Yo, thats a big part of it, we just dont have a huge attraction to one another anymore. I think im way more physical as far as touching her or rubbing her shoulders and holding her hand. We went through some rough shit a few years ago when she was in a deep depression ( we found out it was caused by her birth control, only took 5 doctors to figure that out), and she was on a bunch of meds and really didn't want to do anything let alone get crazy with me and that went on for almost 3 years. So I guess I hold that over her even though I dont think I do, it must be in the back of my mind.
My job has me on the road a lot and she gets mad at me over it. I try and do things like a clean up the house or do some laundry for her if I'm working out of the house and I try to make sure I have decent clothes on and I'm showered and looking/smelling nice when she comes home( She does the same for me when I'm on my way home). Nothing seems to wow her. She wanted a new car I got her one and she was like "great a new car" she wanted some jewelery when I got it for her she was like " wow thanks it great". She is just really even tempered and nothing seems to get much of a reaction from her. I think maybe its just me, maybe I just dont want to be married anymore?
Bro, there might be the problem too. I was working 14 hr days, 6 days a week and started noticing that there was nothing I could do to keep her happy. I finally quit and got a lower paying job, with less hours of course, and the resentment she felt went away. Since leaving that job, our relationship has become more an interest in each others daily activities. Although currently now, I stay home to take care of our 2 year old daughter, I still take the time to have fun with her too. Lol, one of the 1st things that got us more involved with each other was when we started taking Ballroom Dancing. Did it for 1 year, till we moved away from the studio, but we would spontaneously hum a song and just dance around the house and laugh every so often! Keep searching bro and don't give up. Eventually you might find out what the deal.