my friend is dead - why am I still alive?

[StickStickly]

Badabing, we can never know 100%.

That being said, the typical image of an "allmighty god" found in crappy and illogical religious dogma's = stupid idea.

Agnostics are atheists without balls 

[K-1]

In true GetBig fashion, an old friend of mine crashed his bike and was killed instantly Saturday night. 
 
He leaves behind a young son and daughter. 

He was a sociology professor with several publications to his credit and had devoted his life to his family and to helping to improve the family relationships of others through teaching, counseling, his writings, and oral presentations to various groups.   

Meanwhile, I'm a selfish fuck who only lives to entertain.  I'm not doing anything to improve my community and while I have started several books, I haven't completed or published a thing. 

I'm not asking to be dead, but if God really exists, why is this young man gone while someone like me gets to continue on? 

37 is way too young. 

RIP Jay

bump this then read my sermon below it.......

sorry to hear about your loss. it wasn't his time it seems. I had a friend go down in the same fashion...he had a wife and 2 little girls...my sister called me over the phone and told me. Had a brother die in our driveway. Bleed to death as my sister held him and I came out...driveby. I've had my share...you'll pull through even stronger I promise


Just try to not let his death be in vain. If he could tell you something now it would be to count your blessings and live each day to the max. Whatever you never did or felt you should be doing......do it now. Whatever you never told loved ones or should be telling them....tell them. You never know when your ticket is going to get punched, so live your life.

Mourn him, cry, get it out...that's all good. Just remember to take the proper steps in order to make him proud and not take any negative steps to make him frown down on you.

take it easy man.

[The Master]

Agnostics are atheists without balls 

Everybody not praying to Gary Busey every night = low life scum

[Ron]

Sorry for your loss - when things like this occur, you have no rhyme or reason.

But saying there is no God, or no spirit or something, is for ones who never truly felt anything.  I know there is something out there - what - we don't know yet.

You can only strive to do what you feel is better for you - be a good father, donate or give some time to a charity, spend time on doing things you like, and help people out.

[pumpster]

A bike isn't necessarily dangerous, plenty have riden with no aproblem. It's how it's riden, the degree of speed, ability to see others and compensate for bad drivers,  in most cases.

[calfzilla]

My condolences Tre. 

[brooklynbruiser]

I'm not asking to be dead, but if God really exists, why is this young man gone while someone like me gets to continue on? 

There is/are no god/s.

You say "continue on" as if you're getting a pass. It only means you aren't dead yet. I guarantee you, whether you write a million books or never write one at all, you will die. The significance of your life is only relevant to those that you love, loved you, and are dependent on you. Enjoy the moments and avoid extracting cosmic meaning and mysticism from things that happen in between.

My condolences to you and his family.

[Tapeworm]

Tre, forgive me if I'm reading so far between the lines that I'm seeing what isn't there, but it sounds like you are dissatisfied with the progress and direction of your own life and you're trying to come to terms with your mortality.  If this event is a catalyst for some heavy duty introspection and it's going to be crisis time, then let it be crisis time.  Make some life changing decisions.  The worst that can happen is you make a bad decision, but you clearly can't carry on as you have been.

Crisis can be very cathartic.  I know.  I go through one about every 36 hours. 

[Dballn247]

When it's your time, it's your time.  He was lucky to go out fast and doing something he enjoyed.  Look at all the poor bastards who die of a long term illness in a hospital bed. 

[big L dawg]

Sorry for your loss - when things like this occur, you have no rhyme or reason.

But saying there is no God, or no spirit or something, is for ones who never truly felt anything.  I know there is something out there - what - we don't know yet.

You can only strive to do what you feel is better for you - be a good father, donate or give some time to a charity, spend time on doing things you like, and help people out.

no you don't KNOW there is something out there.you BELIEVE there is something out there.believing and knowing are to different things.

[Deicide]

[Dballn247]

If he dies, he dies....  that's how I live my life.  Live fast die fun.  I don't expect to make it past my 30s though.

[Deicide]

If he dies, he dies....  that's how I live my life.  Live fast die fun.  I don't expect to make it past my 30s though.

Hell yeah!

[big L dawg]

If he dies, he dies....  that's how I live my life.  Live fast die fun.  I don't expect to make it past my 30s though.

thats all well and good but......Idiot's with that mind set often end up doing something stupid that cost's others there lives as well.

[Deicide]

thats all well and good but......Idiot's with that mind set often end up doing something stupid that cost's others there lives as well.

[Tre]

Thanks to everyone for your kind and motivational words...and for taking the time to write anything at all, even you OneMoreRep.  

I won't make any rash decisions right now, but you can be sure that I'll be taking a lot of your advice to heart in deciding my next moves and the wise counsel you have given me will not leave me, ever. 

Life is what it is and death - whether sudden or expected - is a part of it. 

On a related note, another old friend and I just reconnected via Facebook recently.  She left her number, so I think I'm going to give her a call today. 

Folks, I can guarantee that the sun will come up tomorrow, but I cannot guarantee that a single one of us will be here to see it.  Embrace the moment and quit talking about 'later' when it comes to letting someone important know that you care.  Do it now...leave this life with no regrets. 

PIP

[kh300]

always sad to hear when a fellow biker goes down..

last month my boy got hit in a head on crash. the driver of the car dead. my boy flipped over the car, not a scratch.

he stood up off the pegs before impact. this is the advantage of a sport bike.. in a cruiser your down low and leaning back.

[The Ugly]

If he dies, he dies....  that's how I live my life.  Live fast die fun.  I don't expect to make it past my 30s though.

Spoken like an impulsive, selfish 20-something.

Wake up one day, you're 30 ...