Author Topic: Geting married..Dumbest thing a man can do? (Read 61994 times)

Laura Lee · « **Reply #150 on:** January 28, 2009, 06:37:43 AM »

I love how I'm seeing so many posts about women using men for $$$. I can't even tell you how many men do exactly the same thing. I've had 2 men in my life that tried to sponge off me (no, didn't marry either one and no, neither were Mike

) Hell the gym I go to has 4 men that I know personally and are living off women...that's just one gym. So that line goes both ways...and those are bad people (IMO). Obviously not every relationship is going to be "the one". We go through trials and tribulations but some get very lucky and find the right one. The one who walks with us, not in front of us or behind us. Some people just rush into things. I've done it. Thought it was what I wanted...who I wanted but things changed. My first marriage ended because I grew up and he didn't. The second one ended because he "thought" the grass was green on the other side (had an affair with a 20 yr old...we were both 40). He thought he could relive his youth with her and left me only to have her dump him right after. She was one of those bad people and he found out the grass wasn't green on that side.

It all comes down to the individual, not the gender.

And to Steel-Lucifuge...if the guys follow your rule...the human race would end (no children...are you serious?)

Smokincrazy · « **Reply #151 on:** January 28, 2009, 06:40:57 AM »

Quote from: Laura Lee on January 28, 2009, 06:37:43 AM

I love how I'm seeing so many posts about women using men for $$$. I can't even tell you how many men do exactly the same thing. I've had 2 men in my life that tried to sponge off me (no, didn't marry either one and no, neither were Mike ) Hell the gym I go to has 4 men that I know personally and are living off women...that's just one gym. So that line goes both ways...and those are bad people (IMO). Obviously not every relationship is going to be "the one". We go through trials and tribulations but some get very lucky and find the right one. The one who walks with us, not in front of us or behind us. Some people just rush into things. I've done it. Thought it was what I wanted...who I wanted but things changed. My first marriage ended because I grew up and he didn't. The second one ended because he "thought" the grass was green on the other side (had an affair with a 20 yr old...we were both 40). He thought he could relive his youth with her and left me only to have her dump him right after. She was one of those bad people and he found out the grass wasn't green on that side.

It all comes down to the individual, not the gender.

And to Steel-Lucifuge...if the guys follow your rule...the human race would end (no children...are you serious?)

Very true

The Ugly · « **Reply #152 on:** January 28, 2009, 06:45:11 AM »

Too much Leykis.

lvtolft · « **Reply #153 on:** January 28, 2009, 06:51:41 AM »

Steel-Lucifuge, it sounds like you are having some trouble with the ladies

UPINTHEMGUTS · « **Reply #154 on:** January 28, 2009, 07:55:59 AM »

Man!! a lot of scarred men out there with some of these nightmare stories I'm reading! Might as well put my experience out there....

I'm married for almost 2 years now and it's been great. I hear a lot of naysayers out there that say, "you're newlyweds....give it time because it will soon go downhill." I've witnessed that logic firsthand with some of my friends who have gotten married way too young or married the wrong person. But I think my situation is different.

I'm married to a woman that I've known since I was 20 years old.(I'm 35 now and she's almost 32). We first started dating when she was a senior in high school and I was soon to be off to college. Obviously, long distance relationships almost never work so we decided to give our relationship a break. College life was too much fun to have a steady girlfriend, to be honest.

We would get back together every so often but for very short periods of time. She eventually moved out west to live with her boyfriend at the time and I stayed on the east coast and focused on my career. I had numerous girlfriends over the next 5 years. During that time, her and I would hook up once in a blue moon when she came home to visit. However, the timing in our lives was never in synch but there were always strong feelings toward one another.

Needless to say, things didn't work out in her relationship out west and she moved back home and i didn't even know about it. I had just ended a 2 year relationship and we happened to bump into one another out one night, quite by chance. We started in a relationship again and we instantly connected like we always did. There was no doubt about the mutual feelings towards one another but i wasn't ready to get married yet. Two years later in a relationship at 32 years old, I proposed to her.

I've had LOTS of fun in my younger years. I've traveled around the world and dated lots of different women. After age 30, going to bars or getting set up on dates through friends just got old. I didn't settle(surrender) with the woman I have now. It just felt right and I'm still in love with her to this day after knowing her for almost 15 years. We have a lot of history together. But we both waited extra long and made sure that we were right for each other. Marriage was the next logical step, in my opinion.

I'm happy to be with her right now. I'll check back in a few years and give a progress report but so far, so good!

FREDO · « **Reply #155 on:** January 28, 2009, 08:41:43 AM »

Quote from: Laura Lee on January 27, 2009, 08:39:24 AM

Even when the two people get along great...it's still work. The trick is enjoy it. People are constantly growing and experiencing new things. For some marriages it's an easy process, for others...not so easy. But if you think it isn't work that "makes it work", you are sadly mistaken. But that is just my opinion and experience as I have done it twice already.

thats pretty funny

tu_holmes · « **Reply #156 on:** January 28, 2009, 11:01:31 AM »

Quote from: UPINTHEMGUTS on January 28, 2009, 07:55:59 AM

Man!! a lot of scarred men out there with some of these nightmare stories I'm reading! Might as well put my experience out there....

I'm married for almost 2 years now and it's been great. I hear a lot of naysayers out there that say, "you're newlyweds....give it time because it will soon go downhill." I've witnessed that logic firsthand with some of my friends who have gotten married way too young or married the wrong person. But I think my situation is different.

I'm married to a woman that I've known since I was 20 years old.(I'm 35 now and she's almost 32). We first started dating when she was a senior in high school and I was soon to be off to college. Obviously, long distance relationships almost never work so we decided to give our relationship a break. College life was too much fun to have a steady girlfriend, to be honest.

We would get back together every so often but for very short periods of time. She eventually moved out west to live with her boyfriend at the time and I stayed on the east coast and focused on my career. I had numerous girlfriends over the next 5 years. During that time, her and I would hook up once in a blue moon. However, the timing in our lives was never in synch but there were always strong feelings toward one another.

Needless to say, things didn't work out in her relationship out west and she moved back home and i didn't even know about it. I had just ended a 2 year relationship and we happened to bump into one another out one night, quite by chance. We started in a relationship again and we instantly connected like we always did. There was no doubt about the mutual feelings towards one another but i wasn't ready to get married yet. Two years later in a relationship at 32 years old, I proposed to her.

I've had LOTS of fun in my younger years. I've traveled around the world and dated lots of different women. After age 30, going to bars or getting set up on dates through friends just got old. I didn't settle(surrender) with the woman I have now. It just felt right and I'm still in love with her to this day after knowing her for well over 15 years. We have a lot of history together. But we both waited extra long and made sure that we were right for each other. Marriage was the next logical step, in my opinion.

I'm happy to be with her right now. I'll check back in a few years and give a progress report but so far, so good!

Everyone does my friend... Everyone does.

Laura Lee · « **Reply #157 on:** January 28, 2009, 11:37:57 AM »

Quote from: cheftim on January 28, 2009, 07:01:19 AM

Children are hardly ever a real problem? What planet are you on?

I believe he means in causing a divorce in the parents.

Laura Lee · « **Reply #158 on:** January 28, 2009, 11:41:09 AM »

Quote from: FREDO on January 28, 2009, 08:41:43 AM

thats pretty funny

What's funny?

FREDO · « **Reply #159 on:** January 28, 2009, 01:00:12 PM »

Quote from: Laura Lee on January 28, 2009, 11:41:09 AM

What's funny?

just the last line about you being married/divorced twice and still being pro marriage struck me as funny no big deal

freespirit · « **Reply #160 on:** January 28, 2009, 01:09:30 PM »

Quote from: Laura Lee on January 28, 2009, 06:37:43 AM

...the human race would end (no children...are you serious?)

I like children, but i'm glad I don't have children. Too much trouble to raise children in this fucked up world. And it's getting worse, believe me.

Thin Lizzy · « **Reply #161 on:** January 28, 2009, 01:11:41 PM »

Quote from: Laura Lee on January 28, 2009, 06:37:43 AM

I love how I'm seeing so many posts about women using men for $$$. I can't even tell you how many men do exactly the same thing. I've had 2 men in my life that tried to sponge off me (no, didn't marry either one and no, neither were Mike ) Hell the gym I go to has 4 men that I know personally and are living off women...that's just one gym.

I think you'd like this book. It's about the Palm Beach scene. Just came out.

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Laura Lee · « **Reply #162 on:** January 29, 2009, 06:44:38 AM »

Quote from: FREDO on January 28, 2009, 01:00:12 PM

just the last line about you being married/divorced twice and still being pro marriage struck me as funny no big deal

Eh, you can't hold a whole gender responsible for a few bad experiences.

big L dawg · « **Reply #163 on:** January 29, 2009, 11:10:05 AM »

Quote from: Laura Lee on January 29, 2009, 06:44:38 AM

Eh, you can't hold a whole gender responsible for a few bad experiences.

I don't think (most) people are holding a gender responsible as they are the institution of marriage itself.first off it's just another religious tool to conform people to certain ideas and ways of life.second it lets the state be a third party in your affairs.and third the idea of people spending there intire life together goes against some biology studies on humans.Humans don't mate for life.hence divorce rates(cheating)and all that goes with it. it's in our genetic makeup to spread our seed

Blockhead · « **Reply #164 on:** January 29, 2009, 12:15:14 PM »

Quote from: big L dawg on January 25, 2009, 01:56:36 PM

I have seen numerous successfull,happy,confident men become a shell of there former self after getting married.and eventually getting divorced.worst decision a man can make?I think so...

I second that.

Divorce is one of the greatest inventions known to man next to pumpkin pie and a fresh clean shaven pussy.

TBH.

QuakerOats · « **Reply #165 on:** January 29, 2009, 12:19:50 PM »

Quote from: TheBlockHead on January 29, 2009, 12:15:14 PM

I second that.

Divorce is one of the greatest inventions known to man next to pumpkin pie and a fresh clean shaven pussy.

TBH.

Blockhead · « **Reply #166 on:** January 29, 2009, 12:21:13 PM »

Quote from: gordiano on January 25, 2009, 02:44:02 PM

No doubt. In most cases, marriage is only beneficial to the woman.

To those who have earned their "life" or lifestyle, and have something to lose......DO NOT MARRY. Too many men have lost their balls, and their savings to a money hungry whore, just cause she lived in your house and fucked you every other day.

Even to those with nothing to lose (usually young men), don't do it. I personally do not know of ONE happily married couple. But know of PLENTY miserable ones. What does that tell you? Marriage is an outdated concept, that needs to die off.

Living with another human being, who has their owns thoughts, their own opinions and their own agendas and interests, and to top it off, hormonal problems, is the hardest thing to do.

Excellent, brother gordiano. Good post, HOWEVER I don't agree with you on one thing...

Married couples don't fuck. Ever. 99.9% of married dudes I know tell me they haven't had sex with their wives in years nor have a slight interest to. When I was married my relationship was so bad I didn't sleep with mine for 3 years. 3. Married 4.

Sad but true.

Now that I'm divorced I have never been happier and it isn't due to the pussy plowing agenda of mine. It's for the mere fact that I can have my own thoughts and opinions without ever having to be put on trial for it.

TBH.

Blockhead · « **Reply #167 on:** January 29, 2009, 12:22:07 PM »

Quote from: QuakerOats on January 29, 2009, 12:19:50 PM

..oh, let's not forget about real anadrol tabs.

Parker · « **Reply #168 on:** January 29, 2009, 12:34:05 PM »

Quote from: cheftim on January 28, 2009, 06:56:46 AM

I've only seen one happy marriage. My Uncle met my Aunt in Thailand during the Vietnam war. He lived there with her for ten years then brought Her to live in America. They moved to Florence, South Carolina. The middle of nowhere. They live there by themselves never had kids. She is his slave. They love each other. But she is his slave. She doesn't know any better. This is the old school mentality. The Man is the Boss. This is the only way there will ever be a succesful marriage in my opinion. You cannot keep any Women happy unless they're dumb and you keep them dumb.

She was happy in her own ignorance. I once had a Filipina woman tell me "What do I know, i am only a a Asian woman". She was married to some white dude who brought her over. But isn't that Asians are known for being smart...She just had that very submissive way about her, and that is why the dude got her...

Someday I want to be married. But, many of these females today are either Whore, Bitches, and very few are REAL Women. And by the time they are in their 30's...oh shit, it like going to a USED Car salesman...you don't know if the odometer has bee n turned back, or what, and beware of the Ferrari in the parking lot.

D-bol · « **Reply #169 on:** January 29, 2009, 11:43:00 PM »

Quote from: cheftim on January 28, 2009, 07:01:19 AM

Children are hardly ever a real problem? What planet are you on?

Do u actually have children? Or do you always judge things in life based on a TV show?

Lynchie · « **Reply #170 on:** March 15, 2009, 12:16:19 PM »

Quote from: TheBlockHead on January 29, 2009, 12:21:13 PM

Excellent, brother gordiano. Good post, HOWEVER I don't agree with you on one thing...

Married couples don't fuck. Ever. 99.9% of married dudes I know tell me they haven't had sex with their wives in years nor have a slight interest to. When I was married my relationship was so bad I didn't sleep with mine for 3 years. 3. Married 4.

Sad but true.

Now that I'm divorced I have never been happier and it isn't due to the pussy plowing agenda of mine. It's for the mere fact that I can have my own thoughts and opinions without ever having to be put on trial for it.

TBH.

My last long term relationship lasted 5 years. for the last 3.5 of those we never had sex and the last 18 months I NEVER touched her once or even kissed her once. We both preferred it that way. Funnily enough, it worked. She lived at my place for free going to university full time. She also took care of all the home duties, cleaning, cooking and shopping.... with my money off course. I also gave her a weekly allowance and paid most of her bills. We never really argued, but never really talked either. I wouldn't say she was like a surrogate mother, she just preferred doing her 'female duty' as she put it. As long as I did my 'male duty' by bringing home the bacon. I ended it because I thought there simply MUST be more to a relationship than just mutual symbiosis and co-existing in this strange loveless, passionless package that somehow 'worked'.
I wanted excitement and that head over heels passion a new girl can bring. Guess what, I've only found one girl after another. Lying, trying to get money out of me. I went to pick up this girl for a date once from her mom's house. She only brought out her suitcase with her and asked if she could stay with me for a few weeks since her asshole boyfriend keeps coming round to her house....

Sometimes I think I should try and get back with the ex to have a peaceful and comfortable home life again, and just agree that we both are allowed to have affairs, but not bring it home. Yes, fucked up, but that is the world we live in.

calfzilla · « **Reply #171 on:** March 15, 2009, 12:27:52 PM »

I too have been thinking about this whole marriage thing. I have come to the conclusion that if I do get married it will be to a woman who is like my best friend and hot.

I think so many marriages fail because people marry the wrong person and for the wrong reasons.

freespirit · « **Reply #172 on:** March 15, 2009, 01:44:08 PM »

There will be no marriages in the near future.

Quickerblade · « **Reply #173 on:** March 15, 2009, 01:52:58 PM »

Quote from: calfzilla on March 15, 2009, 12:27:52 PM

I too have been thinking about this whole marriage thing. I have come to the conclusion that if I do get married it will be to a woman who is like my best friend and hot.

I think so many marriages fail because people marry the wrong person and for the wrong reasons.

very true man, very true..i dont know people get married, i seriously cannot see myself having a wedding, i just want to have sex with various females..i dont want to think of kids, and house duties, and making sure shes happy, and working on the marriage, working extra hard to raise a family, have the wife talk shit to me...fuck that.

calfzilla · « **Reply #174 on:** March 15, 2009, 02:09:56 PM »

Quote from: Quickerblade on March 15, 2009, 01:52:58 PM

very true man, very true..i dont know people get married, i seriously cannot see myself having a wedding, i just want to have sex with various females..i dont want to think of kids, and house duties, and making sure shes happy, and working on the marriage, working extra hard to raise a family, have the wife talk shit to me...fuck that.

I can tell you must be several years younger than me quicker, I am 27. When I was younger I thought the way you do but now as I get older the wife, house, dog, kids, seems kinda appealing. But like I said the thing is you really gotta find the right girl. IMO she should definately be attractive but you must be able to talk to her, respect her, and pretty much be best friends. One can never use too much caution when selecting a wife. Just have to think with your big head and be very picky BEFORE saying "I do." I believe good marriages are still possible if you can find the right woman and put in some due dilligence.