Question for people with kids

[BroadStreetBruiser]

Are kids really worth it? Are they worth the sacrafices and cost?

You seem to hear a 50/50 split on them being 'better than life itself' and really major downers.

Thoughts?

Once you finish school, marry, buy a house, take care of that major shit there's nothing left to do but have kids. IF you enjoy being a parent is mostly up to how selfish you are as a person. I personally love it.

[drkaje]

Once you finish school, marry, buy a house, take care of that major shit there's nothing left to do but have kids. IF you enjoy being a parent is mostly up to how selfish you are as a person. I personally love it.

Most people do the process backwards and half-assed, LOL! They end up with too much stress to enjoy the kids.

[pumpster]

IF you enjoy being a parent is mostly up to how selfish you are as a person. I personally love it.

Nah it's simplistic to put down those who don't want em as selfish. Having kids is evidentally a major pain and expense that is worth it to those who are in love with the idea or are converts, having already fully sampled singlehood.

Parenthood radically changes the relationship to mom n dad and is a major cause of divorce. The relationship changes big-time, the high rate of divorce reflects the large numbers who don't like/can't handle it.

[gordiano]

I  have 2 boys 8 and 5 greatest thing in the world and the hardest at times. To see a child grow and learn from you is great.A nd before i start sprouting flowers out of my ass ill stop there

Well said.

Someone once told me, that "I had never loved until I had kids." That person was right. Women/wives come and go. You think you know them, and then it turns out you really don't (those of you who have divorced know what I mean).

But your kids.....man, there's nothing that could make me stop loving them. Sometimes I can't stop laughing and smiling at the things they do. Sometimes, they make me want to rip my fucking hair out. What I do know is this; I wouldn't trade them for anything.

It is a shame that people just go around having kids like they have coffee. It is a great experience in life, that should be cherished. Unfortunately, I see too many around me having kids, when they can't even take care of themselves (not just financially).

It amazes me that we need a license to drive, to build a house, sometimes to work. But ANY TWO-BIT NUMBNUT WITH A 75 IQ CAN GO AROUND POPPING KIDS WITHOUT A PROBLEM.

[Ron]

Agreed. They eat, sleep, cry, and shit. Mostly cry.

Are you talking about you or the baby?

You will love nothing else in life the way you love a child.  Being a dedicated parent, making sure that you offer your children the best life you can, will make you prouder than anything else in life.

Very true

Once you finish school, marry, buy a house, take care of that major shit there's nothing left to do but have kids. IF you enjoy being a parent is mostly up to how selfish you are as a person. I personally love it.

You do need to know worry about your basic needs (food, clothes, housing) and have a little so you dont stress out. I think once you get over that hurdle, and have some money in the bank, it is a lot easier.  But yes, parents should take some sort of class to at least learn a little. 

[ManBearPig...]

That holds alot of truth i started late in life my oldest is 8 and im 42. wasnt ready early on in life.

hey at least you realized it's better to wait than pound away and then live on credit cards the rest of your life.

[flagadajones]

Are kids really worth it? Are they worth the sacrafices and cost?

You seem to hear a 50/50 split on them being 'better than life itself' and really major downers.

Thoughts?

please, never make any children, thanks in advance,


the society.

[leonp1981]

Kids are awesome, my boy will be 5 in a couple of weeks and I wouldn't change a thing.  I was only 22 when he was born and I was shitting myself about it, thinking I wouldn't be able to cope, would we have somewhere to live, would we have enough money, etc.  But as soon as he arrived, it didn't seem to matter.

5 years on and everything is fantastic.  He goes to school, comes home and tells me stuff he's learnt, and nothing in the world makes you prouder than that.

Anyone thinking about kids needs to be serious about it.  They are a huge drain on emotions and resources, and the first couple of years are very difficult.  But the rewards are so much greater than anything you've ever experienced.

On a side note, there are too many idiots and scumbags who just keep popping out kids who they don't want.  It makes me sick when there are parents who don't care for their children.  Some people are just unable to care for a child and should be sterilised.

[ManBearPig...]

like i said in the other thread, for the 99.99 percent of us posters here that are dudes (some do walk the line though, hi tbombz) it takes being a "man" to have a kid.

like queerstreet cruiser mentioned, once you get your shit in order (order being what life in america's supposed to be, house, job, school, etc) then you have kids.  it's the right thing to do.

i however am not ready yet.  i can't even stick my tiny penis in a vagina cuz my gut gets in the way.

and what's this shit Ron? only 2 kids ? maybe that you claimed on your taxes.

[DIVISION]

I get it we still have sex 3 or 4 times a week even after 11 years together shes hot italian and spanish

My first girlfriend was a pale Italian girl.........she was great, very jealous, but god that body.....

I'm Hispanic, but I rarely date Latin women.....not really my flavor.

What hate?

Having the kids to myself is just plain more enjoyable. Stating a simple fact isn't reason for analysis, LOL! Most divorced guys, who aren't dealing with any drama, have the same opinion.

Actually, I think most people keep up the drama to preserve their self-esteem/image. They have to make sure things don't get too quiet and you find yourself feel happier without them.

Anyone stupid enough to sit around being unhappy or bitter is cheating their children and themselves.

Your ex-wife could use some of this advice, Jake.

Stereotypes of a black male, misunderstood, and it's still all good.

Epic "DIV" baggage on display once again.

Damn right, I like the life I live 'cause I went from negative to positive.

.....and if ya' don't know ya' know, nugga!  





DIV

[newmom]

I love my daughter and was a pure blessings, sure she drives me nuts at times,but I cannot picture my life without her. She brings me joy and happiness. She is now 3 and learining, sings alphabets and numbers and loves to learn. Its fun to shop for her for xmas and this year she gets the whole santa thing. I cannot wait to see her xmas day. She has written a letter to santa, you cant read it but she tries to write. She loves to help me clean (gets in the way mostly). Feeds her goldfishes every morning and is dressing herself now (I told her she is a big girl and wont help her unless she really needs it)

[BroadStreetBruiser]

Nah it's simplistic to put down those who don't want em as selfish. Having kids is evidentally a major pain and expense that is worth it to those who are in love with the idea or are converts, having already fully sampled singlehood.

Parenthood radically changes the relationship to mom n dad and is a major cause of divorce. The relationship changes big-time, the high rate of divorce reflects the large numbers who don't like/can't handle it.

Don't look at "selfish" as a good or bad thing. If you'd rather party or travel the world for leisure than be a mentor to your child or reproduce that's selfish haha

[Viking11]

Yes its worth it. Its the biggest joy you will probably have. Its also the hardest job in the world, and the biggest responsibilty you will have. So, if you're not sure, or not ready, wait.

[pumpster]

like queerstreet cruiser mentioned, once you get your shit in order (order being what life in america's supposed to be, house, job, school, etc) then you have kids.  it's the right thing to do.

Um, no. The "right" thing to do according to you is what gets the wrong people popping kids.

[pumpster]

I love my daughter and was a pure blessings, sure she drives me nuts at times,but I cannot picture my life without her. She brings me joy and happiness. She is now 3 and learining, sings alphabets and numbers and loves to learn. Its fun to shop for her for xmas and this year she gets the whole santa thing. I cannot wait to see her xmas day. She has written a letter to santa, you cant read it but she tries to write. She loves to help me clean (gets in the way mostly). Feeds her goldfishes every morning and is dressing herself now (I told her she is a big girl and wont help her unless she really needs it)

Most women appear preprogrammed to want em, making the post moot to doods with more balanced lifestyle issues.

[CAPTAIN INSANO]

Please, for the sake of mankind...don't reproduce. Morons like you, however, love to breed another group of morons..It really seems to be a viscious cycle with the most ignorant ass people

Brutal littering of the gene pool with shitty ahab genetics

[Earl1972]

seems like all the parents here have young kids

I hear the toughest time for a parent is when they are teenagers

i also hear that is when parents start to regret having kids

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[The Coach]

[gordiano]

What in the blue hell is this shit?! It sounded like country, which makes my ears bleed....

[pumpster]

What in the blue hell is this shit?! It sounded like country, which makes my ears bleed....

Oh man, another coach "classic" lol

[windsor88]

Coach,  do you line dance?

[Condor]

Yes its worth it. Its the biggest joy you will probably have. Its also the hardest job in the world, and the biggest responsibilty you will have. So, if you're not sure, or not ready, wait.

I disagree to some extent.  I wasn't ready (our daughter was a "surprise").  I was forced to become ready, and I'm very thankful for that.  If it had been up to me, I probably would have waited way too long and put it off until I was much older.  I'm 30 now and I'm glad that I'm a parent at this age.  The only thing that should hold you back is if you cannot financially provide for the child.