How do you feel when your ex has a new lover?

[24KT]

  Because the dude stayed so long that he hated you?  

No, ...because I stayed long enough to know things were not going to get better.
I'm happy to state that not one of my ex-boyfriends has ever hated me.
They've always pined away for months, ...some even years.   Two have even named daughters after me.  

It's the jerks I never gave the time of day to begin with that tended to turn their affection to hate  
That always seemed to confirm my initial intuition about them being completely wrong for me to begin with.

[24KT]

It was a joke from Eddie Murhy's stand up act     I have never believed in cheating.

I'm not sure if it was Eddie Murphy's RAW video, but he once did a stand-up routine about how a woman will forgive a man ANYTHING, as long as he could make her orgasm like there was no tomorrow. I remember watching that video with my girlfriend "A", and our other girlfriend "B" and "A's" boyfriend "C". It was soooo hilariously funny, because just one week before "A" had caught "C" upstairs in "B's" apartment. She had forgiven them both. "B" used to avail herself of "C's services", and bragged about his skills to "A".  "A" who had just dumped her boyfriend, and was feeling particularly lonely one night, decided to give "C" a late-night booty call at "B's" suggestion. "B" thought it was just the tonic "A" needed. "C" gave it to her soo good, next thing you know, she was moving him into her apartment. Even though "C" had now moved in with "A", "B" didn't see any reason to deprive herself of "C's" services, ...afterall, ...she had discovered him, so their occasional trysts continued for close to a year, unbeknownst to "A". And when she discovered it, "A" couldn't bring herself to throw him out thereby depriving herself as well, ...so all was forgiven on the stipulation that "B" & "C" kept their hands off each other.

We were all sitting around watching this video, everything forgiven & forgotten. "A" had forgiven "B" & "C". I had forgiven "B" for her betrayal of "A", and there we were all laughing together uproariously, ...just like old times, ...when Eddie delivers the line saying "All you have to do is to give it to her reeeeeal goooood, ...make her moan like OOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH.. . and she'll forgive you anything. Get caught sleeping with her best friend? No problem... if you can make her come like a runaway locomotive... she'll forgive you."    As soon as he uttered those lines, ...the entire room went so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.    "A" grabbed the remote control, and flipped off the VCR, while "B" & I tried desperately not to burst into laughter. "C" cringed in his seat, avoiding any eye contact at all, pretended like nothing had happened, but he was terrified to even look in "A's" direction.

The sad part is... it's often true. If a guy knows how to work it, ...he can sometimes get away with murder.

[24KT]

Are you reading romance novels again, Jags?

Shhhhhh... {whispering} I don't read romance novels
Just because I have friends who write them, ...doesn't mean I spend all day reading them,
...I prefer to dictate the steamy plots, and contribute story ideas. 

[gtbro1]

I'm not sure if it was Eddie Murphy's RAW video, but he once did a stand-up routine about how a woman will forgive a man ANYTHING, as long as he could make her orgasm like there was no tomorrow. I remember watching that video with my girlfriend "A", and our other girlfriend "B" and "A's" boyfriend "C". It was soooo hilariously funny, because just one week before "A" had caught "C" upstairs in "B's" apartment. She had forgiven them both. "B" used to avail herself of "C's services", and bragged about his skills to "A".  "A" who had just dumped her boyfriend, and was feeling particularly lonely one night, decided to give "C" a late-night booty call at "B's" suggestion. "B" thought it was just the tonic "A" needed. "C" gave it to her soo good, next thing you know, she was moving him into her apartment. Even though "C" had now moved in with "A", "B" didn't see any reason to deprive herself of "C's" services, ...afterall, ...she had discovered him, so their occasional trysts continued for close to a year, unbeknownst to "A". And when she discovered it, "A" couldn't bring herself to throw him out thereby depriving herself as well, ...so all was forgiven on the stipulation that "B" & "C" kept their hands off each other.

We were all sitting around watching this video, everything forgiven & forgotten. "A" had forgiven "B" & "C". I had forgiven "B" for her betrayal of "A", and there we were all laughing together uproariously, ...just like old times, ...when Eddie delivers the line saying "All you have to do is to give it to her reeeeeal goooood, ...make her moan like OOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH.. . and she'll forgive you anything. Get caught sleeping with her best friend? No problem... if you can make her come like a runaway locomotive... she'll forgive you."    As soon as he uttered those lines, ...the entire room went so quiet, you could hear a pin drop.    "A" grabbed the remote control, and flipped off the VCR, while "B" & I tried desperately not to burst into laughter. "C" cringed in his seat, avoiding any eye contact at all, pretended like nothing had happened, but he was terrified to even look in "A's" direction.

The sad part is... it's often true. If a guy knows how to work it, ...he can sometimes get away with murder.

    "I know a guy whos wife walked in on him having sex with another woman.. Mother Effer goes running down the hall,buck naked with a rock hard dick talkin' 'bout "I'm  Sorry!"  hahahaha

[24KT]

    "I know a guy whos wife walked in on him having sex with another woman.. Mother Effer goes running down the hall,buck naked with a rock hard dick talkin' 'bout "I'm  Sorry!"  hahahaha

{ROTFLOL} That's crazy! The least he could have done was lose the woody. 

I remember when "A" caught "B & C" together. She almost broke the door down ...literally! 

She was home taking a nap, and she bolted right out of bed in an absolute rage and marched up the 3 flights to B's.
She was having one of her psychic moments again. Because we were so close, I immediately sensed something was wrong and that she was under a great deal of stress. I got no answer when I called her, but I couldn't shake the feeling, so I preceeded downstairs to her place. The elevator was too slow in coming and I couldn't shake the overwhelming sense of urgency I was feeling, so I decided to simply walk down the 10 floors to her place. B's apartment was exactly 7 floors directly below mine, and as I got closer I could hear the yelling. "YOU Scum-sucking POS! I KNOW you're in there! You might as well come out you little chicken $#It and FACE THE MUSIC, cause I ain't going nowhere!"    It was ugly!    "C" was 6'4" 290lbs. of solid muscle and petrified to open the door. I didn't blame him. At first "B & C" were as quiet as church mice, pretending like there was no one there, but after an hour went by, and I had managed to calm "A" down a bit, he emerged from "B's" apartment like a dog with his tail between his legs. I thought fer sure she'd toss him out on his tuckus, ...but after he cried buckets for a few hours and confessed a mountain of insecurites that made him feel compelled to conquer every woman he saw, ...seems like she couldn't resist giving him another chance.   

As for "B", it took her a few days to actually work up the courage to face "A". You all remember "B" don't you? She was the same charming girl who ...um, ...lost it, in the hallway 5 yrs later when her son tap danced on her bladder. 

[Deedee]

Only words of advice I can give...

NEVER share the dogs. 

[beatmaster]

my ex does have a new boyfriend, i don't care, me and her are very good friends and with him also, he's a very nice guy since the beginning, maybe because i have a son with her...

but she had boyfriends before and they we're stupid.

everybody is different, i think she found a good guy, and she never said anything about about my new girlfriend.

[24KT]

Only words of advice I can give...

NEVER share the dogs. 

He was a TOTAL dog! A few years later after he and "A" broke up, he moved to Newport Beach for a while.
He came back to Toronto for a few weeks and needed a place to crash preferably close to Yorkville. Both "A" & "B" had moved by that time, so I said he could crash on my couch. The guy actually thought he could provide his "services" to me while in TO    I almost vomitted at such a vile thought.

I love my girlfriends, ...but some of them are absolute SLUTS! HA!
I wouldn't get frisky with one of their previous liasons ...even with Leona Helmsley's parts.  Yechh  

I don't know what it was with those two, ...but they seemed to share alot of things in common.
You know who "B" ended up marrying? ..."A's" first love ...the very man whose name "A" had tattooed on her hip  

[gtbro1]

Only words of advice I can give...

NEVER share the dogs. 

Just make sure to share the PUSSY cats

[Parker]

I would feel good for them. Most of my ex have been beautiful people, inside and out, we broke up either due to our jobs or because she moved.  I am friends with all of my ex's, and have met with my "replacements", and I can't hate on them.

Just last year I met one of my ex's in the mall, she had her fiancee with her. She ran over and gave me a hug, and introduced me to the dude. He was cool as hell, and a handsome dude for her (she likes the model type). I congradulated the both of them and we had lunch at a local restuarant.

I wish her the best. 

[24KT]

That's the way it should be. How it becomes "War of the Roses" for some couples is disgusting!

[Deedee]

Just make sure to share the PUSSY cats

Lol, I was literally talking about sharing dogs.  My ex and I were doing just fine and everything was friendly, although still painful obviously, so we decided we could handle joint custody, meaning we had to see each other once a week to deliver the pooches back and forth.  Within 6 months I wanted to run him over with my car. 

Never do it. (Now I know how hard it must be for people to split up when there are kids involved.)

[Playboy]

Lol, I was literally talking about sharing dogs.  My ex and I were doing just fine and everything was friendly, although still painful obviously, so we decided we could handle joint custody, meaning we had to see each other once a week to deliver the pooches back and forth.  Within 6 months I wanted to run him over with my car. 

Never do it. (Now I know how hard it must be for people to split up when there are kids involved.)

Personally, I never ever spoke to an ex. I always cut off all ties. I say just move on. There are plenty of men/women in this city alone let alone country to be talking to ex's that caused you nothing but grief.

PB

[Option D]

Personally, I never ever spoke to an ex. I always cut off all ties. I say just move on. There are plenty of men/women in this city alone let alone country to be talking to ex's that caused you nothing but grief.

PB

AMEN

[drkaje]

Lol, I was literally talking about sharing dogs.  My ex and I were doing just fine and everything was friendly, although still painful obviously, so we decided we could handle joint custody, meaning we had to see each other once a week to deliver the pooches back and forth.  Within 6 months I wanted to run him over with my car. 

Never do it. (Now I know how hard it must be for people to split up when there are kids involved.)

You're comparing dogs to children?

[Deedee]

You're comparing dogs to children?

Lol, no of course not.  I'm saying if dogs can drive two people to murderous rage, I can imagine how much more is involved when a family with children breaks up.

[Deedee]

Although, when I finally had enough and put an end to the "joint custody" (the dogs were registered in my name) he actually called his attorney.    That's how bad it was.

[drkaje]

If you two couldn't handle sharing dogs... children would have been hell for all parties involved.

[Deedee]

If you two couldn't handle sharing dogs... children would have been hell for all parties involved.

How thin is the air up there on judgemental mountain dr. jake? 

Seriously, it isn't the same obviously.  The dog situation involved trying to keep one foot in the door, keeping tabs on someone's social life, having the wherewithal to keep someone waiting for hours or a few days... essentially a power thing. And the murderous rage part of it only kicked in after six months.  Before that, it was just sad and a little hurtful to have someone stand in the doorway as a semi-stranger when we once so close.

Obviously with children what is most important is their welfare. Hopefully you would put all else aside.

I have to agree with Playboy and the others about cutting all ties after a breakup. It usually just works better to move on.

[Deedee]

I wish my ex would share her cat....best cat I ever had.   I should call my attorney.

Oh honey... 

Attorney = $250 an hour
New Cat from the SPCA = $35
Peace and Quiet = Priceless

[Parker]

That's the way it should be. How it becomes "War of the Roses" for some couples is disgusting!

Because many times when people break up, it is generally both parties faults. Like a divorce, many times it is not just one party doing stuff. And then there is the passion part of it. Most women tend to see only the good in a man, but not the bad, and then when she gets pissed off with the dude and figure out she couldn't control him with her "box"...Shit hits the fan.

[24KT]

Because many times when people break up, it is generally both parties faults. Like a divorce, many times it is not just one party doing stuff. And then there is the passion part of it. Most women tend to see only the good in a man, but not the bad,

...then when the break-up occurs, ...they remember and dwell only on the bad, completely forgetting about the good

and then when she gets pissed off with the dude and figure out she couldn't control him with her "box"...Shit hits the fan.

{ROTFLMAO}
Oh Puleaze! Who said a woman can't control a man with her "box"? Whoever said that is awfully naive.     

[Parker]

...then when the break-up occurs, ...they remember and dwell only on the bad, completely forgetting about the good


{ROTFLMAO}
Oh Puleaze! Who said a woman can't control a man with her "box"? Whoever said that is awfully naive.     

No you can't. You can control a man with your "box" and some good cooking,  and some intellectuall convo. Showing that there are many levels to her, each level more intriguing and sensuous than the last. Most women today are too "see-thru".

[24KT]

No you can't. You can control a man with your "box" and some good cooking,  and some intellectuall convo. Showing that there are many levels to her, each level more intriguing and sensuous than the last. Most women today are too "see-thru".

I didn't say he wasn't a simple man. Of course it takes more for the more refined male,
...but let's face it, ...you guys do very little to dispel the theory.

What I find most interesting tho, is that it is usually those who CAN be controlled by the box alone who adamantly swear that women think that's all it takes. That's because usually ...it is! 

...and when that happens, ...we women lose respect for the guy, and sit around and snicker about it with our girlfriends about how stupid and simple the guy is. 

Sorry to be telling tales out of school ladies, ..but c'mon, ...we all know it's true.

Perhaps if you guys at least made some effort to even take an interest in things other than the box,
...we'd be willng to overlook the fact that you're controlled by it. Just a thought. 

[tu_holmes]

I didn't say he wasn't a simple man. Of course it takes more for the more refined male,
...but let's face it, ...you guys do very little to dispel the theory.

What I find most interesting tho, is that it is usually those who CAN be controlled by the box alone who adamantly swear that women think that's all it takes. That's because usually ...it is! 

...and when that happens, ...we women lose respect for the guy, and sit around and snicker about it with our girlfriends about how stupid and simple the guy is. 

Sorry to be telling tales out of school ladies, ..but c'mon, ...we all know it's true.

Perhaps if you guys at least made some effort to even take an interest in things other than the box,
...we'd be willng to overlook the fact that you're controlled by it. Just a thought. 

I don't know what kind of guys you know... but that seems a bit far fetched... perhaps though, it's that we are controlled by the box, but sometimes, just not YOUR box.

(Your being figurative)



Oh, and to answer the original question... doesn't bother me a bit when they get someone else most of the time... I think only once did it get to me.