I considered refusing but it would have made the inevitable divorce more stressful.
She (wrongly) assumed the counselor would set me straight and I'd change and want to have kids with her.
I was very secure in my beliefs and had nothing to fear.
We were both counseled separately , then together.
He told her;" There is nothing wrong with Howard. He's quite secure in who he is and what he wants in life.
The problem is , when it comes to children you have opposite feelings and goals."
Fair enough, brother.
I absolve you of my beta claim.
As long as you at least considered refusing, you upheld your right to have your own, unmolested opinion.
As a follow up, I'd like to question your philosophy a little. I often ponder this very issue.
If the girl was absolutely fucking amazing looking - would you have given her a kid?
Reason I say is that I had a fucking amazing gf (I am quite ugly) and she wanted another kid (had one with someone else), but it never got to that because she went back to her previous baby daddy, fearing I think that I didn't want children (without asking me - though I am hardly the type of person who projects family first).
But the truth is that because she was so delicious, I would have.
What about you - for fucking amazing girl, would you have changed your tune?
It sounds horrible, but the hotness of the woman really does come into question on whether I would cop to bringing another human being on board.