Living in your parent's basement - it isn't bad to start out

[Henda]

My household is multi-generational. -Not sure you can judge how well this works in a week. After living this way off and mostly on for the last 24 years, I can say with assurance that the arrangement has its pluses and minuses. It seems to be the norm in some European countries, like Germany. One difference is houses there are built to accommodate multi-generational sharing in a way that better preserves each generation's independence and privacy. 

Yes i can imagine the first week is still the “honeymoon period” so to speak, my mother ordered my dad to be on his best behaviour while wor lass was there eg toilet door must be shut when he’s using it ect but I imagine annoying habits would surface once comfortable. Wouldn’t be so bad in a larger house where can have own bathroom and own living room and telly ect

[Primemuscle]

Yes i can imagine the first week is still the “honeymoon period” so to speak, my mother ordered my dad to be on his best behaviour while wor lass was there eg toilet door must be shut when he’s using it ect but I imagine annoying habits would surface once comfortable. Wouldn’t be so bad in a larger house where can have own bathroom and own living room and telly ect

An accommodating home is important. This is why my wife and I sized up when our contemporaries were downsizing. We sold our modestly sized, ideal retirement home and bought a place that has twice the square footage with accompanying increases in living rooms, bedrooms and bathrooms. There were times when my late wife and I missed our little Cape Cod senior love-nest. Ultimately, family was everything to us and thus much more important than what size abode we chose.

[SF1900]

Your right mate I’ve seen it many times over with Asian families (Pakistani origin) having worked on their homes often putting in extra bathroom facilities to cope with all the people living there, became friendly through work with a British born Pakistani and his family are multi millionaires yet live together in a big 11 bedroom house he recently moved his wife and kids out into their own 7 bed house that we worked on but only for tax reasons as he plans to sell it (in uk you pay tax on any value you add to your house upon sale unless it is your main home) it seems to work very well for them they are very hard working and disciplined and even have the young kids doing their share of the chores.

It makes sense how they live rather than pushing the kids to move out at earliest opportunity and struggle renting ect I will encourage my kids to stay here as long as they need to ideally only move out once they have secured deposit on their own home ect

America promotes rugged individualism and strongly encourages children to move out as soon as possible.

I could see the benefit of multi-generational families, especially as parents age and need extra assistance. I just don't like to automatically assume that only one way is right. There are likely pros and cons to living at home and moving out on one's own.

Often, you will read about the multi-billionaire getbiggers who walked 86 miles to school with no shoes on, moved out at 13 years old, and owned 8 businesses by the time they were 18 years old. 

[Henda]

America promotes rugged individualism and strongly encourages children to move out as soon as possible.

I could see the benefit of multi-generational families, especially as parents age and need extra assistance. I just don't like to automatically assume that only one way is right. There are likely pros and cons to living at home and moving out on one's own.

Often, you will read about the multi-billionaire getbiggers who walked 86 miles to school with no shoes on, moved out at 13 years old, and owned 8 businesses by the time they were 18 years old. 

Haha isn’t that all of getbig? Haha

I agree not sure which way is entirely best I’ll probably go middle ground, I don’t want to rush my kids out but instead encourage them to use living at home for a few extra years to set them up better in life that if they were out at earliest possible opportunity.

Of course it also depends on the nature of the children if my son was like tbombz leading strange men up to his bedroom for sex while dressed as a bunny rabbit or stealing shit obviously the living arrangement won’t work haha

[Henda]

An accommodating home is important. This is why my wife and I sized up when our contemporaries were downsizing. We sold our modestly sized, ideal retirement home and bought a place that has twice the square footage with accompanying increases in living rooms, bedrooms and bathrooms. There were times when my late wife and I missed our little Cape Cod senior love-nest. Ultimately, family was everything to us and thus much more important than what size abode we chose.

Sounds like you made the right choice and at least the family got to spend more time with your wife than they would have had they lived separately

[IRON CROSS]

In Italy it is perfectly normal that men in 30s live with parents.

Life ain't easy for men.
We can't find rich men to provide us the moment we turn 16yo like girls do.

 

Because mother is the best cook !.

[Hulkotron]

Often, you will read about the multi-billionaire getbiggers who walked 86 miles to school with no shoes on, moved out at 13 years old, and owned 8 businesses by the time they were 18 years old. 

x2 plus 500-lb bench for reps

[tommywishbone]

With a black belt in...

Kung Fu
Karate
Judo

and 85 Golden Gloves fights.  But they didn't want to turn Pro because of tax reasons.

[SF1900]

Haha isn’t that all of getbig? Haha

I agree not sure which way is entirely best I’ll probably go middle ground, I don’t want to rush my kids out but instead encourage them to use living at home for a few extra years to set them up better in life that if they were out at earliest possible opportunity.

Of course it also depends on the nature of the children if my son was like tbombz leading strange men up to his bedroom for sex while dressed as a bunny rabbit or stealing shit obviously the living arrangement won’t work haha

What if your son purchased the actual suit wore by Tbombz?

I mean, that suit may become a National Treasure. You could display it in your home.

[SF1900]

x2 plus 500-lb bench for reps

They were benching 500 pounds by the time they were 17 years old. Increased to 750 on their 21st birthday.

[Rascal full]

They were benching 500 pounds by the time they were 17 years old. Increased to 750 on their 21st birthday.

That's if they ever get to 21. Normally stay 19 for at least 7 years, etc

[SF1900]

That's if they ever get to 21. Normally stay 19 for at least 7 years, etc

Lmao!! 

[pellius]

It's the rule rather than the exception to have multigenerational families in Hawaii. Housing is so expensive and the culture is such that there's no real push for men to get out on their own. It might be the Asian influence but it doesn't have the stigma that it would elsewhere. I mean, if I was 27 years old and still living with my parents I'd be a bit embarrassed in the dating scene. You take a date home and have to walk by your mother as you lead your girl to your room.

I've seen my neighbor kids grow up, have kids of their own and just pack them all in. I really don't know how many people live in that house now but there's a lot of kids. When everyone is home they take two rows of cars parked in their front yard.

It doesn't help that because of the cost of living a single person making over 67,000/year is considered low income.

https://www.hawaiinewsnow.com/2019/05/23/considered-low-income-one-person-honolulu-according-hud/

Believe it or not, if I get home late in the night I see the whole caravan of parked vehicles parked in their front yard. This is during the day and some are out at work and/or school.

[Henda]

What if your son purchased the actual suit wore by Tbombz?

I mean, that suit may become a National Treasure. You could display it in your home.

Haha treasure or not I don’t want that filthy thing in my house unless they fumigate it against lice and hiv

[Go 4 It]

It's the rule rather than the exception to have multigenerational families in Hawaii. Housing is so expensive and the culture is such that there's no real push for men to get out on their own. It might be the Asian influence but it doesn't have the stigma that it would elsewhere. I mean, if I was 27 years old and still living with my parents I'd be a bit embarrassed in the dating scene. You take a date home and have to walk by your mother as you lead your girl to your room.

I've seen my neighbor kids grow up, have kids of their own and just pack them all in. I really don't know how many people live in that house now but there's a lot of kids. When everyone is home they take two rows of cars parked in their front yard.

It doesn't help that because of the cost of living a single person making over 67,000/year is considered low income.

https://www.hawaiinewsnow.com/2019/05/23/considered-low-income-one-person-honolulu-according-hud/

Believe it or not, if I get home late in the night I see the whole caravan of parked vehicles parked in their front yard. This is during the day and some are out at work and/or school.

Yep, in Hawaii it's completely normal. Most children continue living in the same house they grew up in. When I first started training in the gyms there it would be 11-12 in the afternoon, it would be packed full of grown men. I was wondering how it could be so busy at that time and do these guys have jobs?? After becoming friends with a ton of locals they explained to me that most Hawaiians never leave their parents home, it's just too expensive. But it's completely acceptable, the local women know this as well, therefore it's not weird for a grown man to be living with his parents. I gotta say everyone of my Hawaiian friends seemed to be very chill and stress free, they just pitch in for the bills. They enjoy life. Can make a good argument for it, on the flip side working your ass off for a place that you are never even there to enjoy because you're always working.

[The RedMeatKid]

[The True Adonis]

If you are unlucky enough to have children, It is my opinion that by law parents should always give them 50 percent (mandatory) or more of everything they have got through their entire lives.  It would be illogical to not do so.

[Primemuscle]

America promotes rugged individualism and strongly encourages children to move out as soon as possible.

I could see the benefit of multi-generational families, especially as parents age and need extra assistance. I just don't like to automatically assume that only one way is right. There are likely pros and cons to living at home and moving out on one's own.

Often, you will read about the multi-billionaire getbiggers who walked 86 miles to school with no shoes on, moved out at 13 years old, and owned 8 businesses by the time they were 18 years old. 

You read about them for sure. Have you ever met such a person?

[ratherbebig]

that just goes to show hawaiians are some retarded people.

[IRON CROSS]

that just goes to show hawaiians are some retarded people.

RON, ban this jerk.

[ratherbebig]

RON, ban this jerk.

well it's true isnt it? grown men living with their parents on an island out in nowhere.

theyre basically like savages living in a village out in the jungle of africa or south america.

[Humble Narcissist]

If you are unlucky enough to have children, It is my opinion that by law parents should always give them 50 percent (mandatory) or more of everything they have got through their entire lives.  It would be illogical to not do so.

That would certainly cut the birth rate.

[Pet shop boys]

There's a big stigma in America with the "living in Mom's basement " thing

like you haven't accomplish anything in life .....   I know a friend that lives with his mom and yet has 2 houses of his own ..... the basement though is a state of the art cave man ..... so that might give you an ide ahe is not exactly part of the stigma

[B_MyT_2]

America promotes rugged individualism and strongly encourages children to move out as soon as possible.

I could see the benefit of multi-generational families, especially as parents age and need extra assistance. I just don't like to automatically assume that only one way is right. There are likely pros and cons to living at home and moving out on one's own.

Often, you will read about the multi-billionaire getbiggers who walked 86 miles to school with no shoes on, moved out at 13 years old, and owned 8 businesses by the time they were 18 years old. 

I have an aunt and uncle that are just the coolest people in the world to be around, and both of my cousins (male and female) stayed there until they got married at 25-28.   My male cousin wanted to move out earlier, but my uncle told him "don't be stupid.  you work full-time, and are hardly ever hear.  when you are, we hang out and take you and your sister out to dinner most nights of the week.  save your money til you can afford a house"  So he did, and when he moved out he had enough for the whole thing.  My female cousin did the same.   She was a dental assistant so didn't make as much, but her husband lived with his parents too and he had a great job right out of college.  They put down 75%, and there house will be paid in probably the next 5-7 years.

If you have a great family relationship, I see nothing wrong with it.  Wasn't an option for me.  I was gone within a year of HS graduation.

[Humble Narcissist]

There's a big stigma in America with the "living in Mom's basement " thing

like you haven't accomplish anything in life .....   I know a friend that lives with his mom and yet has 2 houses of his own ..... the basement though is a state of the art cave man ..... so that might give you an ide ahe is not exactly part of the stigma

It's just a shaming tactic used to get more young men to get on the treadmill where most will never save anything and remain a worker slave for life.  Women hate it as well because there are less men spending money on them.  Do whatever you and your family agree is best for them and ignore everyone else.