We'll all be fine. Seriously, i'm ok though, thx everyone for the concern. It just kinda took me by surprise.
We broke up a while ago and I've already been with some other girls, but when i love somebody i can't just turn off that switch. Maybe i should work on that. But in this case it's all cool, they look cute togheter too.
An uncle once gave me some advice that sounds pretty stupid on it's surface: "Stay with a woman until you hate her". Felt it was silly since I don't hate anyone but took the bait and asked why. Basically, he said unless you hang out a little longer you'll always be wondering what could have been. Hanging out longer will let a person see all that would have happened is more of the same. It's pretty hard to miss someone when you've hung around long enough to know things really wouldn't have gotten any better.
When things are done I try to remember the good things about the relationship without putting the other person on a pedestal. No one's perfect and if someone were perfect for you things would have worked out better.
Funny story. Met a guy once who was moaning and depressed about his gf dumping him. She was the 'perfect girl', I love her, won't find anyone else like her, etc... Was like find another girl (you know me) but no, he was determined to get her badk and was upset because she wouldn't return his calls. Morbid curiosity made me ask why she dumped him..... Yes, the asshole cheated on her. I said, if you loved her you wouldn't have cheated. Fkr actually got pissed at me. People are strange.