How many of you are activly cheating on your partner

[SF1900]

Exactly

Especially don’t understand people who are ok doing it when they have kids, if it all comes out and relationship ends how in the fuck can anyone live knowing they destroyed their kids chance at having a happy family? I’d hate living with that guilt

Yeah, poor kids. Not saying it's okay, but it's obviously a different dynamic if you cheat and don't have kids.

[polychronopolous]

Exactly

Especially don’t understand people who are ok doing it when they have kids, if it all comes out and relationship ends how in the fuck can anyone live knowing they destroyed their kids chance at having a happy family? I’d hate living with that guilt

And you look down at that young man you call a son and you begin to notice the anger and resentment he has towards you for destroying his mother's life.

[HTexan]

So, you obviously know what it feels like to be cheated on, hence not wanting to do it to someone else.

Yes, the other ex's sound very difficult to deal with it. I'd imagine that is not something that would make a strong relationship. People enter into relationship with all of their insecurities, which are often based on childhood experiences--its two unconscious's "bumping up against" each other. It often makes for a messy situation.

People can hide their crazy for a period of time. That is why I never understood why people rush to get married during the honeymoon period of a relationship. It takes time to know if bitches are crazy.

[The Wizard of Truth]

No way

[Slapper]

You folks know that your "little virgins" were banging other dudes before they met you right?

[Dan-O]

You folks know that your "little virgins" were banging other dudes before they met you right?

Classically arrogant, condescending liberal logic from someone who says "Conservatives are to be hung by their balls."  

Do you really think people are that stupid and naive to presume their SO was a perfect little angel before they met?  

[Slapper]

Do you really think people are that stupid and naive to presume their SO was a perfect little angel before they met?  

So what is the difference between the then and the now?

Sometimes a pussy falls right out of the sky unannounced and wanting nothing but to get some ranga-ranga... would you turn it down? Conversely, is she happens to be right under a bag of dicks and does the same... Why is it bad?

I'm not saying it is good, but cheating is not the evil we all make it out to be.

[Slapper]

For the record, I've never cheated on my wife.

[Dan-O]

So what is the difference between the then and the now?

Sometimes a pussy falls right out of the sky unannounced and wanting nothing but to get some ranga-ranga... would you turn it down? Conversely, is she happens to be right under a bag of dicks and does the same... Why is it bad?

I'm not saying it is good, but cheating is not the evil we all make it out to be.

I don't know about other guys but I'm married, I adore my wife and would never betray her like that.

If someone is married and both parties are into having an open relationship, then go for it, I guess.  But honestly I've never heard of extramarital sex strengthening and affirming a marriage relationship (or even a monogamous dating relationship, for that matter).  Typically the opposite effect occurs.

[calfzilla]

Also many racist whites, possibly in this thread, some of their wives/girlfriends are cheating on them with dindus.

[Primemuscle]

Interesting thread.

[HTexan]

Also many racist whites, possibly in this thread, some of their wives/girlfriends are cheating on them with dindus.

Not racist, but the bitch that cheated on me was black, and the other dude was white.

[cephissus]

Exactly

Especially don’t understand people who are ok doing it when they have kids, if it all comes out and relationship ends how in the fuck can anyone live knowing they destroyed their kids chance at having a happy family? I’d hate living with that guilt

Some people create kids to justify their own worthless existence. When they realize their kids are just as worthless (even more, maybe) than they were, they may not feel guilt.

[Primemuscle]

Some people create kids to justify their own worthless existence. When they realize their kids are just as worthless (even more, maybe) than they were, they may not feel guilt.

At what point does a parent realize their kids are worthless and why? I have kids who are now mature adults and they've never been "worthless", quite the opposite.

[rocket]

I'm not saying it is good, but cheating is not the evil we all make it out to be.

Who cares whether it is an evil?

What is negative is the sheer amount of time it will take the person you cheat on, to get over it.

When you factor that into the equation, it seems like a vastly wrong thing to do for such a minor profit in your own pleasure column.

Now, that is based on you wanting to stay with the woman and the woman being good.  If you have a weak / cheap / undesirable relationship - well, that's slightly different.

There are lot of people who lack empathy out there - basically animals, so it's hardly surprising that so many people cheat.

[Griffith]

No.

If I was going to I would first end my current relationship.

People who cheat with married people with children are scumbags. You are hurting a child.

[robcguns]

I don’t cheat and have only once on a gf when I was 20.Very surprised at the amount of getbiggers saying cheating is bad though.Every one I know cheats except me,figured most getbiggers were cheaters.

[XFACTOR]

paying for an escort to provide you with 30 min of safe relaxation is not cheating. your dues are paid. the only thing is you want to save your resources for the kids so this option has to be carefully weighed.
you come home relaxed bringing all the love and more relaxation to your partner. judging from the comments here a lot of people are lying or did not really have a chance to fuck another woman. i got hit many times, even with the promises of 'i love anal' but did not do it. you guys must either look like shit, are very very shy or western man in general has evolved to have empathy more than the balkan boys. my friends regularly hit shit with paying while on bussines or conference travel.

Aside from the escort part I would agree with this.  It's pretty safe to say most of these guys do not get chances to bang beautiful woman.  It's in a mans DNA.  If a beautiful woman approaches you in a flirtatious way while away for work, on an airplane, in a restaurant etc.., if your first instinct is not to put off the same energy you might need to double check your own crotch make sure things are still working.

[Simple Simon]

I don’t cheat and have only once on a gf when I was 20.Very surprised at the amount of getbiggers saying cheating is bad though.Every one I know cheats except me,figured most getbiggers were cheaters.

most getbiggers are single and living at home with mom...

[robcguns]

most getbiggers are single and living at home with mom...

Yes I forgot about that.hahaha.

[Al Doggity]

So what is the difference between the then and the now?

Sometimes a pussy falls right out of the sky unannounced and wanting nothing but to get some ranga-ranga... would you turn it down? Conversely, is she happens to be right under a bag of dicks and does the same... Why is it bad?

I'm not saying it is good, but cheating is not the evil we all make it out to be.

  This is why it was so easy for me to disregard the drivel you posted in the thread I started on this topic as low-effort trolling.

http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=628930.25

I, for one, am a "marriage warrior," and value the institution much more than your cheating ass.

I couldn't forget that marriage warrior line. One of the all-time most ridiculous posts I've read on here.   
Obviously, honoring your vows is something anyone who makes them should strive for, but cheating happens. It's fair to regard cheaters as scumbags if that's where you stand, but it's not some abnormal, unexplainable evil.   

[Thespritz0]

When I was in the military, in the days WITHOUT cell phones and people constantly texting & being able to track each other I actually had 4 different girlfriends, in 4 different cities... ( 1)Ottawa, Ontario CANADA  2) Beausejour, Manitoba CANADA  3) Baden-Baden, GERMANY  4)  London, ENGLAND
Nobody knew anything except me, and I was always acting like the "good innocent guy" back then!

[residue]

So what is the difference between the then and the now?

Sometimes a pussy falls right out of the sky unannounced and wanting nothing but to get some ranga-ranga... would you turn it down? Conversely, is she happens to be right under a bag of dicks and does the same... Why is it bad?

I'm not saying it is good, but cheating is not the evil we all make it out to be.

deception, I'm not bothered by the sex, like I've said we're poly, the lying is the issue

[Al Doggity]

I've never cheated.

How did you cheat?

Have you ever been in an adult relationship? If so, that is shocking news to me. 

[Grape Ape]

Have you ever been in an adult relationship? If so, that is shocking news to me.  

?

When you procure quality beef like this, quality ass always follows.