Are your parents still alive?

[BayGBM]

Are your parents still alive?  If so, have you thought about how you will manage (emotionally) once they are gone?

If not, how long did it take you to emotionally recover?  Do you ever really recover?  One friend said his spouse “got me through it” and that he couldn’t have done it without her.  Another friend said looking at his own children every day made it possible… but it still hurt after all these years.  One said he felt like an orphan once his parents died.  Another said even the sun seemed a little dimmer since he lost his mom.

I don’t have many fears, but I confess losing my parents is one fear I live with… because I know it is going to happen and there is nothing one can do about it.  I remember when my grandmother died; she was the sweetest woman in my world.  It took me about four years to “get over” it and I was just a kid.  I can’t imagine going through that again. 

I don’t need my parents for financial support, but I can’t imagine life without them.  As I get older, more and more of my friends’ parents are dying and each time it happens I can hear the grim reaper in my head saying “you’re next.” 

[Agnostic007]

Many times I have thought I could not overcome X if it happened to me.. turns out humans have an incredible capacity to adapt and survive. My mom passed in 98 and we were close. My Dad is 82 and we are even closer. I will be devestated when he goes but I will survive knowing I spent as much time as I could with him while he was alive and we have many many good memories. I still miss my mom but it isnt as overwhelming as it was in the beginning... So while we think we could never survive if we lost a spouse, child, parent, we do.. "Time heals all wounds" is pretty accurate

[MORTALCOIL]

You learn to deal with it even if it's not totally healed. Lost my father to a cancer 6 years ago. Agnostic is true, humans are resilient. Even when you think you're going to collapse, you find some strength you didn't know about.

[Lundgren]

Many times I have thought I could not overcome X if it happened to me.. turns out humans have an incredible capacity to adapt and survive. My mom passed in 98 and we were close. My Dad is 82 and we are even closer. I will be devestated when he goes but I will survive knowing I spent as much time as I could with him while he was alive and we have many many good memories. I still miss my mom but it isnt as overwhelming as it was in the beginning... So while we think we could never survive if we lost a spouse, child, parent, we do.. "Time heals all wounds" is pretty accurate

He's 82 and you'll be devastated when he dies christ. Stop being such a drama queen, It sucks we have to die, but anyone dieing after age 70 is nothing to get choked up about. It's the natural life cycle, it's said when people loose there parents when there in their mid fifties. I nearly lost my mom to cancer 2 years ago at 46 and my dad 4 years ago at 45, I'm the luckiest mutherfucker alive because it's one in 1000 odds that neither of them is dead and their fine now.
However two of my best friends growing up lost their dads before the end of highschool, another will be dead before he's 50. This is real life anyone after 50 is on borrowed time.

[affeman]

Both parents and all 4 grandparents (Epic neither cancer nor heartattack genetics in my family)

[CalvinH]

Lost my mother to cancer 6 years ago.I still think about her and still have dreams with her in them.
she was in so much pain in the end that she was ready to go.she actually asked me if it was ok for her "to let go".I said yes and I've never regretted it.


life sucks sometimes and you just have to deal with it

[BayGBM]

I see where you’re coming from.  Losing someone in their 80’s+ seems “appropriate” if I may use that word.  I’m always shocked with someone in their 80s+ has a major surgical procedure and manages to come out of it alive.  Beyond a certain age (75?) you have to know the person is on borrowed time.

[Cleanest Natural]

serious reply here


  You are worried because,like almost everyone else ... spiritually you are infantile. Meaning, there's a really small child within you that stopped growing at a very youg age as your body kept developing.
  That child needs nurture and affection "to grow up" just like you did. When that is complete the emotional ties with the biological parents automatically dematerialize.
  Until then you will continue to "feel the need" to be "nurtured" by your parents. Normally, your relationship with them should evolve into a friendship as you pass your teen years and become an "adult".
  Also, most mindpatterns are defined in the childhood through them as they are the closest to you and you create things you need to correct.
 The mindpatterns you have created via your parents, need to be eliminated, and replaced with whatever you desire for yourself. This is why you came into this life.

  So: you need to "grow the child within", and eliminate all mindpatterns initiated by your parents, and reflected by others throughout your life.

  I'll give you a quick example : you are really small..and your mom abandones you. It can be literally, or as simple as her not being attentive to you right at the moment you needed it. So you created yourself this mindpattern with the scope to learn to correct it. So later on you keep attracting people, parteners, relationships or situations where you feel " abandoned " one way or another. You need to eliminate it first the energetic imprinting at the source, then all the negativity attracted and reflected by others.

etc .. there are many of them.

  On the other hand Bay, you need to respect your parents and what they chose to experience in their respective lives, good or bad, and realize that physical death is just a transgression of the soul personality to other realms and experiences. In actuality, desincarnated THEY ARE CLOSER TO YOU THAN EVER and you can contact them at any time. If they consider that it's appropriate, they'll answer depending on what is their focus at that particular time.

  They will go when they consider it is TIME for them to go, and you better come to terms with your relationhip before that moment, as it will be harder after, but still doable.

  Let me know if you understand this.

[Agnostic007]

He's 82 and you'll be devastated when he dies christ. Stop being such a drama queen, It sucks we have to die, but anyone dieing after age 70 is nothing to get choked up about. It's the natural life cycle, it's said when people loose there parents when there in their mid fifties. I nearly lost my mom to cancer 2 years ago at 46 and my dad 4 years ago at 45, I'm the luckiest mutherfucker alive because it's one in 1000 odds that neither of them is dead and their fine now.
However two of my best friends growing up lost their dads before the end of highschool, another will be dead before he's 50. This is real life anyone after 50 is on borrowed time.

yeah, your probably right, I'm just being a drama queen..

[MORTALCOIL]

serious reply here


  You are worried because,like almost everyone else ... spiritually you are infantile. Meaning, there's a really small child within you that stopped growing at a very youg age as your body kept developing.
  That child needs nurture and affection "to grow up" just like you did. When that is complete the emotional ties with the biological parents automatically dematerialize.
  Until then you will continue to "feel the need" to be "nurtured" by your parents. Normally, your relationship with them should evolve into a friendship as you pass your teen years and become an "adult".
  Also, most mindpatterns are defined in the childhood through them as they are the closest to you and you create things you need to correct.
 The mindpatterns you have created via your parents, need to be eliminated, and replaced with whatever you desire for yourself. This is why you came into this life.

  So: you need to "grow the child within", and eliminate all mindpatterns initiated by your parents, and reflected by others throughout your life.

  I'll give you a quick example : you are really small..and your mom abandones you. It can be literally, or as simple as her not being attentive to you right at the moment you needed it. So you created yourself this mindpattern with the scope to learn to correct it. So later on you keep attracting people, parteners, relationships or situations where you feel " abandoned " one way or another. You need to eliminate it first the energetic imprinting at the source, then all the negativity attracted and reflected by others.

etc .. there are many of them.

  On the other hand Bay, you need to respect your parents and what they chose to experience in their respective lives, good or bad, and realize that physical death is just a transgression of the soul personality to other realms and experiences. In actuality, desincarnated THEY ARE CLOSER TO YOU THAN EVER and you can contact them at any time. If they consider that it's appropriate, they'll answer depending on what is their focus at that particular time.

  They will go when they consider it is TIME for them to go, and you better come to terms with your relationhip before that moment, as it will be harder after, but still doable.

  Let me know if you understand this.

LMFAO!

[Tapeworm]

I take solace is knowing that they were lucky enough to have had me.

[Agnostic007]

I take solace is knowing that they were lucky enough to have had me.

spoken like a true getbigger 

[willl]

serious reply here


  You are worried because,like almost everyone else ... spiritually you are infantile. Meaning, there's a really small child within you that stopped growing at a very youg age as your body kept developing.
  That child needs nurture and affection "to grow up" just like you did. When that is complete the emotional ties with the biological parents automatically dematerialize.
  Until then you will continue to "feel the need" to be "nurtured" by your parents. Normally, your relationship with them should evolve into a friendship as you pass your teen years and become an "adult".
  Also, most mindpatterns are defined in the childhood through them as they are the closest to you and you create things you need to correct.
 The mindpatterns you have created via your parents, need to be eliminated, and replaced with whatever you desire for yourself. This is why you came into this life.

  So: you need to "grow the child within", and eliminate all mindpatterns initiated by your parents, and reflected by others throughout your life.

 

this is first post of this guy that is actually true, patrially true at least
the above is good the rest is made up lala land bullshit, the bullshit is actually his way of coping with it as a infantile

anyways you are all infantiles hanging on your parents legs nd terrified of losing them
mommy and daddy crybabies..
good luck

[Cleanest Natural]

this is first post of this guy that is actually true, patrially true at least
the above is good the rest is made up lala land bullshit, the bullshit is actually his way of coping with it as a infantile

anyways you are all infantiles hanging on your parents legs nd terrified of losing them
mommy and daddy crybabies..
good luck

thank u dr phil 

[MORTALCOIL]

[willl]

yes i know, it is not eazy to be surrounded by so called adults who call mamma every two days

[Lundgren]

this is first post of this guy that is actually true, patrially true at least
the above is good the rest is made up lala land bullshit, the bullshit is actually his way of coping with it as a infantile

anyways you are all infantiles hanging on your parents legs nd terrified of losing them
mommy and daddy crybabies..
good luck

Lol he's true that you gotta stop with the infantile. But at some point you gotta take care of your folks and the role gets reversed. If not your selfish or had a shitty upbringing. Sevatese aside from having awful genetics probaly has had to distant himself from his retarted parents.

[Cleanest Natural]

Lol he's true that you gotta stop with the infantile. But at some point you gotta take care of your folks and the role gets reversed. If not your selfish or had a shitty upbringing. Sevatese aside from having awful genetics probaly has had to distant himself from his retarted parents.

[MORTALCOIL]

Lol he's true that you gotta stop with the infantile. But at some point you gotta take care of your folks and the role gets reversed. If not your selfish or had a shitty upbringing. Sevatese aside from having awful genetics probaly has had to distant himself from his retarted parents.

Only someone who knows what responsability means knows that. Not sure Sev' got that one.

[Flexb]

That's the thing about getting older -- much of it is surrounded by loss. Loss of friends who have died or just disappeared along the way, loss of parents, family and other loved ones. My girl and I spoke about this once. Someday, if we live that long, the earth will seem like the loneliest place in the world. This is one reason I feel bad when a man loses his wife or likewise. With old friends and family gone, who else do you have?   

Sure you can meet friends along the way, but there's nothing as close to you as the friends you've kept since you were younger.

[Ex Coelis]

maybe Bay regrets not having children of his own?

now he is an old man looking back on his life

[Cleanest Natural]

in true reality you do not need anyone .. all you need is already inside you

[Lundgren]

That's the thing about getting older -- much of it is surrounded by loss. Loss of friends who have died or just disappeared along the way, loss of parents, family and other loved ones. My girl and I spoke about this once. Someday, if we live that long, the earth will seem like the loneliest place in the world. This is one reason I feel bad when a man loses his wife or likewise. With old friends and family gone, who else do you have?   

Sure you can meet friends along the way, but there's nothing as close to you as the friends you've kept since you were younger.

Lol yeah that's why being a self centered prick fails. You gotta have kids and grand kids. I wanna see my grand kids when I die fuck old fuckers who ain't blood.

[MORTALCOIL]

in true reality you do not need anyone .. all you need is already inside you

Spoken like true egotistical man. When you see a loved one dying, you realize one valuable lesson. Whatever that person has done and achieved in his life, the thing left and that comes back to him at that moment is what he has given to others. The rest is insubstantial. Having kids is admitting that the center of gravity of your life can be someone else. It's a great responsability but also a great relief to know that there's someone that you care about more than yourself. Thinking about just your own ass is boring after a while.

[Cleanest Natural]

where do idiots like mortalciol or lundreg come from??