If you truly feel that your connective tissue is not prepared for the lifts that you perceive, what on earth would make you believe that your muscles are "good to go?"
Obviously your muscles are not prepared to lift what you might prefer. The Golgi tendon response is taught only through slow, careful and deliberate increases in tension/weight.
I'm sure there are lots of folks who have an intended perception of what they think they should be lifting, but what are these thoughts based upon? The past? What youv'e read? Seeing a "I bench 300lb" T-shirt? Reading too many BB mags?
You may even want to consider the fact that first and foremost, your CNS must be prepared for an inroad- or a dent in its recovery abilities. Are you prepared for that?
You have very thought-provoking questions. If you just want big pretty muscles, you shouldn't really be dealing with connective tissue issues. If you want to be a powerlifter, well... you need to dig deep and get a good base of knowledge built.
Documentation of anything is highly commendable in my book.
No exercise or training program proceeds completely free of difficulty. There are certain problems you're bound to encounter and, therefore, should be on the lookout for. Thorough knowledge of the potential problem is half the solution to it. If you know what to be on the lookout for, you're less likely to take the wrong path to begin with.
I think it is also cool that you are extremely aware of your experiences... you are just annoying. (Just kidding)--
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