When I was younger I was always running straight into the "fire"
Boy, those emotions can tear you to parts... this stuff killed many good men e.g. Chuck Sipes.
After the years I've learned to keep a healthy distance and burn off unwanted vagina-stress...
...I go, if needed, through a 24h pressure cooker of just listening to music, stretching, practicing the lifts, guitar and thinking of myself.
After that I again walk the earth as a wanted and newborn man.