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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
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unabomber was happy being alone too so this aint nothing new.
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It's his life and I applaud him for doing what makes him happy. Screw the conventional "family life" that seems to be expected. There might come a time where he feels lonely, or regret, however he always has the opportunity to settle down and meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Smart man
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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
I never understood that argument.
Your friend seems like a responsible dude who takes care of himself and has his shit together.
There is nothing suggesting that he would not be able to find a great wife/steady girlfriend in his 60's or 70's if he decided to go that route.
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I see the media really pushes the "you have nothing nothing if you don't have love" kind of shit. This just screams to me consumerism. Pro-create, thus needing to spend more money, thus holding you back from things you actually want to do for yourself. His friends strike me as sheep to the "Live, Laugh, Love" variety. They are also all in relationships or married/kids, so I guess they can just be jealous of him.
At times life is lonely, but then you just meet someone new. People are everywhere. Expand your friend zone and you don't need to keep relying on the same people to try and make happiness.
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no need to die alone, when youre ready just hit the gym at peak hour, load up the bar benching and let it go
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I'm accepting more and more it's how I am and will probably remain. EVERYONE I talk to in relationships are not happy.
Just comes down to men wanting sex and women seeking to get as much as they can for the sex they give out.
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Hilarious enough I was just this second watching Game of Thrones and one of those army soldiers with no dick went to a whore house and all he does is pay to have her lay with him and rub his back. HAHA that's like the prime reason you have a steady girlfriend. For when you are down in the dumps to "mother you up" in a way and tell you things will be alright. LOL it's just a whore away for that haha
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I'm accepting more and more it's how I am and will probably remain. EVERYONE I talk to in relationships are not happy.
Just comes down to men wanting sex and women seeking to get as much as they can for the sex they give out.
x2.
In my experience women when they get deep in relationships think that just because they give you some ass they can then boss you around and let themselves go. They stop being sexy, they stop being nice because they feel they put enough time in to not have to impress you.
Imagine a life of "honeymoon" periods. ;D
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It's his life and I applaud him for doing what makes him happy. Screw the conventional "family life" that seems to be expected. There might come a time where he feels lonely, or regret, however he always has the opportunity to settle down and meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Smart man
Excellent post
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Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didnt have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them. Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they'd interact with others for the rest of their life. They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exageratly for attention, and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.
Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world. They're insecure because they're girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom. They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesn't cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They're not as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they don't know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc). They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attempting to cure their insecurity, but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.
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Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy ::)
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x2.
In my experience women when they get deep in relationships think that just because they give you some ass they can then boss you around and let themselves go. They stop being sexy, they stop being nice because they feel they put enough time in to not have to impress you.
Imagine a life of "honeymoon" periods. ;D
Times a fuckiN' million on the "letting themselves go" Hell, I was on a date with a girl (first date) we go back to her place, she takes out contact right away to put on horrid lookin' glasses, changes clothes. Yeah... Took her a few hours to begin the whole downgrade. That was all for that.
All girls wanna do is go out and "be everywhere and do everything". Fuck that shit, after training and stuff, just wanna rest, smoke weed an have sex. Does not take much to keep me happy. Very little, needing people less and less.
I mean of course women wanna go out and do shit all the time. They never gotta pay for shit. The second you say "yes" to even a few drinks, cost to get in, coat check, $10 (min) drinks it's already over $60. Well guess what? I can text some chick have her meet me in my car and blow me for $60, lol! Never used the service but know of it, lol...
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its not like you got a choice, why would anyone wanna be with any of you who spend most your time jerking off to porn or worshipping men in thongs
its not like youre a good catch
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I'm not judging. Surely, married people are more jealous of him, than he is of married people. Especially if they constantly are bringing up the old "aren't you getting settled down soon?" discussion that only people in serious relationships do ;D
The one thing he may regret, however, is leaving the kids part. But if he doesn't. it's all good.
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its not like you got a choice, why would anyone wanna be with any of you who spend most your time jerking off to porn or worshipping men in thongs
its not like youre a good catch
LOL!!!
nah, they just don't wanna be with me, not the porn watching, lol...
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unabomber was happy being alone too so this aint nothing new.
true that. he could jerk off all day and not wear pants.
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Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy ::)
how do you read the OP and come away with the exact opposite of the gist? Hilarious. ;D dyslexic?
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just to make sure i suggest getting married etc then if its not for you you can always run for the woods
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I'm not judging. Surely, married people are more jealous of him, than he is of married people. Especially if they constantly are bringing up the old "aren't you getting settled down soon?" discussion that only people in serious relationships do ;D
The one thing he may regret, however, is leaving the kids part. But if he doesn't. it's all good.
He mentioned they were her kids from former relationships. So 2 different baby daddies. Was thinking when he told me this and didn't touch up on why he left them that there in was the problem. I've dated girls with kids and they will always be the ones to use them against you like "so and so will miss you and they are crying for you every night." You go over there cuz you feel guilty and 2 days later remember why you left in the first place. lol
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Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy ::)
It's not his kids, it's HER kids. Guy was probably a father figure of some sort to them.
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A little weird to be living with his parents but seems to have a great life. Some people are messed up, they think you can't be happy unless you have a fat wife and snot nosed little fucking bratty kids. The reality is the opposite is true.
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With the advent of social media and dating sites it's almost impossible to be alone these days. I know a guy who is 53, divorced and single. Goes on tons of dates, has sex, goes out socially with a group of guys and girls he met on a social media site. This is not the 1950s. If you can't find a gf/bf or friend or companions online, then there is something wrong with you.
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With the advent of social media and dating sites it's almost impossible to be alone these days. I know a guy who is 53, divorced and single. Goes on tons of dates, has sex, goes out socially with a group of guys and girls he met on a social media site. This is not the 1950s. If you can't find a gf/bf or friend or companions online, then there is something wrong with you.
I've noticed this. Even local libraries have Books & Booze clubs where you meet up once a month to discuss the book you read over drinks. How can someone not be social in this day? This is what the internet was invented for. Easy access to pussy.
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I've noticed this. Even local libraries have Books & Booze clubs where you meet up once a month to discuss the book you read over drinks. How can someone not be social in this day? This is what the internet was invented for. Easy access to pussy.
Besides just sex, just meeting people. If you're single, in good shape, mentally and physically, you should have no problem being social with others.
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It's his life. If he's happy and his parents are happy with the arrangement, that's all that matters. Personally, I wouldn't want to do it - I'd much rather even rent a small apartment for a few hundred bucks a month just to have my privacy.
But with people living longer and longer, it's not uncommon for middle aged children to be taking care of their older parents and keeping a close eye on them by either moving back in with the parents or having the parents move into the children's homes. Nursing homes can be very costly and not the best place for many seniors to be.
But I've told my sister on more than one occasion that she would be the one who would have to take our mother into her house rather than me if my mother ever needed someone to look after her.
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I have some friends like that, some divorced, some "single", tho' they are filthy rich too. I have money, but not on that level. I can only say that not much matter when you have lots of money. Partying with them is something that blew me away the first few times. We went on a casual night out (or so I thought) and we ended up in a luxury hotel with four HOT girls we fukkin just met in one fast meals place before we even hit the club/bar scene, what happened next was crazy. Same stuff happened other times I went out with them, it was kind of an eye opener in some sense, hard to explain, but if you make good money, look decent and don't abuse alcohol/drugs - being married below age 30 is insanity, and later on (at least it seems so from what we speak) you just don't accept the idea of one female for the rest of your life. It may be a kid with a nice female, but the lifestyle stays different, on your own terms, completely other world.
Make good money, put all your effort into that, many dillemmas in life won't bother you, trust me.
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I'm accepting more and more it's how I am and will probably remain. EVERYONE I talk to in relationships are not happy.
Just comes down to men wanting sex and women seeking to get as much as they can for the sex they give out.
Exactly! You start to see it for what it really is. Most realize it when it's all said and done and life has fucked them over in many ways.
Most people expect they will be "happy" when in relathionship/marriage/etc... I've been in ltrs for the last ten years or so, but never ever I expected it will bring me happiness and the more I live, the less I believe in that shit, the more cynical I become towards that, it just amazes me how many people are completely clueless to that and most of them will hit a wall certainly, it may be five, ten or fifteen years from now, but it seems it's almost inevitable and everything shatters to pieces one day. Maybe... because it was an illusion to begin with?
One thing for sure - the more money I earn, the happier I become. A good contract/outcome of a project make me smile from morning till evening, because I know that not much bothers me in life, when some confused people ask me why I don't ever drink at parties, I just say "Because I pretty much don't have any issues in life..so, I'm pretty damn happy already, you know.".
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He we go again............ ::)
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unabomber was happy being alone too so this aint nothing new.
;D ;D ;D
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With the advent of social media and dating sites it's almost impossible to be alone these days. I know a guy who is 53, divorced and single. Goes on tons of dates, has sex, goes out socially with a group of guys and girls he met on a social media site. This is not the 1950s. If you can't find a gf/bf or friend or companions online, then there is something wrong with you.
With all that, you'll still be alone in the end ,life isn't just about sex ,dates , party................... ......... the key is to find the right person and build a worthwhile relationship ,someone who you can trust , someone that if shit hits the fan and things go bad, that person will be right there next to you until the end.
PS:You don't have to get married to be happy
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With all that, you'll still be alone in the end ,life isn't just about sex ,dates , party................... ......... the key is to find the right person and build a worthwhile relationship ,someone who you can trust , someone that if shit hits the fan and things go bad, that person will be right there next to you until the end.
PS:You don't have to get married to be happy
The key is to earn lots of money. You can't trust people fully, but you can trust people when they are being paid well.
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The key is to earn lots of money. You can't trust people fully, but you can trust people when they are being paid well.
I agree , vain bimbos and golddigging whores for the win.
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The key is to earn lots of money. You can't trust people fully, but you can trust people when they are being paid well.
pretty damn wise!!!
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no need to die alone, when youre ready just hit the gym at peak hour, load up the bar benching and let it go
hahahaha
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To each his own. It is all good if it is what you want. Some folks enjoy the single life, others do not. Looking back on over 50 great years of marriage to the same woman, I have no regrets whatsoever. I'd do it all over again.
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http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married (http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married)
I don't want kids and I'm asexual, but even if I weren't, I see no point in marrying a product of 60 years of radical Feminism and losing at least 50% of my Netflix stock money and other assets when she wakes up one morning and decides she's bored.
MGTOW for life.
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http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married (http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married)
I don't want kids and I'm asexual, but even if I weren't, I see no point in marrying a product of 60 years of radical Feminism and losing at least 50% of my Netflix stock money and other assets when she wakes up one morning and decides she's bored.
MGTOW for life.
Were you always asexual?
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The internet is a double-edged sword here.
- On the plus side it has bestowed men with access to historically unprecedented amounts of poon.
- On the minus side it has made every 6/10 skank think she's Raquel Welch, with "standards" to match.
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Were you always asexual?
Pretty much. I could probably count the number of times where I was willing to pursue a woman for sex on the fingers on one of Mickey Mouse's hands. And when your mind isn't constantly clouded by lust like it is with most guys, you can see things like Western marriage for the sham that it's become.
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The internet is a double-edged sword here.
- On the plus side it has bestowed men with access to historically unprecedented amounts of poon.
- On the minus side it has made every 6/10 skank think she's Raquel Welch, with "standards" to match.
^ Exactly
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Pretty much. I could probably count the number of times where I was willing to pursue a woman for sex on the fingers on one of Mickey Mouse's hands. And when your mind isn't constantly clouded by lust like it is with most guys, you can see things like Western marriage for the sham that it's become.
I'm the same, unless its on a plate for me I really can't be bothered, even having to text a woman a few times seems like too much effort for a few minutes of friction on the Dick.Rather just beat one off then go on about my day.
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I'm the same, unless its on a plate for me I really can't be bothered, even having to text a woman a few times seems like too much effort for a few minutes of friction on the Dick.Rather just beat one off then go on about my day.
LOL!
SAme here, the second I come, the want for a woman is gone.
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Pretty much. I could probably count the number of times where I was willing to pursue a woman for sex on the fingers on one of Mickey Mouse's hands. And when your mind isn't constantly clouded by lust like it is with most guys, you can see things like Western marriage for the sham that it's become.
What about a thick veiny cock? ::)
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Hmmm.....i have a good friend who spent 8 years with a girl then got married. He is the kind of guy who wants to be the top alpha male and wants it all. I hadn't seen him for a few months i ran into a mutual friend who said they were separated for months now and it didn't look good. She is a nice enough girl but too insecure and he still wants to go out and have big nights.
Marriage is bullshit. It should only be for Beta males.
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Marriage is bullshit. It should only be for Beta males.
It is. Someone wrote a good thought some time ago here: marriage is for betas. Alphas fuck young stupid girls their whole life then choose one before getting too old and have a kid or two to continue his genes..
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It is. Someone wrote a good thought some time ago here: marriage is for betas. Alphas fuck young stupid girls their whole life then choose one before getting too old and have a kid or two to continue his genes..
When is too old though in modern society?Keep your hair, keep lean, build muscle, keep active on social media with whatever age you are, keep earning,when does this end in today's world?
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Every single creature on Earth dies alone...There's no way around it. You come in the world alone and you die alone...
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Every single creature on Earth dies alone...There's no way around it. You come in the world alone and you die alone...
May actually be harder when you die around family, watching them cry, knowing your spouse if still alive has to continue without you.
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http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married (http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara-hollingsworth/bachelor-nation-70-men-aged-20-34-are-not-married)
I don't want kids and I'm asexual, but even if I weren't, I see no point in marrying a product of 60 years of radical Feminism and losing at least 50% of my Netflix stock money and other assets when she wakes up one morning and decides she's bored.
MGTOW for life.
THIS. Although skip the asexual part. I am single, early forties, no kids and have never been happier. I see relationships as self induced torture, I actually avoid any form of relationship like the plague. I live in my own little two bedroom house with my cat in a nice suburb near the hills. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. I have nobody playing the critic, granting me permission for things I want to do and I am fully independent. I prepare my own food, wash/iron my own clothes, clean my own house etc etc.
Modern day feminism has ruined women, I now look at western women and hear them talk and I feel nauseous, they truly are off-putting. With their overt falseness from fake nails, fake hair, fake hair color, fake boobs, fake tan etc etc. Women today are so fake, all trying to constantly compete with one another on a superficial level and never taking time to develop actual character. Yep, fuck today's women, I am happy to go my own way.
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When is too old though in modern society?Keep your hair, keep lean, build muscle, keep active on social media with whatever age you are, keep earning,when does this end in today's world?
What I tried to say - before it's too difficult to get it up and make a baby for some of these young dumb females.
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THIS. Although skip the asexual part. I am single, early forties, no kids and have never been happier. I see relationships as self induced torture, I actually avoid any form of relationship like the plague. I live in my own little two bedroom house with my cat in a nice suburb near the hills. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. I have nobody playing the critic, granting me permission for things I want to do and I am fully independent. I prepare my own food, wash/iron my own clothes, clean my own house etc etc.
Modern day feminism has ruined women, I now look at western women and hear them talk and I feel nauseous, they truly are off-putting. With their overt falseness from fake nails, fake hair, fake hair color, fake boobs, fake tan etc etc. Women today are so fake, all trying to constantly compete with one another on a superficial level and never taking time to develop actual character. Yep, fuck today's women, I am happy to go my own way.
Well done. What is left to worry about is how to earn money, and when you have plenty of time for that it's not that difficult (and actually may be a lot of fun).
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THIS. Although skip the asexual part. I am single, early forties, no kids and have never been happier. I see relationships as self induced torture, I actually avoid any form of relationship like the plague. I live in my own little two bedroom house with my cat in a nice suburb near the hills. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. I have nobody playing the critic, granting me permission for things I want to do and I am fully independent. I prepare my own food, wash/iron my own clothes, clean my own house etc etc.
Modern day feminism has ruined women, I now look at western women and hear them talk and I feel nauseous, they truly are off-putting. With their overt falseness from fake nails, fake hair, fake hair color, fake boobs, fake tan etc etc. Women today are so fake, all trying to constantly compete with one another on a superficial level and never taking time to develop actual character. Yep, fuck today's women, I am happy to go my own way.
Thats is a horrible generalization of "western women". In fact, ive never dated (or even thought about dating) a woman with any of thos "fake" features...expect maybe the fake nails.
You sound bitter....what happened?
Im sure if you have a "type" of woman you like...shes out there.
I do agree though, its nice to be single, self aware, un critisized and free to do what the fuck ever. And there are a lot of shitting woman in Western culture. But whatever youre in to, its 2015....theres a way to find it.
Im sure theres a woman out there whos hot, will never talk back, natural beauty that loves sucking dick all day!
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Every single creature on Earth dies alone...There's no way around it. You come in the world alone and you die alone...
No mail 4 u, Roberta Sparrow.
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With all that, you'll still be alone in the end ,life isn't just about sex ,dates , party................... ......... the key is to find the right person and build a worthwhile relationship ,someone who you can trust , someone that if shit hits the fan and things go bad, that person will be right there next to you until the end.
PS:You don't have to get married to be happy
Of course. You can have a lifelong partner without being married.
Over 50% of marriages also end in divorce. Furthermore, you can be married, and still be alone and still die alone, while your spouse is cashing in your life insurance. There is no guarantees that someone single or married will die more or less alone than another. Perhaps 50 years ago, but not so much today.
Meh, I just figure Im along for the ride.
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Of course. You can have a lifelong partner without being married.
Over 50% of marriages also end in divorce. Furthermore, you can be married, and still be alone and still die alone, while your spouse is cashing in your life insurance. There is no guarantees that someone single or married will die more or less alone than another. Perhaps 50 years ago, but not so much today.
Meh, I just figure Im along for the ride.
Would you marry Queen Vissy??
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Thats is a horrible generalization of "western women". In fact, ive never dated (or even thought about dating) a woman with any of thos "fake" features...expect maybe the fake nails.
You sound bitter....what happened?
Im sure if you have a "type" of woman you like...shes out there.
I do agree though, its nice to be single, self aware, un critisized and free to do what the fuck ever. And there are a lot of shitting woman in Western culture. But whatever youre in to, its 2015....theres a way to find it.
Im sure theres a woman out there whos hot, will never talk back, natural beauty that loves sucking dick all day!
Good women are the minority, and they get snapped up early on. If like me you made poor choices in women when younger you miss the opportunity to snag one of the keepers. Any single women my age have vaginas that are a little to used for my liking. Add in a host of baggage, a tribe of bastard kids and a middle aged, well neglected body and generally a bad attitude, well any man that is seeking something like that in his middle years is welcome to it, me I prefer to do my own thing.
What's the old saying Men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love, well I have had my fill of sex and have gotten past the overwhelming lustful years of my youth, and see sex as just one of the many life options to bring you pleasure. Realistically, no matter how old a man gets, he always wants to fuck a hot young chick, so even the men who manage to stay married face a sex life that slowly degrades with their woman's age and sexual attractiveness. Any man who needs the constant companionship of a woman in his middle years is basically struggling to shake some type of mother complex if you ask me. Personally, I believe mature men prefer their own company or that of a close male friend (no homo) as opposed to a shallow superficial women. I may be just different, but I actually prefer being single.
Marriage is really suited to women, not to men. Women have worked hard in convincing men that marriage is what they want, when in fact it's what women really want. If a man was honest he would admit he would prefer some type of law of the jungle scenario, where he fucked a female a few times, impregnated her and then moved on to the next available female remaining forever on the move fucking countless females. I often believe humans become civilized because of female influences, and because BETA males are the majority they agreed to it as a strategy to outmaneuver the ALPHAS.
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"I believe mature men prefer their own company or that of a close male friend (no homo)"
;D
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;D
I am reminded of a Simpsons episode, I couldn't find a youtube clip of it, but it was the episode "Homer's phobia" and Marge had made a gay male friend and Homer didn't realize her new friend was gay. Marge tries to hint to Homer that he is gay.
Marge: Homer, didn't John seem a little "festive" to you?
Homer: Couldn't agree more, happy as a clam.
Marge: He prefers the company of men!
Homer: Who doesn't?
Marge: Homer, listen carefully. John is a Ho - mo...
Homer: Right.
Marge: ...Sexual.
Homer: AAAAHHH!
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Good women are the minority, and they get snapped up early on. If like me you made poor choices in women when younger you miss the opportunity to snag one of the keepers. Any single women my age have vaginas that are a little to used for my liking. Add in a host of baggage, a tribe of bastard kids and a middle aged, well neglected body and generally a bad attitude, well any man that is seeking something like that in his middle years is welcome to it, me I prefer to do my own thing.
What's the old saying Men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love, well I have had my fill of sex and have gotten past the overwhelming lustful years of my youth, and see sex as just one of the many life options to bring you pleasure. Realistically, no matter how old a man gets, he always wants to fuck a hot young chick, so even the men who manage to stay married face a sex life that slowly degrades with their woman's age and sexual attractiveness. Any man who needs the constant companionship of a woman in his middle years is basically struggling to shake some type of mother complex if you ask me. Personally, I believe mature men prefer their own company or that of a close male friend (no homo) as opposed to a shallow superficial women. I may be just different, but I actually prefer being single.
Marriage is really suited to women, not to men. Women have worked hard in convincing men that marriage is what they want, when in fact it's what women really want. If a man was honest he would admit he would prefer some type of law of the jungle scenario, where he fucked a female a few times, impregnated her and then moved on to the next available female remaining forever on the move fucking countless females. I often believe humans become civilized because of female influences, and because BETA males are the majority they agreed to it as a strategy to outmaneuver the ALPHAS.
There are many examples supporting what you believe. Fortunately there are also many examples that support a much more positive view of relationships and marriage. It is also common for people to fulfill their own prophesies, meaning if you believe something is a certain way, you are more likely to prove yourself right than wrong.
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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
Sounds amazing. If I were alone I'd be so much more focused on training and myself instead of putting up with bullshit everyday. However, I wouldn't live with my parents. I'd get a sweet house with all the toys imagineable and just train, work hard, read and play games. I'm a massive electronics and DIY fan so between messing around with games and electronics, I'd build shit and sell it.
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There are many examples supporting what you believe. Fortunately there are also many examples that support a much more positive view of relationships and marriage. It is also common for people to fulfill their own prophesies, meaning if you believe something is a certain way, you are more likely to prove yourself right than wrong.
There are some good women out there, but they are very far and few between.
Simple observation of married males out there will tell you that marriage is a raw deal for men.
For me, MGTOW is the only way to go. My personal and financial freedom is much more valuable to me than anything else.
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I'm 29 and also never been in a long term relationship. Longest I lasted was 5 months and I was cheating on her left and right, which made me realize I didn't belong in a relationship. I always did a good job getting poon but as soon as I used the internet to my advantage (pof/tinder/etc), it has become ridiculous. Slept with close to 150 females in my life. My relationship standards are extremely high compared to chicks I'll bang. If a girl is average, I'd hit it. A girl has to be amazingly hot with a great personality for me to date. That doesn't happen often at all though. I live by myself and am fine if I don't end up getting married. I definitely do not want kids. It would be cool to have a wedding and invite all my friends but that's a terrible reason to get married.
The guy in the op seems cool. I would imagine he will move out of there shortly and continue doing all the other things he does. It's hard to bring a chick back to your parents place at that age.
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I'm 29 and also never been in a long term relationship. Longest I lasted was 5 months and I was cheating on her left and right, which made me realize I didn't belong in a relationship. I always did a good job getting poon but as soon as I used the internet to my advantage (pof/tinder/etc), it has become ridiculous. Slept with close to 150 females in my life. My relationship standards are extremely high compared to chicks I'll bang. If a girl is average, I'd hit it. A girl has to be amazingly hot with a great personality for me to date. That doesn't happen often at all though. I live by myself and am fine if I don't end up getting married. I definitely do not want kids. It would be cool to have a wedding and invite all my friends but that's a terrible reason to get married.
The guy in the op seems cool. I would imagine he will move out of there shortly and continue doing all the other things he does. It's hard to bring a chick back to your parents place at that age.
I should of pointed out that he takes girls out to hotels for weekends or goes to their place. I imagine he takes some new girl out for a weekend at a hotel just fucking the shit out of her and then when she feels he's mr. right (now) he reminds them he isn't going to commit and they either accept that or he parts ways. He has multiple cell phones because of his job. lol its pretty funny actually. He holds all the cards and the women have zero power.
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Nice to see most getbiggers are steeped in the red pill philosophy ;D
Marriage is a raw ass deal for men. Who in their right mind would get in airplane if they knew that plane had a 50% chance of crashing. I'm baffled that men keep getting married knowing the odds. ???
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I'm going to sound a right boring c.unt, but until you have a family you don't know the joy kids bring you, half the time it is hell, the other half puts all the other shit you used to live for into perspective
Being married with kids is dull compared with the single life, but...its a nice feeling being settled and being the man of your house, I wouldn't swap it to go back chasing fanny again.. Is it being a beta that your the breadwinner, having everything done for you, or is it more alpha being over 30 taking selfies to put on dating sites?
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Guy is a loser , 30+ years old living with his parents, his wife left him , his kid hates him , I bet he's really happy ::)
That's surprising to hear from liberal from you.
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Nice to see most getbiggers are steeped in the red pill philosophy ;D
Marriage is a raw ass deal for men. Who in their right mind would get in airplane if they knew that plane had a 50% chance of crashing. I'm baffled that men keep getting married knowing the odds. ???
Do you really believe comparing airplane travel to relationships and marriage is valid? While I get what you're saying about the odds of a successful marriage, one probably shouldn't get married if they are that convinced it will eventually fail.
A long time ago, I attended a wedding where the bride actually commented that if it didn't work out, there were plenty of other men who were marriage material. The groom should have bailed on the marriage right then. Fortunately, a lot of people still honestly believe marriage is forever.
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Do you really believe comparing airplane travel to relationships and marriage is valid? While I get what you're saying about the odds of a successful marriage, one probably shouldn't get married if they are that convinced it will eventually fail.
A long time ago, I attended a wedding where the bride actually commented that if it didn't work out, there were plenty of other men who were marriage material. The groom should have bailed on the marriage right then. Fortunately, a lot of people still honestly believe marriage is forever.
That woman doesn't believe, obviously.
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With all that, you'll still be alone in the end ,life isn't just about sex ,dates , party................... ......... the key is to find the right person and build a worthwhile relationship ,someone who you can trust , someone that if shit hits the fan and things go bad, that person will be right there next to you until the end.
PS:You don't have to get married to be happy
I am in complete agreement with you that one of the most rewarding things a person can do is to find that special person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. You are also right that there is a good chance you will be alone when you die, or if in a relationship, one of you will be alone after the person you love passes.
Different things help make people happy. There are no guarantees in life. We do what we can and hope for the best outcome. If that doesn't happen and things go sour, many will try again.
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I'm going to sound a right boring c.unt, but until you have a family you don't know the joy kids bring you, half the time it is hell, the other half puts all the other shit you used to live for into perspective
Being married with kids is dull compared with the single life, but...its a nice feeling being settled and being the man of your house, I wouldn't swap it to go back chasing fanny again.. Is it being a beta that your the breadwinner, having everything done for you, or is it more alpha being over 30 taking selfies to put on dating sites?
I'd personally choose chasing pussy and having fun for five lifes in a row if I could (I'm lucky I have the genes to wander around for quite some time to come and still be "marketable"). 30+ for a male is just a begining of a real value, I have no idea how someone can marry before age 30 and be happy with the same female 30-40 years to come. It's a fukkin self-torture (if no cheating involved). I may regret it some years later, but I'm so damn lucky to be not married with no kids while approaching 30 it's crazy. I have a great hot gf, but if I wouldn't - the amount of pussy available is just insane, 20-25-30-35, whatever.. Good I'm concentrated on other fields currently so it's not so difficult to control myself. Not saying this because "marriage is bad, do not marry", just expressing my current state of being. Half of friends already are on a brink of a divorce, some already divorced, another half (who are married already) are walking dead or close to that, there's no hope for most of them to make it seriously in any field they dreamed years ago, the burden is just too much, alcohol, drugs appear, not good.
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I'd personally choose chasing pussy and having fun for five lifes in a row if I could (I'm lucky I have the genes to wander around for quite some time to come and still be "marketable"). 30+ for a male is just a begining of a real value, I have no idea how someone can marry before age 30 and be happy with the same female 30-40 years to come. It's a fukkin self-torture (if no cheating involved). I may regret it some years later, but I'm so damn lucky to be not married with no kids while approaching 30 it's crazy. I have a great hot gf, but if I wouldn't - the amount of pussy available is just insane, 20-25-30-35, whatever.. Good I'm concentrated on other fields currently so it's not so difficult to control myself. Not saying this because "marriage is bad, do not marry", just expressing my current state of being. Half of friends already are on a brink of a divorce, some already divorced, another half (who are married already) are walking dead or close to that, there's no hope for most of them to make it seriously in any field they dreamed years ago, the burden is just too much, alcohol, drugs appear, not good.
I married my wife when I was 20 after dating her for two years, one of which we lived together. There is no self-torture involved in our 50+ year relationship. When something is right, it is just right.
For us, our relationship was most important, everything else was secondary. Alcohol and drugs have never been part of this picture. Jobs/careers were just a means to an end....which is what they should be in my opinion. Looking back, we have no regrets.
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I married my wife when I was 20 after dating her for two years, one of which we lived together. There is no self-torture involved in our 50+ year relationship. When something is right, it is just right.
For us, our relationship was most important, everything else was secondary. Alcohol and drugs have never been part of this picture. Jobs/careers were just a means to an end....which is what they should be in my opinion. Looking back, we have no regrets.
But you are bisexual and constantly pondered about cocks (or maybe even indulged, I have no idea). How is that not a self torture?
On another hand - if you'd let yourself think negatively about that now, after all these years, it would make it very hard to live. Another thing - many of these oldschool long lasting marriages have some very dark secrets noone usualy knows about (like cheating of both spouses or some other use and abuse).
It's great you are happy with the outcome (I'm just bringing some arguments, for the sake of that), but I guess you have no idea how life is now (for young people), how many opportunities and how different it has became in general. And it is different, you can be sure of that.
BTW - work is "means to an end" if you don't understand how life works in general. If one wants to be trully "happy", for as often, as possible - work must be used as means to earn lots and lots of money, which enable you to dominate, to control, to have power and THAT is what creates a constant good brain chemistry. To find a female and poop out a few kids is able almost anyone, to become rich and powerful - very rare ones.
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lots of money, which enable you to dominate, to control, to have power and THAT is what creates a constant good brain chemistry.
I agree
http://www.businesspundit.com/10-millionaire-businessmen-who-committed-suicide/
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Do you really believe comparing airplane travel to relationships and marriage is valid? While I get what you're saying about the odds of a successful marriage, one probably shouldn't get married if they are that convinced it will eventually fail.
A long time ago, I attended a wedding where the bride actually commented that if it didn't work out, there were plenty of other men who were marriage material. The groom should have bailed on the marriage right then. Fortunately, a lot of people still honestly believe marriage is forever.
doesn't matter what you believe. the stats are there for all to see. Ignore the facts at your peril. Facts are facts and, feelings have no place here. The rising rates of suicide among divorced and disenfranchised "former husbands" not to mention the abject suffering administered by the heavy handed courts at the behest of the vindictive wife... makes death in a plane crash seem humane by comparison.
some people get lucky and cant shut up about it which is understandable cus its like winning the lottery. But try to keep your unique situation to yourself because the vast majority of marriages are not a happy union. not even close .. and the divorce rate is steadily rising ... spitting out a bloody mulch of broken men in its wake.
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But you are bisexual and constantly pondered about cocks (or maybe even indulged, I have no idea). How is that not a self torture?
On another hand - if you'd let yourself think negatively about that now, after all these years, it would make it very hard to live. Another thing - many of these oldschool long lasting marriages have some very dark secrets noone usualy knows about (like cheating of both spouses or some other use and abuse).
It's great you are happy with the outcome (I'm just bringing some arguments, for the sake of that), but I guess you have no idea how life is now (for young people), how many opportunities and how different it has became in general. And it is different, you can be sure of that.
I am positive life for young folks has changed over the last 5 decades. I have children and adult grandchildren. I've witnessed how different some things have been for them. I disagree when it comes to more opportunities though, I think there is actually less opportunity for a quality education and financial success today then there was when I was a young adult. We had more of an opportunity to screw things up and still end up okay. Everything is so intense today. It is a bit scary.
Yes I am bisexual and yes I unfortunately acted on that during the early part of our marriage. Although, I was open with my wife from the beginning about my sexuality, it was still hard for her. I know it messed with her feelings of security and hurt her. This is not meant to excuse my sexual infidelities, but most everyone is flawed in some way. Many marriages survive extra marital affairs, whether it is the husband, the wife or both who cheat. If it means anything, I have never been in love with, had a romantic relationship with or even wanted to have one with any other person thoughout the entire time my wife and I have been together.
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I agree
http://www.businesspundit.com/10-millionaire-businessmen-who-committed-suicide/
Yep.
http://www.businesspundit.com/millions-of-married-men-who-are-considering-suicide/
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I am positive life for young folks has changed over the last 5 decades. I have children and adult grandchildren. I've witnessed how different some things have been for them. I disagree when it comes to more opportunities though, I think there is actually less opportunity for a quality education and financial success today then there was when I was a young adult. We had more of an opportunity to screw things up and still end up okay. Everything is so intense today. It is a bit scary.
Yes I am bisexual and yes I unfortunately acted on that during the early part of our marriage. Although, I was open with my wife from the beginning about my sexuality, it was still hard for her. I know it messed with her feelings of security and hurt her. This is not meant to excuse my sexual infidelities, but most everyone is flawed in some way. Many marriages survive extra marital affairs, whether it is the husband, the wife or both who cheat. If it means anything, I have never been in love with, had a romantic relationship with or even wanted to have one with any other person thoughout the entire time my wife and I have been together.
As a poster above said - the statistics speak for itself. Honestly, if just there were more of these positive outcomes around - I'd be speaking different things, btu now... one must be prepared to fool yourself to dive into that head first and think it will be a great ride. I could bet my left nut that many who are below 40 now and speak higly of marriage, will fall into these statistics later and wonder what the hell just happened.
Humans are animals, love is a deal and family is bussiness. Much depends on a pure luck in bussiness and it's a very high risk investment with quite a low rate of success. For each is to decide whether to make it or not. The issues is - while young, most people are too stupid to read between the lines of the "Book of LIFE", and then they learn it, it's usualy too late.
Obviously, some people are just not very succesfull when it comes to finding a partner at all... so any chance to have one and keep it must be used.
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some people get lucky and cant shut up about it which is understandable cus its like winning the lottery. But try to keep your unique situation to yourself because the vast majority of marriages are not a happy union. not even close .. and the divorce rate is steadily rising ... spitting out a bloody mulch of broken men in its wake.
I loved the words of W.Allen: Marriage is a pure luck (to find a greatly compatible person, for many years). If you are lucky - it may work well, otherwise it will be a "hard work", and that means you failed.
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As a poster above said - the statistics speak for itself. Honestly, if just there were more of these positive outcomes around - I'd be speaking different things, btu now... one must be prepared to fool yourself to dive into that head first and think it will be a great ride. I could bet my left nut that many who are below 40 now and speak higly of marriage, will fall into these statistics later and wonder what the hell just happened.
Humans are animals, love is a deal and family is bussiness. Much depends on a pure luck in bussiness and it's a very high risk investment with quite a low rate of success. For each is to decide whether to make it or not. The issues is - while young, most people are too stupid to read between the lines of the "Book of LIFE", and then they learn it, it's usualy too late.
Obviously, some people are just not very succesfull when it comes to finding a partner at all... so any chance to have one and keep it must be used.
It kind of boils down to the fact that there are folks who are hopeful and there are those who are not.
I'm not sure how family is a business. Could you explain this more? Love is not a deal, it is a feeling. Feelings come and feelings go. Commitment depends on character.
It is interesting you'd characterize a partner as an "it" because most people hopefully see their partners and people.
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It kind of boils down to the fact that there are folks who are hopeful and there are those who are not.
I'm not sure how family is a business. Could you explain this more? Love is not a deal, it is a feeling. Feelings come and feelings go. Commitment depends on character.
It is interesting you'd characterize a partner as an "it" because most people hopefully see their partners and people.
Family is an individuals straegy to increase odds of survival (of a person and his offspring), no wonder in rich populations marriage is going down as people survive alone just as good (or better). Love is a deal, because each part involved expects something in return (men - sex, female - security), the better the deal "looks", the bigger "love" is being signaled in the brain. Females "love" men for their toys, power, money, influence (everything is an extension of a male as a potential partner), men "love" females for their youth and beauty. A male for a female is an investor (to their offspring and her personal well being). Many men make these investments guided by dick and when the magic wears off - there's no cancelling of the deal, it's game over. Nature is clever and knows how to come around a rationale of a modern homo-sapiens pretty often by merely using the animalistic urges. The issue is - humans are conscious and it creates lots of confusion down the road.
In the end, the least depressed people (of any age) I personally know are these who are rich as fuck. Shit happens for some of them too, hell, no wonder, this life is pretty crazy afterall, but instead of contcentrating on making kids, odds are it's better to concentrate on making money. That will enable to act as one wishes, on the long road. At the "worst" case scenario an old rich male can find a young poor female who will agree to have a kid with him. What is left for an old poor divorced lad? Not much..
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Family is an individuals straegy to increase odds of survival (of a person and his offspring), no wonder in rich populations marriage is going down as people survive alone just as good (or better). Love is a deal, because each part involved expects something in return (men - sex, female - security), the better the deal "looks", the bigger "love" is being signaled in the brain. Females "love" men for their toys, power, money, influence (everything is an extension of a male as a potential partner), men "love" females for their youth and beauty. A male for a female is an investor (to their offspring and her personal well being). Many men make these investments guided by dick and when the magic wears off - there's no cancelling of the deal, it's game over. Nature is clever and knows how to come around a rationale of a modern homo-sapiens pretty often by merely using the animalistic urges. The issue is - humans are conscious and it creates lots of confusion down the road.
In the end, the least depressed people (of any age) I personally know are these who are rich as fuck. Shit happens for some of them too, hell, no wonder, this life is pretty crazy afterall, but instead of contcentrating on making kids, odds are it's better to concentrate on making money. That will enable to act as one wishes, on the long road. At the "worst" case scenario an old rich male can find a young poor female who will agree to have a kid with him. What is left for an old poor divorced lad? Not much..
You and I know very different people. I've seen countless examples, some of them my own extended family, of folks who achieved great material wealth and yet not happiness. Those people help mold my life. Wealth was never my primary goal. Funny thing is, although I am not particularly wealthy, I am financially better off than many people. My wife and I grew up with privilege. We are both of the same opinion about wealth and happiness.
I have noticed that many people who grew up in environments where money was a concern have a greater belief that having it will make them happier. It rarely does.
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You and I know very different people. I've seen countless examples, some of them my own extended family, of folks who achieved great material wealth and yet not happiness. Those people help mold my life. Wealth was never my primary goal. Funny thing is, although I am not particularly wealthy, I am financially better off than many people. My wife and I grew up with privilege. We are both of the same opinion about wealth and happiness.
I have noticed that many people who grew up in environments where money was a concern have a greater belief that having it will make them happier. It rarely does.
You are wrong, simply due to the fact that money = survival, the more money - the better odds of survival, that alone creates a state of what we call "happiness" . Family and other similar stuff may be a win or loss, a lottery, sometimes it may bring joy, sometimes lots of suffer, while money always mean one thing - you ass is well secured, relax and take your time at whatever you are doing. Majority of people are stressed beyond belief just because they doesn't feel secure, they doesn't feel like they have it "well", the competition is tough (you may have fotgotten this already as you are more of a spectator now) and if some bad shit happens - money is usualy a thing that saves your ass. Now don't tell me money can't buy happiness, thats the stuff that poor people convinced themselves. It may not buy happiness, but it certainly does buy more chances to feel happy in this short life.
I personally haven't felt a shortage of money from my childhood, yet I think (and know) that money certainly does make me very happy and life pretty damn easy and fun ride.
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Everyone is different ,I don't give a fuck about money , when my father in law passed away , my wife was the beneficiary of a substantial amount of money, we did put some money away for my kids education and the rest we donated to 5 different charities , now we are poor again .
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You are wrong, simply due to the fact that money = survival, the more money - the better odds of survival, that alone creates a state of what we call "happiness" . Family and other similar stuff may be a win or loss, a lottery, sometimes it may bring joy, sometimes lots of suffer, while money always mean one thing - you ass is well secured, relax and take your time at whatever you are doing. Majority of people are stressed beyond belief just because they doesn't feel secure, they doesn't feel like they have it "well", the competition is tough (you may have fotgotten this already as you are more of a spectator now) and if some bad shit happens - money is usualy a thing that saves your ass. Now don't tell me money can't buy happiness, thats the stuff that poor people convinced themselves. It may not buy happiness, but it certainly does buy more chances to feel happy in this short life.
I personally haven't felt a shortage of money from my childhood, yet I think (and know) that money certainly does make me very happy and life pretty damn easy and fun ride.
I can't say I've ever been truly poor, aside from one time when I was a teenager living on my own and I was down to .25 with no idea how I'd buy my next meal. I bummed off some friends for a few days until my aunt's "stop gap" check arrived. By the end of the week, I was working again. Not much of a story. But this experience had no effect on my happiness.
My step-dad was obsessed with making a million dollars (back when that actually was good money). He came from really humble beginnings. His stepfather was a drunk coal miner from Poland. My stepfather was the youngest of 10 children. His family counted on those charity church baskets in order to have enough food for everyone. He never made that million dollars, but he did pretty well for himself. Unfortunately, happiness eluded him his whole life. Somehow those new Caddies and Lincolns he bought lost there luster pretty quickly as did the big houses and the momentary happiness they gave him was gone. Maybe the Cuban cigars he smoked made him happy.
I have no idea what your personal experiences are, but it is obvious you believe money will make you happy. I hope for your sake that it does.
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Everyone is different ,I don't give a fuck about money , when my father in law passed away , my wife was the beneficiary of a substantial amount of money, we did put some money away for my kids education and the rest we donated to 5 different charities , now we are poor again .
Here in Calgary, Alberta where I live, the collapsing oil prices have hit a few people I know pretty hard who work in the industry. When you go from a six-figure salary to about $2k in monthly unemployment benefits, it's quite an adjustment, especially when you're used to a certain lifestyle.
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Everyone is different ,I don't give a fuck about money , when my father in law passed away , my wife was the beneficiary of a substantial amount of money, we did put some money away for my kids education and the rest we donated to 5 different charities , now we are poor again .
This sounds like a Groink story
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Here in Calgary, Alberta where I live, the collapsing oil prices have hit a few people I know pretty hard who work in the industry. When you go from a six-figure salary to about $2k in monthly unemployment benefits, it's quite an adjustment, especially when you're used to a certain lifestyle.
Not having a job sucks .
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This sounds like a Groink story
He's my inspiration .
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You are wrong, simply due to the fact that money = survival, the more money - the better odds of survival, that alone creates a state of what we call "happiness" . Family and other similar stuff may be a win or loss, a lottery, sometimes it may bring joy, sometimes lots of suffer, while money always mean one thing - you ass is well secured, relax and take your time at whatever you are doing. Majority of people are stressed beyond belief just because they doesn't feel secure, they doesn't feel like they have it "well", the competition is tough (you may have fotgotten this already as you are more of a spectator now) and if some bad shit happens - money is usualy a thing that saves your ass. Now don't tell me money can't buy happiness, thats the stuff that poor people convinced themselves. It may not buy happiness, but it certainly does buy more chances to feel happy in this short life.
I personally haven't felt a shortage of money from my childhood, yet I think (and know) that money certainly does make me very happy and life pretty damn easy and fun ride.
I don't think anything buys happiness. Studies show that a persons disposition is genetically hardwired, some people are more optimistic and happy and others more pessimistic and gloomy. They all have a baseline and they deviate either side of that from time to time. Our circumstances are pretty irrelevant really. As long as basic needs are catered for, food, shelter, warmth etc, our basic nature is what it is. It is a bit of a con by the new-agers that sells the idea that ones happiness can be increased in any real way. kind of like saying money can make you taller. We can't exceed the limitations placed on us by nature.
I think what people mean when they say money buys them happiness, is that they actually believe money makes them feel more secure and less vulnerable. But I often find cases of people with more money and it makes them feel less secure and more vulnerable. The reality is we are all insecure and vulnerable and there is nothing we can do about that, we can distract ourselves with money making and spending, but the reality remains the same.
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Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didn't have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them.
Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they they interact with others for the rest of their life.
They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exaggeratly for attention (Hello Goodrum), and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.
Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world.
They're insecure because they're girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom.
They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesnt cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They re no as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they dont know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc).
They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attemptint to cure their insecurity , but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.
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He never made that million dollars, but he did pretty well for himself. Unfortunately, happiness eluded him his whole life. Somehow those new Caddies and Lincolns he bought lost there luster pretty quickly as did the big houses and the momentary happiness they gave him was gone. Maybe the Cuban cigars he smoked made him happy.
I have no idea what your personal experiences are, but it is obvious you believe money will make you happy. I hope for your sake that it does.
Well it means he hasn't fulfilled his dream/did not reach his goal so yeah... that's not exactly happy. And there's no need to "hope", it already has been doing that for quite some time. I guess you understand happiness as some kind of a perpetual kind of state. That's not true. It's just that thing like money can enable you te feel "happy" more often than these around you. It's an emotion (or a complex of emotions) that is evolutionary as significant as other traits that we have. It basically let's you know that your survival is ok. People who are depressed are usualy just weak and their brain is signalling that everything is bad, chance of death is rising, simple as that. All other poetic stuff about happines doesn't mean shit, a simple fact that you can be MUCH more relaxed of you are wealthy means that you have better odds of survival and THAT what increases the sense of well being (or happiness). You can twist it hoewever you want it's always about survival still.
Everyone is different ,I don't give a fuck about money , when my father in law passed away , my wife was the beneficiary of a substantial amount of money, we did put some money away for my kids education and the rest we donated to 5 different charities , now we are poor again .
What you did is one of other few ways to increase a sense of well being. Donating/taking care of others makes one feel like having a "meaning" in life (when it's intrisically meaningless), like doing something "good", basically it calms one down and protects from thoughts about the nonsense of life at it's core. And you may njot give a fuck about money at this time, but if you'd get sick (or your relative) and would have to buy expensive drugs on your own - your outlook would quickly change. It is def. possible to be "happy" with little money, it's just that lots of money can increase an overall sense of "happiness" by a big margin. And many other things touted by society as a "way to happiness" (marriage being one of these) - are far from that kind of certainty. That's all I wanted to say.
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I don't think anything buys happiness. Studies show that a persons disposition is genetically hardwired, some people are more optimistic and happy and others more pessimistic and gloomy. They all have a baseline and they deviate either side of that from time to time. Our circumstances are pretty irrelevant really. As long as basic needs are catered for, food, shelter, warmth etc, our basic nature is what it is. It is a bit of a con by the new-agers that sells the idea that ones happiness can be increased in any real way. kind of like saying money can make you taller. We can't exceed the limitations placed on us by nature.
I think what people mean when they say money buys them happiness, is that they actually believe money makes them feel more secure and less vulnerable. But I often find cases of people with more money and it makes them feel less secure and more vulnerable. The reality is we are all insecure and vulnerable and there is nothing we can do about that, we can distract ourselves with money making and spending, but the reality remains the same.
What I say has a scientific basis. Happiness is a byproduct of an effective survival (and a few other "strategies" that enables human-animal feel like it's all good), Basic needs are good, but when your neighbour brings home a hot female and you only can bring an ugly one - the fun begins. In essence - you can still be unhappy with lots of money, but chances are way lesser than being unhappy while being poor (like most people in this world who are struggling and feeling big stress daily).
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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
your friend is very typical of the new generation.
He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc, basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.
At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.
I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.
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At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.
I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.
Life IS meaningless, whether you leave "something behind" or not (who the hell cares about what is "left" behind when you are dead. I don't care what you will leave behind and I won't care what I've left behind when I'm dead. Do you think Schakespeare was very concerned about his legacy three days after his death?). Creating other people just to fill inner voids is as ridiculous as it comes.
Wellcome to reality.
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Girls and sons who have not been loved by their fathers seek attention once teens and adults to compensate for what they didn't have originally. Fathers either left them alone, or were distant most of the time and not encouraging them.
Some even despised them which would shape their personality and the way they they interact with others for the rest of their life.
They are extremistic in everything they do, always looking exaggeratly for attention (Hello Goodrum), and have troubles adapting to society's rules, because they also have troubles defining their own identity and respecting authority and hierarchy.
Also boys who got picked on by others during childhood and adolescence -often sons without a father figure- try to compensate by lifting weights, to develop muscles and survive in ther male world.
They're insecure because they're girly, childish, feminine having been raised by a single mom.
They lift obsessively hoping it will transform them into men, to compensate for their lack of influence from a father figure that was not there. Unfortunaltey they can get as big as they can it doesnt cure their insecurity and who they truly are, how they grew up being raised by a single mom. They re no as manly as other men whatever they do, and they often have a big lack of masculine presence they dont know how to balance, hence often being borderline homosexuals while trying to get their manhood back thru various manly activities (mma, cars, weight lifting etc).
They are often the ones that, in order to get respect from other males will go the steroids route to get even "bigger" attemptint to cure their insecurity , but being natural not being "enough", they still feel "too small", insecure, amongst other males. The lack of a father figure also often means they didnt have guidance to continue studies and are often working shitty manual jobs.
this joke was funny for about two seconds two years ago
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this joke was funny for about two seconds two years ago
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So were you! ;D
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Basic needs are good, but when your neighbour brings home a hot female and you only can bring an ugly one - the fun begins.
Haha , you are shallower than a puddle of dog piss , a male version of (http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2011/06/21/article-2005969-0CA7A9A100000578-877_468x377.jpg)
But whatever make you happy, stud.
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i agree with da_vinci, at least the guy is standing on solid ground and sees things as they are not as he wants them to be.
People in general can't accept some harsh reality because it would crush their dreams based on fairy tales they were fed in the cradle.
Born, go to school, get education, a job, find a woman and get married, have kids and live happily ever after = brainwashed
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Haha , you are shallower than a puddle of dog piss , a male version of
But whatever make you happy, stud.
I guess you wasnt able to grasp what I meant - We evaluate by comparing. Be a poor fuck amongst the rich and you will feel like a third world scumbag. Oh.. I know.. rich people are dumb, vain and shallow so noone (intelligent) would liek to be amongst them. In other words - not having money is ok, until..... you meet your former classmate who's just as smart as you AND rich in addition to that (which means - was able to use these brain for a real world result). We are intelligent animals and calculate everything like that whether we want it or not. You may be happy with an ugly wife, but I bet your friend is happier if his wife is beautiful. That's the point - who's happy more OFTEN (because perpetually happy are only legal retards or people who are addicted to narcotics/alcohol).
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i agree with da_vinci, at least the guy is standing on solid ground and sees things as they are not as he wants them to be.
People in general can't accept some harsh reality because it would crush their dreams based on fairy tales they were fed in the cradle.
Born, go to school, get education, a job, find a woman and get married, have kids and live happily ever after = brainwashed
No wonder. It takes a strong mind to cope with a factual reality and stay sane/sober...
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your friend is very typical of the new generation.
He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc, basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.
At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.
I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.
having children gives your life meaning? You mean putting even more stress on the over burdened on the earths ecosystem is your definition of meaning? you don't see how meaningless that is?
Maybe if you were contributing something significant to mankind.. a new energy source, a more efficient waste management system etc... you know something of value.... But spitting out kids, something that rats, dogs, dolphins do as well thats what gives life meaning? Surely you see how absurd that is.
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- We evaluate by comparing. Be a poor fuck amongst the rich and you will feel like a third world scumbag. You may be happy with an ugly wife, but I bet your friend is happier if his wife is beautiful. That's the point - who's happy more OFTEN (because perpetually happy are only legal retards or people who are addicted to narcotics/alcohol).
Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life , because there will always be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.
Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your life .
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Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life , because there will always be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.
Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your life .
"Comparison is the Thief of Joy"
----Theodore Roosevelt
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"Comparison is the Thief of Joy"
----Theodore Roosevelt
QFT
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your friend is very typical of the new generation.
He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc, basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.
At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.
I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.
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Sooo, someone's parents made a mistake and had you?
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your friend is very typical of the new generation.
He's just a teen with money. Few of my coworker are like that, two of them are living together, mid 30's, big house, holiday two time a year, new car every year, motorcycle etc, basically the guy plays battlefield online all day long and the girl takes care of her two dog. They are empty ppl.
At least your friend did children, he'll leave something when he die otherwise his life will be meaningless.
I don't think my coworker are happy, but for sure they are empty, we can create a new word for these ppl = hapty.
Gimme a break. 90% of people are stupid self serving dumb fucks. You'll do the world a favour not leaving that behind.
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having children gives your life meaning? You mean putting even more stress on the over burdened on the earths ecosystem is your definition of meaning? you don't see how meaningless that is?
Maybe if you were contributing something significant to mankind.. a new energy source, a more efficient waste management system etc... you know something of value.... But spitting out kids, something that rats, dogs, dolphins do as well thats what gives life meaning? Surely you see how absurd that is.
Having your own child can give your life a higher sense of meaning. The added responsibility of a "mini me" can keep people away from bad vices so they can be a good role model. Bad kids aren't born, they are raised this way through neglect. That kid who's a criminal at 15, was probably acting out at 10, was probably swearing at 8 (and the parent(s) laughed it off.. awww how cute), was probably a burden to their parent(s) even earlier. Usually the lower income the home the worse this situation will be as non-planned pregnancies will always certainly be a "you cost me everything child!".
Sad existence for some. Add in any mental illness (like 90% of the population) and this child is going to have a rough time of it at home, then in their social life as they have no clue how to act outside of a destructive home.
People today play too much of a blame game. You did this! You did that!
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Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life , because there will always be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.
Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your life .
Good post. I think that is one reason why many Americans are depressed: Always wanting a bigger house, car ..etc.. just look at Jay Cutler's videos through the years
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Good post. I think that is one reason why many Americans are depressed: Always wanting a bigger house, car ..etc.. just look at Jay Cutler's videos through the years
I've wondered if he ever throws on his old dvds and watches himself doting around with his wife. Must sting she left him. Doesn't seem like his life turned out exactly as he forsaw.
I think his best bet is to go the DJ route and start training guys. Grab a frontrunner NPC Super Heavy and ride him for ever dollar he can get out of him.
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Da Vinci ,I can tell that you will never be happy in life , because there will always be someone better than you, smarter than you, richer than you, stronger than you , with a hotter wife/girlfriend..............................etc.
Do not compare, you’ll never be happy with your life .
It's like saying "Do not live.". In theory it sounds good, but we all know how it is in a real life. And I've managed to become quite happy, quite often, even by being aware of what I've wrote, and that's just a begining, I will make sure that I become as "happy" as an animal can become in this joke, called "life", I'm working on it, hard, and even the process is pure fun most of the time.
Going back more to an original topic - one thing I know for sure - I got back from a gym yesterday, it was almost a midnight, weather was superb, so I took my bicycle, put on some music and went out for a ride in the empty streets. Came back after an hour refreshed as hell and it was lights out baby, a great sleep, with no worries that I "stole" time from my family or that two kids are waiting in the morning to get them to a fukkin school, haha.. I may do that one day, but not anytime soon.
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Good post. I think that is one reason why many Americans are depressed: Always wanting a bigger house, car ..etc.. just look at Jay Cutler's videos through the years
That is true. Yet I have to find anyone (sane) who doesn't want a nice living place, nice car, good looking female/male, etc... Unless a depression (that arises from being a failure in life) overtakes and a person ceases to want anything, just slowly waits for a death. Another case - some people convince themselves that they doesn't want anything better just because deep down they are aware that it won't happen. That's a good strategy too, to stay sane.
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That is true. Yet I have to find anyone (sane) who doesn't want a nice living place, nice car, good looking female/male, etc... Unless a depression (that arises from being a failure in life) overtakes and a person ceases to want anything, just slowly waits for a death. Another case - some people convince themselves that they doesn't want anything better just because deep down they are aware that it won't happen. That's a good strategy too, to stay sane.
Or they are just afraid of that big 4 letter word that it takes to get all these things.... WORK.
They spend more time with excuses to why they are losing in life rather than using that time to strategize a way to get ahead.
No high school diploma? "Oh i'm 29 now, its not gonna do me any good." Meanwhile they are on Netflix all day. If it can't do any good, it certainly can't hurt either. Sad thing is the government will pay these people to go to school. Pay for their education. They just refuse to work for it. Cuz its.... TOO HARD (hahahahahahha here's a gun blow your head off. thanks)
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Or they are just afraid of that big 4 letter word that it takes to get all these things.... WORK.
They spend more time with excuses to why they are losing in life rather than using that time to strategize a way to get ahead.
No high school diploma? "Oh i'm 29 now, its not gonna do me any good." Meanwhile they are on Netflix all day. If it can't do any good, it certainly can't hurt either. Sad thing is the government will pay these people to go to school. Pay for their education. They just refuse to work for it. Cuz its.... TOO HARD (hahahahahahha here's a gun blow your head off. thanks)
Exactly!!^^
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I've managed to become quite happy, quite often,
You are contradicting yourself , unless you are a billionaire that only fuck Victoria Secret models.
BTW do you know some billionaires would get depressed and shoot themselves in the head , if they were as poor as you are , but you are quite happy .
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You are contradicting yourself , unless you are a billionaire that only fuck Victoria Secret models.
BTW do you know some billionaires would get depressed and shoot themselves in the head , if they were as poor as you are , but you are quite happy .
I'm doing very well, better than most I guess (that of course adds to my sense of happiness. It's a comparison, once again. Without it we wouln't even know what is good, and what is bad), but other bigger goals are waiting.
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I'm doing very well, better than most I guess (that of course adds to my sense of happiness. It's a comparison, once again. Without it we wouln't even know what is good, and what is bad), but other bigger goals are waiting.
Are you a billionaire , DaVinci ?
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Are you a billionaire , DaVinci ?
No, but I'm above average, certainly will become a millionaire in 5 years from now, maybe sooner.
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No, but I'm above average, certainly will become a millionaire in 5 years from now, maybe sooner.
Haha , so you are not even a millionaire ? how can you possibly be happy ? Oh brother ::)
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Haha , so you are not even a millionaire ? how can you possibly be happy ? Oh brother ::)
I said multiple times that I become happier (more relaxed and sure about tomorrow) each time when I get more money. You want to argue about a factual reality, which is not good, it means you are out of tune with it. Money is just a byproduct of a succesfull survival strategies, the more succesfull these strategies are, the more feel good chemicals are being secreted by brain (people who can't manage to be succesfull start drinking/using narcotics to induce that state artificially or they are "diagnosed" with a "depression" and subscribed Prozack, which in essence works the same). It's very simple, no need to complicate it with philosophical bullshit. More money is better than less money. Better looking wife is more satisfying than ugly wife, etc, etc... Everything is about survival in the end, no more, no less.
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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
Reading this again. Sounds dreamy apart from living with your parents. No fucking bitch to nag his ass off every day.
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(people who can't manage to be succesfull start drinking/using narcotics to induce that state artificially or they are "diagnosed" with a "depression" and subscribed Prozack, which in essence works the same).
You are right , successful people don't drink or use drugs.
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You are right , successful people don't drink or use drugs.
They are less likely to abuse that stuff/become addicted (just like addicts are less likely to become succesfull, because they were weak to begin with). Success is a very nice drug by itself.
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Going back more to an original topic - one thing I know for sure - I got back from a gym yesterday, it was almost a midnight, weather was superb, so I took my bicycle, put on some music and went out for a ride in the empty streets. Came back after an hour refreshed as hell and it was lights out baby, a great sleep, with no worries that I "stole" time from my family or that two kids are waiting in the morning to get them to a fukkin school, haha.. I may do that one day, but not anytime soon.
Never change, da_vinci.
Being completely clueless about family life and raising children at least makes for some humorous reads....
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Never change, da_vinci.
Being completely clueless about family life and raising children at least makes for some humorous reads....
I could write many humorous things about a family life too, but too lazy, and too happy with my own life. The most humorous I find that people forget that life is pretty damn short and their efforts of any kind are doomed to dissapear when the time comes, it's all futile, kids or no kids. A desperate attempt for a "meaning" of an intelligent animal.
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I could write many humorous things about a family life too, but too lazy, and too happy with my own life. The most humorous I find that people forget that life is pretty damn short and their efforts of any kind are doomed to dissapear when the time comes, it's all futile, kids or no kids. A desperate attempt for a "meaning" of an intelligent animal.
But you're not too lazy or too happy to post the same stuff over and over every single time one of these threads appears.
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Never change, da_vinci.
Being completely clueless about life , at least makes for some humorous reads....
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I don't like what DaVinci writes because that stuff does not give you hope and everything else I'm not interested.
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But you're not too lazy or too happy to post the same stuff over and over every single time one of these threads appears.
Just like each of us.
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Live the life you want to live.
Just try and make sure you won't end up regretting the decisions you make.
Living a single and successful life is fun for sure. However, most truly successful men usually end up settling down and starting a family eventually.
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I could write many humorous things about a family life too, but too lazy, and too happy with my own life. The most humorous I find that people forget that life is pretty damn short and their efforts of any kind are doomed to dissapear when the time comes, it's all futile, kids or no kids. A desperate attempt for a "meaning" of an intelligent animal.
Diversity is never a bad thing. Neither is choice. Option to pick your preferences? Or poisons for that matter...
Frankly, I find most any and all discussions around this topic to be pretty...enigmatic.
People who are firmly on either side of the fence are firmly in the "sounds too pretentious to pay heed to" camp.
This is too trivial a thing to feel strongly about one way or another...
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Live the life you want to live.
Just try and make sure you won't end up regretting the decisions you make.
Living a single and successful life is fun for sure. However, most truly successful men usually end up settling down and starting a family eventually.
Disagree, If you have no regrets you haven't truly lived. And more failed men end up marrying than successful ones.
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Disagree, If you have no regrets you haven't truly lived. And more failed men end up marrying than successful ones.
Everyone has regrets but something as major as starting a family or not is a regret that you sure as hell wouldn't want to make.
Most failed men can't get women to begin with so usually stay single for life.
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Aww yeah giv me that cock I love it in my bumm awwwwww yeah I'm ghay
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Like davinci said, the second you die your life doesn't matter anyway, you go back to the darkness just like you were billions of years before you were born.
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Aww yeah giv me that cock I love it in my bumm awwwwww yeah I'm ghay
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why the continuous need to reaffirm being single is "great"....like a fking gay pride parade on getbig
its so fking great...need a circle jerk reaffirmation every week...lol
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why the continuous need to reaffirm being single is "great"....like a fking gay pride parade on getbig
its so fking great...need a circle jerk reaffirmation every week...lol
These "circle jerks" are a good thing. If it wakes one more man up to the legal/financial ramifications of marriage and divorce, so be it.
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why the continuous need to reaffirm being single is "great"....like a fking gay pride parade on getbig
its so fking great...need a circle jerk reaffirmation every week...lol
Because the old "system" clearly doesn't work/is flawed most of the time.
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These "circle jerks" are a good thing. If we can wake one more man up to the legal/financial ramifications of marriage and divorce, so be it.
The classic story of the poor bastard who gets his ass kicked from the time he hits the snooze on his alarm at 6 am is a bit over played during these discussions.
Pretty much all of the guys I know who are married will give the occasional "I kinda miss going out and doing it up like the old days routine" but by and large they are all seemingly happy with their lives and love their kids.
I have a good friend who has 3 daughters and intends to keep cranking them out until he finally gets his son.
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The classic story of the poor bastard who gets his ass kicked from the time he hits the snooze on his alarm at 6 am is a bit over played during these discussions.
Pretty much all of the guys I know who are married will give the occasional "I kinda miss going out and doing it up like the old days routine" but by and large they are all seemingly happy with their lives and love their kids.
Common sense post reported.
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Obviously there are people who are wired to be single, those wired to be married to the same person for a long time, and those wired to be married, but switch partners through out life. You will find happiness when you figure out which one of those you are. Trying to be anything but what you are wired for = unhappiness
That about sums it up
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The classic story of the poor bastard who gets his ass kicked from the time he hits the snooze on his alarm at 6 am is a bit over played during these discussions.
Pretty much all of the guys I know who are married will give the occasional "I kinda miss going out and doing it up like the old days routine" but by and large they are all seemingly happy with their lives and love their kids.
I have a good friend who has 3 daughters and intends to keep cranking them out until he finally gets his son.
Lazy conscious animals with nothing else to do, pretty much sums it up. I'd be glad that fella would stop as there are way too many stupid people on earth already. he's not doing a favour to anyone, except his own egoistical goals.
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Lazy conscious animals with nothing else to do, pretty much sums it up. I'd be glad that fella would stop as there are way too many stupid people on earth already. he's not doing a favour to anyone, except his own egoistical goals.
You sound like a great guy. People must really love being around you.
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Awwwww fuck yeah give me more cock gape me bumhole awwww feels so good get another cock in there asap awwww yeah
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The classic story of the poor bastard who gets his ass kicked from the time he hits the snooze on his alarm at 6 am is a bit over played during these discussions.
Pretty much all of the guys I know who are married will give the occasional "I kinda miss going out and doing it up like the old days routine" but by and large they are all seemingly happy with their lives and love their kids.
I have a good friend who has 3 daughters and intends to keep cranking them out until he finally gets his son.
Well, divorce rate is exceedingly high these days.
But it really all comes down to the current position you're in. I bet if you're friend gets divorced, and has to pay child support, alimony, and his wife gets half his pension (if he has one), he would be singing a whole different tune about being married. The grass is always greener on the other side. There are pros and cons about being married. And pros and cons about being single. I guess it depends on the person. The issue is that people will always find something to bitch and moan about. Its human nature.
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There are pros and cons about being married. And pros and cons about being single. I guess it depends on the person.
This post could end every one of these threads.
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The classic story of the poor bastard who gets his ass kicked from the time he hits the snooze on his alarm at 6 am is a bit over played during these discussions.
Pretty much all of the guys I know who are married will give the occasional "I kinda miss going out and doing it up like the old days routine" but by and large they are all seemingly happy with their lives and love their kids.
I have a good friend who has 3 daughters and intends to keep cranking them out until he finally gets his son.
You must be young because most of the guys I know who used to be married are divorced now. The negatives far outweigh the positives.
These days about 60% of all marriages end in divorce. It is very high risk for very little reward. It's like going to a casino... you might win for a little while, but eventually the casino ends up with all your money.
Marriage is a legally binding financial agreement. More often than not the man makes more money than the woman. After the divorce the woman takes 50% of the assets, the house and the kids. The man basically has to start all over again from scratch.... devastating.
The traditionalists on here make me fucking laugh. Try some critical thinking.
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You must be young because most of the guys I know who used to be married are divorced now. The negatives far outweigh the positives.
These days about 60% of all marriages end in divorce. It is very high risk for very little reward. It's like going to a casino... you might win for a little while, but eventually the casino ends up with all your money.
Marriage is a legally binding financial agreement. More often than not the man makes more money than the woman. After the divorce the woman takes 50% of the assets, the house and the kids. The man basically has to start all over again from scratch.... devastating.
The traditionalists on here make me fucking laugh. Try some critical thinking.
My parents were married for 43 tears before separating, my Mum now believes marriage is extremely unnatural. The irony is both there parents (my grandparents) on both sides also separated after 43 years of marriage. Like most couples, my parents had no business being together, completely incompatible and only stuck it out due to societal expectations and pressure. The only people who have faith in marriage are the young and naive who tend to romantacise most everything due to lack of experience. Marriage these days only benefits women while punishing men. Men in general are no longer valued, when once they were providers and protectors, now they are viewed as rapists and pedophiles. The only men who do well in relationships these days are the mommies boys who are content doing as their Mother wife tells them
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My parents were married for 43 tears before separating, my Mum now believes marriage is extremely unnatural. The irony is both there parents (my grandparents) on both sides also separated after 43 years of marriage. Like most couples, my parents had no business being together, completely incompatible and only stuck it out due to societal expectations and pressure. The only people who have faith in marriage are the young and naive who tend to romantacise most everything due to lack of experience. Marriage these days only benefits women while punishing men. Men in general are no longer valued, when once they were providers and protectors, now they are viewed as rapists and pedophiles. The only men who do well in relationships these days are the mommies boys who are content doing as their Mother wife tells them
I think marriage (basically just a very long term relationship) runs into the trouble of people growing apart and wanting different things. This usually boils down to finances. You aren't the same person you were 5 years ago, and thus ever evolving. This is where the "stuck in a rut" delves from. People don't accept change very well, and this creates envy, bitterness, etc. Also if someone pulls a complete fuck up are they ever really forgiven, and if so, nobody ever forgets. This builds resentment, once that kicks in the relationship ends its apex and slides downward.
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This post could end every one of these threads.
As Nietzsche said, "You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist."
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I think marriage (basically just a very long term relationship) runs into the trouble of people growing apart and wanting different things. This usually boils down to finances. You aren't the same person you were 5 years ago, and thus ever evolving. This is where the "stuck in a rut" delves from. People don't accept change very well, and this creates envy, bitterness, etc. Also if someone pulls a complete fuck up are they ever really forgiven, and if so, nobody ever forgets. This builds resentment, once that kicks in the relationship ends its apex and slides downward.
Personally I think feminism ruined any chance marriage had of working. Women now act like men and refuse their natural role, men get tired of this new-age fraud and become profoundly unhappy. The women picks up on this and compounds the misery by demanding that he change and adapt. Eventually such an unnatural state must come to an end for the sanity of both parties. Not only has feminism ruined relationships but it has caused untold misery in society, especially the workplace. Feminism is a fascist ideology no different than Islam, and just as Islam has poisoned any place it has taken a stronghold, so has feminism strangled every society where it is taken seriously and has a popular following. If you meet a woman and she says she is a feminist, start running for the hills. If you meet a man and he says he is a feminist, shoot him.
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Sooo, someone's parents made a mistake and had you?
You are clueless.
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I am actually stunned that there are men arguing for marriage in this thread. The legal ramifications of a divorce can and often ruins men.
If you want a kid, have one. You want a companion jeez get one. But dont ever fucking get married if you are a man. The stats are bloody and the bodies are piling up .. How can you just ignore these facts? Its gotta be in the genes, kinda like a male black widow knowing its probably going to be eaten after mating with the female but it just cant help it.
Thats how I look at the married men... Very few of them make it out okay. The vast majority dont but the few that make it keep harping on about how great it is and drawing more men into the carnage. Thats fucked up.
P.S. theres more to being single than going out and drinking ( I dont know why this even comes up)....There is an infinite number of things to do with your time that will improve who you are both inside and out.
There are no pros to getting married. Only cons. Everything you can get in marriage you can get outside of it without giving the woman the loaded gun to destroy your life when she feels like it.
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You are clueless.
then clue me in, Inspector Clouseau.
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You must be young because most of the guys I know who used to be married are divorced now. The negatives far outweigh the positives.
I was searchign for words to formulate it and you did it better. Many of these pro-marriage guys are exactly still young and many of them (speaking strictly statistics and plain facts) will be singing a different tune down the road. I'm witnessing what is happening in some of my parents friends families when people cross the 45-50 age after being together for like 20+ years and it's not pretty. Idk what exactly goes wrong, but it's very sad to listen.
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There are pros and cons about being married. And pros and cons about being single. I guess it depends on the person.
Age is a big factor ,I don't think there are any pros being married or in a serious relationship when you are young 18-25
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These days about 60% of all marriages end in divorce.
Marriage is a legally binding financial agreement. More often than not the man makes more money than the woman. After the divorce the woman takes 50% of the assets, the house and the kids. The man basically has to start all over again from scratch.... devastating.
Earlier in the thread someone posted that the divorce rate was 50%. In the U.S. it is actually a little less than 50%
It is 50% of the assets accumulated after the marriage. What each of them had prior to marriage, they can keep in most cases.
If the woman gets 50% of the assets then the man gets the other 50%. How is this starting over from scratch for either of them? If the house is an asset, it is often sold and any profits are split 50, 50.
Divorce is difficult for each party. It's a shame when people cannot resolve their differences and end up getting divorced. No one wins, not the husband, the wife or the children.
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The traditionalists on here make me fucking laugh.
Says the guy with the flip phone.
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the selfishness in these type threads is astounding....
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the selfishness in these type threads is astounding....
Welcome to the reality of 2015. The law has sided with the females. If you move in with a girl after 6 months she is now common law and entitled to your wages if you split. So you move in, try it out, it doesn't work out. You spend a couple months finding a decent place for yourself, and in that time you went over 6 months and now she can sue you for alimony. Straight up. Fucked up society that REWARDS "victims". Nevermind that relationships are personal business, and some people just grow apart. I've grown apart from many relationships. Its easy to hide what you are really like for a short period of time, and then once you feel the other can't leave, to unleash your real personality.
My advice for anyone is to go all 4 seasons and then some with a partner, before ever deciding anything concrete serious. People are too eager for a pat on the back for some kind of success. Like having yourself in a relationship on facebook is the only way its legit.
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Earlier in the thread someone posted that the divorce rate was 50%. In the U.S. it is actually a little less than 50%
It is 50% of the assets accumulated after the marriage. What each of them had prior to marriage, they can keep in most cases.
If the woman gets 50% of the assets then the man gets the other 50%. How is this starting over from scratch for either of them? If the house is an asset, it is often sold and any profits are split 50, 50.
Divorce is difficult for each party. It's a shame when people cannot resolve their differences and end up getting divorced. No one wins, not the husband, the wife or the children.
I think he is referring to the disparity within the system. At least my experience was it heavily leaned toward the female. I live in a community property state. Everything is "supposed" to be 50/50. However the reality is that didn't happen. While I kept my retirement, and my deferred compensation account and personal vehicles, she got the house, savings and everything else. I literally left with a truck full of my clothes and personal items... Got an apartment and had to buy everything from a bottle opener to washcloths at Walmart Nordstrom as I rebuilt my life.
Owned your house prior to getting married? You still have to share the increase in value while you were married. Had a retirement account? She gets half of what you accumulate during your marriage. Deferred Comp increase during your marriage? She gets half the increase. You paid all the bills and the mortgage? So what... she still gets half
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Welcome to the reality of 2015. The law has sided with the females. If you move in with a girl after 6 months she is now common law and entitled to your wages if you split. So you move in, try it out, it doesn't work out. You spend a couple months finding a decent place for yourself, and in that time you went over 6 months and now she can sue you for alimony. Straight up. Fucked up society that REWARDS "victims". Nevermind that relationships are personal business, and some people just grow apart. I've grown apart from many relationships. Its easy to hide what you are really like for a short period of time, and then once you feel the other can't leave, to unleash your real personality.
My advice for anyone is to go all 4 seasons and then some with a partner, before ever deciding anything concrete serious. People are too eager for a pat on the back for some kind of success. Like having yourself in a relationship on facebook is the only way its legit.
Where are you reading this? I haven't checked all states; however, most don't recognize common law and certainly not the one I live in.
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Where are you reading this? I haven't checked all states; however, most don't recognize common law and certainly not the one I live in.
I live in Canada. 6 months living together deems a "common law relationship". Sadly, and get this, if you were to do this with a woman with kids, YOU now can be gouged for child support. And... they... are... not... even... yours!!!!
Canada is a back-ass-wards country. We have awesome beer and weed, free health care (that really isn't free with doctors who charge to do paperwork), and a lax legal system.
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I live in Canada. 6 months living together deems a "common law relationship". Sadly, and get this, if you were to do this with a woman with kids, YOU now can be gouged for child support. And... they... are... not... even... yours!!!!
Canada is a back-ass-wards country. We have awesome beer and weed, free health care (that really isn't free with doctors who charge to do paperwork), and a lax legal system.
That's scary. In the US you can be hit with child support and divorce laws are most surely antiquated but you can live with someone without any strings. I'm a victim of the divorce laws but don't live in a community property state and my daughter was in college.
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Earlier in the thread someone posted that the divorce rate was 50%. In the U.S. it is actually a little less than 50%
It is 50% of the assets accumulated after the marriage. What each of them had prior to marriage, they can keep in most cases.
If the woman gets 50% of the assets then the man gets the other 50%. How is this starting over from scratch for either of them? If the house is an asset, it is often sold and any profits are split 50, 50.
Divorce is difficult for each party. It's a shame when people cannot resolve their differences and end up getting divorced. No one wins, not the husband, the wife or the children.
Man has to pay child support, alimony, and possibly give up half his pension. That is how it normally goes.
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Personally I think feminism ruined any chance marriage had of working. Women now act like men and refuse their natural role, men get tired of this new-age fraud and become profoundly unhappy. The women picks up on this and compounds the misery by demanding that he change and adapt. Eventually such an unnatural state must come to an end for the sanity of both parties. Not only has feminism ruined relationships but it has caused untold misery in society, especially the workplace. Feminism is a fascist ideology no different than Islam, and just as Islam has poisoned any place it has taken a stronghold, so has feminism strangled every society where it is taken seriously and has a popular following. If you meet a woman and she says she is a feminist, start running for the hills. If you meet a man and he says he is a feminist, shoot him.
It would be hard to not nominate this ^^^ for post of the year 2015!
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I think he is referring to the disparity within the system. At least my experience was it heavily leaned toward the female. I live in a community property state. Everything is "supposed" to be 50/50. However the reality is that didn't happen. While I kept my retirement, and my deferred compensation account and personal vehicles, she got the house, savings and everything else. I literally left with a truck full of my clothes and personal items... Got an apartment and had to buy everything from a bottle opener to washcloths at Walmart Nordstrom as I rebuilt my life.
Owned your house prior to getting married? You still have to share the increase in value while you were married. Had a retirement account? She gets half of what you accumulate during your marriage. Deferred Comp increase during your marriage? She gets half the increase. You paid all the bills and the mortgage? So what... she still gets half
Although I have not been divorced, I know a lot of people who have been. In fact, none of our longtime friends are still together. Most of these divorces were contentious because their was a lot of anger involved on both sides. My mom and dad separated before I was 5 years old. Each of them went their own way. My mom didn't actually divorce my dad for many years, not for any particular reason either. There was little for them to split and whichever of them was taking care of me at any given time covered the cost. Alimony and child support was a non issue.
I think we're all forgetting to mention that when a marriage ends, it is often a mutual decision. At least with one of our friends, it was the husband's serial cheating that ended the marriage. His wife took him to the cleaners. She had not worked during their marriage at her husband's insistence. The were married for almost 20 years.
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Although I have not been divorced, I know a lot of people who have been. In fact, none of our longtime friends are still together. Most of these divorces were contentious because their was a lot of anger involved on both sides. My mom and dad separated before I was 5 years old. Each of them went their own way. My mom didn't actually divorce my dad for many years, not for any particular reason either. There was little for them to split and whichever of them was taking care of me at any given time covered the cost. Alimony and child support was a non issue.
I think we're all forgetting to mention that when a marriage ends, it is often a mutual decision. At least with one of our friends, it was the husband's serial cheating that ended the marriage. His wife took him to the cleaners. She had not worked during their marriage at her husband's insistence. The were married for almost 20 years.
Ironically, my divorce was mutually agreed upon.. until the process started... the reality set in and she turned into a she-devil and totally unreasonable. I guess she wasn't as ready to let go as she thought. Anyhoo, lesson learned. Going forward, gotta protect yourself in the event it doesn't work out.
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I live in a country where feminism hasn't taken off.
My wife doesn't work. She gets up in the AM and takes the kids to school, then goes and fetches me a coffee from Starbucks and when she comes back she cooks my breakfast. I work at home and I just have to call out for a cup of tea or a snack any time (unless she's off @ her yoga class or with friends). There is never any complaint and I usually get a peck on the cheek when it comes. I get lunch & dinner made too and if she's not there she makes sure my food is.
If I go out & get shitfaced, I can call her at 3am and she'll drive into town and pick me up. Same deal if she's out with the girls, I'll do the same.
She considers these 'chores' just a part of helping her man focus on his business which right now is taking a lot of time. That's her role in the relationship.
In return, she expects the weekends to be family time. She expects to be taken out on dates so we can spend time together. She expects me to stay fit as she likes to get pounded hard in the sack, something she considers to be my role in the relationship - making sure she's sexually satisfied. When it's her time of the month, she'll give me BJs without complaint. She expects me to change lightbulbs, fix broken shit and do the driving when we are both in the car.
She has her friends & I have mine. She's free to go out whenever she wants as am I. Sometimes I go out with her friends too - but only with a wingman.
Marriage is not for everyone. I personally like the companionship. We met when I was 36 and I'm 45 on Saturday. She's 33 in June. Of course, we have our moments, heated discussions but that's normal.
In the event of my death - everything goes to her & the kids but in the meantime - offshore bank accounts are way beyond the jurisdiction of courts in this country.
All in all - I am happy to be married and happy that we both have our roles, I support her, she supports me. I think this is the way it used to be a long time ago in the west....
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I am happy to be married
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Unable to comprehend that different people like different things?
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Unable to comprehend that different people like different things?
You'll lose 50% of your shit
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Says the guy with the flip phone.
No cell phone at all. Is this the best rebuttal you got?
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Unable to comprehend that different people like different things?
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I think the main issue here is that people can't accept others choices and indirectly feel the need to defend their life choice. Got married and had kids? No desire to be you. 'But but whaaa whaaa leaving something behind , whaaa growing old with someone whhaaaaa whaaaa never alone on Christmas'. You're just defending against others being dismissive of your world. Nothing more, nothing less. The same goes for those that chooses to stay single. The married mob gets dismissive of their choice and now they feel the need to step up.
How bout not giving a flying fuck what others think or do and do what YOU want to do without feeling irresistibly moved to trumpet it out. I'm still in two minds. One the one side I'd like to have the family life but knowing myself, I'll have to brute force it. Nor does the forever alone life suit me either. I'd be dating up a storm until I get snagged again and the cycle repeats itself. And maybe that's all that's in the cards for me. Relationships, kids, dating, sex does not a life make. I'll focus on me and whichever way the other stuff happens, I'll accept and move with it.
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Some of you guys need to change the scenery if all you see are fake women with fake tan, fake boobs, fake nails, fake hair. If that's all the women you've ever dated, then that's because that's all you've wanted/deserved.
just my two fucks :D
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I think the main issue here is that people can't accept others choices and indirectly feel the need to defend their life choice. Got married and had kids? No desire to be you. 'But but whaaa whaaa leaving something behind , whaaa growing old with someone whhaaaaa whaaaa never alone on Christmas'. You're just defending against others being dismissive of your world. Nothing more, nothing less. The same goes for those that chooses to stay single. The married mob gets dismissive of their choice and now they feel the need to step up.
How bout not giving a flying fuck what others think or do and do what YOU want to do without feeling irresistibly moved to trumpet it out. I'm still in two minds. One the one side I'd like to have the family life but knowing myself, I'll have to brute force it. Nor does the forever alone life suit me either. I'd be dating up a storm until I get snagged again and the cycle repeats itself. And maybe that's all that's in the cards for me. Relationships, kids, dating, sex does not a life make. I'll focus on me and whichever way the other stuff happens, I'll accept and move with it.
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You'll die alone ,have fun with that .
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You'll die alone ,have fun with that .
hehe, so you would be the first mentioned clan, feeling moved to defend that you need to be with someone to make sense of it all. :-\
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Some of you guys need to change the scenery if all you see are fake women with fake tan, fake boobs, fake nails, fake hair. If that's all the women you've ever dated, then that's because that's all you've wanted/deserved.
just my two fucks :D
I've not dated a Finn that's either not a PHD in Psychology and on a whole suitcase full of antidepressants, or as crazy as a loon.
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THIS. Although skip the asexual part. I am single, early forties, no kids and have never been happier. I see relationships as self induced torture, I actually avoid any form of relationship like the plague. I live in my own little two bedroom house with my cat in a nice suburb near the hills. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. I have nobody playing the critic, granting me permission for things I want to do and I am fully independent. I prepare my own food, wash/iron my own clothes, clean my own house etc etc.
Modern day feminism has ruined women, I now look at western women and hear them talk and I feel nauseous, they truly are off-putting. With their overt falseness from fake nails, fake hair, fake hair color, fake boobs, fake tan etc etc. Women today are so fake, all trying to constantly compete with one another on a superficial level and never taking time to develop actual character. Yep, fuck today's women, I am happy to go my own way.
Good post and I applaud your independent lifestyle !
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I am reminded of a Simpsons episode, I couldn't find a youtube clip of it, but it was the episode "Homer's phobia" and Marge had made a gay male friend and Homer didn't realize her new friend was gay. Marge tries to hint to Homer that he is gay.
Marge: Homer, didn't John seem a little "festive" to you?
Homer: Couldn't agree more, happy as a clam.
Marge: He prefers the company of men!
Homer: Who doesn't?
Marge: Homer, listen carefully. John is a Ho - mo...
Homer: Right.
Marge: ...Sexual.
Homer: A fellow getbigger !
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Unable to comprehend that different people like different things?
Well at least she's beautiful and much younger.
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I think the main issue here is that people can't accept others choices and indirectly feel the need to defend their life choice. Got married and had kids? No desire to be you. 'But but whaaa whaaa leaving something behind , whaaa growing old with someone whhaaaaa whaaaa never alone on Christmas'. You're just defending against others being dismissive of your world. Nothing more, nothing less. The same goes for those that chooses to stay single. The married mob gets dismissive of their choice and now they feel the need to step up.
How bout not giving a flying fuck what others think or do and do what YOU want to do without feeling irresistibly moved to trumpet it out. I'm still in two minds. One the one side I'd like to have the family life but knowing myself, I'll have to brute force it. Nor does the forever alone life suit me either. I'd be dating up a storm until I get snagged again and the cycle repeats itself. And maybe that's all that's in the cards for me. Relationships, kids, dating, sex does not a life make. I'll focus on me and whichever way the other stuff happens, I'll accept and move with it.
Good/healthy outlook. These who are afraid to die alone may be in for quite a dissapointment (when spouse dies a lot earlier for ex. or when a marriage goes south at a later age, which happens way too often). Doing anything out of fear is a defeat.
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When a woman considers meeting up with you or going out with you the first thing she sees is her children with you,what you can provide for them, can you raise them, etc...that's a quality woman.
Then you have the women who run strictly on emotions, how you make them feel. These are the chicks who cheat on their CEO husband with the 25 year old loser who bags her groceries .. these women make for shit relationships because they're so unpredictable and will make your life hell. These are not quality women. Not saying they aren't as hot, they usually are... but these are the only women that will date you if you don't have money...regardless of if you have a good body and are good looking.
I've got wealthy friends, some millionaires. Amazing when one of my buddies lets me borrow one of his rolexes for a night how much easier it is to bag women. Sad but true....When you have money women will not pull as many shit tests and they won't flake etc..That's why If a guy with money is single he's probably got some issues, probably a huge introvert, was hurt from a past relationship etc. I just dont see why a normal guy would turn down a beautiful woman who gives him very little shit and money will give you that. Give a guy like me 100k a year Id have a 9/10 wife prepping my meals for me in a week guaranteed. So yes overall I agree with da vinci, guys with money are probably way happier they dont gotta deal with a woman's bullshit.
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Some of you guys need to change the scenery if all you see are fake women with fake tan, fake boobs, fake nails, fake hair. If that's all the women you've ever dated, then that's because that's all you've wanted/deserved.
just my two fucks :D
TBH I'd like to live in this scenery for a summer or two. lol where I'm from you got fat crazies, regular crazies, skinny crackhead crazies, and successful crazies. All the good women are already married to successful men or are doing it themselves and don't need a man. lol what a world. Who needs tv when you have life. I love living. It's a rollercoaster that never ends.
This thread is more positive than I thought it would be. A lot of common sense and a lot of hilarity.
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. Amazing when one of my buddies lets me borrow one of his rolexes for a night how much easier it is to bag women.
Hahaha WTF
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When a woman considers meeting up with you or going out with you the first thing she sees is her children with you,what you can provide for them, can you raise them, etc...that's a quality woman.
* No! That's a woman that got knocked up and wants some sucker to help raise her kids and pay the bills.*
Then you have the women who run strictly on emotions, how you make them feel. These are the chicks who cheat on their CEO husband with the 25 year old loser who bags her groceries .. these women make for shit relationships because they're so unpredictable and will make your life hell. These are not quality women. Not saying they aren't as hot, they usually are... but these are the only women that will date you if you don't have a * NEW TRUCK...regardless of if you have a good body and are good looking.
I've got wealthy friends, some millionaires. Amazing when one of my buddies lets me borrow one of his *TRUCKS for a night how much easier it is to bag women. Sad but true....When you have money women will not pull as many shit tests and they won't flake etc..That's why If a guy with a *NEW TRUCK is single he's probably got some issues, probably a huge introvert, was hurt from a driving a beater etc. I just dont see why a normal guy would turn down a beautiful woman who gives him very little shit and NEW TRUCKS will give you that. Give a guy like me * A NEW BLACK TRUCK and Id have a 9/10 wife prepping my meals for me in a week guaranteed. So yes overall I agree with da vinci, guys with NEW TRUCKS are probably way happier they dont gotta deal with a woman's bullshit.
Fixed - for flint ;)
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I think marriage (basically just a very long term relationship) runs into the trouble of people growing apart and wanting different things. This usually boils down to finances. You aren't the same person you were 5 years ago, and thus ever evolving. This is where the "stuck in a rut" delves from. People don't accept change very well, and this creates envy, bitterness, etc. Also if someone pulls a complete fuck up are they ever really forgiven, and if so, nobody ever forgets. This builds resentment, once that kicks in the relationship ends its apex and slides downward.
Good post!
Major changes in my previous 3 wives was why I ended up getting divorced.
For example, the first 2 wanted kids, AFTER we got married BUT agreed not to, going in.
It amazed me how they just assumed I'd change and want kids. I didn't and never did.
I don't understand guys that constantly cheat on their wife.
If you want to screw around, that's fine, just get divorced, be single and live on your own terms.
Living a lie , is a life of quiet desperation.
In my opinion, getting married to a broke ass girl with no career today is a dead end street.
With no kids and BOTH working in a decent paying career, if divorce comes, you split things up fairly and move on with minimal drama.
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When a woman considers meeting up with you or going out with you the first thing she sees is her children with you,what you can provide for them, can you raise them, etc...that's a quality woman.
Then you have the women who run strictly on emotions, how you make them feel. These are the chicks who cheat on their CEO husband with the 25 year old loser who bags her groceries .. these women make for shit relationships because they're so unpredictable and will make your life hell. These are not quality women. Not saying they aren't as hot, they usually are... but these are the only women that will date you if you don't have money...regardless of if you have a good body and are good looking.
I've got wealthy friends, some millionaires. Amazing when one of my buddies lets me borrow one of his rolexes for a night how much easier it is to bag women. Sad but true....When you have money women will not pull as many shit tests and they won't flake etc..That's why If a guy with money is single he's probably got some issues, probably a huge introvert, was hurt from a past relationship etc. I just dont see why a normal guy would turn down a beautiful woman who gives him very little shit and money will give you that. Give a guy like me 100k a year Id have a 9/10 wife prepping my meals for me in a week guaranteed. So yes overall I agree with da vinci, guys with money are probably way happier they dont gotta deal with a woman's bullshit.
100K a year ;D
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Hilarious enough I was just this second watching Game of Thrones and one of those army soldiers with no dick went to a whore house and all he does is pay to have her lay with him and rub his back. HAHA that's like the prime reason you have a steady girlfriend. For when you are down in the dumps to "mother you up" in a way and tell you things will be alright. LOL it's just a whore away for that haha
If you hit that pussy right any chick is gonna want to "mother you up" after, cook for you, clean your house, all that shit
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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
Sounds like your friend is living the life that makes him happy, nothing wrong with that. I have a friend that I work with who is the 40 year old virgin, no joke, and he tells me he's happy other than being lonely sometimes but would rather not deal with the stress of having a woman around
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I've got wealthy friends, some millionaires. Amazing when one of my buddies lets me borrow one of his rolexes for a night how much easier it is to bag women. Sad but true....When you have money women will not pull as many shit tests and they won't flake etc..That's why If a guy with money is single he's probably got some issues, probably a huge introvert, was hurt from a past relationship etc. I just dont see why a normal guy would turn down a beautiful woman who gives him very little shit and money will give you that. Give a guy like me 100k a year Id have a 9/10 wife prepping my meals for me in a week guaranteed. So yes overall I agree with da vinci, guys with money are probably way happier they dont gotta deal with a woman's bullshit.
I've never had a woman notice a Rolex in fact the only watch women have commented on were my Breitlings and a Panerai.
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You'll die alone ,have fun with that .
So will you, married or not.
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So will you, married or not.
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My wife will be next to me holding my hand . You will die alone ,drowning in your own feces .
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My wife will be next to me holding my hand . You will die alone ,drowning in your own feces .
You are truly a moron of spectacular proportions. How do you know your wife won't die first? And holding your hand! Are you five years old and your wife is your surrogate Mother? Grow the fuck up and face death like a man and stop acting like a child going to the dentist for the first time. I am happy to die alone! I don't fear it and I certainly don't need anybody holding my hand when it happens. Fucking pussy.
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You are truly a moron of spectacular proportions. How do you know your wife won't die first? And holding your hand! Are you five years old and your wife is your surrogate Mother? Grow the fuck up and face death like a man and stop acting like a child going to the dentist for the first time. I am happy to die alone! I don't fear it and I certainly don't need anybody holding my hand when it happens. Fucking pussy.
Hahah
I bet you are not alone by choice , you fat ugly piece of shit.
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I bet you are not alone by choice , you fat ugly piece of shit.
It doesn't matter if it is my choice or not, I don't have any problem with being alone, in fact I prefer it. I don't see being alone as a negative, but a positive. Being alone is truly a joy, I have never understood why any man would fear it.
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It doesn't matter if it is my choice or not,
Yes it does , you are alone and bitter because pussy ignores you .
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It doesn't matter if it is my choice or not, I don't have any problem with being alone, in fact I prefer it. I don't see being alone as a negative, but a positive. Being alone is truly a joy, I have never understood why any man would fear it.
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You are truly a moron of spectacular proportions. How do you know your wife won't die first? And holding your hand! Are you five years old and your wife is your surrogate Mother? Grow the fuck up and face death like a man and stop acting like a child going to the dentist for the first time. I am happy to die alone! I don't fear it and I certainly don't need anybody holding my hand when it happens. Fucking pussy.
Sure hope someone finds your body before you start stinking up the joint. Once the smell of rotting flesh permeates a place, it is next to impossible to get rid of it....not that you'll care because you will be dead.
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Yes it does , you are alone and bitter because pussy ignores you .
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Haha yes , Radical Plato is a bit of a ladies' man
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You'll lose 50% of your shit
Nope - as most of my shit is offshore & out of reach.
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It's his life and I applaud him for doing what makes him happy. Screw the conventional "family life" that seems to be expected. There might come a time where he feels lonely, or regret, however he always has the opportunity to settle down and meet someone to spend the rest of his life with. Smart man
qft
do whatever make you happy
so long as you aren't hurting anyone else
each to their own!
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Besides just sex, just meeting people. If you're single, in good shape, mentally and physically, you should have no problem being social with others.
many ppl don't want to be social
I for one hate making small talk about irrelevant crap like celebrities and when they wiped their ass or took their poodle for a walk
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No cell phone at all. Is this the best rebuttal you got?
Actually, if I knew that THAT would have been my rebuttal.
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THIS. Although skip the asexual part. I am single, early forties, no kids and have never been happier. I see relationships as self induced torture, I actually avoid any form of relationship like the plague. I live in my own little two bedroom house with my cat in a nice suburb near the hills. I do what I want, when I want and how I want. I have nobody playing the critic, granting me permission for things I want to do and I am fully independent. I prepare my own food, wash/iron my own clothes, clean my own house etc etc.
Modern day feminism has ruined women, I now look at western women and hear them talk and I feel nauseous, they truly are off-putting. With their overt falseness from fake nails, fake hair, fake hair color, fake boobs, fake tan etc etc. Women today are so fake, all trying to constantly compete with one another on a superficial level and never taking time to develop actual character. Yep, fuck today's women, I am happy to go my own way.
great + accurate post esp re western women
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You'll die alone ,have fun with that .
words of a woman
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words of a woman
Words of someone hellbent on justifying their way of life to you.
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words of a woman
haha!
I also like the "nobody will ever love you like I did. nobody will ever [blah blah blah]". As if it isn't the same with pretty much everyone. Cracks me up every time.
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I bet you are not alone by choice , you fat ugly piece of shit.
Most guys I know at work who are single and middle aged usually isn't through choice. Just guys that struggle to attract women for varying reasons.
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Most guys I know at work who are single and middle aged usually isn't through choice. Just guys that struggle to attract women for varying reasons.
We should separate these who are alone and these who are single (but fuck shitloads of pussy). Most of these who are not married and over 35 that I know - have plenty of sex, more than they have time for. The choice of females becomes pretty much unlimited at that age if one is looking decent and is well set financially.
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We should separate these who are alone and these who are single (but fuck shitloads of pussy). Most of these who are not married and over 35 that I know - have plenty of sex, more than they have time for. The choice of females becomes pretty much unlimited at that age if one is looking decent and is well set financially.
You don't even need money in your 30's if you are in half decent shape. By that age you should know how to play a woman like a fiddle.
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You don't even need money in your 30's if you are in half decent shape. By that age you should know how to play a woman like a fiddle.
Yes, you generally don't have to be rich at any age if you know the drill, but money just makes it more fun. If decent shape and money = limitless.
On a side note - if I did marry at like 24 and later on would've realized the amount of female choices I can have at 30 it would've drove me insane.
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not sure why there's a thread on here discussing being with a woman at any time for any reason let alone to marry one ?
reported. >:(
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We should separate these who are alone and these who are single (but fuck shitloads of pussy). Most of these who are not married and over 35 that I know - have plenty of sex, more than they have time for. The choice of females becomes pretty much unlimited at that age if one is looking decent and is well set financially.
Yeah, there are guys who are approaching middle age, single and still having a great time but they are usually the exceptions. From what I've seen, the majority of guys who are single and middle aged tend to be awkward betas who can't (and never have) had much success with women.
If you re-read the posts from Radical Pluto, it seems to me that the guy is single more down to just being unable to get a woman - and is now trying to twist it by saying how he hates "modern" women and prefers being alone. ::)
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jessica alba knocked on my door the other night but i responded "sorry hun, im better off alone!! i quite enjoy it actually so take care now1!"
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Yeah, there are guys who are approaching middle age, single and still having a great time but they are usually the exceptions. From what I've seen, the majority of guys who are single and middle aged tend to be awkward betas who can't (and never have) had much success with women.
If you re-read the posts from Radical Pluto, it seems to me that the guy is single more down to just being unable to get a woman - and is now trying to twist it by saying how he hates "modern" women and prefers being alone. ::)
Well you may be right (differnt types exist). I tend to evaluate from my subjective perspective, as friends I speak about are far from awkward.
On a side note - everyone has what I call a "sense of genes". I mean - guys/girls who are not the best looking fishes in the pond tend to settle down as fast as possible, because with time their pond dries out completely. While others, who are aware that they will be still in demand 20-30 years down the road - do whatever they want. Like with most things in life - lot of depends on what parents gave you. My long time friend, who's much older than me, kind of a Groink.. has been a "bachelor" his whole life, because.... he's extremely good looking fella and has no issues in finding a woman while being 50+. It depends.. We all tend to evaluate situation from our own subjective perspective.
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Well you may be right (differnt types exist). I tend to evaluate from my subjective perspective, as friends I speak about are far from awkward.
On a side note - everyone has what I call a "sense of genes". I mean - guys/girls who are not the best looking fishes in the pond tend to settle down as fast as possible, because with time their pond dries out completely. While others, who are aware that they will be still in demand 20-30 years down the road - do whatever they want. Like with most things in life - lot of depends on what parents gave you. My long time friend, who's much older than me, kind of a Groink.. has been a "bachelor" his whole life, because.... he's extremely good looking fella and has no issues in finding a woman while being 50+. It depends.. We all tend to evaluate situation from our own subjective perspective.
Fair enough although I think making predictions on what you will look like in 20-30 years time is a gamble. I think settling down eventually and starting a family is a rewarding experience for any man although I admit that I can't understand when rich, good looking men get hitched in their 20's.
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haha!
I also like the "nobody will ever love you like I did. nobody will ever [blah blah blah]". As if it isn't the same with pretty much everyone. Cracks me up every time.
In the words of ESPN Gameday's , Lee Corso ; " Not so fast my friend."
1. Yup, plenty of butt hurt men/women say that upon breaking up.
2. BUT, there are some exceptions. For example, my maternal grandparents were married for 76 yrs.
He went first at age 99 and she passed a yr later. My mom said, they were holding hands in the back seat when she was taking them for a scenic drive, during the last month he was alive.
That kind of love is rare and wonderful. Not everyone is the same, sorry. ;)
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In the words of ESPN Gameday's , Lee Corso ; " Not so fast my friend."
1. Yup, plenty of butt hurt men/women say that upon breaking up.
2. BUT, there are some exceptions. For example, my maternal grandparents were married for 76 yrs.
He went first at age 99 and she passed a yr later. My mom said, they were holding hands in the back seat when she was taking them for a scenic drive, during the last month he was alive.
That kind of love is rare and wonderful. Not everyone is the same, sorry. ;)
My parents have been married over 30+ years. My grandparents both sides been together since teenagers. So I hear ya on that one.
But I laugh when someone says "I can't live without you" and then 2 months later has a new partner and is going around saying "love of my life". A lot of people just feel they need to be with someone to validate their existence. It's the true definition of a follower.
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Yeah, there are guys who are approaching middle age, single and still having a great time but they are usually the exceptions. From what I've seen, the majority of guys who are single and middle aged tend to be awkward betas who can't (and never have) had much success with women.
If you re-read the posts from Radical Pluto, it seems to me that the guy is single more down to just being unable to get a woman - and is now trying to twist it by saying how he hates "modern" women and prefers being alone. ::)
I have never had any trouble getting a woman, I have only been single for the first time in my life for the last year, prior to that I was in a ten year relationship and prior to that had a couple of long term relationships. It has been the best year of my life, and after my twenty five year experience of being in relationships, I can confirm they offer very little for a man in the long term. I am 42 and still in great shape, I ride, run, lift, hike, swim etc and get plenty of attention from women, but I have no intention of disrupting my serene and supreme way of life by hooking up with a woman my age, who will be close to menopause, more than likely have kids and a host of issues about her failed relationships.
Not only this, why would anyone want to sleep with these women when there are plenty of young hot chicks out there gagging for it. Like I said, men will always want to fuck hot young chicks, regardless of their age. Men who claim to have a great sex life and their wife is 40 plus are lying or the exception to the rule. Show me a man who would choose a 45 year old menopausal used up women over a hot twenty something and I will show you a liar or a man with a milf complex.
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My parents have been married over 30+ years. My grandparents both sides been together since teenagers. So I hear ya on that one.
But I laugh when someone says "I can't live without you" and then 2 months later has a new partner and is going around saying "love of my life". A lot of people just feel they need to be with someone to validate their existence. It's the true definition of a follower.
I try to live by the wisdom of the "Serenity Prayer" ( I'm not a Christian but I believe in GOD).
" Lord, provide me the courage to change the things I can, accept those things I can't change and the wisdom to know the difference "
I combine that with my own basic wisdom of : you can't help how you FEEL, but you can control what you do and say.
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I try to live by the wisdom of the "Serenity Prayer" ( I'm not a Christian but I believe in GOD).
" Lord, provide me the courage to change the things I can, accept those things I can't change and the wisdom to know the difference "
I combine that with my own basic wisdom of : you can't help how you FEEL, but you can control what you do and say.
Friend of Bill W.?
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Fair enough although I think making predictions on what you will look like in 20-30 years time is a gamble. I think settling down eventually and starting a family is a rewarding experience for any man although I admit that I can't understand when rich, good looking men get hitched in their 20's.
Well... it's a gamble, but I think everyone would admit that they somewhat "know" the personal "value" in this market. Looks, ambitions, potential in achieving goals.. we all have this kind of inner guess.
I'm still not sure about the rewarding part, but don't reject that idea for sure. It's a big gamble too though, very big. Spending 20-30 years with one person is a damn serious deal with quite a high risk of a failure.
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Not only this, why would anyone want to sleep with these women when there are plenty of young hot chicks out there gagging for it. Like I said, men will always want to fuck hot young chicks, regardless of their age. Men who claim to have a great sex life and their wife is 40 plus are lying or the exception to the rule. Show me a man who would choose a 45 year old menopausal used up women over a hot twenty something and I will show you a liar or a man with a milf complex.
One fella I know who has been in a succesfull marriage for about 14-15 years said to me some once "If you will ever marry, make sure your wife is at least 8 years younger. Thank me later.". His wife is 10 years younger if I'm not mistaken.
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I have never had any trouble getting a woman, I have only been single for the first time in my life for the last year, prior to that I was in a ten year relationship and prior to that had a couple of long term relationships. It has been the best year of my life, and after my twenty five year experience of being in relationships, I can confirm they offer very little for a man in the long term. I am 42 and still in great shape, I ride, run, lift, hike, swim etc and get plenty of attention from women, but I have no intention of disrupting my serene and supreme way of life by hooking up with a woman my age, who will be close to menopause, more than likely have kids and a host of issues about her failed relationships.
Not only this, why would anyone want to sleep with these women when there are plenty of young hot chicks out there gagging for it. Like I said, men will always want to fuck hot young chicks, regardless of their age. Men who claim to have a great sex life and their wife is 40 plus are lying or the exception to the rule. Show me a man who would choose a 45 year old menopausal used up women over a hot twenty something and I will show you a liar or a man with a milf complex.
I hear ya and found that was my experience after I last got divorced 9 yrs ago.
I'm no stud, but I had little trouble going out with attractive woman of all ages when single.
Sexual adventures and dating are fun, but for me, it lacked "something".
I could have gone on like that and been fine, but I didn't.
To me the whole dating thing was like going to an amusement park.
It's fun to take rides on the roller coaster and see the sights, etc.
Then you're back to square 1, so you repeat the cycle the next day, ad naseum.
For me, that got old.
I ended up dating and then marrying a pretty , successful woman , who is only 2 yrs younger.
I'm the happiest I've ever been, and for me, life is as good as it gets.
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One fella I know who has been in a succesfull marriage for about 14-15 years said to me some once "If you will ever marry, make sure your wife is at least 8 years younger. Thank me later.". His wife is 10 years younger if I'm not mistaken.
I met my 3rd wife , at a gym , right after she graduated from college at 21. I was 35.
She went to grad school while we were married and then worked as a licensed psychologist. I always thought she was sexy.
By the time she got in her 30's, she had changed and that's normal.
Those changes led to a divorce and that's life.
Moral to the story : Being in a relationship with a younger woman has some perks, but they change and that can lead to a relationship train wreck.
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I hear ya and found that was my experience after I last got divorced 9 yrs ago.
I'm no stud, but I had little trouble going out with attractive woman of all ages when single.
Sexual adventures and dating are fun, but for me, it lacked "something".
I could have gone on like that and been fine, but I didn't.
To me the whole dating thing was like going to an amusement park.
It's fun to take rides on the roller coaster and see the sights, etc.
Then you're back to square 1, so you repeat the cycle the next day, ad naseum.
For me, that got old.
I ended up dating and then marrying a pretty , successful woman , who is only 2 yrs younger.
I'm the happiest I've ever been, and for me, life is as good as it gets.
the mayor thinks otherwise...
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I hear ya and found that was my experience after I last got divorced 9 yrs ago.
I'm no stud, but I had little trouble going out with attractive woman of all ages when single.
Sexual adventures and dating are fun, but for me, it lacked "something".
I could have gone on like that and been fine, but I didn't.
To me the whole dating thing was like going to an amusement park.
It's fun to take rides on the roller coaster and see the sights, etc.
Then you're back to square 1, so you repeat the cycle the next day, ad naseum.
For me, that got old.
I ended up dating and then marrying a pretty , successful woman , who is only 2 yrs younger.
I'm the happiest I've ever been, and for me, life is as good as it gets.
I never say never, but for now I am happy to be single and feel no compulsion to 'find someone'. I have many interests that keep my life full and I no longer suffer from the overwhelming lust typical of youth that literally forces you to seek out a female companion. I think I have always aspired to a solitary life, I grew up with two older bothers and two younger sisters and never enjoyed the experience, I was always wanting to be away from them and not spend time with them, mind you my family of origin was very dysfunctional. I think because of my dysfunctional upbringing it led me to attract the wrong type of mate and it was only through my few attempts at love failing it made me realize I actually enjoy being alone, like really enjoy it. I find it brings me peace and stability, I no longer have any sudden emotional upheaval caused by my other half taking their shit out on me. Nor do I miss the 'control' women like to assert over their partners.
Maybe it is just me, and I was the problem, well I am OK with that because I truly love living on my own. I often wonder if people stay in relationships even though they are shitty is because people prefer what they are used to as opposed to the fear of change, the unknown or being alone. Better the devil they know.
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Friend of mine I've mentioned before when the marriage subject came up.. serial marrier.. just told me he is engaged to be married in November. Just got divorced for the second time from his current wife... this will make marriage #7...but THIS IS THE ONE... Kinda sad..
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I met my 3rd wife , at a gym , right after she graduated from college at 21. I was 35.
She went to grad school while we were married and then worked as a licensed psychologist. I always thought she was sexy.
By the time she got in her 30's, she had changed and that's normal.
Those changes led to a divorce and that's life.
Moral to the story : Being in a relationship with a younger woman has some perks, but they change and that can lead to a relationship train wreck.
She started to want kids I suppose?
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She started to want kids I suppose?
Nope, but the first 2 did.
The 3rd one wanted to live a more "independent lifestyle" ; translation - I want to screw around.
I wasn't that pissed off , but figured wtf and simply got divorced without much drama.
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Nope, but the first 2 did.
The 3rd one wanted to live a more "independent lifestyle" ; translation - I want to screw around.
I wasn't that pissed off , but figured wtf and simply got divorced without much drama.
If you've never looked up the stats for divorce among 1st, 2nd, 3rd marriages it's an eye opener. One would think after your first marriage, you are older, wiser and know what you want.. yet.. the stats get considerably worse after the 1st marriage. Point being Howard.. don't get too comfortable with this one... I'm not mocking you, I'm in a similar boat
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If you've never looked up the stats for divorce among 1st, 2nd, 3rd marriages it's an eye opener. One would think after your first marriage, you are older, wiser and know what you want.. yet.. the stats get considerably worse after the 1st marriage. Point being Howard.. don't get too comfortable with this one... I'm not mocking you, I'm in a similar boat
Trust me , I live well grounded in reality.
I do the best I can and take it one day at the time.
" Life is like a get big thread, you never want you're gonna get" :D
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Trust me , I live well grounded in reality.
I do the best I can and take it one day at the time.
" Life is like a get big thread, you never want you're gonna get" :D
Sounds like you got it under control then... and good luck.. hope this one works out
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Dont wanna hijack this thread but my wife and I were arguing over kids today. She wants them, me...not so sure. Any benefits of having kids or are there none? Im not the type who needs kids to fill some void or hole in my life. She on the other hand, the kids fills the hole of being an only child
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Dont wanna hijack this thread but my wife and I were arguing over kids today. She wants them, me...not so sure. Any benefits of having kids or are there none? Im not the type who needs kids to fill some void or hole in my life. She on the other hand, the kids fills the hole of being an only child
Your genes live on? That's why you're here. We are all animals...
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Your genes live on? That's why you're here. We are all animals...
what a horrible motive for having kids since it does not make any sense.
when you die you don't care whether or not you made some college drop out who has a dead end job to carry "your name". It would neither make any difference if your kid made a multi trillion company. You're dead!
We may be animals but not that much.
Believers think that having a family is the meaning of life because god said so. Non believers think that you should have kids because you're an animal and animals make offsprings to carry on their genes. Both sound utterly fucking stupid imo, there is no logic in neither. You are fucking DEAD, nuigah!
The only logical reason to have kids is a poetic one, and that's love. To see life grow and loving that life and giving that life everything you have and more. That is it. You don't make kids for legacy!
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If you've never looked up the stats for divorce among 1st, 2nd, 3rd marriages it's an eye opener. One would think after your first marriage, you are older, wiser and know what you want.. yet.. the stats get considerably worse after the 1st marriage. Point being Howard.. don't get too comfortable with this one... I'm not mocking you, I'm in a similar boat
I've read these statistics too. I guess a lot of folks don't learn from their mistakes.
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Dont wanna hijack this thread but my wife and I were arguing over kids today. She wants them, me...not so sure. Any benefits of having kids or are there none? Im not the type who needs kids to fill some void or hole in my life. She on the other hand, the kids fills the hole of being an only child
Many men have little interest in having children. Many women are very keen on having them. It's probably part of their maternal nature.
I wanted a son because I felt the need to pass on the family name. My grandfather, father, me and my son all have the same name. My dad was an only son, I am an only child and my son is an only son. Passing down names is somewhat antiquated. My son and his wife chose not to name their only son after is father, so the tradition ends.
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Dont wanna hijack this thread but my wife and I were arguing over kids today. She wants them, me...not so sure. Any benefits of having kids or are there none? Im not the type who needs kids to fill some void or hole in my life. She on the other hand, the kids fills the hole of being an only child
Man, if you don't really really want a child, I would advise against it. It is a lot of work, very challenging at best and unless your whole heart is in it, it can be overwhelming. On the other hand, for those who really want kids, it's always worth it all in the end and the joy and memories are priceless.
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I've read these statistics too. I guess a lot of folks don't learn from their mistakes.
It's weird. I'm semi intelligent, realistic and logical. Yet I'm on my 3rd marriage at 52. THIS one is the one... etc etc. I KNOW it's not a financially good move, yet I do it anyways...
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Man, if you don't really really want a child, I would advise against it. It is a lot of work, very challenging at best and unless your whole heart is in it, it can be overwhelming. On the other hand, for those who really want kids, it's always worth it all in the end and the joy and memories are priceless.
Thanks man, im just in a pickle because men can have kids at any age..my wife in her early thirties, u only have a certain window of opportunity. The problem is, maybe down the road i will want one, but at the moment i have literally ZERO interest. The thought of having that added expense and responsibility just seems dreadful (and im early thirties with a reasonably lax career, decent money). I hvae no fatherly instinct or drive. I do love my dogs though. So i understand my wifes position as well, since she wants them and has to endure my ass with "well maybe he will want one, but if he doesnt then im screwed
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Dont wanna hijack this thread but my wife and I were arguing over kids today. She wants them, me...not so sure. Any benefits of having kids or are there none? Im not the type who needs kids to fill some void or hole in my life. She on the other hand, the kids fills the hole of being an only child
Had that discussion myself 2x and in the end there is no middle ground or compromise.
If you really have an inner yearning to father children, then by all means, go for it.
BUT, if you don't or have doubts, it will likely morph into endless hrs of drudgery.
Choice A - She caves and gives up on her desire to have kids. That could lead to resentment on her part.
Choice B - Man caves and has kids with her. When parenting gets stress ( as it will ) he'll resent her for having 'em.
THERE IS NO COMPROMISE ON THIS ONE.
I ended up divorced the first 2x on this exact issue and never had regrets or resentment.
Good luck.
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Man, if you don't really really want a child, I would advise against it. It is a lot of work, very challenging at best and unless your whole heart is in it, it can be overwhelming. On the other hand, for those who really want kids, it's always worth it all in the end and the joy and memories are priceless.
Laying down truth.
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Thanks man, im just in a pickle because men can have kids at any age..my wife in her early thirties, u only have a certain window of opportunity. The problem is, maybe down the road i will want one, but at the moment i have literally ZERO interest. The thought of having that added expense and responsibility just seems dreadful (and im early thirties with a reasonably lax career, decent money). I hvae no fatherly instinct or drive. I do love my dogs though. So i understand my wifes position as well, since she wants them and has to endure my ass with "well maybe he will want one, but if he doesnt then im screwed
I wish you could rent one for a trial period.. I think that would solve the question quickly
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Had that discussion myself 2x and in the end there is no middle ground or compromise.
If you really have an inner yearning to father children, then by all means, go for it.
BUT, if you don't or have doubts, it will likely morph into endless hrs of drudgery.
Choice A - She caves and gives up on her desire to have kids. That could lead to resentment on her part.
Choice B - Man caves and has kids with her. When parenting gets stress ( as it will ) he'll resent her for having 'em.
THERE IS NO COMPROMISE ON THIS ONE.
I ended up divorced the first 2x on this exact issue and never had regrets or resentment.
Good luck.
Thanks bro, do u ever think maybe u made the wrong choice though? Doubts?
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newsflash, men have kids because they want to please the women they re with... but they actually dont care about legacy or anything. Most of them only care about the next time they re going to bust a nut. Ejaculating into a w oman vagina resulting in the birth of an offspring is not the goal. Having a kid is only a goal for a man who s woman told him it was her -their ::) - goal.
Men only care about kids if they re forced to do so by said woman.
All men only have kids because of women, they re only submiting to their woman's will because they fear to lose her. And women only want kids to control human lives.
Women control everything, men included. Men are only their pupets. Because women want kids , want power, want struggles etc, the species continues to reproduce. And sons and daughters are only there to be their mother's toys. Women are the one who keep the whole machinery of life up, and as a result who perpetuate the eternal fight for life and ...suffering . We re all the soldiers of our mothers and grandmothers.
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newsflash, men have kids because they want to please the women they re with... but they actually dont care about legacy or anything. Most of them only care about the next time they re going to bust a nut. Ejaculating into a w oman vagina resulting in the birth of an offspring is not the goal. Having a kid is only a goal for a man who s woman told him it was her -their ::) - goal.
Men only care about kids if they re forced to do so by said woman.
All men only have kids because of women, they re only submiting to their woman's will because they fear to lose her. And women only want kids to control human lives.
Women control everything, men included. Men are only their pupets.
I refuse to be anyone's pupet.
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I refuse to be anyone's pupet.
Then let women fall in love with you(r money, your genes) then dump them when they ask you to have a kid with them.
Women are the coldest, most brutal animals there is on earth. Exactly the oposite of what they pretend to be actually.
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Then let women fall in love with you(r money, your genes) then dump them when they ask you to have a kid with them.
Women are the coldest, most brutal animals there is on earth. Exactly the oposite of what they pretend to be actually.
Damn, I want exactly the oposite of that.
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I wish you could rent one for a trial period.. I think that would solve the question quickly
You could always buy one of those Chucky dolls! :D
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newsflash, men have kids because they want to please the women they re with... but they actually dont care about legacy or anything. Most of them only care about the next time they re going to bust a nut. Ejaculating into a w oman vagina resulting in the birth of an offspring is not the goal. Having a kid is only a goal for a man who s woman told him it was her -their ::) - goal.
Men only care about kids if they re forced to do so by said woman.
All men only have kids because of women, they re only submiting to their woman's will because they fear to lose her. And women only want kids to control human lives.
Women control everything, men included. Men are only their pupets. Because women want kids , want power, want struggles etc, the species continues to reproduce. And sons and daughters are only there to be their mother's toys. Women are the one who keep the whole machinery of life up, and as a result who perpetuate the eternal fight for life and ...suffering . We re all the soldiers of our mothers and grandmothers.
This is a sad post. Imho the right one will make u the wrong one will break you. I do agree if you have kids with the wrong woman it will ruin your life and $. I also believe if you have kids with the right one it will have a very positive effect on your life. Men should also wait till their 30s before even thinking about kids get all the playing out and get your $ right 1st.
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Thanks man, im just in a pickle because men can have kids at any age..my wife in her early thirties, u only have a certain window of opportunity. The problem is, maybe down the road i will want one, but at the moment i have literally ZERO interest. The thought of having that added expense and responsibility just seems dreadful (and im early thirties with a reasonably lax career, decent money). I hvae no fatherly instinct or drive. I do love my dogs though. So i understand my wifes position as well, since she wants them and has to endure my ass with "well maybe he will want one, but if he doesnt then im screwed
You have plenty of time to figure it out 5 years down the road is a long time. You may feel different. If you don't want kids don't have them no big deal. Never have kids unless YOU want them
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You have plenty of time to figure it out 5 years down the road is a long time. You may feel different. If you don't want kids don't have them no big deal. Never have kids unless YOU want them
Yeah but wife cant wait as long. Would suck if 3 years from now i still put my foot down. I know she wants them one day, i just dont know if i ever will
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newsflash, men have kids because they want to please the women they re with... but they actually dont care about legacy or anything. Most of them only care about the next time they re going to bust a nut. Ejaculating into a w oman vagina resulting in the birth of an offspring is not the goal. Having a kid is only a goal for a man who s woman told him it was her -their ::) - goal.
Men only care about kids if they re forced to do so by said woman.
All men only have kids because of women, they re only submiting to their woman's will because they fear to lose her. And women only want kids to control human lives.
Women control everything, men included. Men are only their pupets. Because women want kids , want power, want struggles etc, the species continues to reproduce. And sons and daughters are only there to be their mother's toys. Women are the one who keep the whole machinery of life up, and as a result who perpetuate the eternal fight for life and ...suffering . We re all the soldiers of our mothers and grandmothers.
You've expressed an interesting viewpoint here. It seems incredibly sad. I hope and believe you are wrong. It is common for folks to project their own life experiences as opinions and to try and persuade others to agree with them in hopes of making them right.
I must beg to differ with you post. While there are some folks, like you, who are convinced what you've posted is right and true, there are many others who see it for the sham that it is.
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Dont wanna hijack this thread but my wife and I were arguing over kids today. She wants them, me...not so sure. Any benefits of having kids or are there none? Im not the type who needs kids to fill some void or hole in my life. She on the other hand, the kids fills the hole of being an only child
it will change your life completely in a good way
unless you are an idiot and you abandon them
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it will change your life completely in a good way
unless you are an idiot and you abandon them
Can u explain how it will?
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it MIGHT change your life completely in a good way
or it might fuck your life up completely
fixed
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Damn, I want exactly the oposite of that.
Than you'd better start looking overseas.
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Than you'd better start looking overseas.
Missed it.
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newsflash, men have kids because they want to please the women they re with... but they actually dont care about legacy or anything. Most of them only care about the next time they re going to bust a nut. Ejaculating into a w oman vagina resulting in the birth of an offspring is not the goal. Having a kid is only a goal for a man who s woman told him it was her -their ::) - goal.
Men only care about kids if they re forced to do so by said woman.
All men only have kids because of women, they re only submiting to their woman's will because they fear to lose her. And women only want kids to control human lives.
Women control everything, men included. Men are only their pupets. Because women want kids , want power, want struggles etc, the species continues to reproduce. And sons and daughters are only there to be their mother's toys. Women are the one who keep the whole machinery of life up, and as a result who perpetuate the eternal fight for life and ...suffering . We re all the soldiers of our mothers and grandmothers.
Remind me to disregard any of your future posts :)
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Guy is in his 30's, moved into his parents home (normal blue collar income home, no big luxuries I can see but very nice furniture) after leaving his wife and her kids (what happened here I do not ask. none of my business). This guy's life seems to sum up like this
- has great physique for his age
- seems to have zero stress (prob because of lack of relationships)
- he pulls pussy cuz he has a slew of fwb girls. tells each one its just about sex and that's all. if they aren't cool with that he cuts them loose
- keeps all his money to himself besides paying bills for his parents and helping them with their house/cleaning/cooking. he's not leeching off them it doesn't look like
- has a full time career (accountant)
- his hobbies appear to be lifting, playing sports games on xbox, reading books and putting in more hours with side businesses (he bought a hot dog cart this summer and has 2 people running it for him)
- recently bought (he tells me he could only now afford it because he left his wife) a Camaro SS
Seems to have the life. No stress, only deals with women on his own terms, lives comfortably.
His other friends (behind his back) seem to suffer from the need to say that he will die alone. And he will regret his decisions. I'm on the fence with this because for 1, I don't care what he does, I chill with him about once every 2 months and he's a blast to party with. Do you feel the single life in your 30's and not wanting to settle down again will in the long run cause heartache? I envy his stress free life in the fact that he doesn't have to wake up to screaming kids or have any responsibilities. He just works, hordes his money, and takes what he enjoys in life and leaves the rest.
What do you guys think of this "forever alone" (I see this term online all the time) single lifestyle approach?
You friend is in his 30's and has no wife, kids, or even a girlfriend. Hate to break it to you but your "friend" is gay.
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This whole tread is one big...
The fox and the grapes.
I lol'ed
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You friend is in his 30's and has no wife, kids, or even a girlfriend. Hate to break it to you but your "friend" is gay.
bingo.
no wife, no kids, no girlfriend, heavily into career, lives at home.
he's gay. closeted, but gay.
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Can u explain how it will?
Let me step in here, anything or anyone that broadens our perspective and focuses our attention away from ourselves is a good thing. The act of loving someone other than yourself is positive.
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Let me step in here, anything or anyone that broadens our perspective and focuses our attention away from ourselves is a good thing. The act of loving someone other than yourself is positive.
But what if that doesnt sound appealing?
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But what if that doesnt sound appealing?
Then it doesn't and that is fine too. Life is not a "one size fits all" kind of situation. The sooner people adopt this idea and stop imposing their beliefs on others, the better off will all of us will be.
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Thong maniac, just let it happen naturaly, no body is ever ready for kids, but if you have stable home, money that's all that's needed, just grow up, kids will put all the trivial shit you think is important into perspective in a good way
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Thong maniac, just let it happen naturaly, no body is ever ready for kids, but if you have stable home, money that's all that's needed, just grow up, kids will put all the trivial shit you think is important into perspective in a good way
I can dig it man. The thing thats hard for me is ive always been different and not traditional. I dont know if i will be regretful at 40/50 or if ill be like "fuck yeah! Going to australia for 2 weeks just cuz i fuckin feel like it". Part of me thinks i wont be true to myself if i did have kids because now it sounds dreadful and totally life changing. I enjoy my life now and the "kids" topic is this like stressful hanging entity over me because my wife wants them. I just cant seem to relax and live life because I have this huge decision weighing on me. Its making my early thirties tough mentally. It doesnt help either that almost all of our couple friends are on their first baby now, the odd thing is, some of the women we know who had kids but didnt really want them (thier husbands did), have turned out to be huge unpleasant assholes. Its troublesome
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I`ve found myself to be more "happier" when Im alone as well, and not dealing with women which 99% of the time is just plain waste of energy, time and money. The fact that the majority of girls are fake, shallow [unts make it all so easier to just block them out and pay them no mind (which btw drives them crazy... ;)). Would I be happier with a pretty, sweet, loving girl who cared about me? Most defintly, but in this shallow and vain world, you`ll be so lucky if you ever manage to find one... I just recently lowered my shields for this girl at my job, which I absolutely adored, but which I at the beginning had my doubts about. My instincst always point me in the "stay away directeion" if a girl comes across too sweet and polite. But if you ever are going to find true love in this life, you just have to give people a chance from time to time, open yourself up, and see what theyr ultimately about. You might get hurt in the process, if you find out she is really just a power hungry, manipulate slut - but then again you might also get lucky when you find out she`s the real deal! And I actually found the real deal once, in my previous city. If it hadnt been for me having to move in order to pursue my Masters at the best College in Norway, we would most likely be together right now. I actually just called her today, to see how she was doing and she was so pleased to hear from me. Its not often that I have contact with previous girls that I`ve been with, but like I said, if you find someone that is real - you better hold on to them as long as you can. As for this girl at my work, she proved to be just what I knew she were; a con artist, playing sweet and innoncent in order to lure guys into her realm. And by doing so, just furthering the continously frustration with finding a good and caring girl in this messed up world. It actually just promotes guys treating girls like shit, because in the end - most of them really dont deserve any better anyway. And as you know, many of them know this themself and DO in fact enjoy it. As for me, I could never see myself harming girls just to harm them... I would hate to be in a relationship where abuse is involved, as there is nothing healthy nor intelligent about it. And therefore, the best solution is often the most simple solution: Stay away from love, focus on building a top notch career, make money, fuck random sluts with no feelings involved, and just have fun in life. At least you`ll be somewhat happy and fulfilled, rather then chasing the ever failure of a "Perfect love story".
That is my 2 cents for today, now its time to let out some frustration in the gym. 8)
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Let me step in here, anything or anyone that broadens our perspective and focuses our attention away from ourselves is a good thing. The act of loving someone other than yourself is positive.
The problem being most married couples don't actually love one another, they don't even know what love is. They simply tolerate and exploit each other until the situation becomes unbearable and they separate or live a miserable co-existence together. Love is for dreamers and has no real place in a competitive world, in fact it is irrational in a competitive world, people simply co-operate for mutual benefit, most even struggle with that.
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newsflash, men have kids because they want to please the women they re with... but they actually dont care about legacy or anything. Most of them only care about the next time they re going to bust a nut. Ejaculating into a w oman vagina resulting in the birth of an offspring is not the goal. Having a kid is only a goal for a man who s woman told him it was her -their ::) - goal.
Men only care about kids if they re forced to do so by said woman.
All men only have kids because of women, they re only submiting to their woman's will because they fear to lose her. And women only want kids to control human lives.
Women control everything, men included. Men are only their pupets. Because women want kids , want power, want struggles etc, the species continues to reproduce. And sons and daughters are only there to be their mother's toys. Women are the one who keep the whole machinery of life up, and as a result who perpetuate the eternal fight for life and ...suffering . We re all the soldiers of our mothers and grandmothers.
Newsflash - I had kids because I wanted to have kids.
Some people like them, some people don't.
Pure beta to do stuff because someone else wants it.
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Six figure income... tons of liquid $ in the bank... I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. How can I live with that... I'm such a failure! ::)
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Newsflash - I had kids because I wanted to have kids.
Some people like them, some people don't.
Pure beta to do stuff because someone else wants it.
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Your kids will drain your bank account , forget about your sex life , and have fun getting two hour (if) of sleep a night .
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Being single or in a LAT without kids, is very underrated.
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Being single or in a LAT without kids, is very underrated.
Do you have kids Droppingplates?
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Do you have kids Droppingplates?
Hell no, but I have nothing against them :)
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Six figure income... tons of liquid $ in the bank... I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. How can I live with that... I'm such a failure! ::)
Meltdown....
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Meltdown....
Some rebuttal. Is that all you got?
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Your kids will drain your bank account , forget about your sex life , and have fun getting two hour (if) of sleep a night .
Yes - children do need to eat and go to school. This costs money. Is that something you read in a book? Well done you. It is obvious your education was not squandered.
Kids do not require 24 hour attention and do not sleep in your bed. Sex carries on as normal. Although you do sometime have to stop half way through. Kiddus interruptus. Locks on the bedroom door a must have to any sexually active parent.
As for 2 hours sleep a night. I presume you must have had octuplets. I am a very firm believer in breast feeding, in short - I'm not the one getting up for the feeds. Plus, it may interest you to know that by the time a child reaches puberty, they are no longer waking up every few hours for a feed.
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Hell no, but I have nothing against them :)
Smart man , do not have kids , they are a pain in the ass ,they will ruin your life.
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Smart man , do not have kids , they are a pain in the ass ,they will ruin your life.
Spoken like a true poor parent.
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Smart man , do not have kids , they are a pain in the ass ,they will ruin your life.
I'm sorry for that pain in your ass, brother (no homo that is)
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Spoken like a true poor parent.
I'm not poor , I'm middle class.
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bingo.
no wife, no kids, no girlfriend, heavily into career, lives at home.
he's gay. closeted, but gay.
Indeed, living at home is a dead gieaway.
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Thong maniac, just let it happen naturaly, no body is ever ready for kids, but if you have stable home, money that's all that's needed, just grow up, kids will put all the trivial shit you think is important into perspective in a good way
Sounds to me like you might be jealous of single guys who can do whatever they want, whenever they want.
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Do you have kids Droppingplates?
you don't get to 33K posts on Getbig with toddlers running around your apartment.
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Sounds to me like you might be jealous of single guys who can do whatever they want, whenever they want.
God forbid society finds you non-complient. Especially humorous considering the many human-hating anti-socials here creating more "scum" to suffer (and increase) the existing scumbase.
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you don't get to 33K posts on Getbig with toddlers running around your apartment.
LOL, damn you :D
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The problem being most married couples don't actually love one another, they don't even know what love is. They simply tolerate and exploit each other until the situation becomes unbearable and they separate or live a miserable co-existence together. Love is for dreamers and has no real place in a competitive world, in fact it is irrational in a competitive world, people simply co-operate for mutual benefit, most even struggle with that.
^^Yes, this makes a lot of sense. Theres no such thing as "real love". At least not these days. Sad though.
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Sounds to me like you might be jealous of single guys who can do whatever they want, whenever they want.
Nah, I fucked plenty women before I settled down, I realy couldn't be arsed with all that shit now, all I saying is since kids I realise what a shallow life id have if I never had them
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Nah, I fucked plenty women before I settled down, I realy couldn't be arsed with all that shit now, all I saying is since kids I realise what a shallow life id have if I never had them
This, though to sometimes be able to relive a night or so of that old life would be nice.
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people who dont have/want kids are nihilists at the core, period.
Those who have them never thought about life and its meaning. They re just blindly following a bestial instinct whatever the way they sugarcoat it, "explain" it. There s nothing to explain, all animals reproduce automatically.
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people who dont have/want kids are nihilists at the core, period.
Those who have them never thought about life and its meaning. They re just blindly following a bestial instinct whatever the way they sugarcoat it, "explain" it. There s nothing to explain, all animals reproduce automatically.
Troll?
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I can dig it man. The thing thats hard for me is ive always been different and not traditional. I dont know if i will be regretful at 40/50 or if ill be like "fuck yeah! Going to australia for 2 weeks just cuz i fuckin feel like it". Part of me thinks i wont be true to myself if i did have kids because now it sounds dreadful and totally life changing. I enjoy my life now and the "kids" topic is this like stressful hanging entity over me because my wife wants them. I just cant seem to relax and live life because I have this huge decision weighing on me. Its making my early thirties tough mentally. It doesnt help either that almost all of our couple friends are on their first baby now, the odd thing is, some of the women we know who had kids but didnt really want them (thier husbands did), have turned out to be huge unpleasant assholes. Its troublesome
Like I said before, we are all different. What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another. You're still fairly young, there is always a possibility that you'll change your mind or the woman you are with will change it for you. When many women get close the end of their expected childbearing years, they decide to have a child before it is too late. A few do not.
Have you considered that you might just have a fear of the unknown....of being a parent. As long as humans have been around, many if not most have been successful at parenting. It's part of the usual life cycle. A child or children will change your life. It doesn't have to change it as drastically as some folks seem to think. Generally speaking, the hands on part of being a parent starts to end when the child approaches adulthood. Eighteen or twenty years isn't that long, you'll find out over time. If you look back at your life twenty years, it probably doesn't seem so long ago that you were approaching your teens.
Even if you become a parent, you will have plenty of time to travel after your child is grown. Heck, a lot of folks travel with their kids. You could still hit those Australian beaches you say you want to when your in your 40's.
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^^Yes, this makes a lot of sense. Theres no such thing as "real love". At least not these days. Sad though.
Don't think because you have not found real love, that it doesn't exist. Many of us have found love and a life partner.
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Like I said before, we are all different. What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another. You're still fairly young, there is always a possibility that you'll change your mind or the woman you are with will change it for you. When many women get close the end of their expected childbearing years, they decide to have a child before it is too late. A few do not.
Have you considered that you might just have a fear of the unknown....of being a parent. As long as humans have been around, many if not most have been successful at parenting. It's part of the usual life cycle. A child or children will change your life. It doesn't have to change it as drastically as some folks seem to think. Generally speaking, the hands on part of being a parent starts to end when the child approaches adulthood. Eighteen or twenty years isn't that long, you'll find out over time. If you look back at your life twenty years, it probably doesn't seem so long ago that you were approaching your teens.
Even if you become a parent, you will have plenty of time to travel after your child is grown. Heck, a lot of folks travel with their kids. You could still hit those Australian beaches you say you want to when your in your 40's.
Thanks man, i appreciate your insight here. Its really helpful actually
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people who dont have/want kids are nihilists at the core, period.
Those who have them never thought about life and its meaning. They re just blindly following a bestial instinct whatever the way they sugarcoat it, "explain" it. There s nothing to explain, all animals reproduce automatically.
Such a base understanding of the human animal. Very caught up in evolutionary instincts, yet you seem to conclude the process stopped once we abandoned caves.
Psyche hasn't evolved beyond sapien one?
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you don't get to 33K posts on Getbig with toddlers running around your apartment.
This is very true for most people. It seems to me that 33k posts on Getbig is not comparable to having a toddler running around your home. But hey, whatever floats your boat.
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This, though to sometimes be able to relive a night or so of that old life would be nice.
Yeh, couple of nights a year would be nice... I could manage more than 1 go without falling asleep no problems
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Thong maniac, just let it happen naturaly, no body is ever ready for kids, but if you have stable home, money that's all that's needed, just grow up, kids will put all the trivial shit you think is important into perspective in a good way
Haha, no it's not sweetheart. They've 'failed' only in your eyes because your values you've come up with (the values of an insignificant guy living an insignificant life - don't be upset, we're all like that) doesn't agree with their life choices. You're on of 7 billion creatures with 7 billion differing opinions my friend, I can assure you yours is just as dumb as the next guy. I envy the wealthy single 50yo with good physique, full head of hair busting his nut in 19yo struggling Swedish models whilst you admire the 50yo with a 19yo kid paying off his mortgage and thinking about replacing the ageing family wagon. Both will die, both won't be remembered. What truly matters is whether THEY were happy with their choices and had a good and happy life. Not what one of the 7 billion shitting and pissing creatures thought of their choices.
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Haha, no it's not sweetheart. They've 'failed' only in your eyes because your values you've come up with (the values of an insignificant guy living an insignificant life - don't be upset, we're all like that) doesn't agree with their life choices. You're on of 7 billion creatures with 7 billion differing opinions my friend, I can assure you yours is just as dumb as the next guy. I envy the wealthy single 50yo with good physique, full head of hair busting his nut in 19yo struggling Swedish models whilst you admire the 50yo with a 19yo kid paying off his mortgage and thinking about replacing the ageing family wagon. Both will die, both won't be remembered. What truly matters is whether THEY were happy with their choices and had a good and happy life. Not what one of the 7 billion shitting and pissing creatures thought of their choices.
Damn son that was well said actually. Great points
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Haha, no it's not sweetheart. They've 'failed' only in your eyes because your values you've come up with (the values of an insignificant guy living an insignificant life - don't be upset, we're all like that) doesn't agree with their life choices. You're on of 7 billion creatures with 7 billion differing opinions my friend, I can assure you yours is just as dumb as the next guy. I envy the wealthy single 50yo with good physique, full head of hair busting his nut in 19yo struggling Swedish models whilst you admire the 50yo with a 19yo kid paying off his mortgage and thinking about replacing the ageing family wagon. Both will die, both won't be remembered. What truly matters is whether THEY were happy with their choices and had a good and happy life. Not what one of the 7 billion shitting and pissing creatures thought of their choices.
prolly just my mental state but damn that moved me lol Two middle fingers up to the world 8)
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people who dont have/want kids are nihilists at the core, period.
Those who have them never thought about life and its meaning. They re just blindly following a bestial instinct whatever the way they sugarcoat it, "explain" it. There s nothing to explain, all animals reproduce automatically.
Haha, who's the nihilist here? Think for yourself, that's already a challenge for you, you dumb reproducing sheep, who's contributing to overpopulation ::)
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prolly just my mental state but damn that moved me lol Two middle fingers up to the world 8)
And that's all it is, all it ever was, and all it ever will be. The 'alpha males' here are very very very quick to conform to standards. Maybe some is happy with those standards, maybe they secretly thought they never had a choice and have to make the very best of a life already charted for them, without their own input, even though they insist that's what they wanted.
There's no shame in choosing the road less traveled. Or maybe in today's world where men are slowly waking up, a road with a bit more traffic than before.
But I cannot stress enough, you NEED to do what makes you happy. Not what some inconsequential nobody living an average life in a nobody town tells you makes THEM happy. His road is not yours. And I can tell you right now, a lot of them is trapped up to their necks in regret and secretly envy you. Off course their last shreds of pride can't admit that so they trump up their choices. A bit like a bit of machinery running out of fuel, increasing noise the last few seconds before dying for good :-\
Don't listen to me, or whoever the fuck in this thread. 50% of the people are steeped in delusions, 25% convinced themselves they're happy (and now trying to convince you), 20% are suicidal and 5% is truly happy. You'll know who they are because they won't ever push their BS onto you. They're the ones worth listening to.
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And that's all it is, all it ever was, and all it ever will be. The 'alpha males' here are very very very quick to conform to standards. Maybe some is happy with those standards, maybe they secretly thought they never had a choice and have to make the very best of a life already charted for them, without their own input, even though they insist that's what they wanted.
There's no shame in choosing the road less traveled. Or maybe in today's world where men are slowly waking up, a road with a bit more traffic than before.
But I cannot stress enough, you NEED to do what makes you happy. Not what some inconsequential nobody living an average life in a nobody town tells you makes THEM happy. His road is not yours. And I can tell you right now, a lot of them is trapped up to their necks in regret and secretly envy you. Off course their last shreds of pride can't admit that so they trump up their choices. A bit like a bit of machinery running out of fuel, increasing noise the last few seconds before dying for good :-\
Don't listen to me, or whoever the fuck in this thread. 50% of the people are steeped in delusions, 25% convinced themselves they're happy (and now trying to convince you), 20% are suicidal and 5% is truly happy. You'll know who they are because they won't ever push their BS onto you. They're the ones worth listening to.
Man this james dude is deep. Love his take on things. Keep it up man
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Haha, no it's not sweetheart. They've 'failed' only in your eyes because your values you've come up with (the values of an insignificant guy living an insignificant life - don't be upset, we're all like that) doesn't agree with their life choices. You're on of 7 billion creatures with 7 billion differing opinions my friend, I can assure you yours is just as dumb as the next guy. I envy the wealthy single 50yo with good physique, full head of hair busting his nut in 19yo struggling Swedish models whilst you admire the 50yo with a 19yo kid paying off his mortgage and thinking about replacing the ageing family wagon. Both will die, both won't be remembered. What truly matters is whether THEY were happy with their choices and had a good and happy life. Not what one of the 7 billion shitting and pissing creatures thought of their choices.
Well its your opinion.. I don't agree but you said it well..
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Nah, I fucked plenty women before I settled down, I realy couldn't be arsed with all that shit now, all I saying is since kids I realise what a shallow life id have if I never had them
This is because you are an average man with average dreams and abilities, with no hope pf achieving anything other than a distinctly average existence. And my friend, there is nothing wrong with that. IT IS PERFECTLY FINE. Just understand why you feel that way. You are not a Steve Jobs or Tesla or Gates.. and neither are 99% of us. It makes perfect sense that you look at your life and feel empty because you have left nothing of real substance behind that will contribute to humanity in a significant way..... Unless you have kids.
All animals can procreate and have kids so this makes it by definition a completely unremarkeable "accomplishment".... but only very few humas can develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization.
The scientific explanation as to why you feel the way you do about the kids is the hormone Oxytocin which increases exponentially when you have kids..... You are being manipulated by your dna to ensure the continuity of the genes by sacrificing yourself, "literally" if necessary.
we are just sentient carbon based life forms.... born, live, die... like every other carbon based life form on the planet.
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This is because you are an average man with average dreams and abilities, with no hope pf achieving anything other than a distinctly average existence. And my friend, there is nothing wrong with that. IT IS PERFECTLY FINE. Just understand why you feel that way. You are not a Steve Jobs or Tesla or Gates.. and neither are 99% of us. It makes perfect sense that you look at your life and feel empty because you have left nothing of real substance behind that will contribute to humanity in a significant way..... Unless you have kids.
All animals can procreate and have kids so this makes it by definition a completely unremarkeable "accomplishment".... but only very few humas can develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization.
The scientific explanation as to why you feel the way you do about the kids is the hormone Oxytocin which increases exponentially when you have kids..... You are being manipulated by your dna to ensure the continuity of the genes by sacrificing yourself, "literally" if necessary.
we are just sentient carbon based life forms.... born, live, die... like every other carbon based life form on the planet.
Man that is so bleak and sad, but absolutely fucking true. Really puts shit into a different perspective. Im actually internally struggling with the greatness thing, as I never will. Im the 99 percent and as i get older, making money and this trivial existence of "career success", spending on clothes and nice cars and consumeristic BS just seems so fucking pointless and dull
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This is because you are an average man with average dreams and abilities, with no hope pf achieving anything other than a distinctly average existence. And my friend, there is nothing wrong with that. IT IS PERFECTLY FINE. Just understand why you feel that way. You are not a Steve Jobs or Tesla or Gates.. and neither are 99% of us. It makes perfect sense that you look at your life and feel empty because you have left nothing of real substance behind that will contribute to humanity in a significant way..... Unless you have kids.
All animals can procreate and have kids so this makes it by definition a completely unremarkeable "accomplishment".... but only very few humas can develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization.
The scientific explanation as to why you feel the way you do about the kids is the hormone Oxytocin which increases exponentially when you have kids..... You are being manipulated by your dna to ensure the continuity of the genes by sacrificing yourself, "literally" if necessary.
we are just sentient carbon based life forms.... born, live, die... like every other carbon based life form on the planet.
You are not Jobs ,Tesla or Gates , you won't develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization, you don't/won't have kids .
Basically you are a waste of space , please die.
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This is because you are an average man with average dreams and abilities, with no hope pf achieving anything other than a distinctly average existence. And my friend, there is nothing wrong with that. IT IS PERFECTLY FINE. Just understand why you feel that way. You are not a Steve Jobs or Tesla or Gates.. and neither are 99% of us. It makes perfect sense that you look at your life and feel empty because you have left nothing of real substance behind that will contribute to humanity in a significant way..... Unless you have kids.
Jobs and Gates both had/have children.....So the thought behind your basic premise is wrong in most aspects.
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You are not Jobs ,Tesla or Gates , you won't develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization, you don't/won't have kids .
Basically you are a waste of space , please die.
i was about to post more or less the same thing.......... no one on this site has ever or will ever achieve anything significant, people with that intellect will never grace a gossip and opinions bodybuilding board, so your point is?
All the anti family bullshit will always sound cool, just as the fellas who have long term gf's will always try and justify not getting married with similar shite about not needing a piece of paper
your not being alpha, your being a total homo who needs a reality check to snap out of the peter pan syndrome..
as i said, i fucked loads of hot women before i settled down, but even mid 20's i was getting sick of the clubbing/pulling scene... and we all used to look at the 35+ blokes still trying to be cool and snigger.... 40+ no kids, no woman, its sad as fuck... no matter what toys or whatever you buy to try and make up for it
Its not jealousy either , most of those blokes will have some very dark depressing times sitting alone, the suicide rate for men in their 30's, single, alone is very high... and most of those lads were supposabley living the life
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i was about to post more or less the same thing.......... no one on this site has ever or will ever achieve anything significant, people with that intellect will never grace a gossip and opinions bodybuilding board, so your point is?
All the anti family bullshit will always sound cool, just as the fellas who have long term gf's will always try and justify not getting married with similar shite about not needing a piece of paper
your not being alpha, your being a total homo who needs a reality check to snap out of the peter pan syndrome..
as i said, i fucked loads of hot women before i settled down, but even mid 20's i was getting sick of the clubbing/pulling scene... and we all used to look at the 35+ blokes still trying to be cool and snigger.... 40+ no kids, no woman, its sad as fuck... no matter what toys or whatever you buy to try and make up for it
Its not jealousy either , most of those blokes will have some very dark depressing times sitting alone, the suicide rate for men in their 30's, single, alone is very high... and most of those lads were supposabley living the life
Funny reading this post. Really does expose the limits of 'you'.
In your world there seems to be only 2 kinds of people.
A. The guy that gets married, has kids and lives happily ever after
B. The loser that stands in a night club trying to compete with 20yo guys and goes home alone and sits on his bed with suicidal thoughts.
That's it? That's the only two guys in the world? In your opinion to truly grow up you need to have a ceremony with rings and champagne and a big cake, go home, three pumps a squirt, and hey, you're an adult!! Within the space of an expensive party you've left the 'loser' life behind and can now proceed to judge, along with the other guys that also had big parties and a church ceremony, those that don't want it.
You think everyone shithead that ever had a kid is now suddenly more accomplished?
Methinks you're still the same shithead, now just with a shithead kid. Nothing deeper than that really :-\
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Funny reading this post. Really does expose the limits of 'you'.
In your world there seems to be only 2 kinds of people.
A. The guy that gets married, has kids and lives happily ever after
B. The loser that stands in a night club trying to compete with 20yo guys and goes home alone and sits on his bed with suicidal thoughts.
That's it? That's the only two guys in the world? In your opinion to truly grow up you need to have a ceremony with rings and champagne and a big cake, go home, three pumps a squirt, and hey, you're an adult!! Within the space of an expensive party you've left the 'loser' life behind and can now proceed to judge, along with the other guys that also had big parties and a church ceremony, those that don't want it.
You think everyone shithead that ever had a kid is now suddenly more accomplished?
Methinks you're still the same shithead, now just with a shithead kid. Nothing deeper than that really :-\
youve obviously been plagued by deeply depressing thoughts your self to move this from a discussion to a slanging match... feel for you bro
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youve obviously been plagued by deeply depressing thoughts your self to move this from a discussion to a slanging match... feel for you bro
You obviously reached the end of your ability to debate so you reduce to the aforementioned Peter Pan syndrome ... feel for your children bro.
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You obviously reached the end of your ability to debate so you reduce to the aforementioned Peter Pan syndrome ... feel for your children bro.
you turned it into a personal attack... put the pills down
please elaborate on the other type of man you eluded to, as i only recognise the two types...
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Damn shit got real...
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you turned it into a personal attack... put the pills down
please elaborate on the other type of man you eluded to, as i only recognise the two types...
I bet you're probably the first guy to stand up and proclaim how 'open minded' you are.
Well, as long as everyone agrees with you :-X
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Damn shit got real...
Been getting real for centuries. People are desperate to convince you their way is the right way. While some of us try to convey the fact that there's no 'right' way. Only the way that makes YOU happy.
I don't give a fuck if Local Hero needs 380 kids to give meaning to his life or Shizzo needs the bottle to do the same. As long as they're truly happy, I'm pleased for them
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people who dont have/want kids are nihilists at the core, period.
Those who have them never thought about life and its meaning. They re just blindly following a bestial instinct whatever the way they sugarcoat it, "explain" it. There s nothing to explain, all animals reproduce automatically.
I like your positive outlook. :D
Kids are awesome with the right partner, but it's a very delicate eco system which enables the undergoing to be successful.
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who am i to say what makes people happy.., im just stating the fact every single bloke i know who never settled down went on to live a sad existance, im talking normal working men here
not all marriages work out, some families get ripped up and cause bitterness... but even in the case of families braking up, you still have family and kids you love
i worked along side alot of ex merchant seamen, service engineers etc who were too busy fucking around the world, having a fun time... then all of a sudden, they were middle aged, had no hopes for the future , lived for work and when they speak honestly with you they have alot of regrets
im just stating the facts as ive encountered them
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You are not Jobs ,Tesla or Gates , you won't develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization, you don't/won't have kids .
Basically you are a waste of space , please die.
;D I will soon enough and so will you having contributed nothing to the world of any lasting value. Alas it is the fate of the vast majority to pass on and be completely forgotten.
Its hard to come to terms with the fact that your life and that of your progeny, mean absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things. Just think of the billions of humans who have lived and died.
Just do what makes you happy, without hurting somebody else.... and dont assume that the things that make you happy apply to anybody else except you.
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Damn shit got real...
I don't take kindly to disrespect. not on the internet, not in person, not in a grocery store parking lot, not in like at walmart, not in a restaurant, not at the beach, not at the dry cleaners... anywhere.
ppl talk about the 'pussyfication' of America, yet they run their mouths thinking they won't get slapped and get their arm broken in front of their friends.
spent many yrs in a place where if you talk slick and say something out of line to somebody, you know that when you say it, you better be ready for what happens. most ppl here in the 'real world', aren't ready for what could happen.. and run their mouths like the world is a make believe cartoon. despite wearing nice slacks, polished shoes and a nice shirt, the guy you steal that parking spot from at the grocery store and proceed to flip off, may have just gotten out of prison and will have no problem identifying they bitch in you and proceed to teach you a lesson by taking you down to the ground and kicking out your teeth before you even know what happened.
the guy who's willing to go the furthest, wins. if you're not willing to go all the way, it's best you keep your mouth shut and move on, and make it to the next day.
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Man that is so bleak and sad, but absolutely fucking true. Really puts shit into a different perspective. Im actually internally struggling with the greatness thing, as I never will. Im the 99 percent and as i get older, making money and this trivial existence of "career success", spending on clothes and nice cars and consumeristic BS just seems so fucking pointless and dull
Everyone makes choices they will question as time passes.
I just want to say that the choice to love someone else besides yourself can be really difficult at times. I know this from personal experience. It seems to me that regardless of how we decide to conduct our lives, there will be misery, suffering and emotionally painful times. When those times come, those of us who have been blessed to have someone by our side, often have a richer and fuller life, but not always.
As you point out, consumerism can only temporarily make you feel happy. In the end, all that stuff you've acquired is just stuff that will probably end up in a garage sale or an estate sale going for pennies on the dollar. Clearly they do not make us richer in a meaningful way.
Relationships often stay with us and support us until the end of our lives. This leads me to believe relationships are more valuable then anything we can buy.
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You are not Jobs ,Tesla or Gates , you won't develop vaccines or products that literally change the course of civilization, you don't/won't have kids .
Basically you are a waste of space , please die.
Don't you suppose this is rather harsh?
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Jobs and Gates both had/have children.....So the thought behind your basic premise is wrong in most aspects.
You make an excellent point. Family and success are not mutually exclusive.
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i was about to post more or less the same thing.......... no one on this site has ever or will ever achieve anything significant, people with that intellect will never grace a gossip and opinions bodybuilding board, so your point is?
All the anti family bullshit will always sound cool, just as the fellas who have long term gf's will always try and justify not getting married with similar shite about not needing a piece of paper
your not being alpha, your being a total homo who needs a reality check to snap out of the peter pan syndrome..
as i said, i fucked loads of hot women before i settled down, but even mid 20's i was getting sick of the clubbing/pulling scene... and we all used to look at the 35+ blokes still trying to be cool and snigger.... 40+ no kids, no woman, its sad as fuck... no matter what toys or whatever you buy to try and make up for it
Its not jealousy either , most of those blokes will have some very dark depressing times sitting alone, the suicide rate for men in their 30's, single, alone is very high... and most of those lads were supposabley living the life
You really haven't thought this thing through, have you? In a world bursting at the seams with over 7 billion people on it and increasing rapidly stretching resources to the limit to the point that over 21,000 people die each day from starvation, do you really think it the wisest suggestion to encourage semi-literate retards like yourself to pump out kids left, right and centre all so they can overcome their feelings of insignificance and feed their fragile egos. Yeah, that's just what the world needs right now. Oh Brother! ::)
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You really haven't thought this thing through, have you? In a world bursting at the seams with over 7 billion people on it and increasing rapidly stretching resources to the limit to the point that over 21,000 people die each day from starvation, do you really think it the wisest suggestion to encourage semi-literate retards like yourself to pump out kids left, right and centre all so they can overcome their feelings of insignificance and feed their fragile egos. Yeah, that's just what the world needs right now. Oh Brother! ::)
I also agree with this, its just so hard to not feel like your mini universe revolves around you. But as far as over population you are spot on.
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who am i to say what makes people happy.., im just stating the fact every single bloke i know who never settled down went on to live a sad existance, im talking normal working men here
not all marriages work out, some families get ripped up and cause bitterness... but even in the case of families braking up, you still have family and kids you love
i worked along side alot of ex merchant seamen, service engineers etc who were too busy fucking around the world, having a fun time... then all of a sudden, they were middle aged, had no hopes for the future , lived for work and when they speak honestly with you they have alot of regrets
im just stating the facts as ive encountered them
Far sadder are the existences of these countless men who get divorced at 50 and drink themselves to death while thinking about "what could've been".
Once again - make money, not kids, it will be a middle ground, and one will be able to impregnate a young female at 60 with no issues. Everything else - desperation/fear/animalness.
James28 and naturalman killing it in this thread. Not many like to hear the cold truth tho'..
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You really haven't thought this thing through, have you? In a world bursting at the seams with over 7 billion people on it and increasing rapidly stretching resources to the limit to the point that over 21,000 people die each day from starvation, do you really think it the wisest suggestion to encourage semi-literate retards like yourself to pump out kids left, right and centre all so they can overcome their feelings of insignificance and feed their fragile egos. Yeah, that's just what the world needs right now. Oh Brother! ::)
Good luck having a woman that is worth having and trying to convince her with your 'theory', no decent woman will stick around, have fun having christmass dinner on your own safe in knowledge that you aren't adding to the starving population... Oh brother
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Good luck having a woman that is worth having and trying to convince her with your 'theory', no decent woman will stick around, have fun having christmass dinner on your own safe in knowledge that you aren't adding to the starving population... Oh brother
My family doesn't have christmass dinners as we are not religious. Doesn't sound like a huge loss.
Tho' it's pretty strange that some automatically assume that being not married is equal to not having a companionship. From these people experiences that I know personally and who are exactly like that (divorced or not married at age over 40) - every single of them have a partner if they want to, when they want to. I guess it helps being intelligent, fit and with some money, at whatever age ::) And for males it becomes a joke (to find a female) if one is looking at 35-40 age range. If you are a decent lad - no competition for you, just take whatever you want and then take some more, choose from 5-10-15 years younger, everything goes for females who are 35 or older.. (and no harrassement about kids, if you are not into that stuff, as they have their own already). Sounds too good to be true? Well... it is real, deal with it.
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LOL @ everyone trying to convince each other (or themselves) that their choice of lifestyle is superior. :D
Who gives a fuck. Just do what makes you happy.
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LOL @ everyone trying to convince each other (or themselves) that their choice of lifestyle is superior. :D
Who gives a fuck. Just do what makes you happy.
Agreed.
I think people feel they need to justify their actions.
People seem to want to create a whole philosophy out of why they do what they do & why other people do something different.
Like I said - I got married & had kids 'cause I wanted to.
It's not fucking rocket science. Just do what you want. Don't worry about what other people do.
Some people like getting pounded in the ass by a 300lb muscle bear - doesn't mean you have to do it too.
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Some people like getting pounded in the ass by a 300lb muscle bear - doesn't mean you have to do it too.
One should at least try it imNOhoMO.
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Thanks bro, do u ever think maybe u made the wrong choice though? Doubts?
Nope, 100% sure I made the right call.
Today, I'm 56 and enjoy a relaxed comfortable life with my lovely wife who never had 'em either.
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Then let women fall in love with you(r money, your genes) then dump them when they ask you to have a kid with them.
Women are the coldest, most brutal animals there is on earth. Exactly the oposite of what they pretend to be actually.
Not all woman are like that, but plenty are.
I refused to cave when my 1st 2 wives wanted kids AFTER we had married a agreed not to, going in.
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This is a sad post. Imho the right one will make u the wrong one will break you. I do agree if you have kids with the wrong woman it will ruin your life and $. I also believe if you have kids with the right one it will have a very positive effect on your life. Men should also wait till their 30s before even thinking about kids get all the playing out and get your $ right 1st.
Good thoughtful post.
I never wanted kids, but some men do.
It's a good idea to wait until maturity if you decide on being a parent.
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Then it doesn't and that is fine too. Life is not a "one size fits all" kind of situation. The sooner people adopt this idea and stop imposing their beliefs on others, the better off will all of us will be.
BINGO!!!! x 1,000,000 ;)
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Thong maniac, just let it happen naturaly, no body is ever ready for kids, but if you have stable home, money that's all that's needed, just grow up, kids will put all the trivial shit you think is important into perspective in a good way
LOL, yeah, I'm in my 50's and never had kids. According to you, I have no wife, no career and am a lonely loser living in a studio apt with my cat. Guess what...none of THAT happened and I'm happy, married and doing fine.
You sound like a real bitter, stressed out and judgmental person.
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I can dig it man. The thing thats hard for me is ive always been different and not traditional. I dont know if i will be regretful at 40/50 or if ill be like "fuck yeah! Going to australia for 2 weeks just cuz i fuckin feel like it". Part of me thinks i wont be true to myself if i did have kids because now it sounds dreadful and totally life changing. I enjoy my life now and the "kids" topic is this like stressful hanging entity over me because my wife wants them. I just cant seem to relax and live life because I have this huge decision weighing on me. Its making my early thirties tough mentally. It doesnt help either that almost all of our couple friends are on their first baby now, the odd thing is, some of the women we know who had kids but didnt really want them (thier husbands did), have turned out to be huge unpleasant assholes. Its troublesome
Your inner feelings and observation on having kids are similar to mine and my current wife.
If your own wife doesn't share your feelings, you may have to get divorced.
100% serious here and I had 2x because of the kid issue.
It's not fair to her to NOT have them and you shouldn't be pressured into being a father when you dread the idea.
All any of us can do, is stick to our principles.
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Newsflash - I had kids because I wanted to have kids.
Some people like them, some people don't.
Pure beta to do stuff because someone else wants it.
well said, good post
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you don't get to 33K posts on Getbig with toddlers running around your apartment.
Best reason ever to avoid parenting.
Thread!
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Good luck having a woman that is worth having and trying to convince her with your 'theory', no decent woman will stick around, have fun having christmass dinner on your own safe in knowledge that you aren't adding to the starving population... Oh brother
I actually prefer being alone, especially at Christmas, spending time with my dysfunctional family is traumatic. I don't get why so many getbiggers are afraid of being alone. I also prefer being a bachelor, so again I prefer it if a woman only sticks around long enough for me to get my fill. I subscribe to the old school theory that if women didn't have vaginas they would be stacked ten high at the dump. I am not looking to replace my mother nor do I get much joy out of female companionship unless I am fucking her, which is only desirable for a few months before my loins seek variety and wish to move on. If you think about it, the men who stay with the same woman for life are the losers in evolutionary terms. Society may frown on a man who beds many women but that is the best way to maximize his potential for future offspring. The philandering ladies man that others see as a scoundrel is actually following his true nature. Hope this helps.
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LOL, yeah, I'm in my 50's and never had kids. According to you, I have no wife, no career and am a lonely loser living in a studio apt with my cat. Guess what...none of THAT happened and I'm happy, married and doing fine.
You sound like a real bitter, stressed out and judgmental person.
lmao local hero sounds just like my old friend. This "friend" of mine lived from his 20s to his early 30s like he had no worries. Lived with his parents, his dad paid his 60k poker debt (not bullshitting), used his little earnings for booz and hookers and your typical club nights.
Then he gets this "local hero" phase, the "I want a stable family, golden retriever, a family car and a house" phase out of the bushes and now has a year old daughter. He likes to pretend like it didn't take him over 10 years to finish his college degree and that he got his first full time career job like, I don't know, two years ago lol. He's been by himself like few years but he likes to talk like his all mighty and lightened, like his better than everyone else.
I don't spend any time anymore with that loony, LOL.
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Good luck having a woman that is worth having and trying to convince her with your 'theory', no decent woman will stick around, have fun having christmass dinner on your own safe in knowledge that you aren't adding to the starving population... Oh brother
My 2nd wife , wanted children but couldn't due to endometriosis.
After 3 yrs of marriage with me, she started becoming obsessed with adopting and being a mom.
I always considered adoption as an honorable thing to do , so I listened to her .
After a lot of soul searching I was 100% sure about NOT being a parent.
I was also 100% certain she wanted to be, so we got divorced .
18 mos, after we divorced I ran into her at a gym.
I had a wonderful reunion with her at the gym juice bar.
She was living with a divorced man , with his 2 twin girls ( age 3 or 4?).
She showed me some pics and it was obvious she loved being "mom" to them.
I told her, I was happy to see her fulfilling her role as a mom.
I leaned fwd and quietly said;
" Had you stayed married to me, you never would have been a mom.
Things worked out well , didn't they?!"
She smiled, gently held my hand , and said ; " Thank you."
That's a win/win in my book for everyone involved. ;)
FYI, my ( current) wife is pretty and a successful bank exec VP.
Her ex-husband wanted kids and she never did so she got divorced.
We are both over 50 now and quite happy together.
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I actually prefer being alone, especially at Christmas, spending time with my dysfunctional family is traumatic. I don't get why so many getbiggers are afraid of being alone. I also prefer being a bachelor, so again I prefer it if a woman only sticks around long enough for me to get my fill. I subscribe to the old school theory that if women didn't have vaginas they would be stacked ten high at the dump. I am not looking to replace my mother nor do I get much joy out of female companionship unless I am fucking her, which is only desirable for a few months before my loins seek variety and wish to move on. If you think about it, the men who stay with the same woman for life are the losers in evolutionary terms. Society may frown on a man who beds many women but that is the best way to maximize his potential for future offspring. The philandering ladies man that others see as a scoundrel is actually following his true nature. Hope this helps.
Keep telling your self this as you cry your self to sleep...
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lmao local hero sounds just like my old friend. This "friend" of mine lived from his 20s to his early 30s like he had no worries. Lived with his parents, his dad paid his 60k poker debt (not bullshitting), used his little earnings for booz and hookers and your typical club nights.
Then he gets this "local hero" phase, the "I want a stable family, golden retriever, a family car and a house" phase out of the bushes and now has a year old daughter. He likes to pretend like it didn't take him over 10 years to finish his college degree and that he got his first full time career job like, I don't know, two years ago lol. He's been by himself like few years but he likes to talk like his all mighty and lightened, like his better than everyone else.
I don't spend any time anymore with that loony, LOL.
I've worked full time since I left school at 16...im only observing what I've seen around me, I've yet to come across an exception
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FYI, my ( current) wife is pretty and a successful bank exec VP.
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Keep telling your self this as you cry your self to sleep...
Keep telling yourself whatever you have to in order to overcome the deep rooted insecurities you feel, quite possibly from an unsevered umbilical cord to your mother that sees you unable to be alone and desperately in need of a female companion to sooth your raging Oedipus complex. If it makes you feel better to lash out against those who have found happiness and contentment within their own selves and not in externals like having a wife and child, then I'm OK with that, what do I care. Like I said, women are the ones who benefit from marriage, weaker men are simply trapped into it. A man's true nature is to spread his seed, a woman's true nature is to prevent him doing that, if a man marries then the woman's nature dominated his. That is all.
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You get to your 40's , 50's and you have no kids by choice youve failed at life, no good woman will put up with that shit, youl have fun times sitting on your own at christmass etc, drift from stupid woman to woman.. Sounds realy great....
It sounds great in your 20's, perhaps early 30's, after that your a fucking looser, and only the real weirdos on here will back you up
Thong maniac, just let it happen naturaly, no body is ever ready for kids, but if you have stable home, money that's all that's needed, just grow up, kids will put all the trivial shit you think is important into perspective in a good way
Hi MOM. :o
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I've worked full time since I left school at 16...im only observing what I've seen around me, I've yet to come across an exception
how cool can your surrounding people be if you left school at 16 ;D
ask sk0rpio how terrible the single life is in your mid 30's. Or even ask booty. Sure she has kids, but she lives the single life, riding a new dick every week/month and she's happy. she's like 50.
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Seems odd to me that people are insisting to other people that it's one way or another about marriage, ignoring the irrefutable fact people are different. But hey... feel free to continue...
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meh prefer having a steady fuck ~~ not much of a player cnba... focus on making money...
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My single friends always seemed to be having the time of their lives, up until they hit their 40's, where going to bars in your 40's is pretty depressing. A few of them now act like they're depressed, and don't even want to leave the house much anymore.
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My family doesn't have christmass dinners as we are not religious. Doesn't sound like a huge loss.
This explains a lot about you and why you have the views you have.
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LOL, yeah, I'm in my 50's and never had kids. According to you, I have no wife, no career and am a lonely loser living in a studio apt with my cat. Guess what...none of THAT happened and I'm happy, married and doing fine.
You sound like a real bitter, stressed out and judgmental person.
You're talking to someone here that NEEDS you to agree with him and his views of the world. Clearly his biggest fear is being alone and 40-50 (I guess that's the age that scares him the most as he mentions that). Guys like him will happily point out that they 'know a guy that's 40 and depressed' yet conveniently forgets that 50%+ of marriages fuck up anyway, whether there's kids involved or not, littering the world with more dysfunctional fuckups that couldn't help but being a little whiny bitch to their genes when CLEARLY 80% of them had no business being parents. We've all seen the fucking idiot with a goofy smile on his face talking up his clearly retarted kid thinking it's the most wonderful thing since Jesus walked the Earth.
But on a more positive note, I've also seen amazing parents with well balanced kids, the type we need in the future.
But having a kid because you're 'scared of being alone'
Haha, oh brother :-\
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I've worked full time since I left school at 16...im only observing what I've seen around me, I've yet to come across an exception
Talk about the millions of divorces, dysfunctional families and dumb c'unts with kids.
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My single friends always seemed to be having the time of their lives, up until they hit their 40's, where going to bars in your 40's is pretty depressing. A few of them now act like they're depressed, and don't even want to leave the house much anymore.
Strange. I have quite some friends who join me in the clubs and they are over 45, doesn't look/feel out of place. I think you have no idea what are you talking about or your friends are fat losers.
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My single friends always seemed to be having the time of their lives, up until they hit their 40's, where going to bars in your 40's is pretty depressing. A few of them now act like they're depressed, and don't even want to leave the house much anymore.
Haha, the old 'going alone to bars' story.
Almost as overused as 'I'm not racist as I have guy friends' line :-X
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This explains a lot about you and why you have the views you have.
Yeah, I have "managed" to be born in a family with a high intelligence. I know... seeing stuff for how it really is and explaining it/saying it loud is usualy not the most popular thing amongst people, as they want to believe in fairy tales.
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Strange. I have quite some friends who join me in the clubs and they are over 45, doesn't look/feel out of place. I think you have no idea what are you talking about or your friends are fat losers.
No, he makes it up to prove a point or something. Fuck knows what.
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We all know those born again Christian types that just can't shut the fuck up about how wonderful their imaginary friend is. I guess it's the same for guys that realise at whatever arbitrary age they reach, look in the mirror and see a nobody and quickly shacks up with someone just not to be alone.
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We all know those born again Christian types that just can't shut the fuck up about how wonderful their imaginary friend is. I guess it's the same for guys that realise at whatever arbitrary age they reach, look in the mirror and see a nobody and quickly shacks up with someone just not to be alone.
Very well put.
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You're talking to someone here that NEEDS you to agree with him and his views of the world. Clearly his biggest fear is being alone and 40-50 (I guess that's the age that scares him the most as he mentions that). Guys like him will happily point out that they 'know a guy that's 40 and depressed' yet conveniently forgets that 50%+ of marriages fuck up anyway, whether there's kids involved or not, littering the world with more dysfunctional fuckups that couldn't help but being a little whiny bitch to their genes when CLEARLY 80% of them had no business being parents. We've all seen the fucking idiot with a goofy smile on his face talking up his clearly retarted kid thinking it's the most wonderful thing since Jesus walked the Earth.
But on a more positive note, I've also seen amazing parents with well balanced kids, the type we need in the future.
But having a kid because you're 'scared of being alone'
Haha, oh brother :-\
You keep making this personal for some reason?, I've stated several times that is what I've seen 1st hand countless times, I don't know any different... I don't know why my view offends you so much?
I didn't pine for marriage and kids, they just happen, you come around to it then realise how you wouldn't want to go back to the way you were... Is that too hard to comprehend?
As for leaving school at 16, we all do in uk, you either go on to uni or you get a trade or a job, or waste your life on the dole.. I worked my way up through college part time along side work
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So after 15 pages we determined, that gays guys are the happiest people? ???
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So after 15 pages we determined, that gays guys are the happiest people? ???
Well gay does in fact mean happy does it not...
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LOL, c'mon now cut me some slack. I'm a former bodybuilding douchebag whose been posting on get big for 15 yrs.
How many regular posters on getbig are married to a real female with an actual job ??!! Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!
That's braggin' rights big time in these here woods. :D
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You keep making this personal for some reason?, I've stated several times that is what I've seen 1st hand countless times, I don't know any different... I don't know why my view offends you so much?
I didn't pine for marriage and kids, they just happen, you come around to it then realise how you wouldn't want to go back to the way you were... Is that too hard to comprehend?
As for leaving school at 16, we all do in uk, you either go on to uni or you get a trade or a job, or waste your life on the dole.. I worked my way up through college part time along side work
What do you mean ; " It just happens"?? Does your dick just happen to fall into her vajaja and accidently blow a load? WTF
Oh, and what did you think of my reply about my 2nd wife who wanted to adopt? Thanks
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i hate kids and see no good reason to have one
the thought of going to dance recitals or tee ball games makes me sick
if that makes me weird that's cool with me
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i hate kids and see no good reason to have one
the thought of going to dance recitals or tee ball games makes me sick
if that makes me weird that's cool with me
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When you're straight, kids just happen. ;)
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My single friends always seemed to be having the time of their lives, up until they hit their 40's, where going to bars in your 40's is pretty depressing. A few of them now act like they're depressed, and don't even want to leave the house much anymore.
that happens to most married couple's as well. Sounds like they are 40 with dad bods,
plus you sound like a dude who's very black and white. There are many events you can attend to besides clubs, lmao
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When you're unconscious/unaware human-animal, kids just happen. ;)
Fixed.
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When you're straight, kids just happen. ;)
they should only happen when you want them, there would be a lot less riff raff in the world
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When you're straight, kids just happen. ;)
Earl is too busy playing with his Kevin Levrone dolls to worry about such things.
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they should only happen when you want them, there would be a lot less riff raff in the world
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but then.. you wouldn't exist
;) :D
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as a context to this discussion, I think people would be a lot more alone today, if we didn't have the internet.
It is up to the individual if one wants to use facebook to be envious of other people's better lives, or mainly use the internet to interact with people in a positive way.
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i hate kids and see no good reason to have one
the thought of going to dance recitals or tee ball games makes me sick
if that makes me weird that's cool with me
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Last time I was at a Braves game I saw the whole family scene play out, one section over.
It was a Sunday afternoon game and that meant lots of mommy/daddy with the rug rats.
There were 7-8 families of parents with 2-4 kids each in the next section.
I'm pretty sure they didn't know each other before the game.
By the 3rd inning they all seemed like long lost friends and IGNORED the nearby couples and adults without kids.
I swear, it was like some set of unspoken rules were at work :
1. Most of the mom's and dad's drank several beers during the game.
2. They all took pics of each other with the kids.
3. They automatically watched the other kids when on a beer/snack run.
4. They all exchanged school stories and did some shameless bragging on what lil' douche did what, etc.
5. I was there by myself, 1 section over, back row . I could have set my hair on fire ,BUT without a kid with me, they would never notice. ???Adults like me seemed invisible to them .
6. Getting drunk in front of the kiddos was no biggy. BUT, they seemed a bit upset at the Kiss cam antics.
Upon driving home from the game, I reflected on what I had seen.
I knew the basic reason they all related to each other, but had no idea what a club it was.
I thanked GOD I had dodged that club and was a happy man . 100% serious.
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When you're straight, kids just happen. ;)
Ya know , I hear that a lot.
This is why I always pulled out before firing in the hole. 100% serious.
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Earl is too busy playing with his Kevin Levrone dolls to worry about such things.
never seen a kevin levrone doll, where can i get one?
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Ya know , I hear that a lot.
This is why I always pulled out before firing in the hole. 100% serious.
No only that. Besides that fact that condoms break/can be fucked with, most women are going to want kids at some point.
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So after 15 pages we determined, that gays guys are the happiest people? ???
Well, this could be because they don't have some new age feminist woman in their life criticizing and controlling them.
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1. Most of the mom's and dad's
I can't quite place the exact year, but it was a recent one where adults collectively went full retard when it comes apostrophes.
I'm putting an end to this shit.
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Last time I was at a Braves game I saw the whole family scene play out, one section over.
It was a Sunday afternoon game and that meant lots of mommy/daddy with the rug rats.
There were 7-8 families of parents with 2-4 kids each in the next section.
I'm pretty sure they didn't know each other before the game.
By the 3rd inning they all seemed like long lost friends and IGNORED the nearby couples and adults without kids.
I swear, it was like some set of unspoken rules were at work :
1. Most of the mom's and dad's drank several beers during the game.
2. They all took pics of each other with the kids.
3. They automatically watched the other kids when on a beer/snack run.
4. They all exchanged school stories and did some shameless bragging on what lil' douche did what, etc.
5. I was there by myself, 1 section over, back row . I could have set my hair on fire ,BUT without a kid with me, they would never notice. ???Adults like me seemed invisible to them .
6. Getting drunk in front of the kiddos was no biggy. BUT, they seemed a bit upset at the Kiss cam antics.
Upon driving home from the game, I reflected on what I had seen.
I knew the basic reason they all related to each other, but had no idea what a club it was.
I thanked GOD I had dodged that club and was a happy man . 100% serious.
Hahaha been there done that.
Took my ex's kid to game, he decided to blow on his air horn non stop until I took it from him. So she goes to buy him another one. So I went to take a piss and watched the rest from standing room section and claimed I got lost in the arena (hahahaha she bought it hard too).
I go to a lot of games, and I see a lot of drunk motherfuckers with their kids. I mean fucking hammered. The kids usually look a little scared/awkward to be there with a drunk adult, or its so common to them they take no notice.
I want to see the new Star Wars movie when it comes out, its gonna be a nightmare between kids and manchilds screaming and yelling the whole time. Have to try for a midnight screening of it cuz 1pm on a weekend is going to be an advil type scenario.
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My single friends always seemed to be having the time of their lives, up until they hit their 40's, where going to bars in your 40's is pretty depressing. A few of them now act like they're depressed, and don't even want to leave the house much anymore.
Lol what adult worth a lick goes to "bars"? I have rela hobbies that i partake in
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Lol what adult worth a lick goes to "bars"? I have rela hobbies that i partake in
x2.
The same ones that have had multiple wives (if any tbh) and hate women. Extreme denial personalities. aka losers
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i hate kids and see no good reason to have one
the thought of going to dance recitals or tee ball games makes me sick
if that makes me weird that's cool with me
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Well you can't see anything anyway now because it's nothing but iphones and ipads making recordings.
It's typical social media crap - no-one there in the moment enjoying it, everyone jostling to record it.
But the reason you go is not to be entertained, it's to see that look on your kids face when they see you there in the crowd.
Hard to explain but you are no longer getting a kick just out of you getting a kick. You are getting a kick out of THEM getting a kick.
In effect, you enjoy kids pretty much for the same reason you enjoyed being a kid.
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Well you can't see anything anyway now because it's nothing but iphones and ipads making recordings.
It's typical social media crap - no-one there in the moment enjoying it, everyone jostling to record it.
But the reason you go is not to be entertained, it's to see that look on your kids face when they see you there in the crowd.
Hard to explain but you are no longer getting a kick just out of you getting a kick. You are getting a kick out of THEM getting a kick.
In effect, you enjoy kids pretty much for the same reason you enjoyed being a kid.
what happens when you bring your a kid a baseball bat, glove, and ball.... then he asks if he can join girl scouts and wear makeup to school?
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Ya know , I hear that a lot.
This is why I always pulled out before firing in the hole. 100% serious.
Never had an "accident" but couldn't ever discipline myself to "fall back" ...
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Yeah, I have "managed" to be born in a family with a high intelligence. I know... seeing stuff for how it really is and explaining it/saying it loud is usualy not the most popular thing amongst people, as they want to believe in fairy tales.
Just as money doesn't guarantee peace of mind and the good life, intelligence doesn't either. Personally, I don't care whether other folks marry and go on the have children. Party until your too old to party any longer, it is all good. Clearly there is no shortage of children in the world, so if you chose to not add to overpopulation, I applaud this.
My response to you was limited to your comments about your feelings about Christmas. It makes absolutely no difference to me if people chose to ignore the Christmas holiday or not. What was telling about your post was that if it's accurate, you appear to have no warmth in your family and that seems sad.
The family I was raised in was somewhat dysfunctional....okay, a lot dysfunctional. As an adult I sought to make a different life then the one I had as a child. After 50 + years enjoying this chosen life, I can assure you it is no fairy tale. Neither are the lives of many of my friends. Just because something is not what you chose, does not make it a fairy tale.
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how the hell did this thread end up 16 pages
of everything we can talk about
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how the hell did this thread end up 16 pages
of everything we can talk about
Relationship/dating threads are always popular
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Can we get back on the topic of the Kevin Levrone doll?! :D
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Just as money doesn't guarantee peace of mind and the good life, intelligence doesn't either. Personally, I don't care whether other folks marry and go on the have children. Party until your too old to party any longer, it is all good. Clearly there is no shortage of children in the world, so if you chose to not add to overpopulation, I applaud this.
My response to you was limited to your comments about your feelings about Christmas. It makes absolutely no difference to me if people chose to ignore the Christmas holiday or not. What was telling about your post was that if it's accurate, you appear to have no warmth in your family and that seems sad.
We don't celebrate christmass so there's no warmth? LOL... you must be kidding. We have our own family celebrations, actually had a great weekend with 10 our family members, part of them came back home for a visit from other countries they live in currently and that was as warm of a time as it can get. You have no idea what are you talking.
My family is not dysfunctional, some issues here and there with certain members, but nothing extraordinary/extreme, just a tough reality of life that gets some people. We all get along great, that's most important. And I know perfectly what kind of life I want, I almost have it, and I'm pretty damn happy, pretty damn often. Oh, and money buy a lot of piece of mind. You speak of how you'd like it to be, and I say you how it is. Take it or leave it.
Want to be miserable and sometimes happy? Get married and have kids. Want to be happy and sometimes miserable? Make.... power.
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LOL @ everyone trying to convince each other (or themselves) that their choice of lifestyle is superior. :D
Who gives a fuck. Just do what makes you happy.
Spot on
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Hahaha been there done that.
Took my ex's kid to game, he decided to blow on his air horn non stop until I took it from him. So she goes to buy him another one. So I went to take a piss and watched the rest from standing room section and claimed I got lost in the arena (hahahaha she bought it hard too).
I go to a lot of games, and I see a lot of drunk motherfuckers with their kids. I mean fucking hammered. The kids usually look a little scared/awkward to be there with a drunk adult, or its so common to them they take no notice.
I want to see the new Star Wars movie when it comes out, its gonna be a nightmare between kids and manchilds screaming and yelling the whole time. Have to try for a midnight screening of it cuz 1pm on a weekend is going to be an advil type scenario.
In the words of the most interesting man in the world ;
" I don't always pray, but when I do, it's for some poor bastard dealing with snot nosed brats."
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Never had an "accident" but couldn't ever discipline myself to "fall back" ...
I learned early on in life that self discipline/self control was the secret to success in lots of things.
100% serious.
Not only did it allow me to retreat properly in the heat of passion, BUT it served me well in other things.
Dieting for contests, studying in college, military training, etc.
My basic motto is ; " You can't control how you FEEL. But you can control what you actually DO and most of what you say".
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We don't celebrate christmass so there's no warmth? LOL... you must be kidding. We have our own family celebrations, actually had a great weekend with 10 our family members, part of them came back home for a visit from other countries they live in currently and that was as warm of a time as it can get. You have no idea what are you talking.
My family is not dysfunctional, some issues here and there with certain members, but nothing extraordinary/extreme, just a tough reality of life that gets some people. We all get along great, that's most important. And I know perfectly what kind of life I want, I almost have it, and I'm pretty damn happy, pretty damn often. Oh, and money buy a lot of piece of mind. You speak of how you'd like it to be, and I say you how it is. Take it or leave it.
Want to be miserable and sometimes happy? Get married and have kids. Want to be happy and sometimes miserable? Make.... power.
I always thought Christmas and thanksgiving holiday traditions were a pain in the ass .
Yes, I had the traditional family gatherings with all the trimmings.
My Maternal Grandparents were married for 76 yrs and we always had Turkey Day dinner at their country home in NH.
Maybe I'm just naturally fuked , but going back to my earliest memories around age 4, I didn't like family holidays.
My family did a great job raising me and I thank them for that.
No, I didn't have some pervert uncle molest me in a Santa suit either LOL.
I don't like most of the traditional holiday food and felt odd pretending I had some bond with an obscure relative I barely knew, etc.
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I always thought Christmas and thanksgiving holiday traditions were a pain in the ass .
Yes, I had the traditional family gatherings with all the trimmings.
My Maternal Grandparents were married for 76 yrs and we always had Turkey Day dinner at their country home in NH.
Maybe I'm just naturally fuked , but going back to my earliest memories around age 4, I didn't like family holidays.
My family did a great job raising me and I thank them for that.
No, I didn't have some pervert uncle molest me in a Santa suit either LOL.
I don't like most of the traditional holiday food and felt odd pretending I had some bond with an obscure relative I barely knew, etc.
But but but, others like it so they need you to like their way of life too!!!
It's a shame you know, I thought for years this forum is for REAL people in a cesspool of a world. Seems of late it's populated with whiny, selfie, me me me pussies. Where's all the normal fucking people?
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what happens when you bring your a kid a baseball bat, glove, and ball.... then he asks if he can join girl scouts and wear makeup to school?
Your pedophilic fantasies never even enter my mind.
Perhaps you should get a hobby that doesn't involve fantasizing about 13 year old boys.
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Your pedophilic fantasies never even enter my mind.
Perhaps you should get a hobby that doesn't involve fantasizing about 13 year old boys.
How did you even get that out of what I wrote? I think its you has the fantasies... you only see what you wanna see here buddy
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Just an FYI,but this thread should have never gone this long.
Carry on.
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But but but, others like it so they need you to like their way of life too!!!
It's a shame you know, I thought for years this forum is for REAL people in a cesspool of a world. Seems of late it's populated with whiny, selfie, me me me pussies. Where's all the normal fucking people?
I guess that means you won't invite me to Christmas dinner?