Couple years back I stopped doing holidays, greatest thing (for me) I ever did. My kids are adults now, I did my time.
My Ma lives 1 minute away, inlaws are 15 mins away, we see them all the time, no need to "gather for the holidays".
Wife and kids still go to inlaws for the day, I go to gym, come home and nap and hang w/ the dog.
Its fantastically restful...