Author Topic: POLL: If your spouse became incapacitated... (Read 6304 times)

drkaje · « **Reply #25 on:** November 28, 2008, 12:35:05 PM »

Quote from: Deicide on November 28, 2008, 12:30:44 PM

I have no issues. I just wish they were normal human beings.

Normal doesn't exist in people.

We're all dysfunctional in some way.

Deicide · « **Reply #26 on:** November 28, 2008, 12:49:31 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on November 28, 2008, 12:35:05 PM

Normal doesn't exist in people.

We're all dysfunctional in some way.

True... $:-\$ But women are REALLY dysfunctional...

Migs · « **Reply #27 on:** November 28, 2008, 03:41:33 PM »

what are we considering cheating? Are we talking about going to a "spa" and getting a happy ending or are we talking full on bumping uglies? Or are we considering anything including kissing cheating? I just want to see were people chime in.

chaos · « **Reply #28 on:** November 28, 2008, 03:42:45 PM »

Quote from: Migs on November 28, 2008, 03:41:33 PM

what are we considering cheating? Are we talking about going to a "spa" and getting a happy ending or are we talking full on bumping uglies? Or are we considering anything including kissing cheating? I just want to see were people chime in.

I would consider full on penetration of the lower extremeties to be cheating and maybe a little oral if you "finish".

drkaje · « **Reply #29 on:** November 28, 2008, 03:43:55 PM »

Quote from: chaos on November 28, 2008, 03:42:45 PM

I would consider full on penetration of the lower extremeties to be cheating and maybe a little oral if you "finish".

Depends on where you "finish".

chaos · « **Reply #30 on:** November 28, 2008, 03:48:29 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on November 28, 2008, 03:43:55 PM

Depends on where you "finish".

Nah, if you "finish", the act is done, there is no stopping, it's too late. If you haven't finished yet, you can always fall back on the "we realized it was wrong and stopped" excuse.

drkaje · « **Reply #31 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:06:40 PM »

Quote from: chaos on November 28, 2008, 03:48:29 PM

Nah, if you "finish", the act is done, there is no stopping, it's too late. If you haven't finished yet, you can always fall back on the "we realized it was wrong and stopped" excuse.

I was thinking more along the lines of a facial, LOL! Supposedly it doesn't really count if things are finished in that manner.

chaos · « **Reply #32 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:07:39 PM »

Quote from: drkaje on November 28, 2008, 04:06:40 PM

I was thinking more along the lines of a facial, LOL! Supposedly it doesn't really count if things are finished in that manner.

If you orgasm, it is finished, doesn't matter where you put it, you're still done.

Migs · « **Reply #33 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:09:59 PM »

christmas is coming, so maybe the gift of a pearl necklace. But i like the excuse, lol.

drkaje · « **Reply #34 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:11:11 PM »

Quote from: chaos on November 28, 2008, 04:07:39 PM

If you orgasm, it is finished, doesn't matter where you put it, you're still done.

Not true.

A lot of guys 'finish first'. Does that mean the woman can say it never happened?

The other way you can say "I realized it was wrong and finished myself off. Her face just kinda got in the way!"

Migs · « **Reply #35 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:13:13 PM »

buwahaha, collateral damage.

"I swear I was just cleaning it and it went off"

drkaje · « **Reply #36 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:15:31 PM »

Quote from: Migs on November 28, 2008, 04:13:13 PM

buwahaha, collateral damage.

"I swear I was just cleaning it and it went off"

Exactly!!

It would be rude to finish up things with her if they were started someplace else.

Migs · « **Reply #37 on:** November 28, 2008, 04:20:27 PM »

it's good to be a gentleman.

BayGBM · « **Reply #38 on:** November 28, 2008, 07:35:08 PM »

Quote from: Deicide on November 28, 2008, 12:06:32 PM

Men are different. Like I said, I have gone for 15 months or so without sex. Unlike in gay world I can't just go to a dark room or find a gloryhole. In that respect it is much easier to be gay.

Yes, you can. There is plenty of casual, anonymous, and one night stand sex in the straight world so don't kid yourself into thinking there is anything "gay" about that. You say casual sex is not your thing.... fine. So be it. But that has nothing to do with your orientation.

In public and via PM you have asked some rather loaded questions about women. Questions that reflect your biases and baggage. Examining and unloading that baggage may go a long way in helping your relationships with women. Making summary judgments about all women is certainly not going to enable your social life; it is time to do some work on yourself. Not all handicaps and incapacitations are physical.

benz · « **Reply #39 on:** November 28, 2008, 07:41:51 PM »

today we are having a 27 hours tv program to help a foundation that take care of handicapped people, all kind, this was started by jerry lewis in usa i think, and it was copied down here, after watching some stories, i just couldnt resist to give those kids a chance to live the dream, if we can call it dream thats it.

We just donated us$2000, i say we because i have a family, and it was our decission. god gave me the chance to be pretty wealthy, so no doubt im down with the handicapped people.

Just wanted to share that with you all, even if that means most will call me a pussy

And you know what? i feel pretty good for helping these kids

chaos · « **Reply #40 on:** November 28, 2008, 07:47:00 PM »

Quote from: benz on November 28, 2008, 07:41:51 PM

today we are having a 27 hours tv program to help a foundation that take care of handicapped people, all kind, this was started by jerry lewis in usa i think, and it was copied down here, after watching some stories, i just couldnt resist to give those kids a chance to live the dream, if we can call it dream thats it.

We just donated us$2000, i say we because i have a family, and it was our decission. god gave me the chance to be pretty wealthy, so no doubt im down with the handicapped people.

Just wanted to share that with you all, even if that means most will call me a pussy

And you know what? i feel pretty good for helping these kids

You're a good man benz and you have a wonderful, giving family.

benz · « **Reply #41 on:** November 28, 2008, 07:57:56 PM »

Quote from: chaos on November 28, 2008, 07:47:00 PM

You're a good man benz and you have a wonderful, giving family.

You know, all jokes aside, im pretty close with those kids, i visit them once a year, there are handicapped and autist (is that correct?) and they all just want to be normal, its not their fault to be like that, if somebody has broke my heart, its those kids.
wonderful kids, all looking for a chance to be normal, if the goverment does not help them, they can be sure they have a friend here atleast...

They are awesome, thats all i can say, and i love to see my children being friends of them.

big L dawg · « **Reply #42 on:** November 28, 2008, 08:07:15 PM »

I would prop her up and have her watch me violate other women.

Permabulker · « **Reply #43 on:** November 29, 2008, 09:28:37 AM »

Quote from: BayGBM on November 26, 2008, 07:34:37 AM

I would cheat, but I would be discreet about it. Discreet, in this case, does not mean secretive. I would not parade my escapades in his face or do anything that would be obviously mean-spirited and hurtful, but I am not going to go without sex. Period. (I would not expect him to go without sex if the situation were reversed.)

I do not know many men (gay or straight) that would. I believe the men who say they would never cheat in that scenario are lying—to their spouse, to themselves, or to both.

Spot on

Deicide · « **Reply #44 on:** November 29, 2008, 10:08:43 AM »

Quote from: BayGBM on November 28, 2008, 07:35:08 PM

Yes, you can. There is plenty of casual, anonymous, and one night stand sex in the straight world so don't kid yourself into thinking there is anything "gay" about that. You say casual sex is not your thing.... fine. So be it. But that has nothing to do with your orientation.

In public and via PM you have asked some rather loaded questions about women. Questions that reflect your biases and baggage. Examining and unloading that baggage may go a long way in helping your relationships with women. Making summary judgments about all women is certainly not going to enable your social life; it is time to do some work on yourself. Not all handicaps and incapacitations are physical.

So because I am not a fan of casual sex I have a mental/emotional handicap? ???That is strange logic indeed.

TrapsMcLats · « **Reply #45 on:** November 30, 2008, 03:23:36 PM »

Quote from: BayGBM on November 28, 2008, 07:09:24 AM

Is it really shocking that men do not want to go without sex? As I said previously, the men who say they would never cheat in this scenario are lying—to their spouse or to themselves!

Bullshit Bay, I love the woman I am with, and I would never cheat on her under any circumstances. I'm not saying other people in the same circumstance shouldn't, I'm just saying that i wouldn't. If you can't understand that, you are lying to yourself about what you perceive as love. If you take the physical aspect away, and your feelings wane, you don't truly love that person. Don't confuse sex and intimacy.

Deicide · « **Reply #46 on:** November 30, 2008, 03:26:02 PM »

Quote from: TrapsMcLats on November 30, 2008, 03:23:36 PM

Bullshit Bay, I love the woman I am with, and I would never cheat on her under any circumstances. I'm not saying other people in the same circumstance shouldn't, I'm just saying that i wouldn't. If you can't understand that, you are lying to yourself about what you perceive as love. If you take the physical aspect away, and your feelings wane, you don't truly love that person. Don't confuse sex and intimacy.

You just owned Bay...epically....

Dos Equis · « **Reply #47 on:** November 30, 2008, 04:51:50 PM »

I would have voted "divorce the fool" if that was an option.

TrapsMcLats · « **Reply #48 on:** November 30, 2008, 06:59:17 PM »

Quote from: Deicide on November 30, 2008, 03:26:02 PM

You just owned Bay...epically....

I'm not trying to own Bay, but he needs to understand that there are some of us who are completely committed to our partners. I know that he's gay and he's dealt with closet homos, but that does not make him the be all end all voice on what people will and won't do when it comes to relationships and monogamy. If my partner was in a brain dead coma I would still not cheat on her. yes, it would be difficult, and there would be various moments of rationalization for cheating and great temptation to cheat, but a moment of pleasure would never be worth a lifetime of guilt.

The Coach · « **Reply #49 on:** November 30, 2008, 07:07:13 PM »

Quote from: STella on November 26, 2008, 07:08:00 AM

Do you agree or disagree with this woman's husband?

From today's "Dear Abby:"

Dear Abby:

I need some serious advice. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago. My condition is stable. I have taken the necessary precautions such as dietary changes, excercise and prescription medications.

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. This is my second marriage and his third. My husband is a very stubborn man. Once he makes a decision he stands by it until death.

He has recently announced that should I become incapacitated and unable to perform my "wifely duties," he is going to find a "sex buddy." What should I do about this announcement?

There is no choice.......you remain faithful.

Poll

If your spouse became unable to be physically intimate because of health issues would you:

Author Topic: POLL: If your spouse became incapacitated... (Read 6304 times)

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