in a ltr, the memories and "rush" (of going to meet a new girl) just keeps comming and knowing that Id be killin it even more now (because I have even more experience, confidence and generally look better) doesn't help, I'm really fighting this. Don't be so mesmerized by this kind of "picture", it's a double edged sword. Plenty of guys find one decent girl and are happy to have it, marry, etc... BUT when you can have plenty - it becomes difficult to settle for one, even when she's very nice in many ways, but then you don't want to loose her, the guilt appears (if you are not a sociopath), but you still want to fuck these other filthy whores and you know you could do it on a whim. Honestly, if I'd create a dating profile now, I can bet good money I'd have at least three new potential fucks (no less than 7.5/10. Like - good ass, but no boobs, or very nice face, but a so so ass and average boobs) by the end of a month. It fucks with your mind.
 When you have a "nice girl", you want a perverted bitch, when you have that bitch, you want a nice girl. It's never ending.

[CalvinH]

This goddamn thread better have some resolution

 

[Donny]

Give her Beaver a good licking..she will forgive you 

[polychronopolous]

Give her Beaver a good licking..she will forgive you 

haha, Classy as always Donny 

[Donny]

haha, Classy as always Donny 

itīs true..i have a tongue like a Lizard 

[polychronopolous]

itīs true..i have a tongue like a Lizard 

 

[Tapeworm]

just gotta keep up the lie now. meet her see what happens, she may rumble you and not want to see you again. she may rumble you and think fk it if she likes you anyway. she may not rumble(depending how you look for your age).

When you're a Jet you're a Jet all the way!

[Yamcha]

[Disco187]

Tell it once you're fed up with her

ahhaahahahahahah!


I am presently in the same situation, i got a 27 year old girl and she thinks im 34 im actually 37.  but honestly it was a old profile from match.com that i just had from a few years ago that i just paid the fee posted it up and didnt change the age (did not change on purpose).

Im gonna wait till i rope her in a little bit more, then just lay it on her when im in the mood but im am keeping it short and simple. going to try not to explain myself. but i have lied once before and it came out once where i had to show my drivers liscence for something. she was pissed but it was for a day or to.

[Disco187]

I can only speak for myself, but being tall, having an athletic build and somewhat decent face (thanks my father for a good jawline and generally "lean" facial features) pretty much opens the door in most cases, next is personality. I used to just create accounts on various dating websites, map out girls who are close to my location or in a radius of a few hours drive and get it going. Not every time it turned out to sex, sometimes I was not liked, sometimes I did not like, but yeah.. many times it was a great fun, tbh I barely can keep myself still now that I'm in a ltr, the memories and "rush" (of going to meet a new girl) just keeps comming and knowing that Id be killin it even more now (because I have even more experience, confidence and generally look better) doesn't help, I'm really fighting this. Don't be so mesmerized by this kind of "picture", it's a double edged sword. Plenty of guys find one decent girl and are happy to have it, marry, etc... BUT when you can have plenty - it becomes difficult to settle for one, even when she's very nice in many ways, but then you don't want to loose her, the guilt appears (if you are not a sociopath), but you still want to fuck these other filthy whores and you know you could do it on a whim. Honestly, if I'd create a dating profile now, I can bet good money I'd have at least three new potential fucks (no less than 7.5/10. Like - good ass, but no boobs, or very nice face, but a so so ass and average boobs) by the end of a month. It fucks with your mind.
 When you have a "nice girl", you want a perverted bitch, when you have that bitch, you want a nice girl. It's never ending.

  Dude I sooooooooooooooo hear this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[da_vinci]

ahhaahahahahahah!


I am presently in the same situation, i got a 27 year old girl and she thinks im 34 im actually 37.  but honestly it was a old profile from match.com that i just had from a few years ago that i just paid the fee posted it up and didnt change the age (did not change on purpose).

Im gonna wait till i rope her in a little bit more, then just lay it on her when im in the mood but im am keeping it short and simple. going to try not to explain myself. but i have lied once before and it came out once where i had to show my drivers liscence for something. she was pissed but it was for a day or to.

If I'd break up with current gf I think I'll start lying through my teeth as a best sociopath there are. I mean - I look about 25 (30 currently), it's a lil easier to bed 21yos if they think you're like 27 (but that's not a rule, far from it, plenty like guys with more experience). That's if on e-dating, irl no point to lie from a get go, if she likes you, she likes you regardless, they are a lot more emotional than logical usualy.

[El Diablo Blanco]

Best advice is to fuck her a few more times then dispose of her body.

[Danimal77]

I just told her my real age. At first she said she wasn't happy that I lied to her, but accepts my apology and is okay with it. She may change her mind after telling her parents/sister/girlfriends, etc, but anyway, it's out there now.

[da_vinci]

I just told her my real age. At first she said she wasn't happy that I lied to her, but accepts my apology and is okay with it. She may change her mind after telling her parents/sister/girlfriends, etc, but anyway, it's out there now.

Did you fuck her at least once already? She won't care if she likes you anyway... After 25 age differencies become relative for each side. Best of luck.

[El Diablo Blanco]

Now she thinks she has a get out of jail card.   She'll suck some random cock and think you're even.  Women are vindictive kunts

[Danimal77]

ahhaahahahahahah!


I am presently in the same situation, i got a 27 year old girl and she thinks im 34 im actually 37.  but honestly it was a old profile from match.com that i just had from a few years ago that i just paid the fee posted it up and didnt change the age (did not change on purpose).

Im gonna wait till i rope her in a little bit more, then just lay it on her when im in the mood but im am keeping it short and simple. going to try not to explain myself. but i have lied once before and it came out once where i had to show my drivers liscence for something. she was pissed but it was for a day or to.

I just told her and I lied by 6 years. If she likes you, she'll stick around.

[Primemuscle]

So, I sent this girl a message on okcupid. She was into my vibe. We went on a date. It went better than expected. Just had date #5 yesterday and I'm actually into her. Here's the rump though. She's 25 and in her profile, her age range is 24-32. So, on okcupid you can change your age whenever you want (unlike pof) and so I changed my age from 38 (my actual age) to 32 so that I could make her cutoff. Now that things are going well, WHEN and HOW would you bring it up? I mean shit could seriously backfire on my ass and go down really badly if it's brought up at the wrong time, in a bad context, or in a bad way. Only serious suggestions are welcome.

"Here's the rump...." Was this a Freudian slip? Usually the expression is, 'here's the rub'.

Either you are a young looking 38 or she doesn't care about a fellow's age as much as she indicated. It is always better to be truthful from the get go. Sooner or later, we get caught in our lies anyway.

[240 is Back]

I have some friends in their late 40s with serious humor, game, money.

they'll talk to a hot girl all night and be ready to take her to the beach or somewhere else to get some... and then some friend will throw him under the bus with "at least I'm not 48 like this guy...."

The girl bails.  Every time.  No matter how young he looks, no matter how well he's doing.  They hear he's over 32 and they run.  They go home with some skinny ugly 25 year old dirtbag over the guy they were digging all night.

I've never seen any issue turn off girls more than age.  Gentlemen, lie your asses off about it, and beat the shit out of any friends that violate this rule.