Advice needed on how to deal with a Christian girlfirend, getting serious

[Wiggs]

I'm in a serious relationship with a girl that I love and want a future with. We agree on almost all topics with the exception being Christianity. She has talked about how it means a lot to her and she would want to raise children as Christian, the other day I asked her if she could ever accept it if I was never going to be a Christian and she said "she would have a hard time with that". I kept my mouth shut and told her that I'm still unsure of what to believe and she said she was ok with that. But there's no way in fuck I'll ever have a genuine belief in Christianity!

Almost every other aspect of her is perfect, she is exceptionally intelligent but it's like she's fucking so deluded nothing will get through to her on Christianity and she makes every single bullshit excuse/justification for all the bullshit in the bible and I hate how I feel like 2nd place to God in her life. I even agree with most of the views she derives from Christianity but I just believe in them as an intelligent human being not because there's an invisible man in the sky.

Should I just keep bullshitting her and say I may be a Christian one day or even lie and say I am one? Anyone else been in this fucked up situation? I've had some harsh discussions with her lately where I said I don't know how she can believe it by bring up the parts where it says the world is 6k years old/adam and eve etc. and she almost cried. Then I took my foot off the gas since it would be fucked up to lose her over this dumb shit.

I even asked her "what happens to people who are never exposed to Christianity or the bible in their whole life but the way they lead their life is totally altruistic" she said that the bible says they will burn in hell anyway for never believing and she believes that.
 

Well she's right.  So unless you want to go on hell you best crack open a Bible and start getting serious.

[Pray_4_War]

Move on dude.  You guys are incompatible.  Do it for her sake if not your own.

[drkaje]

Method's gonna end up with a bunch of wigglets quoting scripture, LOL!

[Method101]

Move on dude.  You guys are incompatible.  Do it for her sake if not your own.

But I agree with 95% of the values she has due to Christianity I just reach the conclusions with rationality rather than belief so I feel like if I just pay lip service to the more crazy spiritual elements then it would be fine since every other aspect of the relationship is great.

I bet there's a shit load of guys who just go to Church on a Sunday to keep their wives happy and spend half the time there rolling their eyes and daydreaming.

[Pray_4_War]

But I agree with 95% of the values she has due to Christianity I just reach the conclusions with rationality rather than belief so I feel like if I just pay lip service to the more crazy spiritual elements then it would be fine since every other aspect of the relationship is great.

I bet there's a shit load of guys who just go to Church on a Sunday to keep their wives happy and spend half the time there rolling their eyes and daydreaming.

I hear you brother but...

"This above all: To thine own self be true".

[Core]

If you ask me try to ignore the christianity aspect as much as you can an brush it off. If she respects you and is a real christian, she will love you regardless of your faith or lack thereof. nothing wrong with religion, just humans warp it into something it was never meant to be... the bible is full of analogies and good teachings on how to be a solid human being and live a good life and I have respect for those who follow it in this way. people gotta learn to read between the lines...

that scene in pirates of the caribbean where jack sparrow says the pirates code is more a book of guidelines than rules... thats a bible reference.


give it some time, see what happens and try not to stress too much. maybe she'll come aroudn maybe not... if shes doesnt then end it and you'll have dodged a bullet.

[Core]

But I agree with 95% of the values she has due to Christianity I just reach the conclusions with rationality rather than belief so I feel like if I just pay lip service to the more crazy spiritual elements then it would be fine since every other aspect of the relationship is great.

I bet there's a shit load of guys who just go to Church on a Sunday to keep their wives happy and spend half the time there rolling their eyes and daydreaming.

yeah theres a fuck ton of them. and they also rolll their eyes and do a bunch of other dumb shit they dont care about or hate to make others happy. make yourself happy first and foremost, others come second. its your life dont have any regrets about being a little selfish. youre trying to rationalize staying with her by comparing yourself to others, dont fucking do that. youll end up miserable AND alone when youre little charade comes crashing down in the future.

[SuperTed]

I'm in a serious relationship with a girl that I love and want a future with. We agree on almost all topics with the exception being Christianity. She has talked about how it means a lot to her and she would want to raise children as Christian, the other day I asked her if she could ever accept it if I was never going to be a Christian and she said "she would have a hard time with that". I kept my mouth shut and told her that I'm still unsure of what to believe and she said she was ok with that. But there's no way in fuck I'll ever have a genuine belief in Christianity!

Almost every other aspect of her is perfect, she is exceptionally intelligent but it's like she's fucking so deluded nothing will get through to her on Christianity and she makes every single bullshit excuse/justification for all the bullshit in the bible and I hate how I feel like 2nd place to God in her life. I even agree with most of the views she derives from Christianity but I just believe in them as an intelligent human being not because there's an invisible man in the sky.

Should I just keep bullshitting her and say I may be a Christian one day or even lie and say I am one? Anyone else been in this fucked up situation? I've had some harsh discussions with her lately where I said I don't know how she can believe it by bring up the parts where it says the world is 6k years old/adam and eve etc. and she almost cried. Then I took my foot off the gas since it would be fucked up to lose her over this dumb shit.

I even asked her "what happens to people who are never exposed to Christianity or the bible in their whole life but the way they lead their life is totally altruistic" she said that the bible says they will burn in hell anyway for never believing and she believes that.
 

 

Nobody gives a fuck about you and your imaginary girlfriend.

All we want to know is when are you going to post pics unveiling your "ripped steel physique"?

[Griffith]

Advice, never talk/debate about politics and religion with your girlfriend or wife.

[nzmusclemonster]

Will she suck your cock under a white towel?

[FitnessFrenzy]

method101, I have lost sleep over your current problem and dilemma. After many hours of thought, I have come to the conclusion that our beloved tbombz will likely be able to help you out and guide you into the path of Christianity. 

[drkaje]

method101, I have lost sleep over your current problem and dilemma. After many hours of thought, I have come to the conclusion that our beloved tbombz will likely be able to help you out and guide you into the path of Christianity. 

Our resident proselytizer has been unusually disciplined on this thread.

[drkaje]

But I agree with 95% of the values she has due to Christianity I just reach the conclusions with rationality rather than belief so I feel like if I just pay lip service to the more crazy spiritual elements then it would be fine since every other aspect of the relationship is great.

I bet there's a shit load of guys who just go to Church on a Sunday to keep their wives happy and spend half the time there rolling their eyes and daydreaming.

Friend of a friend married a non-religious Muslim woman. Religion wasn't a huge deal because she was non-practicing. Fast forward to the second kid and there's a Koran on the table and they argue over the kids being raised Muslim.

It's lazy and careless to marry someone with a huge religious difference.

Grow a set of balls and ask "Do you expect me to convert to Christianity?" and "Would any children we had be raised with your beliefs?".

I'm gonna share an old saying from the 'hood, that everyone ignores: Never have sex with anyone you wouldn't want to be the mother of your children.

Asking a bunch of dumbfucks (self included) here is a waste. If your serious with the woman; act like a grownup and ask her.

[rocket]

The only real issue is bringing up the kids to not think for themselves.  That she is a christian isn't that big of a deal if she's already copping the unwed sausage.  Spreading her disease to children is a real kicker.  

You can of course subvert her, but you would likely cause a fair bit of conflict at that point - which seems the likely breaking point of your relationship.

I know a fellow who has a christian wife.  He seems to do okay with it.  He does keep the peace by going to church with them but he most certainly does not believe in that shit.

[d0nny2600]

Murder her and wank into her poop chute

[_aj_]

Nobody gives a fuck about you and your imaginary girlfriend.

All we want to know is when are you going to post pics unveiling your "ripped steel physique"?

Yup

[Yamcha]

Christian = "Like Christ"

Christ was crucified.

Crucify her. HTH.

[evandatp]

I'd ask you to PTPS, but I'm sure you met each other at some organisation for the terminally camera-shy.

[El Diablo Blanco]

Beat the Christianity out of her.

[Agnostic007]

As an agnostic I was always amused at the logic/hypocrisy of the religious women I dated.  You're going to tell me how important god is to you after we just had sex out of wedlock, you've been divorced twice and you drink like a fish... yeah... give me some of that... 

[peroni]

It can never work long term unless one of you changes their views. Be honest with yourself, be honest with her, and move on.

[Agnostic007]

I'm agnostic/Weak Atheist and married to a Catholic. We get along fine. She doesn't bring it up, I don't bring it up. We've had those discussions when we were dating and I knew more about the bible than she did so we just left it alone

[FitnessFrenzy]

I don't encourage believers and unbelievers to marry each other.  

oh brother

[nasht5]

I only read enough to see that she is having sex with you and you are not married together. Lol, don't worry about her being a Christian... she's not.

[Parker]

I'm agnostic/Weak Atheist and married to a Catholic. We get along fine. She doesn't bring it up, I don't bring it up. We've had those discussions when we were dating and I knew more about the bible than she did so we just left it alone

Of course, Divorce is not an option if she is Catholic, correct?

oh brother

It can be a sticky point, as it was voiced here. It can work out. Depends on how devout the people are.