The more you want something, the further away it seems to be.
Let them come to you. Concentrate on your image. Lean Face, visible vascularity, non offensive outfit.
It's 90% image....like it or not. Don't be delusional. It can be brutally sobering to look in the mirror and admit you're a bloated mess.
Once you've mastered your image, you're on the home straight when they approach. Any goofball can pull off the whole "cocky/confident, put the girl down with silly insults, show higher value etc......