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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
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You sure you're on the right forum?
Maybe you accidently clicked the wrong window pele, this is Getbig, not spongebob.com
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
Did you guys fuck a lot?
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You are a disgrace
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So im guessing by your screen name you are black?I didnt think any black fathers were strict or even cared about their kids.
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So im guessing by your screen name you are black?I didnt think any black fathers were strict or even cared about their kids.
Maybe not America, but in Africa it's another story. Nigerian and Ghanaian parents are probably among the strictest in the world.
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
Dude, we're all awkward to a certain degree. Some more than others. And it's ok to be the way you are and the way I am.
Having said the above, I too grew up around a dad who was a complete miserable prick. Now in this late 60s, and with the Gates of Heaven in plain sigh, he's come down a lot.
One thing I didn't do was question myself or my actions based on what he said. I worked and paid for college myself, and eventually moved my wife and kid into one of the most exclusive hamlets in the NYC area, where we now live. I did this. Not because of my dad, but because I wanted to. God knows I'd be working for the sanitation department had I listened to him.
To me, it sounds as though you still have him in the back of your head, which is the wrong thing to do. Take ownership of your mind, body and soul and move on.
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Creepy post of the year winner.
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
How many times are you going to roll out this same type of gimmick?
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
Lame gimmick.
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Lame gimmick.
I agree.
And that's all I'm saying about that.
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Fuck off joon
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I agree.
And that's all I'm saying about that.
Account was registered in 2006. ::) ::)
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Account was registered in 2006. ::) ::)
True Adonis....
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Lame gimmick.
Someone who posts crap like this thinks they're being clever and has no ability to feel shame.
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Someone who posts crap like this thinks they're being clever and has no ability to feel shame.
True Adonis....
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True Adonis....
Or Joon.
Maybe its Squad Father. ;D ;D
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Someone who posts crap like this thinks they're being clever and has no ability to feel shame.
Pretty much. The gimmicks do not even try to be clever any more. :-\ :-\
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Pretty much. The gimmicks do not even try to be clever any more. :-\ :-\
The retard in Regina.
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The retard in Regina.
Wouldn't pretending to be black hurt his welfare white pride?
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Wouldn't pretending to be black hurt his welfare white pride?
Aren't they all the same when you get right down to it?
Joon
Sev
True Anus
Rehaluk
YAGR
Suckmymuscle
Squadfather
Quickerblade
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Aren't they all the same when you get right down to it?
Joon
Sev
True Anus
Rehaluk
YAGR
Suckmymuscle
Squadfather
Quickerblade
lol at Quickerblade. I forgot about him and ARCE. I wonder if they are still engaging in dastardly deeds across the internet. :D :D
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
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Aren't they all the same when you get right down to it?
Joon
Sev
True Anus
Rehaluk
YAGR
Suckmymuscle
Squadfather
Quickerblade
The YAGR gimmicks are by far the most boring and played out. Wouldnt be suprised if the OPEE is a YAGR
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Bigtime.
My dad was a violent, sadistic authoritarian without a vestige of social conscience.
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Kind of feel like I should move this to the sex board. :-X
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Bigtime.
My dad was a violent, sadistic authoritarian without a vestige of social conscience.
Did you stay in your room, painting homo things, most of the time?
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Did you stay in your room, painting homo things, most of the time?
No I logged onto getbig with people of similar upbringing.
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No I logged onto getbig with people of similar upbringing.
(http://webtalkradio.net/all-images/bios/WillBrink.jpg)
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I love the old man but he can be a total 'sperg. I notice it accelerating with age. I'm far from being Mr Social IQ myself but sometimes that dude is just singing songs around his own little campfire. Yet so delicate when it comes to others' praise or condemnation.
Hell of a thing to view your folks through adult eyes. On the other hand, people who were maltreated by their parents probably struggle to gain that perspective. I'd do a few things differently but I was a pretty lucky, spoiled kid overall.
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(http://webtalkradio.net/all-images/bios/WillBrink.jpg)
Lol who is his guy how do you know about him and why do you have his picture accessible.
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
I cannot empathise with you or see too many similarities.
My dad was hugelye judgmental and strict though. Study and results in school were first. Any fuck up and I was castigated. However, there was nothing beyond that - it was basically be good (academically) or you are a retard and unworthy. No abuse or name calling, just no affection.
Not nice when affection depends on results, but he helped me with education, paid for it and is ultimately an inspiration. I'm just fucked thinking what xmas present to get him as I have written the most heart wrenching thank you card you can imagine and now I have to get the gift to go with it.
Short conclusion: Affection should not be based on academic/sporting performance or your child will be unable to form lovong relationships and will grade life by metrics rather than affection and personability.
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Lol who is his guy how do you know about him and why do you have his picture accessible.
Isn't that you, Will?
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I cannot empathise with you or see too many similarities.
My dad was hugelye judgmental and strict though. Study and results in school were first. Any fuck up and I was castigated. However, there was nothing beyond that - it was basically be good (academically) or you are a retard and unworthy. No abuse or name calling, just no affection.
Not nice when affection depends on results, but he helped me with education, paid for it and is ultimately an inspiration. I'm just fucked thinking what xmas present to get him as I have written the most heart wrenching thank you card you can imagine and now I have to get the gift to go with it.
Short conclusion: Affection should not be based on academic/sporting performance or your child will be unable to form lovong relationships and will grade life by metrics rather than affection and personability.
Was it tough growing up Asian in Ireland?
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Isn't that you, Will?
Lol.. wring guy dude guess u should have been more knowledgeable in choosing my username. Now I'll be forever thought of as that genetic marvel everyone here idolizes.
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Lol.. wring guy dude guess u should have been more knowledgeable in choosing my username. Now I'll be forever thought of as that genetic marvel everyone here idolizes.
I didn't have time to read all that, Will.
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Did you guys fuck a lot?
LOFL.
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Lol who is his guy how do you know about him and why do you have his picture accessible.
It's Will Brink, he also has an account on Getbig called thebrink.
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It's Will Brink, he also has an account on Getbig called thebrink.
Yes.
He is playing hard to get.
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You guys are fucken idiots lol
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I recommend squats as the "man maker"
this will increase confidence and assertiveness in social situations by 174%
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Yes, my dad was very demanding. He was obsessed with dancing and his only wish was for me to become the prima ballerina of the Moscow ballet. I could never meet his impossible standards. When I wanted to do my homework he would throw the books in my face ("you'll never need that shit") and force me to practice pas de bourrets in the basement. It was very tough. He later drank himself to death when I dropped ballet to become a chartered accountant. So I know exactly how you feel.
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Nothing any different than what Dad's normally do with their sons. The usually gropping and masturbation til completion. Playing hide the ping pong ball in my anus. Seeing if both cocks fit in mom. Just normal every day father son stuff.
Edit. Just googled Father son stuff. Turns out this wasn't normal. Nevermind. Carry on.
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Nothing any different than what Dad's normally do with their sons. The usually gropping and masturbation til completion. Playing hide the ping pong ball in my anus. Seeing if both cocks fit in mom. Just normal every day father son stuff.
Edit. Just googled Father son stuff. Turns out this wasn't normal. Nevermind. Carry on.
;D
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stop watching pornography
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How can you have studied all the time and have no job? Most people are flat out morons so a little studying goes a long way. I'm calling bullshit.
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My situation was not so good, adding the fact that I am submissive by nature, didn't help also. So in a nutshell while in high school I was not allowed to date any girls, because I was told that it may interfere with my non stop studying. I was allowed to go out maybe once a week max, my father also was never satisfied with anything I did and made regular demoralizing comments. All that was going on from the time I was probably 7 till 18, when I left the house to go to college.
Now at 32, I never had a real girlfriend, being only with prostitutes, extremely awkard and shy around women, no regular job, no social circle etc.
However I have to say that I take full responsibility for all the failures in my life, I am just writing this post to see if anyone out there had a similar experience growing up and how he overcome it.
That is you problem right there. Get a job, any job. Then start dating real women.
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Dude, we're all awkward to a certain degree. Some more than others. And it's ok to be the way you are and the way I am.
Having said the above, I too grew up around a dad who was a complete miserable prick. Now in this late 60s, and with the Gates of Heaven in plain sigh, he's come down a lot.
One thing I didn't do was question myself or my actions based on what he said. I worked and paid for college myself, and eventually moved my wife and kid into one of the most exclusive hamlets in the NYC area, where we now live. I did this. Not because of my dad, but because I wanted to. God knows I'd be working for the sanitation department had I listened to him.
To me, it sounds as though you still have him in the back of your head, which is the wrong thing to do. Take ownership of your mind, body and soul and move on.
Thanks Slapper. It means a lot to me that someone that doesn't know me spend time from his life to write down a sincere advice for me, much appreciated.
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Yes, my dad was very demanding. He was obsessed with dancing and his only wish was for me to become the prima ballerina of the Moscow ballet. I could never meet his impossible standards. When I wanted to do my homework he would throw the books in my face ("you'll never need that shit") and force me to practice pas de bourrets in the basement. It was very tough. He later drank himself to death when I dropped ballet to become a chartered accountant. So I know exactly how you feel.
Thanks for the kind words guyincognito.
By the way, I do remember books thrown at me too, but because I didn't study a lot, also I regret saying that but I knew a couple of kids in high school that their father had died prematurely, like yours and I remember feeling kind of envious that they didn't have a dad, which is pretty messed up now that I think about it.
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Well, imaging that you're a "real" person.
1 Cut off the past - looking back will kill you
2 yoga, therapy, sports
3 take women as a whole(bee hive) and forget sex - women are a social issue and if the social issue is being resolved sex will materialize
4 in case of doubt seek out a high bridge
5 repeat
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Well, imaging that you're a "real" person.
1 Cut off the past - looking back will kill you
2 yoga, therapy, sports
3 take women as a whole(bee hive) and forget sex - women are a social issue and if the social issue is being resolved sex will materialize
this
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Didn't know my father very well. The last time I saw him, I think I was seven years old. He and my mom parted ways when I was five.
For the most part, my stepdad was like a buddy. I can remember two times when I really pissed him off. One of those times he tried to choke me. I kneed him in his nuts which got him off me. The other time he slugged me for throwing a hammer at him. Neither of my parents were strict. I was pretty much a spoiled brat growing up. Real life was a rude awakening.
I cannot offer any insight on how to overcome overly strict parents, never having had to deal with that.
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Didn't know my father very well. The last time I saw him, I think I was seven years old. He and my mom parted ways when I was five.
For the most part, my stepdad was like a buddy. I can remember two times when I really pissed him off. One of those times he tried to choke me. I kneed him in his nuts which got him off me. The other time he slugged me for throwing a hammer at him. Neither of my parents were strict. I was pretty much a spoiled brat growing up. Real life was a rude awakening.
I cannot offer any insight on how to overcome overly strict parents, never having had to deal with that.
What was your Mum like? Why did you throw a hammer at your stepdad?
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Didn't know my father very well. The last time I saw him, I think I was seven years old. He and my mom parted ways when I was five.
For the most part, my stepdad was like a buddy. I can remember two times when I really pissed him off. One of those times he tried to choke me. I kneed him in his nuts which got him off me. The other time he slugged me for throwing a hammer at him. Neither of my parents were strict. I was pretty much a spoiled brat growing up. Real life was a rude awakening.
I cannot offer any insight on how to overcome overly strict parents, never having had to deal with that.
Wait. You threw a hammer at your stepdad? Damn, my dad would have killed me.
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Wait. You threw a hammer at your stepdad? Damn, my dad would have killed me.
I think he wanted to kill me. My mom intervened. He was afraid of her.
Just so you know, I didn't aim to hit him, just to make a point that he'd pissed me off. I wasn't crazy. He was the money maker in our family.
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Didn't know my father very well. The last time I saw him, I think I was seven years old. He and my mom parted ways when I was five.
For the most part, my stepdad was like a buddy. I can remember two times when I really pissed him off. One of those times he tried to choke me. I kneed him in his nuts which got him off me. The other time he slugged me for throwing a hammer at him. Neither of my parents were strict. I was pretty much a spoiled brat growing up. Real life was a rude awakening.
I cannot offer any insight on how to overcome overly strict parents, never having had to deal with that.
Are you black?
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Thanks for the kind words guyincognito.
By the way, I do remember books thrown at me too, but because I didn't study a lot, also I regret saying that but I knew a couple of kids in high school that their father had died prematurely, like yours and I remember feeling kind of envious that they didn't have a dad, which is pretty messed up now that I think about it.
I don't think it is uncommon. On a serious note, I used to fantasize about my dad dying when I was a kid because he was an alcoholic and aggressive towards my mom. Just makes for a shitty, unsafe enviroment. Though many had it worse than me.
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Seems like there are lots of damaged getbiggers in this thread due to shitty parents. I recommend reading some Alice Miller, fascinating stuff. She believes that the shitty way we are treated by parents when younger has a big impact later on. So if you find yourself a moody, irritable angry bastard, it might be worth investigating.
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/ (http://www.alice-miller.com/en/)
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Didn't read....
But I'm sure it's a tear filled beta bitch fest...
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Didn't read....
But I'm sure it's a tear filled beta bitch fest...
Hi Dad ;D
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Hi Dad ;D
If you're under 25....never know.
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Thanks, Plato, but i'm not taking advice from a broad. Prefer to suffer in silence.
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Thanks, Plato, but i'm not taking advice from a broad. Prefer to suffer in silence.
Sorry to hear that. It was her work that helped me tremendously. I had a very abusive upbringing that impacted deeply on my young adult life and it was discovering Alice Miller and her work and finding a therapist who was familiar with her work that changed my life tremendously. It sounds as if you have nothing to lose. I recommend you start with her work "The Body Never Lies" or "The Truth Will Set You Free". You can probably pick these books up on Amazon or EBAY.
And maybe you dissing the whole female gender thing is a symptom of childhood abuse. It isn't healthy to turn your personal experiences with women into a broad generalizations like that. I know I do this when I am trolling, but I am usually taking the piss. There are many good women out there with much to offer. Anyway, please consider what I am saying to you.
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Sorry to hear that. It was her work that helped me tremendously. I had a very abusive upbringing that impacted deeply on my young adult life and it was discovering Alice Miller and her work and finding a therapist who was familiar with her work that changed my life tremendously. It sounds as if you have nothing to lose. I recommend you start with her work "The Body Never Lies" or "The Truth Will Set You Free". You can probably pick these books up on Amazon or EBAY.
And maybe you dissing the whole female gender thing is a symptom of childhood abuse. It isn't healthy to turn your personal experiences with women into a broad generalizations like that. I know I do this when I am trolling, but I am usually taking the piss. There are many good women out there with much to offer. Anyway, please consider what I am saying to you.
Yeah, I was trolling. Sorry.
Maybe I will check out these books. They seem good. Thanks for the tip.
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Are you black?
I am a WASP. That is about a white as you can get. Why?
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I am a WASP. That is about a white as you can get. Why?
you're Baptist?
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you're Baptist?
White Anglo-Saxon Protestant-Episcopal (WASP)
SAR (Sons of the American Revolution)
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What is Episcopal?
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Yes, I had a very very strict father. Very no nonsense, very alpha male, but he also spoiled me a lot, so I guess it balances out.
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What is Episcopal?
Catholic Lite
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Catholic Lite
I see. Thanks!
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Yes, I had a very very strict father. Very no nonsense, very alpha male, but he also spoiled me a lot, so I guess it balances out.
That explains why you are the way you are. ;D
And no, it doesn't balance out, in fact it sounds incredibly unbalanced and inconsistent. You rationalising it is common as children struggle to assess their parents objectively due to their natural tendency to love their parents unconditionally and the societal and religious mandate to honor thy parents. Why should you honor people who abuse and mistreat you when you are small, powerless and the most vulnerable you will ever be in your life. Unfortunately many adults do this, to their own physical and psychological detriment. It sounds like you could benefit from the works of Alice Miller and an enlightened witness. JMO, you can take or leave it.
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/ (http://www.alice-miller.com/en/)
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Catholic Lite
Pretty much.