It's rather uncomfortable.Let go of the past, move on to bigger and better things.
Sure i want her to be happy. In a nice prison cell or monastery.
She's your ex and you haven't run her over yet with your car? Is it uncomfortable because you're still "friends"?I'd love to run her over but i'm a bit worried about my car. ;)
i usually feel good..
otherwise i keep worrying if she is ok..who is gonna take care of her etc etc..
when she finds someone else i usually breath a sigh of relief and then i can finally move on..
Shittin me right?
no i'm not..
god..this is gonna sound....well..fuck its gonna sound something..i cant put my finger on it..but i've only been dumped once.and even with her..i wished her the best of luck..and worried about her till i knew her new man ws treating her right...colleen..i posted a pic of her once..i think..anyhow..
if its not gonna work out between you and the perosn you r with and you break up..why wish em ill will? even if i break up with someone i usually still care for em and want the best for em..just cause its not meant to be between me and her does not mean i wish you to suffer..
even the 1 girl that cheated on me..well kindsa cheated on me (long story) i have forgiven and wish her the best.. :)
If you triedto make it work and it didnt because of her...F.UCK THAT BROAD...
ahh mayne..we all have just 1 life..and that too short of a time to go around with hate.. :-\
if it didn't work..then ya gotta look at the big pic..maybe something happen in her or your life before that made you a certain way that didn;t make it work..orr..your personalities were too different to begin with..it happens..and it hurts...but you should expect to yourself to be able to reason eventually after the hurt is done man.. :)
gawd..i sound like i hippie..buut..i mean what i said..
It's rather uncomfortable.
Sure i want her to be happy. In a nice prison cell or monastery.
What's the big deal? Just find another girl.Yeah i will. Just wanted to know if it bother others. Apparently everybody onhere is perfectly cool with it. ::)
Yeah i will. Just wanted to know if it bother others. Apparently everybody onhere is perfectly cool with it. ::)
Faust, you just need a little time to heal that's all. :)
I am because when i break up with a broad i usually hate them. for like maybe 3 yars after that.
Just fuck one of her close friends. Youll be fine
We'll all be fine. Seriously, i'm ok though, thx everyone for the concern. It just kinda took me by surprise.
We broke up a while ago and I've already been with some other girls, but when i love somebody i can't just turn off that switch. Maybe i should work on that. But in this case it's all cool, they look cute togheter too.
We'll all be fine. Seriously, i'm ok though, thx everyone for the concern. It just kinda took me by surprise.
We broke up a while ago and I've already been with some other girls, but when i love somebody i can't just turn off that switch. Maybe i should work on that. But in this case it's all cool, they look cute togheter too.
Faust, you just need a little time to heal that's all. :)
An uncle once gave me some advice that sounds pretty stupid on it's surface: "Stay with a woman until you hate her". Felt it was silly since I don't hate anyone but took the bait and asked why. Basically, he said unless you hang out a little longer you'll always be wondering what could have been. Hanging out longer will let a person see all that would have happened is more of the same. It's pretty hard to miss someone when you've hung around long enough to know things really wouldn't have gotten any better.
When things are done I try to remember the good things about the relationship without putting the other person on a pedestal. No one's perfect and if someone were perfect for you things would have worked out better.
Funny story. Met a guy once who was moaning and depressed about his gf dumping him. She was the 'perfect girl', I love her, won't find anyone else like her, etc... Was like find another girl (you know me) but no, he was determined to get her badk and was upset because she wouldn't return his calls. Morbid curiosity made me ask why she dumped him..... Yes, the asshole cheated on her. I said, if you loved her you wouldn't have cheated. Fkr actually got pissed at me. People are strange.
An uncle once gave me some advice that sounds pretty stupid on it's surface: "Stay with a woman until you hate her". Felt it was silly since I don't hate anyone but took the bait and asked why. Basically, he said unless you hang out a little longer you'll always be wondering what could have been. Hanging out longer will let a person see all that would have happened is more of the same. It's pretty hard to miss someone when you've hung around long enough to know things really wouldn't have gotten any better.
When things are done I try to remember the good things about the relationship without putting the other person on a pedestal. No one's perfect and if someone were perfect for you things would have worked out better.
Funny story. Met a guy once who was moaning and depressed about his gf dumping him. She was the 'perfect girl', I love her, won't find anyone else like her, etc... Was like find another girl (you know me) but no, he was determined to get her badk and was upset because she wouldn't return his calls. Morbid curiosity made me ask why she dumped him..... Yes, the asshole cheated on her. I said, if you loved her you wouldn't have cheated. Fkr actually got pissed at me. People are strange.
Well, if that girlfriend of his was willing to let one little fuck come between their love,then she wasn't giving the relationship a chance,was she? >:(
Interesting theory Jake, ...could explain why I've always been able to walk away and never look back. :-\
I've only ever pined away twice
If he was willing to risk losing his girlfriend over a little fleeting piece of tail, he obviously wasn't committed to the relationship the way he should have been. It's not like they were married for years and had kids together. He threw it away on the roll of a dice. In relationships, Vegas rules should always apply:You should never gamble with what you're not prepared to lose!
Because the dude stayed so long that he hated you? :-\
It was a joke from Eddie Murhy's stand up act :) I have never believed in cheating.
Are you reading romance novels again, Jags?
I'm not sure if it was Eddie Murphy's RAW video, but he once did a stand-up routine about how a woman will forgive a man ANYTHING, as long as he could make her orgasm like there was no tomorrow. I remember watching that video with my girlfriend "A", and our other girlfriend "B" and "A's" boyfriend "C". It was soooo hilariously funny, because just one week before "A" had caught "C" upstairs in "B's" apartment. She had forgiven them both. "B" used to avail herself of "C's services", and bragged about his skills to "A". "A" who had just dumped her boyfriend, and was feeling particularly lonely one night, decided to give "C" a late-night booty call at "B's" suggestion. "B" thought it was just the tonic "A" needed. "C" gave it to her soo good, next thing you know, she was moving him into her apartment. Even though "C" had now moved in with "A", "B" didn't see any reason to deprive herself of "C's" services, ...afterall, ...she had discovered him, so their occasional trysts continued for close to a year, unbeknownst to "A". And when she discovered it, "A" couldn't bring herself to throw him out thereby depriving herself as well, ...so all was forgiven on the stipulation that "B" & "C" kept their hands off each other.
We were all sitting around watching this video, everything forgiven & forgotten. "A" had forgiven "B" & "C". I had forgiven "B" for her betrayal of "A", and there we were all laughing together uproariously, ...just like old times, ...when Eddie delivers the line saying "All you have to do is to give it to her reeeeeal goooood, ...make her moan like OOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH.. . and she'll forgive you anything. Get caught sleeping with her best friend? No problem... if you can make her come like a runaway locomotive... she'll forgive you." ;D As soon as he uttered those lines, ...the entire room went so quiet, you could hear a pin drop. ;D "A" grabbed the remote control, and flipped off the VCR, while "B" & I tried desperately not to burst into laughter. "C" cringed in his seat, avoiding any eye contact at all, pretended like nothing had happened, but he was terrified to even look in "A's" direction.
The sad part is... it's often true. If a guy knows how to work it, ...he can sometimes get away with murder.
"I know a guy whos wife walked in on him having sex with another woman.. Mother Effer goes running down the hall,buck naked with a rock hard dick talkin' 'bout "I'm Sorry!" hahahaha
Only words of advice I can give...
NEVER share the dogs. :P
Only words of advice I can give...
NEVER share the dogs. :P
Just make sure to share thePUSSYcats
Lol, I was literally talking about sharing dogs. My ex and I were doing just fine and everything was friendly, although still painful obviously, so we decided we could handle joint custody, meaning we had to see each other once a week to deliver the pooches back and forth. Within 6 months I wanted to run him over with my car. >:(Personally, I never ever spoke to an ex. I always cut off all ties. I say just move on. There are plenty of men/women in this city alone let alone country to be talking to ex's that caused you nothing but grief.
Never do it. (Now I know how hard it must be for people to split up when there are kids involved.)
Personally, I never ever spoke to an ex. I always cut off all ties. I say just move on. There are plenty of men/women in this city alone let alone country to be talking to ex's that caused you nothing but grief.
PB
Lol, I was literally talking about sharing dogs. My ex and I were doing just fine and everything was friendly, although still painful obviously, so we decided we could handle joint custody, meaning we had to see each other once a week to deliver the pooches back and forth. Within 6 months I wanted to run him over with my car. >:(
Never do it. (Now I know how hard it must be for people to split up when there are kids involved.)
You're comparing dogs to children?
If you two couldn't handle sharing dogs... children would have been hell for all parties involved.
I wish my ex would share her cat....best cat I ever had. :( I should call my attorney.
That's the way it should be. How it becomes "War of the Roses" for some couples is disgusting!
Because many times when people break up, it is generally both parties faults. Like a divorce, many times it is not just one party doing stuff. And then there is the passion part of it. Most women tend to see only the good in a man, but not the bad,
and then when she gets pissed off with the dude and figure out she couldn't control him with her "box"...Shit hits the fan.
...then when the break-up occurs, ...they remember and dwell only on the bad, completely forgetting about the goodNo you can't. You can control a man with your "box" and some good cooking, and some intellectuall convo. Showing that there are many levels to her, each level more intriguing and sensuous than the last. Most women today are too "see-thru".
{ROTFLMAO}
Oh Puleaze! Who said a woman can't control a man with her "box"? Whoever said that is awfully naive. :P ;)
No you can't. You can control a man with your "box" and some good cooking, and some intellectuall convo. Showing that there are many levels to her, each level more intriguing and sensuous than the last. Most women today are too "see-thru".
I didn't say he wasn't a simple man. Of course it takes more for the more refined male,
...but let's face it, ...you guys do very little to dispel the theory.
What I find most interesting tho, is that it is usually those who CAN be controlled by the box alone who adamantly swear that women think that's all it takes. That's because usually ...it is! ;D
...and when that happens, ...we women lose respect for the guy, and sit around and snicker about it with our girlfriends about how stupid and simple the guy is.
Sorry to be telling tales out of school ladies, ..but c'mon, ...we all know it's true.
Perhaps if you guys at least made some effort to even take an interest in things other than the box,
...we'd be willng to overlook the fact that you're controlled by it. Just a thought. :D
??? Hmmmm... I'm confooosed with all this YOUR box talk. I was talking about the infamous "idiot box"
What kind of "box" are you referring to Gtbro1? ???
cable TV box...what did you think I ment?
I was thinking of the electrical box where all my electronics get plugged into...
Well,you know how chics are....always got their mind n the gutter. >:(
It's rather uncomfortable.Faust, I haven't read this whole thread but sorry that you are feeling sad. :( With a bit of time it will pass and you'll be happy again. S'tru :)
Sure i want her to be happy. In a nice prison cell or monastery.
Oh, and to answer the original question... doesn't bother me a bit when they get someone else most of the time... I think only once did it get to me.
I guess I'm unusual, but I'm friends with my past boyfriends and I wish them well.
Not me. :-\Me either. I'll never understand how people can talk or stay in touch with someone that treated them poorly. Obviously if they were treated properly they would still be around. I say cut off all ties and move on to someone who will accept your heart and not break it. Friends with Ex's....no way Jose. Plenty of good looking around. My two pennies.
Who gives a crap what any of them are doing, If I cared I would not have dumped them.
Me either. I'll never understand how people can talk or stay in touch with someone that treated them poorly. Obviously if they were treated properly they would still be around. I say cut off all ties and move on to someone who will accept your heart and not break it. Friends with Ex's....no way Jose. Plenty of good looking around. My two pennies.
PB
Just because a relationship ends doesn't necessarily mean it was because the other person treated them poorly. Sometimes it's simply an understanding that it's not right for one or either of them.
How thin is the air up there on judgemental mountain dr. jake? ;D
Seriously, it isn't the same obviously. The dog situation involved trying to keep one foot in the door, keeping tabs on someone's social life, having the wherewithal to keep someone waiting for hours or a few days... essentially a power thing. And the murderous rage part of it only kicked in after six months. Before that, it was just sad and a little hurtful to have someone stand in the doorway as a semi-stranger when we once so close.
Obviously with children what is most important is their welfare. Hopefully you would put all else aside.
I have to agree with Playboy and the others about cutting all ties after a breakup. It usually just works better to move on.
Didn't see this reply until today.
A lot of times it's better to stay with someone until the fantasy is gone or you hate them (which ever one comes first, LOL!). One of the biggest problems I see with divorced/seperated people is they are still trying to work out marital issues after the marriage is over. Usually the kids end up in the middle.
I do know a few people who fought bitterly over pets after breaking up. It's probably something only a true pet person would understand. I was never able to figure out if the real issue was the pet or wanting to have some control over the person or constant interaction with them.
For me, when it's over it's over. Guess it comes down to the way things end. I usually end up with stalkers and tend to avoid them until it's time to call the cops.
That has got to be a BIG pain in the keester. Luckily I've always had an amicable breakup where it was just the right thing for both of us at the time, my ex boyfriends were very reasonable and understanding that I was married to bodybuilding and the gym. Why fight it if the Iron is going to win?
Hope you don't have to deal with those psychos now...if so call 555 kik-butt and I'll handle it for you...giggle...
My ex woman weighs 350 pounds and can't find another man..
That's what happens when you date a bodybuilder. :D
The only thing she ever lifted was fried food..
Only time she squated was when she took a dump..
You must have loved her for other qualities then. ;) I meant, when you date a bodybuilder, you're around food all the time. Some women start to eat like the men.
Watching me eat has been more than some of my girlfriends could handle. They cant copy it, and it's caused outright anger with one. She grabbed the last Little Debbie & smashed it in my face when I ate the whole box in front of her on principle.
She couldn't believe when I was 3/4 thru the box and still going strong.
She said, " Your going to be too sick to _ _ _ _ me tonight!" Nope.
Then she started in on how she'd swell up like a whale if she ate just a couple... I'm like "So?"
It's actually hard for me to lose my abs, even if I eat trash. My wife has a pretty fast metabolism too, she can keep a nice shape without trying. But, its been a problem w/ every long term relationship. THey start to eat as often as me, and realize they cant.
Thing is bodybuilders tend to have faster metabolisms and either eat a lot or more than the normal amount of meals. It's totally possible that women feel having meals with their man is a bonding event and don't want to miss them. To guys, it's just food not a social event.
Just because a relationship ends doesn't necessarily mean it was because the other person treated them poorly. Sometimes it's simply an understanding that it's not right for one or either of them.Either way, its not wise. I say move on to bigger & better things.