Alcohol problems

[falco]

The only other thing is The kids are not mine. I guess maybe I love the kids and stick with them and is probably not the right answer because I don’t want them to feel as if I abandoned them like I said the last father and I don’t wanna mention now but depression was a part of it. Now I’m going down the same road, I was born with addictive personality and heart those two together go hand in hand and it’s not a good thing.

Before you think about others you have to take care of yourself. If you are on limp mode you are not a good influence on the kids.
Abusive women can and will destroy you. Leave her. Just like that. Love yourself before anything else.
Otherwise you will end up losing you sanity, health, job, your source of income, and inherently she will leave you.
When you leave her, prepare yourself to face some sort of child support demandings from her, regardless of whose the father.
Remember: you first. It's not about selfishness, it's about survival.

The booze will fade away once you have balance in your life. Live alone for a while. Or forever, for that matter.

[Hypertrophy]

Before you think about others you have to take care of yourself. If you are on limp mode you are not a good influence on the kids.
Abusive women can and will destroy you. Leave her. Just like that. Love yourself before anything else.
Otherwise you will end up losing you sanity, health, job, your source of income, and inherently she will leave you.
When you leave her, prepare yourself to face some sort of child support demandings from her, regardless of whose the father.
Remember: you first. It's not about selfishness, it's about survival.

Well written.

[stuntmovie]

TACO, As soon as I read your unitial post ... an old wound re-opened as I was raised under a somewhat similar environment but with the addition of two alcoholic parents and I eventually realized that there was no solution so I joined the Corps and let the home situation resolve itself.

So with an attempt of a bit of humor under a serious situation ... Go down and visit your nerest recruiter and ask if there is an opening for an over-aged but in good shape US citizen.

Now I'll read the other GetBig comments to see if someone offered a better modus operandi.

WOW! There are some unbelievable GREAT comments here for TACO!
Great to see GetBiggers come together and gffer help.

Where th hell were ya when I needed help years ago?
Most likely not even a thought in your ather's eyeballs yet! (Politely stated!)

PS ... I just read HYPERTROPHY's initial comment and stood up and said. "WOW!". Loudly.   Good going, Hype!

WOW! There are some unbelievable GREAT comments here for TACO!
Great to see GetBiggers come together and offer some serious help.

Where the hell were ya when I needed help years ago?
Most likely not even a thought in your ather's eyeballs yet! (Politely stated!)

PS ... I just read HYPERTROPHY's initial comment and stood up and said. "WOW!". Loudly.   Good going, Hype!

[Humble Narcissist]

This is a serious post, anyone here know or been through this? My honest story is I’m 37 have my own business which is stress On its own worrying about satisfying customers keeping the good reputation etc. on its own worrying about satisfying customers keeping the good reputation etc.The Home life sucks I’ve been in a miserable relationship for six years my other half has three kids from 7 to 18 years old. I really want to quit but coming home to this manipulative person completely triggered me to want to keep drinking I’m really about putting two to withdrawl symptoms and possible effects. Please chime in honest experiences thank you.

Years ago I had a commission sales job that was feast or famine.  One week I could make $2,000 and nothing at all for the next two weeks because of lack of or overused leads.  Living in Vegas and things were very tight financially.  Drank every night to try to handle the stress.  When I checked my blood pressure it was 145/93 which is sky high for me (usually 108/68).  I found a new job and started doing cardio until I was healthy again.  Life is too short to die early or have health problems because of a shitty job.  I don't have any kids so that made it much easier to walk away from a bad job or bad relationship.

[IRON CROSS]

The only other thing is The kids are not mine. I guess maybe I love the kids and stick with them and is probably not the right answer because I don’t want them to feel as if I abandoned them like I said the last father and I don’t wanna mention now but depression was a part of it. Now I’m going down the same road, I was born with addictive personality and heart those two together go hand in hand and it’s not a good thing.

Don't be so bloody NAIVE looking after someone else children 

Lion DON'T feed other lions pups 

Zillions of other pussy around , get OUT !.

[Primemuscle]

The only other thing is The kids are not mine. I guess maybe I love the kids and stick with them and is probably not the right answer because I don’t want them to feel as if I abandoned them like I said the last father and I don’t wanna mention now but depression was a part of it. Now I’m going down the same road, I was born with addictive personality and heart those two together go hand in hand and it’s not a good thing.

It appears you are self-medicating symptoms of anxiety and depression with alcohol. Trust me, it won't help. In fact, it will likely make things worse. If I may, I recommend to get help with this. A counselor/psychologist is a good start. If anti-anxiety and anti-depressives are recommended, you'll need to see a medical doctor or a psychiatrist who can legally prescribe these things.

You can't be everything to everyone. Step back and take a breath....or better still, a vacation. I doubt you were born with an addictive personality. It is more likely your life experiences gave you a tendency towards addiction. Anxiety and depression are real and some people are more prone to these conditions than others. From your telling of your life at present, it seems likely you've become overwhelmed. If you don't take care of you, you won't be much good to anyone else.

[Henda]

Mate life is too short, if this bitch and her flock of kids are making you miserable ditch the fucker and concentrate on making yourself happy, how fucking date her have the nerve to treat you like shit when you are good enough to accept her when she has 3 kids in tow, throw the bitch out, drop the drink get in the gym and start getting excited about the new pussy you get to fuck and the prospect of meeting a decent lass who treats you right and makes you happy. Relationships should be looked at from a business viewpoint and if you aren’t getting anything out of the deal it’s time to move on

[Coffeed]

You can't overcome the influence of a bad spouse. There is too much time together, so if that's toxic you need to fix that situation.

As others have said, get professional counseling. It's available everywhere and it opens to door to better communication. Maybe you'll part ways, maybe not, but either way you'll probably be making better decisions together.

[20inch calves]

I went through the same thing..but I was drinking crazy amounts.  A fifth of whiskey or a 24 and a twelve pack at times. I woke up sick everyday.  I got tired of how I felt and finally just enough..it was a dark time though. I don't wish depression on anyone. My advise is to leave or have her leave. According how crazy she is it could end of getting worse before it gets better

[tacobender]

Man these are great replies and info, I definitely do not take offense to it I appreciate all the support and advices your giving. I am not someone that wakes up and has to have a drink it’s just more of a after work go home type thing which is horrible but trust me I will be taking her advice everything you guys are saying makes perfect sense and I really also appreciate all the past stories they shed great light .

[oldtimer1]

Man these are great replies and info, I definitely do not take offense to it I appreciate all the support and advices your giving. I am not someone that wakes up and has to have a drink it’s just more of a after work go home type thing which is horrible but trust me I will be taking her advice everything you guys are saying makes perfect sense and I really also appreciate all the past stories they shed great light .

Don't rationalize your alcoholism away. Who drinks 12 drinks a night every night? I will answer, an alcoholic. Don't be in denial. That is not normal drinking. Try giving it up for three months if your feel you don't need a drink. I bet you can't without help. One last thing with my advices. Maybe your wife is a scumbag. Maybe she isn't. Maybe she is only a scumbag because she lives with a drunk. See if your relationship improves without the nightly booze.

[IroNat]

It's not his wife.  They are living together.

[che]

This is a serious post, anyone here know or been through this? My honest story is I’m 37 have my own business which is stress On its own worrying about satisfying customers keeping the good reputation etc. on its own worrying about satisfying customers keeping the good reputation etc.The Home life sucks I’ve been in a miserable relationship for six years my other half has three kids from 7 to 18 years old. I really want to quit but coming home to this manipulative person completely triggered me to want to keep drinking I’m really about putting two to withdrawl symptoms and possible effects. Please chime in honest experiences thank you.

Don't be an asshole  keep drinking and take care of those kids ,at least until they are 18 .

[IRON CROSS]

Don't be an asshole  keep drinking and take care of those kids ,at least until they are 18 .

Gold Medal for CHE 

[Primemuscle]

It's not his wife.  They are living together.

Lots of people are foregoing formalizing a marriage today.

[Coffeed]

Don't rationalize your alcoholism away. Who drinks 12 drinks a night every night? I will answer, an alcoholic. Don't be in denial. That is not normal drinking. Try giving it up for three months if your feel you don't need a drink. I bet you can't without help. One last thing with my advices. Maybe your wife is a scumbag. Maybe she isn't. Maybe she is only a scumbag because she lives with a drunk. See if your relationship improves without the nightly booze.

Read this one for emphasis. You're an alcoholic and the quicker you treat that the better.

You might not wake up sweating, dying for booze, but that doesn't mean you're not an alcoholic.

[Bevo]

Don't be an asshole  keep drinking and take care of those kids ,at least until they are 18 .

I agree

Quitting is not the answer, continue with hard liquor

[tacobender]

Read this one for emphasis. You're an alcoholic and the quicker you treat that the better.

You might not wake up sweating, dying for booze, but that doesn't mean you're not an alcoholic.

i agree

[IroNat]

Lots of people are foregoing formalizing a marriage today.

Really?

[tacobender]

Don't rationalize your alcoholism away. Who drinks 12 drinks a night every night? I will answer, an alcoholic. Don't be in denial. That is not normal drinking. Try giving it up for three months if your feel you don't need a drink. I bet you can't without help. One last thing with my advices. Maybe your wife is a scumbag. Maybe she isn't. Maybe she is only a scumbag because she lives with a drunk. See if your relationship improves without the nightly booze.

im not rationalizing I’m just saying I’m not the type to wake up and need it in fact it’s the last thing I want. I was saying I’m more of after a long day habitual alcoholic .

[Irongrip400]

I couldn’t booze if I was under stress. I told my wife I want everything this world has to throw me, good or bad, and I want to feel the highs and lows with a clear head. I actually don’t drink when stressed. I went five months last year without it because of some tough times. I don’t ever want to become a person who self medicates, and it sounds like that may be what you’re doing taco. Put it down, and if the relationship with the girl is toxic, end it.

[Primemuscle]

Read this one for emphasis. You're an alcoholic and the quicker you treat that the better.

You might not wake up sweating, dying for booze, but that doesn't mean you're not an alcoholic.

This is so true, I say this based on personal experience. When i was drinking excessively, I didn't get drunk, I never got a DUII. I didn't have hangovers and I didn't wake up in the morning dying for booze until around 6:00 pm. Instead of feeling less depressed, I felt more so. Instead of having less anxiety, I was more anxious. I could and did even quit drinking for weeks at a time with no
DTS, but I always went back to it. Alcohol is poison. It poisons your mind and I poisons your body.

[tacobender]

This is so true, I say this based on personal experience. When i was drinking excessively, I didn't get drunk, I never got a DUII. I didn't have hangovers and I didn't wake up in the morning dying for booze until around 6:00 pm. Instead of feeling less depressed, I felt more so. Instead of having less anxiety, I was more anxious. I could and did even quit drinking for weeks at a time with no
DTS, but I always went back to it. Alcohol is poison. It poisons your mind and I poisons your body.

wow that’s great info

[SOMEPARTS]

Luckily kids aren't yours. Walk away and take care of yourself and your business. No drama, no revenge, no need to get the final word in...cut losses and just walk.

I know people that need AA meetings 20 years later and I know people that just decided to quit.

Friend of mine started drinking flavored seltzer water at night to taper back. I thought he was an alcoholic for life but he got older and started feeling the drinks and worked a plan.

[tacobender]

The thing is I’ve gotten to the point to where I no longer need in life the hardest part is quitting getting through the withdrawals if I can do that which I know I can it will be one day at a time I come from a family of alcoholism and I accept what I am. I guess the hardest part is the first step. Change has always been difficult for me.