A lot of hate towards women in this thread, smh
We don't hate women, we hate how they are wired and the cost of learning this. To say there are no good women out there is not true and to say that all relationships end because of how women are wired isn't either. You may meet someone whom you have a huge bond with and it may last, it's probably a lottery though - because it doesn't matter how good it starts, the ravages of time (and the potential relationships that will be presented her, throughout this time) will turn it into a complete coin toss.
I had to trade quite a few years of torment to get myself to the point where I genuinely did not yearn for companionship and I've never felt better about it. I actually occasionally hang out with my previous tormentor (and will do on NYE). I was stunned how the desire to be with her was completely ripped out of me earlier on this year, when I met up with her, for the first time in over five years. I used to feel sheer panic (that I kept to myself of course, it's embarrassing, after all) at the absence of the white picket future between us - and the thought of not being in her life and her marrying some other guy or being just "out there", meanwhile, she was just living her life, probably thinking of me once in a while but still having everything she wanted be attended to. Seeing her with a new (second) baby, a different father (and very swiftly absentee, once she got pregnant), it just completely cured me.
And to be fair to her, she is now a single mother of 2 and we talk about women being a certain way, kids are just the fucking worst when it comes to that. Who here has ever told their parents they are grateful for being brought up? Nobody appreciates that shit. Meanwhile, most parents give so much life to serve their spawn. Her life exists to serve her new child and I can feel no anger towards her about her nature, because she's just as much of a chump as I am.
I'm surprised there aren't more men who can go it alone. Women, as well, to be honest - they can get used to it and start to love it, too.
This is the first christmas in at least five years where I will not be white knuckling it through, yearning wayyy more for the woman that I missed out on. It's going to be great. As I say, the cost of getting to this point was immense, but I'm here now.
