You know Asians well. 
You must pursue her, and stop with the text message bullshit, talk to her and ask her out like a man.

i am married to one.

I agree on the text messages, that's for 12 year olds. Too much misunderstanding and no visible emotions, text messaging between cultures is not a smart idea.
Ask her out, spend some cash (not the amount is the key, rather your will to spend cash, when it comes to some amounts, withdraw like a gentleman

fuck those gold diggers.), be a gentleman.